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Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by cococandy(f): 7:54pm On May 11, 2015 |
Akuko uwa. He should first remove virgin this virgin that from the story so that we will know where the bias is coming from. @OP why don't you give him the WISE AND UNBIASED advice he needs instead of disturbing posters by policing their posts ![]() |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by edwife(f): 7:55pm On May 11, 2015 |
Why do i find it hard to believe this story? ![]() ![]() |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Nobody: 7:55pm On May 11, 2015 |
op tell the pastor to ask God for guidance 3 Likes |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Jhayeahsam01(m): 7:55pm On May 11, 2015 |
tight but no ideas wide with ideas choose one the choice is urs 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by chumakk: 7:55pm On May 11, 2015 |
Are you the pastor ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Nicepoker(m): 7:55pm On May 11, 2015 |
Op am spiritually convinced. U ARE THE PASTOR 4 Likes |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Valwezzy: 7:55pm On May 11, 2015 |
Op, I doubt if that your friend is a true man of God.. A real man of God doesn't need to seek people's opinion.. He'd rather seek God's face to know his plans for him..or isn't the so called pastors that prophesy for people on what to do, how to do it, and even who to marry.. pheeewwww.. #Gutted ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Phamoxy(m): 7:56pm On May 11, 2015 |
Fake pastor, can't he talk to God directly through prayers?. 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Nobody: 7:56pm On May 11, 2015 |
Choose none. 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by elantraceey(f): 7:58pm On May 11, 2015 |
What kind of man will propose to a woman he has not seen ? ![]() Please remove that pastor you're calling him, a real pastor won't do that instead he'll seek direction from the holy spirit ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by emerged01(m): 7:59pm On May 11, 2015 |
the pastor should know that marrying the single mother is not an option according to the scriptures on marriage/divorce. the single mother belongs to someone else spiritually . He should choose the young girl who is not tie spiritually to anybody I.e being a virgin. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Bflexing(m): 7:59pm On May 11, 2015 |
If a pastor is seeking advice on nairaland, what will church members do? Holyspirit don forsake am!!! 5 Likes |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by skillzbae(f): 7:59pm On May 11, 2015 |
The pastor shuld av taken his time to study d second lady b4 proposin marriage. Is d first girl's family, nw in support of d marriage? BTW he is a pastor right? Wat happens to praying n seeking d face of God on who to marry? My advise to him is dat, he shuld put to hold d relationship 4 a while, pray n watch bfore knowing d nxt step. D 2nd lady is jux trying to keep her baby safe, she does nt want him thrown out after marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by omojeesu(m): 8:01pm On May 11, 2015 |
THE ONE HE LOVES AND BELIEVES GOD CHOOSE FOR HIM. |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by pansophist(m): 8:02pm On May 11, 2015 |
So the pastor wants to marry another woman that he has never met before? Conversely, the pastor wants to ditch away a girl he knew for 8 years, a virgin and his first choice? And the pastor finally made arrangement for wedding plans all virtually? My advice will be for the pastor to go for the first girl. So many things are at disadvantage to him if he choose the virtual girl. Handling emotional baggage of another lady with a child is not easy, and there might be some issues with the child's father coming to claim the child in the future. There is also no guarantee he will like this woman if he meet her ultimately. 3 Likes |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by toshmann(m): 8:02pm On May 11, 2015 |
Why cant the pastor marry both of them? ![]() Is there anywhere in the Bible or the Law where it says a man can't marry two women? Make una show me. |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by GoodFaith: 8:03pm On May 11, 2015 |
The Pastor need a number three woman Run girl so now Pastor have a V girl, single mama and Run girl to pick from |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Helkayklassic(m): 8:03pm On May 11, 2015 |
Met the second lady online..So Pastor sef dey do Eskimi and Badoo..Issokay 2 Likes |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Ijobaorun(m): 8:05pm On May 11, 2015 |
a known devil is better than an unknown angel. A word is enough for the wise. 2 Likes |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Missyetty(f): 8:05pm On May 11, 2015 |
In my own opinion, the pastor should decide the one he wants to marry between them base on who he truly love and more comfortable with, from what i am seeing, it is like the pastor love the second girl out of pity but to be candid @ op, i think the man should know what he really want by this stage of his life. 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by abbey621(m): 8:07pm On May 11, 2015 |
What a bunch of crap! Firstly, a pastor does not need to go online in order to find a wife, the Holy spirit is sufficient. Next, girl number one cannot want him back unless the issue with her people has been resolved, her people must give consent otherwise it's a dead end. Finally, this is Africa, we all know how difficult it is for a single man to marry a woman with kids, at the same time we all know how crazy things can get when your in-laws don't like you, let the pastor pray towards it and give the relationships more time. In time, one or both of the girls will disqualify themselves! 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by greggng: 8:07pm On May 11, 2015 |
