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Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 3:25pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
mcdokwe: If it will take another 3 years to complete the house and the marriage is this year like she said,then what? Move the wedding 3 years? |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by pishon: 3:29pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:Thanks, but the mum is not saying he should bring me to her house after the wedding but that he should wait and finish the house before going ahead with our plans although she gave it as an advice not that she is enforcing it on him, as for what I'm contributing, I will also contribute my own qouta but my fiance doesn't really like me doing what he is supposed to do as the man as in he sees getting the apartment and furnishing it as his responsibility as the man but I'm going to buy the kitchen utensils. The building project is just a little above the foundation level and the available money can't even be enough to finish the project. 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 3:32pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
pishon: Ha The apartment is the only choice here if that wedding will be this year 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by pishon: 3:50pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
babyosisi:Thanks for your advice, I was actually very scared of starting a marriage off that way I donteven mind staying ina room apartment with him to avoid stories that touch the heart. But I'm glad the decision he took was his own cause I belivied he is seeing things from that angle too. The wedding date has not been fixed yet. 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by kenny987(f): 3:58pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
@Pishon: From what you've said so far, I do not think it is fair for anyone to call you selfish, u are in the situation and clearly understand it better than anyone else. That said, in order to minimise the financial burden on your hubby, you can if you have the money, pay the 70k close to your wedding date so u guys can get maximum use of the place. Let your hubby know it's a loan if he's not willing to let you contribute to 'his' responsibilities gratis. It appears the plan is to delay the wedding till the house project is concluded and that will be a difficult position for you...it's a hard road but since you have taken the decision and you are ready to marry him n him you, please there shouldn't be any untoward delay. With patience, planning and prayer plus hard work, you both will be fine: start your family, stay as a couple and still get your own house finished. God bless u n ur man...Amen 7 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by thorpido(m): 3:58pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
pishon:It doesn't seem this housing project will be completed soon based on his income.It's a nice thing to move into your own house but at 31yrs,i believe your marriage should be in a couple of months. He has to get an apartment and continue with his house project after marriage.You may not need to renew your rent afterwards if he gets to complete the house then. 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by pishon: 4:03pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:your submssion really made me laugh. Here what we have now is like a scale of preference and he has really weighed all the options and taken the decision to get the apartment. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by toshmann(m): 4:15pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
Hmm, BabyO this your thread has become ebeano o Come where is that cococandy and her twin sister Toshmann nwa mama, na for church i dey de scramble nairaland o. No ask me wetin pastor de talk 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by cococandy(f): 4:17pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
toshmann: |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by toshmann(m): 4:20pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 4:22pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
toshmann: You got that right The thread has also angered a few men whose rotten characters are being revealed by the posters You dey church? God help you Repent! Chegharia I wan begin go my own 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by toshmann(m): 4:30pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
Juo nu m ihe ekwuru na church taa |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by urchbarbie(f): 4:32pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
Truly nne! The venom in dese men can kill a whale. Haba! How do u cope? Its like u spoilt dier market here on NL. Whr they trying to rob seun or ........what? babyosisi: 4 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by kenny987(f): 4:48pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
toshmann: O dighi mma o! Gee nti n'ulo uka biko...lol |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by toshmann(m): 6:27pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
kenny987: Lol No hot chicks in church at all. Only oldies. One lady celebrated 98th birthday. Without hot chicks, it's difficult to focus on the sermon [size=4pt]And with hot chicks it will also be difficult to focus on the sermon[/size] |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by kenny987(f): 7:27pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
[quote author=toshmann post=31892394] Lol No hot chicks in church at all. Only oldies. One lady celebrated 98th birthday. Without hot chicks, it's difficult to focus on the sermon [size=4pt]And with hot chicks it will also be difficult to focus on the sermon[/size] [/quote |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by kenny987(f): 7:27pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
toshmann:98th birthday! God bless her o! So, without d physical hot chicks, u successfully invented imaginary ones esp cococandy's twin...lol Well, Bible say, 'Seek n ye shall find', so I understand perfectly...hehehe |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Regenerated: 7:32pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
cococandy:Thanks! |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by EfemenaXY: 7:56pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
pishon: In order words, your contribution will be to buy just the pots? pishon: Okay. So if that's the case, then what was the issue as per your original post? What else were you "looking to tell him"? Or what advice were you seeking from us? 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 1:22am On Mar 23, 2015 |
toshmann: Chei Go to redeem And the Holy Ghost go catch you there and also find you a wife |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 1:29am On Mar 23, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: Chei Efe have mercy 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by toshmann(m): 2:35am On Mar 23, 2015 |
babyosisi: Their tithe too much Dem go begin ask for my phone number then dem nongo gree me rest Their wahala plenty I need hot sexy chick this spring Not wahala |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 6:46pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
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Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 6:46pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
xklassic:Your cousine should do a thorough background check on this guy, she knows nothing about him. If it were your cousin informing this guy of her child less than a month to dowry payment, his family and friends would have advised him to dump her. That guy has not said the whole truth, infact he reeks of fraud. More worrisome is your cousin asking and fearing the wrong thing, does she know what it means to be married? 4 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by FOREXMARTS: 7:25pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
Good evening everyone, feels good to be back. What did i miss? Herzie what's the update? |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 7:26pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
Renaj:I almost replied the first time but the prince of nairaland held the reply (lolz). Much has been said already but watch out for this, experience has it that when an older man with a serious issue a mature woman would easily detect or not take, he goes for a naive young girl and is usually hasten to tie her to his loins. He may be different, but i fear you dont know this man, his history or true story. Is it not possible he told you his real age because it is obvious from face value, are you sure he is sexually alright, please dont find this out like you almost foolishly did with your "priced" worth the last time. You call a man who proposed on fb before seeing you mature? Obviously he is mature in his business while you remain immature. I am not comfortable with the age thing and i dont think you understand enough its impact on marriage, i would rather you set yourself free from this fantasy and be available for a younger man. 5 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 7:40pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
FOREXMARTS:Yes but this is coming with a new fear I don't understand. Where have you been? You've been missed. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Renaj: 7:49pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
Floodgater: Thank you. I may be naïve owing to my inexperience but am not stupid. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by FOREXMARTS: 9:44pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
Herzumpther:I have been very busy dear. Haven't forgotten my soup on the other side oh. I think i understand the fear. It's the fear of the unknown, will it fail? , am i making the right decision? This one that Daddy has said yes if it doesn't work how do i gave him? Yeeeekpa God this has to be right oh. Fear of the unknown. I experienced it at a point in my life when i was at a crossroad. Truth is, that you have to relax, calm ur fears and let things fall in place. God is in charge, give him the wheel let him drive okay. Listen to ur mind but follow ur heart, now that's confusing i know lol but u get it. 7 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 9:49pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
FOREXMARTS:Lol. I've not been able to cook but will soon. I've just been feeling sad and don't know why. I tire for me o. You are rigth about my fears tho. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by cococandy(f): 10:50pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
Herzumpther: It is just cold feet. Happens to almost everyone. Just be prepared to make it work. If it doesn't? that is the worst that can happen but then You will be better and more mature next time you venture into another relationship or marriage. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 12:14am On Mar 24, 2015 |
Herzumpther: I hope I don't sound pessimistic but I need to say this That daddy has given his consent doesn't mean you are obligated to marry this guy You are not If something doesn't feel right at this stage and you have unresolved misgivings about certain things,and nothing can shake it off,this is your chance to bail If you have to move the dates back to be doubly sure,please do As long as you haven't said I do,don't be afraid to walk This is a huge deal,perhaps the most important decision of your adult life 8 Likes |
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