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Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Ewuro4: 6:42pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
Deliberately malicious and vindictive? Now that's strong. But you aren't there with them, and your sister will only say pleasant things about herself. Sorry if I sound harsh but there has to be underlying cause for this fracas to start with. The man needs to mediate and put an end to this. Boundaries sisters. 1 Like |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Nobody: 7:13pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
Waiting for those people that preach a woman needs a man to be happy. *Side eye* 2 Likes |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by KanwuliaJara: 7:14pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: You nefa taya o! When you stop to post on such yeyerities, I go behlieve you. Till then, enjoy! |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Nobody: 7:18pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
fluxbush: The third wheel has to leave,she's overstayed her welcome She is now intruding into their lives She ought to have been gone since yesterday,let her find an apartment of her own Let all young couples learn from this,never allow any visitors ,family or no family ,without an expiry date Even my own siblings same mom and dad,I know when you are coming and when you are leaving I like my privacy and so does my hubby @ the poster tell your sister to whisper to the husband's ears at night to help make some money available to get the sister an apartment close by or he can find a friend of his to marry her She may be getting jealous of the wife 2 Likes |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by SAMBARRY: 7:29pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
;DD I give up KanwuliaJara: |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Nobody: 7:32pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
Phema: Thank you When we have all these MIL threads people think the issue is always the woman's MIL I agree totally Some family members of the woman can be a pain too There should be zero tolerance for misbehaving inlaws on either side and they should be sent packing when they start causing the husband and wife stress in their own home. I love and respect my husband enough to send back any family member of mine that causes him grief and I expect and know he will do same for me 3 Likes |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Nobody: 7:37pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
fluxbush: Sometimes I look for reasons why Nigerian women are so eager to get married. This kin marriage. Husband and wife won't have peace at home. Always one problem from in laws . so the man is protecting which family now. His family of his sister? 2 Likes |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Nobody: 7:38pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
blank: No matter what the reason may be the bottom line is that the woman of the house and her husband are not happy Whoever is the source of their unhappiness leaves The SIL sef taya me How will someone have a shouting match with the woman you are living with and have the nerve to return to the same house This wife is nice o Many would have told her to stay back where she was 2 Likes |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by kaboninc(m): 7:38pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara:Are you friends with sambarry? Where you go, she goes. Where she sh.its, you pooo. 1 Like |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Nobody: 7:46pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
Chillisauce: Imagine my own agemate causing me grief in my own house kwa I will tell the husband to warn his sister o if it persists I will tell him to suggest and find his sis another place to stay and give him time( 1-2 months) and if he doesn't, I will take it over Sit her down and tell her nne,I see this is not working out between us,i welcomed you into my home with open arms but right now the relationship seems to be turning sour and for that I will advise that you begin looking for another accommodation so we can both de-stress. 4 Likes |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Nobody: 7:49pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
babyosisi: ThankGod for japanese heritage. Nigerian women dey suffer walahi 1 Like |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by bukatyne(f): 7:51pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
When will in-law learn their place in marriage? When will spouses learn to put wandering in-law on a Leach? The wife was warm to her initially So Why can't the SIL tell her whatever issues she has (If any)? The SIL has to leave the house and whatever issues settled from afar. She can return when she has learnt her place. 2 Likes |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Nobody: 8:33pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
bukatyne: Honestly I think some of us escaped all that by living out there The stories from friends back home are sad Not just inlaws even their own siblings and relatives mooching off them I had a guest who when she was about to leave told me the first thing she will do on getting back is to send her three younger sisters packing from her house One has kids o,husband went AWOL This lady had three sisters,two nephews plus her sick mother and a caregiver for her mom all under her roof while her own children were out in boarding school. I told her she enabled them She told me she longs to just be with her husband and kids in her house ,just them and of course her sick mom for once in her life Two of the sisters work,don't buy a thing in the house,don't even do much cooking or cleaning and occasionally other cousins will land from the village or elsewhere. I said nne your husband must be an angel o 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Nobody: 9:42pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: Lol. Me no go tell her make she pack o.As long as she leaves the house and cone home no problem. If she no wan work, no wahala. Thank God sef say she dey chop outside. No going to my fridge too, buy your water outside. If I catch her by mistake say she enter kitchen, chai,chai! |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by missexcel01(f): 10:33pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