I need at advice o. I ve a girl friend who gave birth to a baby for me 2 years ago. Innitially I denied the pregnancy cos of an incident that happened before she told me she was pregnant. She refused to leave the baby with my family. I ve been under serious pressure by my family and friends to reconcile with her and I invited her for a chat. However I noticed something strange with her mode of dressing. She now wears chain on her waist and angle. With strange make up like the way whores do just yesterday she visited me with the baby and spend 4hours with me. I noticed the same appearance with more rings on all her fingers. I told her why she now dress up like that but her response was it was just a fashion. Right now I don't feel like marrying her anymore cos I suspect she might be doing ashawo work. My worry now is how to get the baby frm her so that he will not get negatively influenced. I need advice pls 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Pureview2008: 8:09pm On May 11, 2015 |
The pastor should go for the first lady. He shouldn't be anyway tempted to go for the new one. Even if the new lady is without a child she is still not an option. U cannot marry who u don't know and not spend some good time with. It seems greener out der but Wen u get closer u see clearer dat its not near green at all. |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Clinton207: 8:10pm On May 11, 2015 |
Hmmmm, this pastor is not doing the right thing at all, considering the pastoral call,taking a life partner shouldn't only be done by your feelings and emotions. As a pastor it should be both physically and spiritually,cus you need someone who you both have same vision,who would join you in your calling. My advice to this said pastor is;he needs to seek the face of God. NOTE:it won't be nice to go for the one with a baby at the moment,because,how would he explain to his congregation and the world at large that he didn't impragnate that lady secretly seeing that the baby is still very young. |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Pureview2008: 8:11pm On May 11, 2015 |
The pastor should go for the first lady. He shouldn't be anyway tempted to go for the new one. Even if the new lady is without a child she is still not an option. U cannot marry who u don't know and not spend some good time with. It seems greener out der but Wen u get closer u see clearer dat its not near green at all. [s][/s]w |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by grandstar(m): 8:12pm On May 11, 2015 |
The pastor should marry the first girl. The second lady is a fantasy. You've known someone for 8years. You turned her into a confident woman and she desperately wants you in her life. Why through that all away for a woman you have not met? Don't forget that people are different face to face. Online or phone conversations are not enough. You need to study body language and other things. If he marries the second lady, it fits into a nice hollywood or even Nollywood flick. I however wish both women the best 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by lolaluv1(f): 8:13pm On May 11, 2015 |
I think he should meet the second lady first before making a commitment of any sort. That should be the very first step. Others can follow. Online could be very different from reality. Anybody could be any way they want to be when they are behind the computer screen. 2 Likes |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by boluyongp(m): 8:14pm On May 11, 2015 |
The truth is: DON'T CHOOSE ANY OF THEM. They have too much baggage. 1. Abaah! You can't have the first girl back except her and her family assures and accepts you for marriage naa. 2. The second girl has a son, your 1st marriage shouldn't start on a burdensome note. And how can you too as a pastor propose marriage to someone you haven't seen or known, abaah! You sef ![]() Conclusion: As par the first girl, what has rejected you the first time will always be able to reject you again. So flee! See your investment in her as an act of service to God. As par the second girl, her character flaws are many and she has too much baggage and burden you'll SURELY regret later. A man doesn't just accept a woman's baggage just like that. So flee! You don't have a problem honestly, the control is still in your hand, its as simple as stopping to pick calls. Just leave both and start your life afresh, you are not getting any younger. And you are a pastor, I never noticed the place of God in your story, pray and seek God's face, ask Him what His will is and His "original" plan for your life cos I'm sure this is not God's best for you, you are just doing your own thing according to your flesh if not, you wouldn't have proposed a whole MARRIAGE to someone you've never seen or known. Na konji dey catch you ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by ife01(m): 8:16pm On May 11, 2015 |
As much I wouldn't want to advice from a religious point of view, your overaching use of the Pastor title leaves one with no choice. From that perspective therefore, marriage is an institution taken seriously in the Christendom. The sincere question to ask your Pastor friend is "What is God saying about it?" If that has not been considered or perhaps, there are doubts, I suggest your friend relieves himself of that title. Now from a logic point of view. Let you friend follow his heart after rigorous consultations with his head. 1 Like |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by Nobody: 8:16pm On May 11, 2015 |
A Wife.... |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by FitnessNigeria: 8:19pm On May 11, 2015 |
Pastor de date? Nawa o for this end time pastors. Sorry, I just passed |
Re: Urgently: Some Strategic Advice Needed As A Matter Of Destiny by ojinuocheibi(m): 8:20pm On May 11, 2015 |
paschu:tell the pastor to forget about the Internet girl or his life will soon be over be the child's father is locking around in the dark like the eyes of the devil looking for who to prey on for his failure. Let him go back to his creation the first girl she will marry him she just doesn't know yet, by the way what is keeping the pastor from fucking her for a period of 8yrs? He must be incomplete ![]() paschu:tell the pastor to forget about the Internet girl or his life will soon be over be the child's father is locking around in the dark like the eyes of the devil looking for who to prey on for his failure. Let him go back to his creation the first girl she will marry him she just doesn't know yet, by the way what is keeping the pastor from fucking her for a period of 8yrs? He must be incomplete |
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