My wife says I should be greeting her each time I finish eating, if not for anything but for the sake that she take her time prepare the food and serve me. She says that she deserves a greeting from me.

I said okay, just that it is not part of our culture and I don't think I will be keep up greeting her each time she gives me food.

It is not that greeting her will reduce anything from me but the issue is that I don't usually remember this greeting after eating because it is not part of me, although I do greet sometimes for peace to reign, but the way she reminds me of this greeting of a thing gets me angry, as if it is mandatory or something to the extent that sometimes we've had issues because of it.

So daddies and mummies in the house, do you greet your wife after she has given you food? Or do your husband greet you after eating? If yes is it a mandate or just for fun?

Please let me remind you that this is not the issue of been a breadwinner or not. I beg you to forgive my long story and wrong grammer for I am not a grammerian.

Thanks in advance.

Does she pay the bills?

Its actually ungrateful of you not to atleast thank her. You think its easy to cook? I'm sure you're not used to that too. You should thank her for every single thing she does for you, to show a sign of appreciation! Plus, she may be your wife but that doesn't make her your slave.

does she knee down everytime she serves u food? showing appreciation is nice but not mandatory

It stems from our culture, we are not used to saying - sorry, please and thank you. However when you leave your community, those few words will determine your progress in life. She should not demand it but you too have to get used to saying it, not only to her but to everybody. In the business world, thank you goes a long way in determining your success, so learn it now !

adanduka:
Does she pay the bills?

Not at all but pls we ar not talkn of who pays d bills here

By greeting, I guess you mean saying thank you?
So which culture tells you not to acknowledge someone when a favor is being done for you?
Name the culture here.
It's common courtesy to say thank you when someone serves you food.

Goldenboy007:
It stems from our culture, we are not used to saying - sorry, please and thank you. However when you leave your community, those few words will determine your progress in life. She should not demand it but you too have to get used to saying it, not only to her but to everybody. In the business world, thank you goes a long way in determining your success, so learn it now !

Thanks a lot bt am not saying that it is not right bt making it mandatory is wht I dnt like. Remember in my passage I said I do greet sometimes just dt I dnt usually remember it

Dera25:
My wife says I should be greeting her each time I finish eating, if not for anything but for the sake that she take her time prepare the food and served me that she deserved a greeting from me. I said okay just that it is not part of our culture and I don't think I will be maintaining to greet her each time she give me food. It is not that greeting her will reduce anything from me but the issue is that I don't usually remember this greeting after eating because it is not part of me although I do greet sometimes for peace to reign, but the way she remind me this greeting of a thing get me angry as if it is mandatory or something to the extent that sometimes we had issues because of it. So dadies and mumies in the house do you greet your wife after she have given you food? Or do your husband greet you after eating? If yes is it a mandate or just for fun? Please remind you that this is not the issue of been a bread winner or not. I beg forgive my long story and wrong grammer for I am not a grammerian. Thanks in advance

Telling her thank you is enough. If she wants more, enter the room with her. .
As long as you appreciate her, but i don't see the reason for greeting her again

What nonsense . Saying thank you after eating your wife's food is only but the right thing to do, but your wife should not demand it like her life depends on it.

Stillfire:
By greeting, I guess you mean saying thank you?
So which culture tells you not to acknowledge someone when a favor is being done for you?
Name the culture here.
It's common courtesy to say thank you when someone serves you food.

Bros I hail o please I mean that I was not brought up with it o. I do say thank you to anyone that do a favour to me but remembering to say it each time I ate my wife's food sometimes skipped my mind, I mean we are too used to ourselves to be observing such protocols. Am not trying to justify my action but at least such things should not be mandatory for husband and wife

Stillfire:
By greeting, I guess you mean saying thank you?
So which culture tells you not to acknowledge someone when a favor is being done for you?
Name the culture here.
It's common courtesy to say thank you when someone serves you food.

