babyosisi:


But everything she says is true sha
Our men are tough
Only our women can handle them as they are
Go and see naija men married to AA or Oyibo,they do what you could never believe our men are capable of
They will be cooking and cleaning and baking without complaining
Yes honey
Yes sweetie
Running around serving guests

We went to visit one and he was baking
An Igbo man o,wearing apron and baking and serving guests
Had his wife been nigerian that will never happen
He will sit and be cracking jokes while his wife is cooking and serving

For them to marry Americans they make major adjustments which many of our men are not willing to make

This girl is very correct in her observation

EfemenaXY:


It's a good thing she knows exactly what she wants but at 33 she's not a child and shouldn't be hung up on Nigerian men. Our men are what they are and no tribe/race is perfect. Sure our men have their imperfections, but who doesn't?

She can go marry a Black American if she likes. Why is she so hung up on our men? Na by force to marry? If she's meeting the wrong type, then she should either expand her dating pool (like she knows she should), or she should take a deeper look within herself to find out what sort of person she portrays herself as or the message she gives off about her person

She says she's not trying to bash our men but her video isn't far off from it. Let her find who'll make her happy and quit with the slagging off.

Her comment annoys me jor.

CC: Chillisauce. Smartmom. Bukatyne. Ifyalways. Edwife.

Truckpusher:
Cococandy, what do you think?
They said Nigerian men are not romantic.
And I've been buying shawarma for these girls with my hard earned cash from my truckpushing business and you know how daunting that task can be in a tropical region.

T3Amo:
This is not a bashing video but I just found it interesting especially those Nigerians in the Diaspora will definitely relate to this. What do you ladies think? Men do you agree with what she is saying?

Cc: Idowuogbo, onila, coogar, sagamite, SirShymexx, truckpusher,50calibre

cococandy:


I think some are.

So buying shawarma is your definition of romantic ?

Pls go and serenade her at her work place in the presence of her boss when she least expects it.
Then we will know you're serious.

SirShymexx:


I honestly can't put my head around what she's blabbing about cos all the excuses she gave aren't peculiar to Nigerian men from Nigeria - it's a black thing. I'm not into everything she said, ditto most of my friends, and we're all from London.

- I'm tall (slightly above 6'2) and I don't feel comfortable around tall chics - I prefer 5'8/5'7 and below. Two of the chics I'm checking are like 5'10, and lawd knows I'm never comfortable walking around with them, even when they wear flats. Heels are a NO NO around me when you're that tall, or I'll probably move away a little. Now imagine 6'3 giant - GTFOH. Ain't no one tryna walking around with a chic that'll be looking down on him - you'll naturally feel intimidated cos you're used to walking around being taller than everyone else. Now imagine ya own chic being taller than you.

Then sex with extremely tall chics isn't really that much fun due to the extremely big bones. It doesn't give the same type of feeling, to be honest. That said, I won't mind making babies with a chic that's like 5'10 (max) cos I definitely want my kids to play basketball or American football.

- Age: she's 33 for fvck sake. Who on this planet doesn't care about age, and a chic with extremely high mileage? She's very close to menopause and most likely damaged goods. So, that isn't a Nigerian from Nigeria a la freshie thing. It's universal.

- Like seriously, who wants a parrot and an unnecessarily forward chic as his chic? Coupled of the fact that most of them are always angry (angry black women). As a guy, you need ya space from time to time. That as well isn't even a Nigerian thing.

I would have taken her seriously if she had cited nuances in experiences, cultural differences, and the fact that relationships like that are somewhat difficult cos you won't be able to understand their own perspective on things from time to time (you will most likely view things differently). Coupled with the fact that most times there won't be much to talk about cos the subject-matter will be limited. And too many awkward moments If she had given these excuses, I probably would be able to relate - but I can't relate to the tripe she spouted in that video. She needs to stick to white guys - ain't no one checking for her ar.se, man.

I've probably only checked two naija chics from Naij (one in college and a next one in Uni). It was just awkward, to be honest. Great girls, but their interpretation of everything was always different. When things are like that, it's always difficult to be yourself cos they won't be able to relate. And you can't force yourself to be what you're not, just to please people. For example: when I'm at home or not going anywhere I've to dress up - I can just throw on my tracksuit with hoodie, and run around with that. But to a typical naija chic, that's some "ghetto thug" shiit, but to folks from ya world, it's normal. Too many things to cite, man. But this heifer is a time waster, swear down!

Truckpusher:
So all that sharwama is nothing?

