Since the beginning of time, woman has been a gift to man. Eve didn’t have to do much to win Adam over in the perfect garden. She probably hadn’t shaved or spent tons of money at the salon and definitely hadn’t learned 50 ways to cook chicken to win Adam over. He knew that she was a gift and he was thankful.

Unfortunately today women are doing all they can to convince a guy that they are worth having. Magazine articles, books and well meaning friends and family constantly remind us that we are not doing enough. We are told that if we are still single, it’s our fault (either directly or indirectly) and we should be doing A, B & C to win the affection of a man.

I’ve been there. I’ve read through all the articles only to find myself a little more discouraged. These articles usually tend to reinforce that I’m not good enough and that I need to act a certain way for the right man to fall for me. Talk less, talk more, play hard to get, don’t play games, tell him how you feel, don’t tell him how you feel, wear more heels, sneakers are hot, and the list goes on. All the advice is ever changing and it’s hard to keep up with the best way to attract a man.

This quote stood out to me the other day “ Act Like a Prize and You will Turn him into a Believer”.

This quote got me to thinking that if women were truly the prize, why do we stress out so much over relationships. Do guys run to the mall to buy a new shirt to impress a girl on a date? Do they fall asleep reading articles entitled “How to get a girl to notice me”? Do they take a cooking class just so they can make their girlfriend the best dinner ever? Maybe some do but I think we can all agree that sometimes women worry too much about getting a man and keeping him.

Sometimes we just need to be reminded that we are the prize!

We want to feel like a prize but often times we don’t. We put in a lot of energy to get little attention from a guy that we may be interested in. If we want to be treated like a prize, we need to learn how to act like a prize. Here are three things to remember when acting like a prize.

Prizes are earned. In a race, all the runners have the same chance of winning, but only one gets 1st prize. This means that we don’t have to make ourselves available to every man that presents himself to us. We are available to the ones who value the prize so much that they are willing to put in the extra work it takes to win us. This doesn’t mean that we have men jumping through hoops, but it does mean taking notice of the guy who picks up the phone to call and makes his intentions clear versus the one who sends many mixed signals and leaves you confused.

Prizes have worth. Keeping with our race analogy, we can’t expect the runners to give their all for a prize that they don’t value. As women, instead of trying to accomplish and do things to prove our value we need to start believing the value that we already have as God’s beloved daughters! I have accomplished quite a few things in my life that add to my “worldly” value but none of those things has gotten me a husband. Believe that you truly are God’s prized possession and you will begin to shine and everyone will notice.

Prizes don’t compete. The only people who should be competing in a race are the runners, not the prizes! Each level or variety of prize is unique and valuable in it’s own way. As women, we sometimes forget that we should not be in competition with one another. We are all valuable prizes and we should be celebrating each other and not competing. A woman who is constantly in competition with other women is communicating that she doesn’t see her own value.

In all these things, remember that instead of being frustrated that men don’t see you as a prize you should challenge yourself to start acting like the prize that you believe you truly are.

Too long!

Person wey no go bliv, no go bliv.

In a way, your writeup is true.
But don't have that mentality that it works 100%.
Sorry will be ur name if u bliv so.

interesting write up.

nyc

LogoDWhiz:
Too long!

Person wey no go bliv, no go bliv.

In a way, your writeup is true.
But don't have that mentality that it works 100%.
Sorry will be ur name if u bliv so.

Yea,who no 1 know no go know. I've just aired my opinion and I'm quite sure so many intellectual sweeries will get my drift. Nothing is 100% sure. Even 'pure water' isn't.

henribj:
interesting write up.

Thanks boss

cutieberie1:
nyc

Thanks sweet

Wow super cool write up; copyright it before it is stolen...
in response to the write up I think somewhere along the mind the female mind was programmed in that way...it is well

Toeyean1507:
Thanks boss

your welcome Ma.

So if he eventually becomes a 'believer', wot next?

Wot value and values does ur 'prize' add to his life?

Its not all about praying for Mr Right but more about being Mrs Right.Nice one op

goldenone:
Wow super cool write up; copyright it before it is stolen...
in response to the write up I think somewhere along the mind the female mind was programmed in that way...it is well

. I won't ever try to assume another person's intellectual strength. It isn't mine though it spoke my mind completely and dats y I decided to share it. I guess d programming was d doing of d female,is it even necessary?

rudebouy:
So if he eventually becomes a 'believer', wot next?

Wot value and values does ur 'prize' add to his life?

