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Eseohe23:

lagmostkuit:
Ladies abeg dnt do Single and Happy oh!










Cos if u do, OYO is ya name!

Kachisbarbie:
Are you new to Romanceland?
They can turn any/every thread to a whatsapp messenger.
Even a sensible thread like this one.

labellefille:
In my own case, am 26 and I jst concluded my masters, but I really see myself with a doctorate n the nearest future. Infact to prevent wasting my time I intend going abroadd for my phd which is like 3 years compared to nija das like 5 to 7 years for full time phd in some universities like I sed I reallly love to lecture tho I havnt gotten d job yet but am working on it. When I mentioned my plans to get a doctorate abroad to my folks, dey were kina skepticalll. Dey want me to get d hd alright, but wud prfer me to be married b4 I do that. Which is nt supposed to be a bad idea if I had a fiancee or even a boyfriend sef. But I have been single for like 2 years, and I jst dnt think I shud live my life waiting for marriage to happen first b4 I do sometin gud with myself.

AgapeCharis:
[b][color=indigo]We’ve been taught by the society that it is not good to be single. The pressure that we find even in the church and from family makes us feel uncomfortable if we are single. As a matter of fact, when you turn 25 and you are still single, people will begin to wonder whether you are straight and start asking questions all geared towards making you feel something is wrong with you and you end up getting the idea that you’re not complete until you’re married. That is very wrong. There is nothing like a better half. S/he compliments you and not necessarily completes you. I am a complete man with or without a wife.

I like to point out here that the key to successful relationships is knowledge. King Solomon once made a statement: By wisdom a house is built, through understanding it is established. Through knowledge it’s rooms are filled with beautiful treasure". It’s not kissing, sex or love. It’s not even part of it. Most of the people that get divorced still love one another but could not live with each other. Love is not a guarantee for a successful relationship or a successful marriage. If you’re out there and you think you’ll get married to someone who loves you and finally be happy, you’re wrong. Marriage will manifest your defects. Marriage does not solve loneliness problem. It only exposes it. The loneliest place in the world is to be married and not getting along. Marriage actually opens one to a lot of trouble. It’s a sad thing that so many people can’t wait to get into trouble.
The most important relationship in life is not interpersonal relationships but intrapersonal relationship.

You don’t need to be married to fulfil God’s purpose for your life. There’s nothing like that in the bible. In fact, the opposite is.

Marriage is a choice. Not a requirement so, you don’t have to rush things. The more you develop yourself, the more of a blessing you can be to somebody. The more value you add to yourself, the more value you bring to someone’s life. Spend time in adding value to yourself. Learn how to be a blessing to someone. You’ve not done that. Maybe that’s the reason high profile individuals are not attracted to you. If you are below 25 please get busy improving your life and you’ll be too busy to think about marriage. When you get married, you will not be able to do these things because your attention and energy will be divided.

It is better to be unmarried and happy than to be happy and depressed. If you ever think you’re depressed because you’re single or unmarried, ask that man or woman next door who’s got problems in his/her marriage. **I laugh in Chinese**

The solution to divorce is not a second marriage. It’s a second chance to get knowledge. Divorce is not the unpardonable sin. If your marriage didn’t work out, you’re not going to hell. God hates divorce but does not hate the divorcee. He only hates it because of what it does to you. Once again, love does not protect you from divorce, knowledge does. Living with a human is an act. You’ve got to learn it else you’ll fail in your marriage no matter how old you are. You are ready for marriage when you have the information not when you have someone.

Your marriage is only as good as your single life. If you don’t get knowledge now as a single, you’ve already predicted your marital life.
Marriage doesn’t change you. You bring to the marriage what you are. No miracle happens at the altar. If you are broke as a single, you’ll still be broke at the altar.
If you are _stupid unmarried, you’ll be _stupid at the altar
If you can’t cope unmarried, you still won't cope at the altar
If you’re ignorant as a single, you’ll be ignorance dressed up in a suit on your marriage day.
Marriage is just like an omelette. It is only as good as the eggs. If any of the egg is bad, it’ll corrupt the others – bad omelette….irrespective of the number of good eggs. Don’t marry a defective egg. You can’t change anybody after marriage. If they don’t change to get you, they’ll never change to keep you. Some men go into marriage with a hammer. They're like.....I'll hammer her to the woman I want her to be. What they don't know is that the woman is coming with a chisel to chisel him into the man of her dreams. If (s)he has things you can't live with, don't marry him/her.[/color][/b]

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