Ok oh, when I was growing up people were using chewing gum now I've decided to upgrade to shawarma yet you're saying I'm not romantic.

On a serious note ,how many Nigerian girls are even romantic to start with ? even when they are romantic they are always expecting that every relationship must end in marriage or they are making material gains .

How many Nigerian ladies out there actually have a relationship with a mindset that it might lead to nothing and enjoy it while it lasts - The moment you decide that you're no longer interested in the whole thing they'll start kicking up dust ,even threatening you in subtle manner .

My sister ,you can only get what you deserve from your society - you can't be acting like a desperate ho and expect to be respected .

Nigerian girls think that a relationship with a particular guy is a means to an end.

They should grow up first and we will accord them with their respect.

Truckpusher:
So all that sharwama is nothing?

Ok oh, when I was growing up people were using chewing gum now I've decided to upgrade to shawarma yet you're saying I'm not romantic.

On a serious note ,how many Nigerian girls are even romantic to start with ? even when they are romantic they are always expecting that every relationship must end in marriage or they are making material gains .

How many Nigerian ladies out there actually have a relationship with a mindset that it might lead to nothing and enjoy it while it lasts - The moment you decide that you're no longer interested in the whole thing they'll start kicking up dust ,even threatening you in subtle manner .

My sister ,you can only get what you deserve from your society - you can't be acting like a desperate ho and expect to be respected .

Nigerian girls think that a relationship with a particular guy is a means to an end.

They should grow up first and we will accord them with their respect.

CFCfan:

Bros, you're forgetting one thing: most Christian Naija ladies heed the popular advice from some pastors, and indeed the patriarchal culture- that you can only get into a romantic relationship when you are ready to settle down. Getting into a relationship for "experience" is regarded as a 'sin'.

babyosisi:


But everything she says is true sha
Our men are tough
Only our women can handle them as they are
Go and see naija men married to AA or Oyibo,they do what you could never believe our men are capable of
They will be cooking and cleaning and baking without complaining
Yes honey
Yes sweetie
Running around serving guests

We went to visit one and he was baking
An Igbo man o,wearing apron and baking and serving guests
Had his wife been nigerian that will never happen
He will sit and be cracking jokes while his wife is cooking and serving

For them to marry Americans they make major adjustments which many of our men are not willing to make

This girl is very correct in her observation

CFCfan:

Bros, you're forgetting one thing: most Christian Naija ladies heed the popular advice from some pastors, and indeed the patriarchal culture- that you can only get into a romantic relationship when you are ready to settle down. Getting into a relationship for "experience" is regarded as a 'sin'.

Thus, the ladies, having grown up with such a mentality, would naturally be seeking to 'tie' any man who professes love for her .

cococandy:
Well blame and counter blame. Who's to blame? Who's not to blame?

If our so called society didn't look down on single girls over a certain age, would they be 'desperate' for marriage?
If we weren't so stuck in the old ways of slut-shaming and body counting would the ladies feel used for just having a relationship that involved sex without marriage?
Think about it.
How did the phrases 'old cargo', 'over used commodity', etc. come to be? If not the constant judging of women who have relationships that don't lead to marriage?
With those prevalent attitude among the general black public, are you surprised the women want more commitment out of a relationship than just fun?

Cause and effect.
You can't eat your cakes and have it back.

cococandy:
don't mind him. he's acting as if he doesn't know.

Truckpusher:
The question is : who bears the brunt at the end of the day?
I guess you already know the answer.
What do you do when you're likely to be at the receiving end of any vicious cycle ? You make it right else you'll always remain that way.

cococandy:
in this case there's no making it right.
Na lose lose situation.

You date for fun, you're a Ho. Some will call you 'that lose thing I used to fvck' when the relationship and the fun is over.

You only date for someone who might marry you, you're a desperado.

SMH. My black sisters have suffered

Truckpusher:
You never disappoint me .

Go shy! I'm with you 101% on this one

Truckpusher:
Your black sisters aren't suffering at all unless they've been running with the wrong guy for all the wrong reasons.

Women from emerging economies like Nigeria enjoy more as they basically do nothing.They only make babies ,drive expensive big cars with too many domestic staff which makes them to grow fat.

Women married to rich Nigerians don't complain when they have too much money at their disposal .

Trust me ,our women enjoy more than their counterparts all over the world - But if you want equality ,then you should be making your own money and contribute at least 60% then I won't mind being your emasculated black man , your indoor cat.
You can't eat all that cake and ask for equality though with love everything would be fine but there is a limit and that boundary threshold must be respected after all he who pays the piper dictates the tune.