*smiles. If he becomes a believer,then his beliefs and time will be justifiable. As for the value(s), d beliefs and d extent of his beliefs will take care of dat.................fair enough?

Toeyean1507:
*smiles. If he becomes a believer,then his beliefs and time will be justifiable. As for the value(s), d beliefs and d extent of his beliefs will take care of dat.................fair enough?

heheh

madam d madam! I swear u sabi confuse pesin sha! U just ended up getting me more confused.

U just kept saying 'beliefs, beliefs, beliefs'. Nna baby wot is he believing kwanu?

Nna baby, it is not fair enough.

Missonas:
Its not all about praying for Mr Right but more about being Mrs Right.Nice one op

. I'm telling u. We ladies don't have to necessarily 'edit' our viable potentials all in d name of compromising. Who knows,he might even prefer ur naivete in bed instead of u trying to test run ur 'bedmatics' capacity with every available middle leg all in d name of gaining experience,pick interest in ur wardrobe malfunction and derive pleasure in putting u tru. All in all,just be urself no matter wat.

rudebouy:


heheh

madam d madam! I swear u sabi confuse pesin sha! U just ended up getting me more confused.

U just kept saying 'beliefs, beliefs, beliefs'. Nna baby wot is he believing kwanu?

Nna baby, it is not fair enough.

idi very much on point..
i just dey read her reply without understanding shi shi
na so i just dey nod my head like say i follow, for where.. i no follow at all.

rudebouy:


heheh

madam d madam! I swear u sabi confuse pesin sha! U just ended up getting me more confused.

U just kept saying 'beliefs, beliefs, beliefs'. Nna baby wot is he believing kwanu?

Nna baby, it is not fair enough.

. Lolz.........try to reason along with d write up,apply it in a real life situation and u'll un'stand berra.

Toeyean1507:
. Lolz.........try to reason along with d write up,apply it in a real life situation and u'll un'stand berra.

I undastand d write up. But it does not provide ansas to my questions. Well, since ur not d author, I will let dis slide.

henribj:


idi very much on point..
i just dey read her reply without understanding shi shi
na so i just dey nod my head like say i follow, for where.. i no follow at all.

This write is for d female folks trying to 'reprogram' demselves all in dah name of impressing mr right. Now this is wat I'm saying in essence,do they really have to go to such extent all in dah name of dat? Who knows if Mr right loves ur being nawtie to pretending to be a saint? Why can't they just be demselves and let tins work out d way dey are meant to be? Do u get d drift now?

Toeyean1507:
Yea,who no 1 know no go know. I've just aired my opinion and I'm quite sure so many intellectual sweeries will get my drift. Nothing is 100% sure. Even 'pure water' isn't.

Sure!

really... that's it?

rudebouy:


I undastand d write up. But it does not provide ansas to my questions. Well, since ur not d author, I will let dis slide.

Good for u

Toeyean1507:
This write is for d female folks trying to 'reprogram' demselves all in dah name of impressing mr right. Now this is wat I'm saying in essence,do they really have to go to such extent all in dah name of dat? Who knows if Mr right loves ur being nawtie to pretending to be a saint? Why can't they just be demselves and let tins work out d way dey are meant to be? Do u get d drift now?

i understood the write up, but i got lost when i saw this:
If he becomes a believer,then his beliefs and time will be justifiable. As for the value(s), d beliefs and d extent of his beliefs will take care of dat

henribj:


i understood the write up, but i got lost when i saw this:
If he becomes a believer,then his beliefs and time will be justifiable. As for the value(s), d beliefs and d extent of his beliefs will take care of dat

Lolz. I was only trying to point out d benefits of having a lady dat hasn't been reprogrammed. As in,wat d menfolk will benefit.

jimohibrahim:
really... that's it?

Yea,it is.

well i respect ladies alot But i don't get it when you mean believer..

Toeyean1507:
Yea,it is.

Toeyean1507:
Lolz. I was only trying to point out d benefits of having a lady dat hasn't been reprogrammed. As in,wat d menfolk will benefit.

oh, now i understand
but that english strong o

henribj:


oh, now i understand
but that english strong o

Which english strong.............lol,u ehn

jimohibrahim:
well i respect ladies alot But i don't get it when you mean believer..

The believer dat I mean is one dat enjoys d potentials and goodies that come with a 'chacha' lady and not d one that has tried to compromise a lotta tins dat defined her uniqueness of being original.

Toeyean1507:
Which english strong.............lol,u ehn

me? i did nothing o
bet you have a dictionary right there beside your bed