It all started just before Christmas last year. My wife had asked me to allow her take our 3 kids home to her mother for the celebrations. This I did not agree to because we did not contemplate it and as such I was not prepared for the financial implications. More so that she has been actively involved in the planning for the season. She told her Mum that I refused her request and calls started coming in. At first my mother in-law tried to convince me but I stood my grounds as I was not prepared for the long trip to Warri from Lagos. I also thought of the financial cost as well as the need to pay their school fees in January. I tried to explain all to no avail. In fact, the more I explained the more she got angry. It got to a point that my mother in-law started saying it is as if I am suspecting her of witchcraft. This she told her other children and that marked the starting point of all the attacks.
She has 3 sons and one sister and brother here in Lagos. She called them all telling them that I called her a witch. This I never thought of not to talk more of saying. The first attack came first weekend of February when her first son came to my house to confront me. Despite all explanations he made sure he did not leave without hitting me. The following weekend he came back with his 2 younger ones to beat me up. They left after only vandalising my 2 cars because I refused to open the door for them. I called the police in But they fled. Now they are threatening to deal with me anywhere we meet.
My Father in-law is late and their uncle in Lagos is even younger than the 2nd of my 3 brother in-laws though he has not really tried to help matters.
I am seriously thinking of sending their daughter back to them if that is what they want as the attacks still continues. Only last week they came to my house in my absence and asked my wife to warn me.
Pls help with advice on way out pllleeeaaassseee!

Some women sef! and what is your wife's reaction to all this? (cause she is the root cause of all this wahala)
Ill say you should report her siblings to the police. And as for your wife and MIL, let the experienced married people come and advice you on that

You are there worrying about some financial cost and paying your children's school fees yet you have two cars sitting in your compound? Talk about misplaced priorities.

Maybe, you should involve the Police.

So what is your wife's reaction to all these happening? I will really like to know before commenting further!

See what women go through every day in the name of inlaws, we Don see all this
Now a man suffering in the hands of inlaws

This is wrong on all levels.

@Op there is more to your disallowing her from travelling that you are not sharing. Something is wrong somewhere. Btw, u don't have to send her home. Make peace with her. She troubles you for a reason, settle with her.

I quite agree with you on the point that there is more to him not allowing his wife travel. But also, as against the opinion of the STC, a person has 2 cars doesn't mean they can't be really broke at a time.

OP, try to dialogue with your wife first, you both are one and should be on same side, then you both can proceed to speak with her thuggy family. If this fails before you involve the police.

But sadly, oftentimes police will tell you "na family matter, make una go settle for house". Pray also, cause you really need wisdom to handle this.

One has to be careful of the family they marry into.

ATMC:
@Op there is more to your disallowing her from travelling that you are not sharing. Something is wrong somewhere. Btw, u don't have to send her home. Make peace with her. She troubles you for a reason, settle with her.

How can your in-laws come to your house and not only hit you but vandalize your property. What kind of in-law is that? What is the reaction of your wife when all this unacceptable and criminal behaviour is going on?

Report to the police so at least they have a record of it and then get them arrested if they ever repeat that criminal behaviour.

I am even beginning to suspect your MIL. Why would she started stressing that you called her a witch if she had no intention of doing something to them (of course it's for their protection and so that they can succeed in life). What a rational person would have done would have been to plan another visit maybe Easter. Why did it have to be that particular Christmas or nothing.

Why are her kids harassing you like this over what is a non-issue? Are they jobless? Seems they have beef for you and this was just an avenue to show it. After all of these, she would still want you to be sending your kids to her house? Some people can be so myopic.

It's even your wife I blame. She's in support of their behavior and must be instigating them behind the scenes that's why they can act with such impunity. A fruit cannot fall far from its tree. Thuggish family.

Na wa. What's your mother-in-laws plan for your marriage if I may ask.
Because the way some people behave towards their children's husbands and wives makes one wonder if they really want their kids to be happily married at all.

Don't let that vandalism of your property go unpunished. They have to fix it for you, Those brothers-in-law of yours. I'm quite certain they didn't even over-hear your conversation with their mother but they have made you the enemy just because your MIL says so.
If your wife can't convince her mother to treat you with respect as her life partner then why is she married to you?

MILs of naija. SMH. Today they are slapping their daughters-in-law,tomorrow they are vandalizing their sons-in-law properties.
No single Respect for those their kids chose to spend the rest of their lives with.

And some people still think MILs are above reproach.

