I just have to post this since i have no place to run to. My friend has been complaining to me about his new wife, the latest got me thinking and am kind of confused of what to tell him. He got married to his wife less than one year ago and there have been leaving apart since the marriage. he lives and work at Enugu while the wife lives and work at Ibadan. All effort to bring his wife to Enugu has proved abortive in the past with the wife giving her work as the excuse, he has even tried to secure a job for the wife but all to no avail. from the info I have, its like the wife has told him some lies even into marriage like pretending to be a virgin while she was not. the worst of it all now is that she is very much in contact with her Ex who lives very close to Ibadan even when he is already married with 3 kids. my friend even discover sometimes she uses code to discuss on phone with the ex when there are together. As husband and wife in two different location, the wife cannot call her husband for up to 10mins with her credit except when she is bringing issues but the wife can spend her own credit to call the ex for up to 40mins. he is really confused and really need to do something now before it is too late. from the way he spoke to me i feel he still loves his wife, I dont know what to tell him. Your comments and suggestion will be welcomed so i can get back to him.

Bros sorry o

But if what you're saying is true then that marriage has already crashed... Head for divorce man she's fvckin adulterous

How did the husband know she calls her ex up to 40mins?

may be she wants carry over.

Why does your friend now wants to do what he should have done during courtship?

djeezy:
How did the husband know she calls her ex up to 40mins?

Lolz. I was going to ask this same question.

@OP
A woman's place is beside her husband. If she loves the man she should try to make the marriage work and relocate to meet the man. Its even ok that the hubby wants to get her another job and is not insisting that she stays home as a full time wife. But let him secure the job first and then convincing her might be easier.

Also, does the hubby have full proof that she's cheating on him? It could be he's the insecure type and the fact that they stay in separate towns is playing on his insecurities.

Errrrrm......I only see an insecure husband here. The insecurity stems from the uncertainty that usually accompany long distant marriage. How sure is he of all this allegations?
Has this your guy comfronted the wife about her continued contact with her ex? What was her reply? Though she has no reason still keeping up with her ex, especially in distant relationship where the line of trust is very thin. Did you mean your guy got her a job in Enugu and she rejected it? If so, she is lost and needs to be found ASAP. Something tells me she's already addicted to something sweet in that ibadan and you know how irrational addicts are with reason and common sense. Its not late for them though. What does your guy do? Can his salary sustain the family till the wife secures a job in Enugu? If so, here goes.....

He should man up and bring back his wife down to Enugu with immediate effect. They should both manage their finances till she hooks up with something. But i see a devicive woman here. Something tells me she will still not want to come down. If she insists on not comming down then its officially confirmed that "SHE HAS REALLY BEEN FVCKING HER BRAINS OFF WITH THE SAID GUY".
When the later becomes the case, let your guy contact me so we can work out the best exit plan, especially the type "WHERE THE WOMAN AND HER LOVER GETS REWARDED MAXIMALLY FOR THEIR CARELESSNESS"
Goodluck to him

More reason y u and ur wife/husband should not live apart

all this c.o.c.k n bull stories ppl dey share dis days ...nawa

so many issues in the marriage already...

if your story is true then its only God that can save that marriage

let him seek the face of God

DickDastardly:
Errrrrm......I only see an insecure husband here. The insecurity stems from the uncertainty that usually accompany long distant marriage. How sure is he of all this allegations?
Has this your guy comfronted the wife about her continued contact with her ex? What was her reply? Though she has no reason still keeping up with her ex, especially in distant relationship where the line of trust is very thin. Did you mean your guy got her a job in Enugu and she rejected it? If so, she is lost and needs to be found ASAP. Something tells me she's already addicted to something sweet in that ibadan and you know how irrational addicts are with reason and common sense. Its not late for them though. What does your guy do? Can his salary sustain the family till the wife secures a job in Enugu? If so, here goes.....

He should man up and bring back his wife down to Enugu with immediate effect. They should both manage their finances till she hooks up with something. But i see a devicive woman here. Something tells me she will still not want to come down. If she insists on not comming down then its officially confirmed that "SHE HAS REALLY BEEN FVCKING HER BRAINS OFF WITH THE SAID GUY".
When the later becomes the case, let your guy contact me so we can work out the best exit plan, especially the type "WHERE THE WOMAN AND HER LOVER GETS REWARDED MAXIMALLY FOR THEIR CARELESSNESS"
Goodluck to him

I can testify to the fact that the guy is not insecure he is a gentleman to a fault or do I say religious guy. we where leaving together about 10years ago when he met this girl. I warned at that time that the girl was wild that he should start fucking the girl but he was doing gentleman. I cant even imagin he was keeping the girl all the while without touching her only to marry her recently still without touching her before marriage and the girl was busy fucking other guys in school. As for the evidence this guy has gone through her phone record to see these conversation. he even has some silly conversation of what these two ex did before marriage and afterwards even text message conversation. he decided he was going to call and warn the guy to stay clear from his wife but i told him to cool down so we can track them and catch them in the act but he does not want that. MY guy has a very good job that can sustain both of them even with a children. As for me i would not waste any time in ending the marriage for me marriage is not a do or die.

Godmother:


Lolz. I was going to ask this same question.

@OP
A woman's place is beside her husband. If she loves the man she should try to make the marriage work and relocate to meet the man. Its even ok that the hubby wants to get her another job and is not insisting that she stays home as a full time wife. But let him secure the job first and then convincing her might be easier.

Also, does the hubby have full proof that she's cheating on him? It could be he's the insecure type and the fact that they stay in separate towns is playing on his insecurities.

The hubby has proof from their communications, am sure he is not being insecure the girl is just trying to play smart on him. they always arrange to see each other and the guy has not tried to monitor them. the girl ex is always coming to Ibadan on assignment.

jnrbayano:
Why does your friend now wants to do what he should have done during courtship?

Exactly that was what I told him when he was complaining........ the girl has been riding on him since marriage and he wants to tell me he knows what he is doing. I have always told him to try and take charge and take serious action.