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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by yollychika(f): 8:54pm On Apr 03, 2015
Ironically u won't meet a better n sincere man dan him.
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by bosun11(m): 8:58pm On Apr 03, 2015
misshoree:
cheesy
wonderful smile
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by bosun11(m): 8:58pm On Apr 03, 2015
yollychika:
Ironically u won't meet a better n sincere man dan him.
smiley
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by eOrdinaire: 9:00pm On Apr 03, 2015
Hello Unhappy Bride,
What are those things you want in a man that He does not have?
As a man, when I was getting married, I had two checklists.

1. Things that can Change
2. Things that cannot Change

For the things that can change. I was willing to accept them the way they are now. Sometimes they include dress sense etc.
For those things that cannot change like attitude, character etc. These things are show stoppers and we need to have robust discussion.

As a woman, you will disappoint your man in words and deeds and vice versa.
In all love must conquer all things.

Expectations also kill. Please limit them as the dude is only human and bound to make mistakes.

Are you seeing someone else?
Have you met someone you think is better?
Has he offended you?
Is it that you want to explore?
Are you bitter about some things?

In sincerity, there will some one taller, smarter, cooler, sexier etc.

Think these things through. Whatever made you dedicate 4 years of your life to him is still there.
Please reach for it. As a woman, you need to know how to help your man.
Men are naturally not romantic and could be clueless most times. They need help.
They get better with time. There are several societal stigma on a man which you need to look beyond.

Give love a chance!
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by misshoree(f): 9:02pm On Apr 03, 2015
bosun11:
wonderful smile
thanks
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by bosun11(m): 9:13pm On Apr 03, 2015
misshoree:
thanks
You welcome.cheers
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by goodmorning40: 9:15pm On Apr 03, 2015
treny:
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I'd preferred you left without a comment, you just have to waste space..... The lady needs advice not criticism after all, you might be in worse shoes and we don't Just don't know it
What is this one saying. Do u have problems understanding sentences then u should have asked for help instead of displaying ur ignorance here
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Achiles: 9:21pm On Apr 03, 2015
This OP disgust me. How dare you toy with a man's life with reckless wickedness? You have the guts to announce to the. World.
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Sagamite(m):
sprinkles14:
As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.
Don't worry. You are not the first.

That is virtually the norm for many marriages.

Actually, when the bride-to-be is 28+ years old plus, it is actually the norm for a vast majority of the marriage. They find a good guy, flatter him a bit and a falls like a mumu because he has never had game in his life before. They are basically compromising to get married.

I have always said that will never be my portion in life.

I can tell by a woman's behaviour, statements and body language.

https://www.nairaland.com/1911041/why-nigerian-girls-should-not/6#26463351

A woman has to feel extremely lucky to be with me to have a chance for me to marry her. If I don't see any signs of infatuation at her first sight of me or, worst, after our first 3 meets, then I am DEFINITELY not the man for her.

I go fuuk though.
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Sagamite(m): 9:39pm On Apr 03, 2015
MzNelly:
Try to spice up your relationship

And figure out what attracted you to him in the first place

If you still don't feel nothing, call of the wedding.

Happiness is of extreme importance, my dear.
Spice ko, pray ni.

Attraction is not a choice people make nor a set of planned activities.
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Sagamite(m): 9:44pm On Apr 03, 2015
ellabooz:
Women are evil and source of pain.

Be careful who you adopt into your live as wife.

Imagine the unthinkable by this evil minded lady capable of crippling her hubby's wheels of progress.

Please see your pastor for real deliverance.
RUBBISH!

Nothing is evil about what she is doing.

He is dumb.

More of his fault than hers.

I don't know why some men are so mugufied.

If he is a mugu then that is more of his wahala. There are many mugu men out there and very few eligible guys. Who are you to tel her not to appease her best interest.
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Teespice(f): 9:48pm On Apr 03, 2015
Sagamite:
Don't worry. You are not the first.

That is virtually the norm for many marriages.

