LaRoyalHighness:
Been married for 5 years. In all honesty, I doubt I would/can forgive my mil. I know this hurts my husband but seriously his inaction when it comes to his mother 's flaws makes me indifferent. I don't think I want to be her friend honestly.

*I must be a terrible person. Ok I will share how I got here in my next post.[quote author=babyosisi

Ok waiting to hear from you

chisom101:
my Anty my Mon is late my father is very old but my brothers are very supportive.but am very pained today, I showed my pastor and his wife the text massage today he warned me never to torch my husband phone again,that I should go beg my husband I don't have any right to torch his phone.

thunder fire that criminal you call pastor. Bloody animal!! Go and beg man wey dey sex-type? Tell your pastor he needs devilerance. He must fast and pray for brain renewal o cus e b like na satan dash am d brain wey he dey waka with.

Idowuogbo:

thunder fire that criminal you call pastor. Bloody animal!! Go and beg man wey dey sex-type? Tell your pastor he needs devilerance. He must fast and pray for brain renewal o cus e b like na satan dash am d brain wey he dey waka with.

Easy o
You don't know if you will marry a pastor someday

Lol
Idowu na person wife o,@babyosisi.
With pikin sef.

babyosisi:


Easy o
You don't know if you will marry a pastor someday

That one is a Capital NO!!! I don't want to share my husband with every cat and dog all in the name of mentoring/counselling. Just imagine, make oga dey strike my arena and me sef gbadunfully dey receive holy cane , then one demonic sister will now call in the middle of the night for prayer session cus her spiritual husband wan give am belle. Mba! not my portion o.... I have accepted the church goer baba God dashed me.

moca:
Lol
Idowu na person wife o,@babyosisi.
With pikin sef.

Back to sender!!!!!

@laloyalHighness, forgiveness comes from within and it gives peace and transquility.
U can choose not to be her friend but do forgive her.
I hv been told worst things in life by those I consider veru close yet I have to learn d doctrine of forgiveness so I can be at peace with myself.

A good friend of mine made me cut of female friendship till tomorrow. I can't proudly say I hv so so and so as a friend.
Even at what she did,i still summoned courage to go and met her and extend olive branch.
But d incident made me wiser
Pls do forgive her

Idowuogbo:

Back to sender!!!!!

Idowu,cray cray woman,how far now?
U no like pikin?

Babyosisi,dont mind her o!
She get twin.

moca:

Idowu,cray cray woman,how far now?
U no like pikin?

Babyosisi,dont mind her o!
She get twin.

See how she is saying tufia for pastor
Soon she will be wearing matching skirt and blouse, plus hat seated on the front row beside her MOG husband
Na so one former co worker dey talk and now she is First Lady at her baptist church going on speaking engagements with her man

Idowuogbo:

That one is a Capital NO!!! I don't want to share my husband with every cat and dog all in the name of mentoring/counselling. Just imagine, make oga dey strike my arena and me sef gbadunfully dey receive holy cane , then one demonic sister will now call in the middle of the night for prayer session cus her spiritual husband wan give am belle. Mba! not my portion o.... I have accepted the church goer baba God dash me.

There are some real sexy MOGs out there o
I met one that pastors a Church in Chicago recently
A Yoruba man, and I was like
Jesus is my Lord, this man is fine!!!

babyosisi:


There are some real sexy MOGs out there o
I met one that pastors a Church in Chicago recently
A Yoruba man, and I was like
Jesus is my Lord, this man is fine!!!

Lmaooo!! Let Mr Azubuike catch you dere.Jokes aside, these new generation pastors are fioooooone!! As in eh, the swaggs too much.

Idowuogbo:

Lmaooo!! Let Mr Azubuike catch you dere.Jokes aside, this new generation pastors are fioooooone!! As in eh, the swaggs too much.

The funny thing is that I don't remember a thing he preached about
Very anointed o
all I remember is his fineness
Men of God are not like they used to be

Let me find his picture online

babyosisi:


See how she is saying tufia for pastor
Soon she will be wearing matching skirt and blouse, plus hat seated on the front row beside her MOG husband
Na so one former co worker dey talk and now she is First Lady at her baptist church going on speaking engagements with her man

Lmao! May God deliver you

babyosisi:




The funny thing is that I don't remember a thing he preached about
Very anointed o
all I remember is his fineness
Men of God are not like they used to be

Let me find his picture online

I'm telling you....the temptations are real mehn...you wonder why some women spend hours in their Pastor's office?They all go in for lookery and if satan use them they'll dive in for touchery.

