₦airaland Forum

agarawu23:
nice one rapmoney.

I am in support of your write up But I want us to look it from another angle.

I am not in support of a young hustling guy spending lavishly on a Lady he is yet to marry but that doesn't mean he should not fall in love.(he should apply sense)

If he finally forget about ladies, chase his dream and later succeed, how will he find true love ? (no be our girls of nowadays? Ferrari things )

What if the guy is not destined to be rich? I am sure he will still settle down with one (though she might not be his dream girl)

We have few ladies who don't care if a guy is rich or poor, all they want is true love (bros I still dey find them o )

Lamispaco:
Well said OP jare,more reason am not dating is because I know am not yet the guy who can spend whatsoever amount on a lady,I have a friend who has a girlfriend,sometimes the guy would borrow from me so he can satisfy the babe,gave him my advice to tell his babe his situation if na true love the babe go wait if not she go commot.

Rapmoney:
Be patient while you read this...

If you are a young and ambitious dude still struggling to get to the top, this write-up will save you the stress and pains of the so-called love we have been deceived about for long!

If you still think that there's what is called 'true love' or 'love without money or resources', then you must be living in a fool's paradise!!! (Quote me if you like!)

The truth of the matter is that what people in the past enjoyed as 'true love' no longer exist. Then it was possible for a man and a woman to fall in love based on personal qualities or characters without materialism attached to it! Those were the good old days! Our society has changed and any one who still lives in the past is not better than the village idiot!!!

I have heard people saying often times that love or relationship is not all about money! To me, that's the highest level of trash and rubbish! If you are a young man with ambition, still striving and toiling to make it, you better forget about love and concentrate full-time...I mean 100% on your dreams and life.
It is so frustrating to see some struggling dudes killing themselves over love issues! What a life! Why spend the meagre salary you earn after working for 30 days like a donkey on a girl? She tells you she needs a phone, you struggle to buy it! She says she needs money for hair, you struggle to give her! She tells you she needs to get a nice bag or pair of shoes she saw at a boutique, you struggle to give her! Be rest assured that you will continue to struggle endlessly in your life if you don't desist from such shameful and wasteful act! If you want to know the extent to which materialism has eaten into this so-called love, watch even the younger girls of today! Even those that are below 21 or 22 will quickly run away from you if you can't be giving her upkeep money, money for hair and phone, etc The mature ones? If you don't live comfortably well, sorry, you are on your own!!! Except for those village girls that are not exposed...but seriously, not in the cities of Nigeria.

Before you criticize me on the fact that these women need to live a comfortable life by hanging out with only comfortable dudes, read the topic again! It is surely the same reason why I said young struggling men should forget about love and focus on their lives!!! When you are comfortable, you can have the resources to sustain your relationship because no matter how a woman 'loves' you, the 'love' must surely die if there's no finance to sustain it!

Adams Oshiomole (not handsome) just got married to pretty Lara Forte! Do you think she didn't see all the tall handsome dudes with six-packs before tying the knot with the governor?

Goodevening everyone!

Jossyroyal1:
I've wasted my time all in d name of love.... #Pained

ronald4lif:
Bro, wetin happen. Gist us na biko.

totoakins:
as for me love distracts you from your goal, it makes me soft. I have always performed better as a business man when am single than when am in love

ronald4lif:
Show me a guy who has never experience such and I'll trek from Lagos to Abuja.

Rapmoney:
Adaobi, stubborn babe

ronald4lif:
Yes. But the question is how sensible it is for a guy who doesn't have much money to be footing the bills of his girlfriend monthly hair, outings, gifts etc. Is it wise for a student guy who for instance receives less than 30k monthly from his sponsors to fund most of his girlfriend's responsibilities?. When there's a great possibility she might dump his ass if someone who's better off comes her way?. It's not like guys shouldn't have a relationship when they are still struggling, no it's a necessary evil but still an unwise decision.

While it is advisable one should have a girlfriend while they are not financially buoyant so they can be sure her intentions are genuine when money sets in, but in a case where a guy was the one footing a lot of her essential needs when he was still managing his student allowance her intentions can't be said to be genuine and it's questionable. She was still there for the money during those period when her (financial) benefits were meagre. Only difference is that his situation changes for the better with more money and of course she will still stick around.

I think a real wealthy man, who knows how to treat a woman right, romantic and all is capable of making his wife grow to love him even if she's there for the money. Once one have the money and know how to treat a woman their least of concerns will be to make her love you. Splash the money and be romantic bro love will grow by force.

Adaobi12:
She left you doesn't mean, another lady will do the same. We all are not the same, so you shouldn't generalize. I know many men that are eating on a dinning table today with ladies they drank garri with on the bare floor years bk. Nkechi didn't stay doesn't mean that Nkiru will do the same.

centjamie:
I totally concur to this.