Actually, when the bride is 28+ years old plus, it is actually the norm for a vast majority of the marriage. They find a good guy, flatter him a bit and a falls like a mumu because he has never had game in his life before. They are basically compromising to get married.

I have always said that will never be my portion in life.

I can tell by a woman's behaviour, statements and body language.

https://www.nairaland.com/1911041/why-nigerian-girls-should-not/6#26463351

A woman has to feel extremely lucky to be with me to have a chance for me to marry her. If I don't see any signs of infatuation at her first sight of me or, worst, after our first 3 meets, then I am DEFINITELY not the man for her.

I go fuuk though.
hohohohoho
God's gift to women.

indeed

tongue tongue tongue tongue
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Sagamite(m): 9:49pm On Apr 03, 2015
Teespice:
hohohohoho
God's gift to women.

indeed

tongue tongue tongue tongue
I am not God's gift to women o.

What is between my legs is what is God's gift to women. tongue cheesy
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Sagamite(m): 9:54pm On Apr 03, 2015
Ilekeh:
Dem Don start again. Is marriage by force?
Is this Ileke of Florida?
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Teespice(f): 9:55pm On Apr 03, 2015
Sagamite:
I am not God's gift to women o.

What is between my legs is what is God's gift to women. tongue cheesy
choi

sagamite. I don't know why I chose you to pick on this night sha.

anyways, what's between your legs?
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Sagamite(m): 9:59pm On Apr 03, 2015
Teespice:
choi

sagamite. I don't know why I chose you to pick on this night sha.

anyways, what's between your legs?
What is between my legs? shocked

"Danger, danger". grin grin grin


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2a4gyJsY0mc
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Juzzybabe(f): 10:02pm On Apr 03, 2015
Witches are not only the ones flying at night ooo...well,if this tale is real,I pray that God will use holy ghost caterpillar to clear you off that guys way before you ruin his life. Why do you want to ruin this man's lifehuh May you not succeed in this.Amen.
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Teespice(f): 10:02pm On Apr 03, 2015
Sagamite:
What is between my legs? shocked

"Danger, danger". grin grin grin


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2a4gyJsY0mc
hohoho

sagamite.

you won't be the one to spoil me

nanite.
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Sagamite(m): 10:02pm On Apr 03, 2015
Incredibledjay:
my sista u nid God's intervention, be prayerful or better still, see a pastor, u need to b delivered from external spiritual forces that don't want good things for you
I am sure a lot of pastors have chopped this ones money while he continues failing. grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Sagamite(m): 10:21pm On Apr 03, 2015
babyosisi:
How heartless can you be
You feel nothing but want to go ahead with the wedding with a plan of divorce in place even before the wedding
He will sponsor a fake wedding them spend his money to send you abroad then you release the bombshell from there
CHineke kpoo kwa gi oku
Nne just come out and tell this man that you are already chopping another man that you prefer instead of lying to everyone and yourself
have you ever heard the axiom: A fool and his money are soon parted.
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Nobody: 10:41pm On Apr 03, 2015
Hmmmn
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by tosyne2much(m): 10:56pm On Apr 03, 2015
bosun11:
disappointed man....can't imagine how d dude in question would feel.He\s gonna be drolling over a babe that does gaf about his life and feelings
He gave him false hope to the extent that she even accepted his marriage proposal

I doubt if God Himself understand ladies
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by anibestlala(m): 11:05pm On Apr 03, 2015
sprinkles14:
Seriously, have tried all I could to spice up this relationship..not just working out...
love is a commitment not just a feeling
.if you don't feel him,do those things you know a person who loves another should do.keep doing them until the feelings return.love him
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by bosun11(m): 11:16pm On Apr 03, 2015
tosyne2much:
He gave him false hope to the extent that she even accepted his marriage proposal