Lol
So we don't derail this thread
In case anyone is interested in appreciating our fine MOGs
Here @ iduwuogbo

https://www.nairaland.com/2165494/mogs-swag#31053783

Idowuogbo:

I'm telling you....the temptations are real mehn...you wonder why some women spend hours in their Pastor's office?They all go in for lookery and if satan use them they'll dive in for touchery.

Bwahahahahahahahaha
Hours going on endless deliverance
The man will deliver them and they will keep acquiring demons just to go back and get delivered again and again

babyosisi:


That couple will do well
Some things especially MIL things like this particular one should be handled by the husband.The woman has no business exchanging words with the MIL on this.let him trash it out with his mother and I will advise that the wife stays completely out of sight while this is going on so she won't be tempted to respond to any name callings.if the house is split level and this discussion is going on downstairs,she should be upstairs but within an ear shot to hear what transpired and say nothing no matter what she hears.

And when hubby has scolded mama enough and returns upstairs,you say nothing,just allow him to pacify you and don't bad mouth mama.Keep that man on your side 100% on this issue.Once the mama gets that message,she has no other choice but to back off.

They may eventually accuse her of tying him with juju,that is sign that she is doing the right thing and playing her cards right .

Lol @juju. When they can't get your hubby to turn against you, instead of admitting that he's obviously in love with you or that their manipulations aren't working they resign it to juju

If na so juju dey work many women for don use their so called mystical juju powers to win loads of money in the lotto

cococandy:


Lol @juju. When they can't get your hubby to turn against you, instead of admitting that he's obviously in love with you or that their manipulations aren't working they resign it to juju

If na so juju dey work many women for don use their so called mystical juju powers to win loads of money in the lotto

U dey mind them? If na so juju dey work, persin no suppose apply for visa na....odechi suppose dey carry man pikin go Europe. yeye people! Make man wash pant wey he dey comot, na juju! may hin load washing machine, you have jazzed him with houseboy-ism.

Idowuogbo:

U dey mind them? If na so juju dey work, persin no suppose apply for visa na....odechi suppose dey carry man pikin go Europe. yeye people! Make man wash pant wey he dey comot, na juju! may hin load washing machine, you have jazzed him with houseboy-ism.

Abi o.

Lol@ pant wey he dey comot.
You're crazy

MIL and their wahala. My MIL and FIL are in my place at d moment(FIL is sick and hubby brought him over for treatment). Few days back, hubby decided to cook and MIL got to know about it. Ehn, nor be small talk. MIL was like, why will I leave my hubby to cook dat she doesn't understand dat one oh. I told my hubby and he said I shud jst stay in d kitchen with him and close d door. Since dat day, hubby is restricted to helpin me out around d house

emeraldoe:
MIL and their wahala. My MIL and FIL are in my place at d moment(FIL is sick and hubby brought him over for treatment). Few days back, hubby decided to cook and MIL got to know about it. Ehn, nor be small talk. MIL was like, why will I leave my hubby to cook dat she doesn't understand dat one oh. I told my hubby and he said I shud jst stay in d kitchen with him and close d door. Since dat day, hubby is restricted to helpin me out around d house

Quite unfortunate, well most parents are from am archaic generation so I try not to blame em, good a thing they won't be at ur house for long right?

emeraldoe:
MIL and their wahala. My MIL and FIL are in my place at d moment(FIL is sick and hubby brought him over for treatment). Few days back, hubby decided to cook and MIL got to know about it. Ehn, nor be small talk. MIL was like, why will I leave my hubby to cook dat she doesn't understand dat one oh. I told my hubby and he said I shud jst stay in d kitchen with him and close d door . Since dat day, hubby is restricted to helpin me out around d house

Hahahahaha close door and be peeping when mama go show.

emeraldoe:
MIL and their wahala. My MIL and FIL are in my place at d moment(FIL is sick and hubby brought him over for treatment). Few days back, hubby decided to cook and MIL got to know about it. Ehn, nor be small talk. MIL was like, why will I leave my hubby to cook dat she doesn't understand dat one oh. I told my hubby and he said I shud jst stay in d kitchen with him and close d door. Since dat day, hubby is restricted to helpin me out around d house

What I can not wrap round is that 'won't the same MIL be happy if her daughter's husband help around the house'

softysparky:


Hahahahaha close door and be peeping when mama go show.

