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Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Subom1(f): 2:56pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
Notyourb1tch:This is so true. I for one will rather not get married than force myself to get married to any tom, dick and Harry just to be married because of age and later you will be having wahala that could have easily been avoided. Marriage is not the be all and end all and unfortunately for some people it is just not in their destiny to get married. Your last paragraph is so true. A family friend actually had a bunch of women send his family a series of photos from back home so that they could "assess" or look at them and make the best choice for him. His requirements were as follows: under 25 (so she could have kids), good looking, educated, no children as he had none at his grown 37 years on this planet. Let's just say that when his wife finally came here she "grew wings' and the marriage did not last. What's worse is he was dating a lady who was in her early 30's but he broke it off with her cos he felt she was too old(dude was 37!) and 'Westernised". Karma I tell ya 7 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 2:57pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
EZEIGBO1OFIMO: You say this yet bash a woman who fits the picture you would wish she painted What is wrong with you folks? Must everyone be miserable? 11 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by bukatyne(f): 2:57pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
babyosisi: It is well |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 3:00pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
Subom1: If one truly wants to get married and time is passing by,there are some requirements one will necessarily have to let go to increase ones pool of eligible men. Certainly not your core values But there are some qualities and requirements that can be overlooked 1 Like |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by EZEIGBO1OFIMO: 3:07pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
babyosisi:there is a thin line between misery and reality. The truth was never the sweet ingridient of life. I used to be like the lady in question, bitching and whining how naija girls were useless and yada yada yada. but guess what I realized life is not a mr. nice guy's play house, it a jungle of thorn and thistles. Are all american men good? are all latino men good? are all brazillian men good? are all hausa men good?.... so far she has not come in contact with 10,000 naija men [0.001%] then she has no god dammn fücking right to characterize defame stereotype and misjudge the Nigerian male. EZEIGBO |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 3:07pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
bukatyne: Let me give you a typical example When my son gets engaged or married I am certain he won't have any qualms sending flowers to be delivered at her workplace on special occasions.it is a normal thing here People have florists deliver large bouquet of flowers to their women at the workplace on valentine's day It is considered ultra romantic I have never had flowers delivered at work He had a few times at home.never at work Will I want that ? Certainly I think it's very romantic Does it change anything?. Absolutely not!! I didn't even get hand brought flowers last val but it made no difference to me ,I enjoyed the val day It's not a measure of love for me and many Nigerian ladies But to some one born here,it is I understand where this girl is coming from Pthe people disagreeing with her are obviously Nigerians brought up majorly in Nigeria,which is where I also belong Most people raised here would agree with her There are Nigerians girls that have sworn not to marry Nigerians because of their fathers and other nigerian men they have observed 9 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by cococandy(f): 3:08pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
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Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Subom1(f): 3:10pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
babyosisi:I agree with you as the saying goes 'beggars can't be choosers' but definitely not your core values. I know of a lady who was desperate to get married so she married a man who loves to beat her. So she over looked this just cos she wanted to get married. I value my life too much to be someone's permanent boxing bag. Also when a man sees that you are very desperate that's when he will do all the nonsense he wants because he knows you will most likely not leave him Imo 1 Like |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 3:16pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
Subom1: I agree with you That lady overlooked abuse,that is a no no My best friend was of the opinion that another lady go ahead and marry a man she didn't even care much for so she can pop out a couple of kids in holy matrimony and if the marriage doesn't work out she gets a divorce At least no one will accuse her of having kids outside wedlock I disagreed on that idea totally That 's deception How can one go into marriage planning a divorce But that tells you the pressure many ladies are in regarding this marriage thing and I bet you many are doing this Sometimes it's not even about the girl She wants to please people around her and meet societal expectations That's sad 8 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Subom1(f): 3:29pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
babyosisi:This is so true and it's not the first time I am actually hearing about the above. It's Quite sad that some people think like this. .. |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 3:37pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
EZEIGBO1OFIMO: Cultural differences There are certainly some cultural adjustments we make when we move to Obodo Oyibo and it is usually easier for women than men For instance,the way we talk and the voice modulations You can tell a nigerian who is fresh here or one who has had no influences outside the nigerian community when you hear him speak I am not talking of accents now I am talking of tone of voice,facial expression,mannerisms of speech and politeness Our culture and tone of voice is very aggressive Many of our folks don't even smile when they are greeting you And for no fault of ours we adopt that aggressiveness and it works in our place but to survive and thrive here we need to unlearn that habit and soften up. Do you know there are Nigerians that have lost jobs for that perceived aggressive behavior? Some have been arrested and charged with making terrorist threats and all they said was the normal Nigerian " I will show you who I am" kind of language which we know means nothing in Nigeria but just gra gra talks That same behavior is transmitted when they chase women Let me show you some write ups I read in the past from African American women about African men *Sorry I couldn't find the blog 7 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 4:33pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