[/color]Iiicolor=#770077][color=#770077][/color][color=#770077][/its so funny to see that a full grown Woman who should be praying for her own future home would seek to cause unrest in that of another. It really doesn't matter ifthe wife is at fault or not. As a good host she asked her what the problem was and she said nothing. I'm sure if she had said what the problem was, your sister would have apologised 2 Likes |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by crackhaus: 11:26pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
Women though... 3 Likes |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Ewuro4: 11:47pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
crackhaus: Too much wahala... I just can't deal aswear 1 Like |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by kpolli(m): 12:06am On Apr 30, 2015 |
fluxbush: Introduce the SIL to a man, she needs a good D 3 Likes |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by christabeli: 12:22am On Apr 30, 2015 |
Ewuro4:Exactly. I bet the sister-in-law has a different version to this. But of course it does not matter as far as she is living in another woman's home. She can be treated anyhow. 2 Likes |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by KanwuliaJara: 4:07am On Apr 30, 2015 |
kaboninc: You nefa see us tia paheint for NL ni? Despite that . . . she is loveeeble! At least I have a friend on NL! Any wan you tok. . . .CARRY DEY GO! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by crackhaus: 11:21am On Apr 30, 2015 |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by oloyede252(m): 11:42am On Apr 30, 2015 |
FrancisTony:RECIEVE SENSE |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by berryBee(f): 12:26pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
The SIL must b angry about something.. Your sis should find a husband for her..that always makes single working class ladies happy. |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Makamuanwuo(m): 12:58pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
[quote author=VintageCocktail post=33242142]11. Anunuebe 12. Apakwulu danda are u oracle? how can u dictate for oracle. |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Ewuro4: 2:21pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
christabeli: I tire oh crackhaus: as in .. |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by VintageCocktail(m): 2:48pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
[quote author=Makamuanwuo post=33273783][/quote] Sorry, Ezemmuo. |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by sweetrace(f): 4:53pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
It's probably easy to blame the SIL, but I think for her to stop eating anything cooked by your sister, she must have been disrespected or badly hurt. Your sister is not telling you everything. So, instead of thinking of what to do to her, your sister should apologize and mean it. Naija marriage is not only about the husband and wife. I wish it was. If your sister wins this battle by fighting, more will be waiting for her in the future. Ignore all those telling her husband to man up. He is only being diplomatic. |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Nobody: 5:50pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
So, SIL threatened to leave, husband convinced her to stay. His family aren't happy with him, wife is to blame. SIL and brother are now feuding. No acknowledgement from SIL to wife and now hubby to SIL. Wife unhappy, confused but can't solve anything. And all living under one roof. Is this a Nigerian thing? I don't get why a grown woman with a fraction of installed sense cannot leave of her own accord if she felt unwelcome in her brother's house. How will anything be solved if SIL is not responding well to hubby or his wife? What kind of authentic foolishness do people put themselves through in this lifetime smh 2 Likes |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by cococandy(f): 6:11pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
Flytefalls: The face-carrying is because she's the same age as the wife and maybe can't really do anything to her. If she was older, maybe wifey for dey chop slap for not respecting her in her own brother's house. Not saying the wife is without blame but if she's not being a good hostess, then the visitor should leave at her earliest convenience for her own peace of mind. I can't imagine someone disrespecting me for being in their house and I'll keep staying when I can arrange to move out instead of 'moodying' about the house waiting for husband and wife to fall out because of me. Worse still not saying what the problem is so that we can all settle the matter peacefully. 2 Likes |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by LewsTherin: 6:43pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
My eldest sister once accused my Lady wrongly and was berating her over the phone. When I finished tearing eye for my sister ehn, she arranged herself. Today my sister and my Lady are all pallsie wallsie with each other. I guess it's because I was raised well. My folks hardly come to my home. My Dad once told me that my house is my house and he has no business being there. My mom will maintains herself and does not interfere. My siblings are on their own. Don't get me wrong. We are not fighting or forming for each other. But we all learnt respect and know that respect is earned, is reciprocal. Besides, the Bible expects me to LEAVE my father and mother and CLEAVE to my wife. So..... 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Ngokafor(f): 6:45pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
blank: ....Regardless of what happened,the op's sister should not be the one managing her Sister-in-law in her own matrimonial home,rather its the SIL who should do that because she honestly do not have the right to be there for goodness! ..but for the magnanimity of her brother and his wife.. ...The SIL in question is actually disrespecting her brother as well..but the guy is too weak to see that .. .Instead of folding his arms running from pillar to post,he should man up and not allow his younger sister destroy his marriage. 1 Like |
Re: What Can Be Done To A Troublesome Sister-in-law? by Ngokafor(f): 6:46pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
LewsTherin: ....Correct man! |
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