I taya o.awon bush meats cannot fail to expose themselves. Basic courtesy and etiquette demands you say thank you for any act of kindness shown to you even if it's a restaurant you're served, where you are the one paying the bills.jeez.mshewwwww

Dera25:
My wife says I should be greeting her each time I finish eating, if not for anything but for the sake that she take her time prepare the food and served me that she deserved a greeting from me. I said okay just that it is not part of our culture and I don't think I will be maintaining to greet her each time she give me food. It is not that greeting her will reduce anything from me but the issue is that I don't usually remember this greeting after eating because it is not part of me although I do greet sometimes for peace to reign, but the way she remind me this greeting of a thing get me angry as if it is mandatory or something to the extent that sometimes we had issues because of it. So dadies and mumies in the house do you greet your wife after she have given you food? Or do your husband greet you after eating? If yes is it a mandate or just for fun? Please remind you that this is not the issue of been a bread winner or not. I beg forgive my long story and wrong grammer for I am not a grammerian. Thanks in advance

Please what's the big deal

When someone serves you a meal, you should say 'thank you' . . . Be it your wife at home, waiter in a restaurant or even your cook. It's common courtesy for God's sakes.

And yes, my husband thanks me. Not necessarily out of 'respect' but out of courtesy.

Goldenboy007:
It stems from our culture, we are not used to saying - sorry, please and thank you. However when you leave your community, those few words will determine your progress in life. She should not demand it but you too have to get used to saying it, not only to her but to everybody. In the business world, thank you goes a long way in determining your success, so learn it now !

Thank you I will try my best to get use of it though I alwys say it to people but I will try and extend it to my wife too for cooking for me because one bros have already said that it is not easy to cook

Dera25:

Bros I hail o please I mean that I was not brought up with it o. I do say thank you to anyone that do a favour to me but remembering to say it each time I ate my wife's food sometimes skipped my mind, I mean we are too used to ourselves to be observing such protocols. Am not trying to justify my action but at least such things should not be mandatory for husband and wife

Well you have a point there though. I don't think I would be up in arms if someone I see day in day out doesn't say thank you.
However if it matters to her, just do it. I mean she's not telling you to rob a bank or do something immoral.
She also has to learn that you were not brought up like that and has to give you some leniency. Marriage is all about compromise.

It feels good to be appreciated for every little thing done.

I am 100% sure you like it too

And do not get too familiar to take each other for granted.

Greet? How?

Stillfire:
By greeting, I guess you mean saying thank you?
So which culture tells you not to acknowledge someone when a favor is being done for you?
Name the culture here.
It's common courtesy to say thank you when someone serves you food.

Failure, a wife cooking for her husband is no favour.... she is just being a wife...

Op, tell ur wife thank you after eating her delicious meal, not because, she has done you a favour, but because you appreciate her... it's courtesy...
Nd she shouldn't insist on it as though it's a right, does she thank you when you give her money for the food?
If she's the one that brings money nko, you'd not only have to thank her, you'd also need to kiss her feet

SAMBARRY:
I taya o.awon bush meats cannot fail to expose themselves. Basic courtesy and etiquette demands you say thank you for any act of kindness shown to you even if it's a restaurant you're served, where you are the one paying the bills.jeez.mshewwwww

Lolzzz, as usual....
It's not an act of kindness, its what a wife does for her husband not a favour... I agree he should thank her because it's what courtesy demands and not because of ur reasons...
In a restaurant, no one is obliged to thank anybody for anything, we do it because we are decent people... if anything, the restaurant ought to thank you for patronising them...

njokusboy:



Failure, a wife cooking for her husband is no failure.... she is just being a wife...

Op, tell ur wife thank you after eating her delicious meal, not because, she has done you a favour, but because you appreciate her... it's courtesy...
Nd she shouldn't insist on it as though it's a right, does she thank you when you give her money for the food?
If she's the one that brings money nko, you'd not only have to thank her, you'd also need to kiss her feet

That's the point am trying to make , if my wife keeps nagging me after each meal to thank her , i think one day i'll snap

Nothing wrong making it a point of duty to say thanks baby, thanks sweetie, thanks darling whenever you are served... I mean few seconds words huh. She made it a point of duty to cook and even served you...You think cooking is a child's play? Try cooking for a week and come tell us how fun it was for you.
You tip 15-20% in the restaurants...Go figure!
You guys make a Thang out of anything that would make your better half happy...Kai!!

write2obi:

That's the point am trying to make , if my wife keeps nagging me after each meal to thank her , i think one day i'll snap

Thank her and tell her you may not always remember but it'd help for her to know that you totally appreciate her all the time even though you may forget to say it....
It also depends on how she chooses to remind you, does she do it with force?

njokusboy:


Thank her and tell her you may not always remember but it'd help for her to know that you totally appreciate her all the time even though you may forget to say it....
It also depends on how she chooses to remind you, does she do it with force?