SirShymexx:


I honestly can't put my head around what she's blabbing about cos all the excuses she gave aren't peculiar to Nigerian men from Nigeria - it's a black thing. I'm not into everything she said, ditto most of my friends, and we're all from London.

- I'm tall (slightly above 6'2) and I don't feel comfortable around tall chics - I prefer 5'8/5'7 and below. Two of the chics I'm checking are like 5'10, and lawd knows I'm never comfortable walking around with them, even when they wear flats. Heels are a NO NO around me when you're that tall, or I'll probably move away a little. Now imagine 6'3 giant - GTFOH. Ain't no one tryna walking around with a chic that'll be looking down on him - you'll naturally feel intimidated cos you're used to walking around being taller than everyone else. Now imagine ya own chic being taller than you.

Then sex with extremely tall chics isn't really that much fun due to the extremely big bones. It doesn't give the same type of feeling, to be honest. That said, I won't mind making babies with a chic that's like 5'10 (max) cos I definitely want my kids to play basketball or American football.

- Age: she's 33 for fvck sake. Who on this planet doesn't care about age, and a chic with extremely high mileage? She's very close to menopause and most likely damaged goods. So, that isn't a Nigerian from Nigeria a la freshie thing. It's universal.

- Like seriously, who wants a parrot and an unnecessarily forward chic as his chic? Coupled of the fact that most of them are always angry (angry black women). As a guy, you need ya space from time to time. That as well isn't even a Nigerian thing.

I would have taken her seriously if she had cited nuances in experiences, cultural differences, and the fact that relationships like that are somewhat difficult cos you won't be able to understand their own perspective on things from time to time (you will most likely view things differently). Coupled with the fact that most times there won't be much to talk about cos the subject-matter will be limited. And too many awkward moments If she had given these excuses, I probably would be able to relate - but I can't relate to the tripe she spouted in that video. She needs to stick to white guys - ain't no one checking for her ar.se, man.

I've probably only checked two naija chics from Naij (one in college and a next one in Uni). It was just awkward, to be honest. Great girls, but their interpretation of everything was always different. When things are like that, it's always difficult to be yourself cos they won't be able to relate. And you can't force yourself to be what you're not, just to please people. For example: when I'm at home or not going anywhere I've to dress up - I can just throw on my tracksuit with hoodie, and run around with that. But to a typical naija chic, that's some "ghetto thug" shiit, but to folks from ya world, it's normal. Too many things to cite, man. But this heifer is a time waster, swear down!

SirShymexx:


Lol. Not picking on the chic, but everything she said is basically an excuse to mask the lack of suitors. I honestly don't know why she had to blame Nigerian men for that.

I'd wager that the US is like the UK, just like the rest of the black diaspora in the west. The chic is far older than me, and 80-90% of my friends have got at least one kid (some had the first kid during teenage years in College). And the rest of us who're still living that free life with no baggage, date chics younger than us, and we look at chics around our age as damaged goods.

So, who's checking for a 33-year old chic that's as tall as a giant? Err, I'd say with the availability of so many beautiful young chics around - she's better off asking her parents to hook her up with some Nigerian guy in Nigeria; any Nigerian man finding it difficult to find a suitable partner in America (it's somewhat difficult for some Nigerian guys to get black chics out here, hence a lot settle for white chics); or an older partner who's either a divorcee, widower, or any guy with kids - than faking the funk on youtube.

T3Amo:
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Truckpusher:
The man was right in all she said in that video.

With all that large nostril and big thick lips and being 6ft3" isn't helping matters - Who wants a fellow man for a wife?

I don't want to be beaten up by a tomboy.

SirShymexx, please do justice to this topic - I'm not very good in making analysis when it comes to issues of this nature.

Ilekeh:


Agbaya....how did you find your way to this thread?

lekpalicious:
She aint lying though. First thing out of their mouths is "can you cook?" Foolish goats...do i look like your housegirl?







Lol on a serious note to me it seems most of these issues are because she may be meeting/dating FOBs. There are plenty of Westernized, educated, and liberal 9ja men who would fit well with her

Truckpusher:
Iyawo mi.....I was summoned by your likes.

Ilekeh:


Who is your iyawo?

Do you play PS4 games?

Truckpusher:
You of course .

Yes ,I play ps4 and Maldrid and Chelsea are my favourite teams.

Why are you asking ?

Ilekeh:


Olorun maje!

I hate sports game. They're so pointless.