Konboko:
It all started just before Christmas last year. My wife had asked me to allow her take our 3 kids home to her mother for the celebrations. This I did not agree to because we did not contemplate it and as such I was not prepared for the financial implications. More so that she has been actively involved in the planning for the season. She told her Mum that I refused her request and calls started coming in. At first my mother in-law tried to convince me but I stood my grounds as I was not prepared for the long trip to Warri from Lagos. I also thought of the financial cost as well as the need to pay their school fees in January. I tried to explain all to no avail. In fact, the more I explained the more she got angry. It got to a point that my mother in-law started saying it is as if I am suspecting her of witchcraft. This she told her other children and that marked the starting point of all the attacks.
She has 3 sons and one sister and brother here in Lagos. She called them all telling them that I called her a witch. This I never thought of not to talk more of saying. The first attack came first weekend of February when her first son came to my house to confront me. Despite all explanations he made sure he did not leave without hitting me. The following weekend he came back with his 2 younger ones to beat me up. They left after only vandalising my 2 cars because I refused to open the door for them. I called the police in But they fled. Now they are threatening to deal with me anywhere we meet.
My Father in-law is late and their uncle in Lagos is even younger than the 2nd of my 3 brother in-laws though he has not really tried to help matters.
I am seriously thinking of sending their daughter back to them if that is what they want as the attacks still continues. Only last week they came to my house in my absence and asked my wife to warn me.
Pls help with advice on way out pllleeeaaassseee!

I am soooooo pained! Your wife is the cause of this mess, even if she didn't agree with you her duty was to protect you before her mum such that she explains the situation as though it was a joint decision by both of you! Instead she goes ahead to push you under the bus by by blatantly saying you refused allowing the trip even with your tenable explaination. Hmmmm this was why during the time I was single +available I disliked any man who seemed to be tied to their parents apron strings same for women. Sometimes I read people place toooooo much premium on their parents perception about their choice of partner in both ways....that's the resultant effect! Oga Op please lodge a complaint indicating your life is in danger with the police and follow it up with a lawsuit charging them for assault. Also read the riot act to your wife your wife as her duty is to protect you but I don't see her living up to that in this case.
What nonsense!

modelmike7:
So what is your wife's reaction to all these happening? I will really like to know before commenting further!

my wife is not happy with the way things turned out. She complained and was almost beaten up by her brothers. In fact
they rough handled her.

subzidi:

I am soooooo pained! Your wife is the cause of this mess, even if she didn't agree with you her duty was to protect you before her mum such that she explains the situation as though it was a joint decision by both of you! Instead she goes ahead to push you under the bus by by blatantly saying you refused allowing the trip even with your tenable explaination. Hmmmm this was why during the time I was single +available I disliked any man who seemed to be tied to their parents apron strings same for women. Sometimes I read people place toooooo much premium on their parents perception about their choice of partner in both ways....that's the resultant effect! Oga please lodge a complaint indicating your life is in danger with the police and follow it up with a lawsuit charging them for assault. Also read the riot act to your wife your wife as her duty is to protect you but I don't see her living up to that in this case.
What nonsense!

I have lodged a complaint to the police

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I am even beginning to suspect your MIL. Why would she started stressing that you called her a witch if she had no intention of doing something to them (of course it's for their protection and so that they can succeed in life). What a rational person would have done would have been to plan another visit maybe Easter. Why did it have to be that particular Christmas or nothing.

Why are her kids harassing you like this over what is a non-issue? Are they jobless? Seems they have beef for you and this was just an avenue to show it. After all of these, she would still want you to be sending your kids to her house? Some people can be so myopic.

It's even your wife I blame. She's in support of their behavior and must be instigating them behind the scenes that's why they can act with such impunity. A fruit cannot fall far from its tree. Thuggish family.

my wife did not envisage all these. She is not in support and the mother had to call her and advice her to take sides with them because if she eventually has problems with me it is her family she will run to.

kandiikane:
You are there worrying about some financial cost and paying your children's school fees yet you have two cars sitting in your compound? Talk about misplaced priorities.

Maybe, you should involve the Police.

Pls grow up before you make comments on issues like this.

cococandy:
Na wa. What's your mother-in-laws plan for your marriage if I may ask.
Because the way some people behave towards their children's husbands and wives make one wonder if they really want their kids to be happily married at all.

Don't let that vandalism of your property go unpunished. They have to fix it for you, Those brothers-in-law of yours. I'm quite certain they didn't even over-hear your conversation with their mother but they have made you the enemy just because your MIL says so.
If your wife can't convince her mother to treat you with respect as her life partner then why is she married to you?

MILs of naija. SMH. Today they are slapping their daughters-in-law,tomorrow they are vandalizing their sons-in-law properties.
No single Respect for their their kids chose to spend the rest of their lives with.

And some people still think MILs are above reproach.

Revenge is a dish best served cold.

Jamean:
I quite agree with you on the point that there is more to him not allowing his wife travel. But also, as against the opinion of the STC, a person has 2 cars doesn't mean they can't be really broke at a time.

OP, try to dialogue with your wife first, you both are one and should be on same side, then you both can proceed to speak with her thuggy family. If this fails before you involve the police.

But sadly, oftentimes police will tell you "na family matter, make una go settle for house". Pray also, cause you really need wisdom to handle this.