Op i think the question is yours

Dera25:

Not at all but pls we ar not talkn of who pays d bills here

Of course, we are not.
Some women, however, start behaving strangely when they pay the bills.
My mum tells my dad thank you after eating and my dad says thank you to her too. Mum's own sounds like a respect-formality kinda thing while dad's sounds like a thanks-for-the-great-meal kinda thing.
Your wife shouldn't tell you to say thank you. You're not a child. But you need to commend her on her culinary skills, that's what she might be asking here.

greetings As in "Good morning,or What?
It's a coutesy and not mandatory to show appreciation

Stillfire:


Well you have a point there though. I don't think I would be up in arms if someone I see day in day out doesn't say thank you.
However if it matters to her, just do it. I mean she's not telling you to rob a bank or do something immoral.
She also has to learn that you were not brought up like that and has to give you some leniency. Marriage is all about compromise.

I think this comment should be a guide line to anyone that will contribute on this topic again, it seems she is the one that understand me most. I neither go against the thank u aspect of it nor trying to justify myself for not doing it sometimes. Please o you people should reason with me a little

.....@op i guess by 'greet' you mean thank you?..I am sorry but do you need to be told to say 'thankyou' when someone does something for you or gives you something? ..for it to be an issue in your marriage now...na waoo!!


..The truth is that common courtesy like thank you,please,excuse me,sorry is such a big deal in our soceity yet we pride ourselves on being 'respectful.

'..I was shocked when my cousin reprimanded me albeit playfully for thanking a cab guy when he gave me my change..according to him,i had payed for the service so why thank him

Stillfire:


Well you have a point there though. I don't think I would be up in arms if someone I see day in day out doesn't say thank you.
However if it matters to her, just do it. I mean she's not telling you to rob a bank or do something immoral.
She also has to learn that you were not brought up like that and has to give you some leniency. Marriage is all about compromise.

....Mr dear i dont get your first sentence...so because i see my husband everyday,i should gum my lips and say nothing if he gives me money,gifts or surprises me with breakfast-in-bed?


...thats not nice at all,but i get your drift about the op not being brought up that way,so i guess his wife should understand.

Dera25:

Bros I hail o please I mean that I was not brought up with it o. I do say thank you to anyone that do a favour to me but remembering to say it each time I ate my wife's food sometimes skipped my mind, I mean we are too used to ourselves to be observing such protocols. Am not trying to justify my action but at least such things should not be mandatory for husband and wife

For those of you finding it hard getting back to the real world before making unrealistic comments, pay attention to the text in bold.

That there is the point of this whole thread.


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I honestly don't know how and when it became a favour for a woman to cook a meal for her husband, food that she'll also eat...
Saying or not saying thank you should not even be a topic that causes disagreement...eishhhhh.

Damn, I learn new things on NL daily

adanduka:
Does she pay the bills?

OP plz answer this man...


I hate it when someone attach unnecessary importance to flimsy things. I wonder why ur wife will be demanding for Thank you after cooking for u, Are u not her husband? Some people sure love to take credit for all acts of kindness, while some won't even want u to thank them @ all, just be a good man in all ways that's what counts.


I pray u dnt lose ur job oh, this wife of urs will tell u to worship the ground she threads on.

Adufetohposh:
OP plz answer this man...


I hate it when someone attach unnecessary importance to flimsy things. I wonder why ur wife will be demanding for Thank you after cooking for u, Are u not her husband? Some people sure love to take credit for all acts of kindness, while some won't even want u to thank them @ all, just be a good man in all ways that's what counts.


I pray u dnt lose ur job oh, this wife of urs will tell u to worship the ground she threads on.

Being her husband doesn't mean he shouldn't say thank you every now and again.
Demanding for it is outrightly wrong though

jaybee3:

Being her husband doesn't mean he shouldn't say thank you every now and again.
Demanding for it is outrightly wrong though

My point...
It also depends on how she demands for it since most women apparently like commendations...

My mum only asks her husband
"Dim, hope you enjoyed the meal"
The old man catches on, thanks her and praises her culinary skills for effect...

She doesn't say stuffs like..
"You are supposed to say thank you"
Or
"You havnt thanked me yet"
Or the worse one
"Don't you thank people after they have served you"

I hope this is not the case here