Stillfire: Its 98% now. With FrancisTony and blackleopard., small hope still dey. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by EZEIGBO1OFIMO: 4:35pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
babyosisi:i am a nigerian, i have a non Nigerian accent, i know more about US financial system than egusi soup, guess what, there are tons and tons of overly westernized Nigerian men like me. Let me give a short example... i have 8 friends who left Nigeria for college, they all attended ivies and elites with strong passion for techie, programming, robotics etc. they all married white girls; when we had a group chat, i asked why they all overlooked black birriful girls; each one of them told the same story, black girls didn't consider them black them, they were accussed of being whitewashed amd white ass kissers; these are guys who i've complained of being overly romantic. What point am i trying to drive here; most black girls [ naija and AA] have an ironical view of relationship, they want a swaggerful thuggish bad boy who'll serve them fresh pârfaits in bed. There are tons of polite calm, nerdy , shy nigetian guys in America; but they never get noticed by AA because instead of being in clubs, bash, or a mega church, they are attending a sci-fi conference, a Quantum-physics symposium and promoting Atheism with their white friends. EZEIGBO |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 4:40pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
babyosisi: No respect for women, more respect for money. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by T3Amo(f): 5:53pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
50calibre:Was all this necessary? 7 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 6:00pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
T3Amo: This thread does portrays a true picture of the men she was referring to Her point has been proven here 11 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by MrsChima(f): 6:23pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
T3Amo: She is entitled to her opinions and it's true about some Nigerian men. We needs to stop acting like we are afraid of the truth. 11 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by MrsChima(f): 7:46pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
EZEIGBO1OFIMO: Let me correct you on some of your points...I agree that many black girls in America including foreign black girls look for that Chris Brown with Cornell West intelligence type guys however...they are outnumbered by girls who want a decent man who has never Ben in jail or gangbanged. Many intelligent and educated black women in America with good careers are single because of the hype and community portrayed black women to.be. Many black men follow some textbook expectations of what a wife material is and therefore judged the women before getting to know them. Osa is a perfect example of that. She is not the typical chick traditional black men goes after and that's fact. There are some black men who thinks outside box which is good! Sadly...too many of them are so concerned about what society thinks instead if doing what makes them happy. Your friends chose those white girls to marry because they wanted them. Simple. They do not need to place blame for their decision to marry white girls ..no one can't force you to marrywho you don't want or have a hidden agenda with. People need to think outside of the box if they want better progression. Real talk. 8 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 8:11pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
EZEIGBO1OFIMO: ? how come my dad is nigerian? YOU MADE MY DAY LOOSER ! |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 8:16pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
SirShymexx: first of all u would get smacked back so hard that u wouldn't get up. second she is beautiful. if she is not to u - ITS YOUR OWN PROBLEM! the one who doesn't have a day job is u- if u r busy, u wouldn't write this 5 pages novel about your bullshit. delete your acc and ill stay away i.diot. 10 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by EZEIGBO1OFIMO: 9:20pm On Apr 26, 2015 |
MrsChima:i agree with you a little anyway |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by coolest01(m): 1:36am On Apr 27, 2015 |
cococandy:Especially when the igbo man has a bald, shiny head |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by coolest01(m): 1:42am On Apr 27, 2015 |
Is she ready to make adjustments herself? |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by cococandy(f): 5:20am On Apr 27, 2015 |
coolest01: It's more the way she said it though. Come to think of it, the man that taught me how to bake is igbo from owerri and has shiny bald head. I can really imagine him wearing an apron and baking for his guests. If he can do it for business why not for his friends? |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Subom1(f): 9:01am On Apr 27, 2015 |
T3Amo:lol don't mind him. He just needs some home training. Just 1 week with me and he will be a completely new man 8 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 11:01pm On Apr 27, 2015 |
urgh, bid not playing for me |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by lordkrato(m): 11:11pm On Apr 27, 2015 |
T3Amo: Na small pikin dey worry you.. When you live abroad then you'll appreciate a Nigerian man.. Except of you're A THOT... |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 1:17am On Apr 28, 2015 |
All I know is that Nigerian men can adapt where ever they are,whether in Europe,Asia...what have u!I'll never ask any lady 'can u cook',it sounds awkward,dunno.Ladies generally should be treated like queens,though,not the Nigerian version of ladies oh.I just hope I find a foreign Lady to treat like a queen. 1 Like |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by T3Amo(f): 7:45pm On May 26, 2015 |
lordkrato:Well in fact I live abroad now what? |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Babacele: 1:05pm On Jun 17, 2015 |
Notyourb1tch:Clearly, with no apology to any ego, you are nobody's bi....tch baby! |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Babacele: 1:46pm On Jun 17, 2015 |
I do DT for my mum cos I was raised so n same for many Naija men. so tell me y wld it so difficult to do such for my boo even in d loo? abegi things are changing oh. all old prejudiced mentality , n bias against women most especially shall pass away. |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Babacele: 1:52pm On Jun 17, 2015 |
bukatyne:I like your Margaret Thatcher's NL signature. |
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