One has to be careful of the family they marry into.

just what they are saying. But I had to tell them my life is in danger and the gave me 2 numbers to call anytime they come near me or my house.

kandiikane:
You are there worrying about some financial cost and paying your children's school fees yet you have two cars sitting in your compound? Talk about misplaced priorities.

Maybe, you should involve the Police.

just got the 2nd car for my wife because of school runs. The more reason I was broke and treading carefully.

This one pass me o . KanwuliaJara over to you

Konboko:
just got the 2nd car for my wife because of school runs. The more reason I was broke and treading carefully.

Why bothering urself wit such explanation even? Am not sure dat guy knows wat its takes to be a family man with kids. Am happy his also a man, 1 day he will also be in ur shoes

We really need serious counselling in this country concerning the issue of "marriage"

So whaat if the husband says "wife you can't traavel now", darling MIL took it upon herself to want to stir the air in her daughters home. That's witchcraft

OP, tell ur wife to let her bros know that if they try any such thing they did in d past, police will pick dem up. Make sure they actually pick them up if they dare. I think you need to teach them a lesson, on how to respect peoples opinion common

So two grown men will leave their houses and families to come and harass another man in his house

Just because she is your mother doesn't mean that everything she says is true,you need to hear from the other party too.
That woman has serious issues,does she want to destroy her daughter's home?


Please get them arrested next time they try anything silly.

with dis story, i don cancel marrying anybody from warri. chaiii

edwife:
So two grown men will leave their houses and families to come and harass another man in his house

Just because she is your mother doesn't mean that everything she says is true,you need to hear from the other party too.
That woman has serious issues,does she want to destroy her daughter's home?


Please get them arrested next time they try anything silly.

Hahahahahahhahahaha!

I just had to do this

LOL!

@OP:

Since your wife is not in support, get them arrested If you can.

We know How police dey operate.

Also maintain silence. Till your in-laws learn How to be civil and communicate like humans, cut them off

That is after dealing with them.

I believe the issues did not start today and This Christmas saga brought out stuffs that were hidden.

If mama desperately wanted to see her grandkids, Why couldn't she come to Warri for a week or some days.

When spouses (esp. Wives) stop taking nonsense from in-laws, their brain will reset to default.

This kind of stories annoy me.

SAMBARRY:
This one pass me o . KanwuliaJara over to you

You know I deliberately avoided this thread?
All this FUJI HOUSE OF COMMOTION, I can't relate with!
I can't even imagine all these in my family!

Good morrrrrrrrin' my dear!
Time for my daily morning walk, then a BIG BREAKFAST!!!!
8 days off! 5 more to go! Girl! It feels goooooooooood!!!!!

bukatyne:


Hahahahahahhahahaha!

I just had to do this

LOL!

And why?

cococandy:
Na wa. What's your mother-in-laws plan for your marriage if I may ask.
Because the way some people behave towards their children's husbands and wives make one wonder if they really want their kids to be happily married at all.

Don't let that vandalism of your property go unpunished. They have to fix it for you, Those brothers-in-law of yours. I'm quite certain they didn't even over-hear your conversation with their mother but they have made you the enemy just because your MIL says so.
If your wife can't convince her mother to treat you with respect as her life partner then why is she married to you?

MILs of naija. SMH. Today they are slapping their daughters-in-law,tomorrow they are vandalizing their sons-in-law properties.
No single Respect for their their kids chose to spend the rest of their lives with.

And some people still think MILs are above reproach.

You did not get the memo

Husbands' relatives are above reproach.

This is the wife's family messing up.

2 different things.

streetsoldier1:



Pls grow up before you make comments on issues like this.

oh shut up, exactly what did i write wrong? Abeg don't test me this afternoon, just stay your lane and advice him to what you think you should. You saw his reply, he got a second car which caused him to struggle financially. I guess, you, the grown human has not fully matured yet to see where priorities have been misplaced. I will not be surprised if I am told you are one of the people that does not know what their priorities are.

I didnt read your story till then end nor am i a man but one thing is sure,If my in-laws or anyone from from my husbands family ever tries to come to my house and raise his hands on me, thats the last time she or he will step foot inside my/our house.

We might and definitely would make peace but the distance would be maintained forever. Luckily,I don't have this kind of MIL's or relatives.

@OP, why is your wife mute and not doing anything to calm the war she started

izaray:
Why bothering urself wit such explanation even? Am not sure dat guy knows wat its takes to be a family man with kids. Am happy his also a man, 1 day he will also be in ur shoes

And you too shut up, to him, right now, that car is luxury! Don't bullshyt me about having it because of being a family man. I won't be surprised if you are the type of woman that forces her husband to buy an extra car when she knows that it will put a strain on the family financially in the pretence of it being for school runs when in actual fact, it is to go form big girl amongst your mates.