I tell u

bukatyne:


What I can not wrap round is that 'won't the same MIL be happy if her daughter's husband help around the house'

exactly

FOREXMARTS:


Quite unfortunate, well most parents are from am archaic generation so I try not to blame em, good a thing they won't be at ur house for long right?

they wont

emeraldoe:
MIL and their wahala. My MIL and FIL are in my place at d moment(FIL is sick and hubby brought him over for treatment). Few days back, hubby decided to cook and MIL got to know about it. Ehn, nor be small talk. MIL was like, why will I leave my hubby to cook dat she doesn't understand dat one oh. I told my hubby and he said I shud jst stay in d kitchen with him and close d door. Since dat day, hubby is restricted to helpin me out around d house

It's your husband's house, he should speak to his mum... He can just tell her he actually likes cooking and doing those chores.. Just explain to her how it makes the marriage stronger and how he finds fun in doing them, very simple.. Your husband shouldn't just succumb like that except there are other reasons behind that...

emeraldoe:
MIL and their wahala. My MIL and FIL are in my place at d moment(FIL is sick and hubby brought him over for treatment). Few days back, hubby decided to cook and MIL got to know about it. Ehn, nor be small talk. MIL was like, why will I leave my hubby to cook dat she doesn't understand dat one oh. I told my hubby and he said I shud jst stay in d kitchen with him and close d door. Since dat day, hubby is restricted to helpin me out around d house

You husband didn't handle this well
There will be another occasion and another,what will he do,keep hiding and pretending in his own house to please his mother?
For how long?
This is the time to nip this in the bud
Like the poster above advised,he should have politely responded,"mama I actually enjoy cooking sometimes"
Let her raise hell that one time if she wants to ,then she'll get used to it
The son is the best person to keep his mother in check because if he doesn't,I promise you ,one day she will say something provoking to you and you'll be forced to respond and as soon as you respond in the measure you have been treated,son and mother will bind together on one side and you become the enemy.

emeraldoe:
MIL and their wahala. My MIL and FIL are in my place at d moment(FIL is sick and hubby brought him over for treatment). Few days back, hubby decided to cook and MIL got to know about it. Ehn, nor be small talk. MIL was like, why will I leave my hubby to cook dat she doesn't understand dat one oh. I told my hubby and he said I shud jst stay in d kitchen with him and close d door. Since dat day, hubby is restricted to helpin me out around d house

I'm not married o, but I keep telling my mum that this present generation's mentality is different from theirs

so wisdom should be used when dealing with the youth, likewise the youth when dealing with elders

So if your FIL/MIL is above 60, then they will definitely have issues with hubby working around the house cos in their time it wasn't the norm excerpt in few homes( which was considered an anomaly)

Most elders will have an issue with hubby working in the house, they will view him as a "wussy". So for the few days they will be around, just manage & when they leave, hubby should return back to the way things were

My two cents!! I stand to be corrected

bukatyne:


What I can not wrap round is that 'won't the same MIL be happy if her daughter's husband help around the house'

The same MIL will call him the best son in law in the world

harveyspec:


I'm not married o, but I keep telling my mum that this present generation's mentality is different from theirs

so wisdom should be used when dealing with the youth, likewise the youth when dealing with elders

So if your FIL/MIL is above 60, then they will definitely have issues with hubby working around the house cos in their time it wasn't the norm excerpt in few homes( which was considered an anomaly)

Most elders will have an issue with hubby working in the house, they will view him as a "wussy". So for the few days they will be around, just manage & when they leave, hubby should return back to the way things were

My two cents!! I stand to be corrected

And keep doing that whenever she comes around abi?
What if the days turn to months nko?

babyosisi:


And keep doing that whenever she comes around abi?
What if the days turn to months nko?

Ok, I have a family friend, the mum stays with them, the guy wakes up in the morning to sweep the house, bath the kids, I nor know wetin madam dey do.

It was a very big issue, the mom had to calm down but trust me, she ain't happy with the wife

Abroad that might not count but here in Nigeria, it does count, you are suppose to be receiving prayers from your elders & not curses or insult

imagine this guy will be removing cobwebs from the house, washing curtains etc not that madam is sick o or has a hectic schedule o

if its about education, the guy is a lecturer but I nor know whether him case still normal

No elder will feel comfortable with such reversal of role(cos that's how they see it), just jejely pretend till they go, but if its an elongated stay, so help you God