I doubt if God Himself understand ladies
grin grin grin grin
I feel she was just holding on to see if she would feel something but the p here is , she should have called it quits after 2 years when she discovered...it was working for her and the feeling wasn't mutual.
All the time i have spent with ladies, i have never understood them bro.Ladies too don't understand themselves, that is why they always quarrel.Just love and cherish them....that's all
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by lighternote: 11:27pm On Apr 03, 2015
Chronic lesbianism.
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by tosyne2much(m): 11:28pm On Apr 03, 2015
bosun11:
grin grin grin grin
I feel she was just holding on to see if she would feel something but the p here is , she should have called it quits after 2 years when she discovered...it was working for her and the feeling wasn't mutual.
All the time i have spent with ladies, i have never understood them bro.Ladies too don't understand themselves, that is why they always quarrel.Just love and cherish them....that's all
That's true bro.. May God increase them in wisdom and knowledge
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by pomsky: 11:30pm On Apr 03, 2015
sprinkles14:
I'm 28 years old,
No, he's not my first
Yes, have had guys but haven't given anyone chance to get close to me
I'm not sexual active with..I tend to turn him down most time and when I'm in a fix..I just do it with satisfaction which he often complains about that I'm too rigid
Presently I'm not working..
I don't know your definition for being attractive, but I can say I'm petite and good, presentable and attractive
Yes I would love to..and besides marriage isn't just on my list for now
No serious relationships in the past.
Thank you
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.......my dear, don't plan to fail. You already have a plan to fail in marriage. It's your escape plan, but it's actually a plan to fail. Don't let him say in the future, "why didn't you tell me?"
Pls, call him and tell him what you have told us, don't hide it from him. Don't let him say in the future, "why didn't you tell me?"
He will be bitter and may hate you in the future if you carry out your plans as stated. You're already planning to destroy his marriage, but can prevent it today by telling him exactly how you feel.
Have the strength of character enough to pull out. If you're finding it difficult, get across to his best friend and tell him what you have told us. Then let him help in breaking the news. Don't walk in with eyes wide opened with the awareness you already have. You have seen the future from the beginning, but he has not. If you break it now, he will hurt, but will heal, but if you do as you have said, you will destroy him. It's better he's hurt than destroyed. You owe him that!
If you marry him, you will certainly be irritable in the marriage, and he will not understand why. He will then put in much more to please you, which will irritate you even more. You will be choking with irritation cos your heart neva accepted him in the first place. If you think it will be easier to divorce him, you are greatly wrong! You will feel trapped in misery, "oh, had i known. I should have told him!"
I feel sorry for you cos you will eventually meet someone you will be attracted to and will feel imprisoned, then you will reason,: "don't i also have the right to be happy?". There will be stress and pain beyond anything you can imagine now. It's better not to tread that lane!
Your husband will hate you in the future for destroying his joy and life. But you can prevent it now. Pls tell him and maintain your stand.
May God help you![/size]!
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by sprinkles14(op): 11:37pm On Apr 03, 2015
femi4:
Is there another man somewhere that you have feelings for?
Don't cheat on him, just tell him after the wedding to release you from his heart. Don't have a child for him........else you ll deprive such child motherly/fatherly care.
There's no man anywhere...I'm reconsidering this option.
Thank you
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by blackbeau1(f): 12:26am On Apr 04, 2015
If you are planning to divorce him in a year, then you shouldn't marry him @ all.
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Nobody: 1:06am On Apr 04, 2015
@ Op. Happiness is key to a successful marriage

Break it up with him, instead of stringing him along ..

What if tables where turned n he did those things to you ? Imagine how u will feel.
Explain it to him n then end . Its better to be honest than living a lie smiley
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Ilekeh(f): 3:23am On Apr 04, 2015
Sagamite:
Is this Ileke of Florida?
grin
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by luuvee(m): 3:38am On Apr 04, 2015
After four years? Yet he proposed and you said yes. U better tell him your mind now that there is time because if u wait till you get married to him and you hurt him in d way ur planning dat won't be fair atall a thing to do to someone who has done nothing but shown u care and love all d way. Because if you hurt him and he goes out of the way to place a curse on you? Dats on you so help this guy by telling him now you won't know how much good you will be doin to him by doin that. Its never adviceable for whatso ever reason to get into marriage with someone u don't love because it will never work because all u feel for d person is sympathy and not love. Tank me later
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