Nneka123:
When a lady respects you, she also loves you too

So what are you insinuating right here?

Tallesty1:
Help me tell am.



@poster. I think you need to be massaged thoroughly by Great Khali

Nneka123:
Alright, maybe I made a mistake by twisting it the other way round

But I still feel it works the other way round too

No
Maybe when we fall inlove, we will practice both ways

1one:
It's worth comparing...We love everything our hearts beat for, whether bought or otherwise. "I love my car" " I love my house". " I love those shoes"... " I love the time I spend with you"....These are all common expressions we make every once and again and the common factor here is love.

So you're suggesting that the love you have for something you bought shouldn't be compared to the love you have for something "for free"? The love is coming from the same heart isn't it? so why shouldn't it be compared

1one:


So lets say you have a dog that you love so much, that's assuming you're into pets...Since you love your dog, would you then say you respect your dog too?

missclasssy:


What is respect?

ronald4lif:
Unless it's proven that when a lady loves someone then they eventually respect them that's when when I'll consider love over respect. But I think this is debatable.

However, if that's not the case I'll prefer respect over love. Love is manipulative. I can easily spot a person who respect me than the one who loves me. Love is conditional and can change as one's life situations changes but I think a person who respect you will always do so regardless of the circumstance.

Once there's some attraction I can live happily without love in my marriage. When there's respect we can make good decisions, understands each other, breeds and have a great deal of companionship so love isn't necessary.

MRBrownJ:


yes you are right, but we do love/like each and every of these things "differently". would you say that the love for your pet is the same as the love for your parents? would you love your car as much as you love your wife? LOVE and RESPECT although the same have a different level of intensity, depending on whom it is for. whether it is your parents, your partner or your children, you will/should ultimately love them 10X more than your pet/car or any of these flimsy stuff you have purchased (which you can buy another whenever you feel like it).



yes, family/marital bond is free and should never be compared to the bond you create after purchasing an object/pet. sadly you are mistaking "like" with LOVE. you like your car and how it looks, you dont love it just like you love your family. just because the word "love" has been misused here shouldnt be a reason to believe that what you feel for your family is equal to how you feel for your dog/car or best food.

Strongfaze:
Guys its better to be feared than to be loved by a lady. Be her God is all i'm saying. Gbam.

MRBrownJ:


bro, are you saying that you would knowingly date/marry someone who loves you but does not respect you (or vice versa)?

ronald4lif:
Unless it's proven that when a lady loves someone then they eventually respect them that's when when I'll consider love over respect. But I think this is debatable.

However, if that's not the case I'll prefer respect over love. Love is manipulative. I can easily spot a person who respect me than the one who loves me. Love is conditional and can change as one's life situations changes but I think a person who respect you will always do so regardless of the circumstance.

Once there's some attraction I can live happily without love in my marriage. When there's respect we can make good decisions, understands each other, breeds and have a great deal of companionship so love isn't necessary.

Strongfaze:
Guys its better to be feared than to be loved by a lady. Be her God is all i'm saying. Gbam.

ronald4lif:


No, that's not actually my insinuation. I will not knowingly date/marry anyone who's bereft of either of both. The question however is if one is to choose one above the other or one and completely negate the other.

I will be fine with just that attraction and respect than love. Love is deceptive and one can't tell when someone truly loves them until they find themselves in the most harsh and unfavourable conditions of life. A condition that is adversely to what it was before they met each other.

When she respects me, we can have good companionship, rapport, breeds and still enjoy the benefits of love couple. But when respect is lacking, the home will be in disarray.

missclasssy:


You are wrong.

When someone truly loves you, the person would definitely respect you.
Not the other way round.

So op, I would go for love because respect is embedded in love.

MRBrownJ:


yeah, the question is still :" would you be with someone who loves you but does not respect you, or vice versa?" and whatever your answer may be, what would be the point of being with such person?

as much as LOVE is not present at 1st when you meet someone, there is an expectation that it will grow. if such expectation is not present then it is not a r/ship but just a bootay call/FWB etc (to each their own). as for RESPECT, a man can only give respect to a woman when she gives him reasons to respect him (and vice versa). therefore respect will depend on your own actions and should come naturally from your partner. if it doesnt then look into yourself or RUN from that person. if any of these two above examples are not present then there is absolutely no reason to date/marry anyone and you might as well be single.

1one:
I'm guessing many of us have been painted with different shades of working, business or lecture stress today, so I will save us all the further stress in reading a lengthy post. The question is basically for guys - Which would you rather have in your relationship. A lady that truly loves you or a lady that truly respects you. Personally, I can smell a lady's disrespect from my sleep, even if I were in a chemically induced coma and a lady came to my bedside to look at me disrespectfully , I will jolt out of the coma and give her a piece of my mind . I really place a lot of weight on respect because I believe the motivations behind respect are objective, reasonable and long standing as against those behind love which are many times subjective, selfish and fleeting.

So to reiterate the question....To be respected or to be loved- Which would you rather have.

MRBrownJ:


yeah, the question is still :" would you be with someone who loves you but does not respect you, or vice versa?" and whatever your answer may be, what would be the point of being with such person?

as much as LOVE is not present at 1st when you meet someone, there is an expectation that it will grow. if such expectation is not present then it is not a r/ship but just a bootay call/FWB etc (to each their own). as for RESPECT, a man can only give respect to a woman when she gives him reasons to respect him (and vice versa). therefore respect will depend on your own actions and should come naturally from your partner. if it doesnt then look into yourself or RUN from that person. if any of these two above examples are not present then there is absolutely no reason to date/marry anyone and you might as well be single.

ireneony:
see ur weed face