You are so right

jamex93:
me don all ready put dat thing dem dey call love

for inside box long ago

i don lock am there

when time come i go go open am back

as for now no love for guy eyes

na money me need first

Adaobi12:
I disagree with your write up. there are a thousand one girls out there, willing to love and swim the red sea with a hardworking broke dude.
As long as he is hardworking, I will stick with him because I know someday Oluwa go reason him matter.

remsonik:
Good morning dear
How are you doing?
Have a great day

You too Hannie.

Adaobi12:
I disagree with your write up. there are a thousand one girls out there, willing to love and swim the red sea with a hardworking broke dude.
As long as he is hardworking, I will stick with him because I know someday Oluwa go reason him matter.

Ella201:
Xo ryt dear all gurls r nt d same buh moni dey make d love sweet

Adaobi12:
She left you doesn't mean, another lady will do the same. We all are not the same, so you shouldn't generalize. I know many men that are eating on a dinning table today with ladies they drank garri with on the bare floor years bk. Nkechi didn't stay doesn't mean that Nkiru will do the same.

Rapmoney:
Why spend the meagre salary you earn after working for 30 days like a donkey on a girl? She tells you she needs a phone, you struggle to buy it! She says she needs money for hair, you struggle to give her! She tells you she needs to get a nice bag or pair of shoes she saw at a boutique, you struggle to give her! Be rest assured that you will continue to struggle endlessly in your life if you don't desist from such shameful and wasteful act! If you want to know the extent to which materialism has eaten into this so-called love, watch even the younger girls of today! Even those that are below 21 or 22 will quickly run away from you if you can't be giving her upkeep money, money for hair and phone, etc The mature ones? If you don't live comfortably well, sorry, you are on your own!!! Except for those village girls that are not exposed...but seriously, not in the cities of Nigeria.

Before you criticize me on the fact that these women need to live a comfortable life by hanging out with only comfortable dudes, read the topic again! It is surely the same reason why I said young struggling men should forget about love and focus on their lives!!! When you are comfortable, you can have the resources to sustain your relationship because no matter how a woman 'loves' you, the 'love' must surely die if there's no finance to sustain it!

Adams Oshiomole (not handsome) just got married to pretty Lara Forte! Do you think she didn't see all the tall handsome dudes with six-packs before tying the knot with the governor?

Goodevening everyone!

agarawu23:
nice one rapmoney.

I am in support of your write up But I want us to look it from another angle.

I am not in support of a young hustling guy spending lavishly on a Lady he is yet to marry but that doesn't mean he should not fall in love.(he should apply sense)

If he finally forget about ladies, chase his dream and later succeed, how will he find true love ? (no be our girls of nowadays? Ferrari things )

What if the guy is not destined to be rich? I am sure he will still settle down with one (though she might not be his dream girl)

We have few ladies who don't care if a guy is rich or poor, all they want is true love (bros I still dey find them o )

Rapmoney:
Be patient while you read this...

If you are a young and ambitious dude still struggling to get to the top, this write-up will save you the stress and pains of the so-called love we have been deceived about for long!

If you still think that there's what is called 'true love' or 'love without money or resources', then you must be living in a fool's paradise!!! (Quote me if you like!)

The truth of the matter is that what people in the past enjoyed as 'true love' no longer exist. Then it was possible for a man and a woman to fall in love based on personal qualities or characters without materialism attached to it! Those were the good old days! Our society has changed and any one who still lives in the past is not better than the village idiot!!!

I have heard people saying often times that love or relationship is not all about money! To me, that's the highest level of trash and rubbish! If you are a young man with ambition, still striving and toiling to make it, you better forget about love and concentrate full-time...I mean 100% on your dreams and life.
It is so frustrating to see some struggling dudes killing themselves over love issues! What a life! Why spend the meagre salary you earn after working for 30 days like a donkey on a girl? She tells you she needs a phone, you struggle to buy it! She says she needs money for hair, you struggle to give her! She tells you she needs to get a nice bag or pair of shoes she saw at a boutique, you struggle to give her! Be rest assured that you will continue to struggle endlessly in your life if you don't desist from such shameful and wasteful act! If you want to know the extent to which materialism has eaten into this so-called love, watch even the younger girls of today! Even those that are below 21 or 22 will quickly run away from you if you can't be giving her upkeep money, money for hair and phone, etc The mature ones? If you don't live comfortably well, sorry, you are on your own!!! Except for those village girls that are not exposed...but seriously, not in the cities of Nigeria.

Before you criticize me on the fact that these women need to live a comfortable life by hanging out with only comfortable dudes, read the topic again! It is surely the same reason why I said young struggling men should forget about love and focus on their lives!!! When you are comfortable, you can have the resources to sustain your relationship because no matter how a woman 'loves' you, the 'love' must surely die if there's no finance to sustain it!

Adams Oshiomole (not handsome) just got married to pretty Lara Forte! Do you think she didn't see all the tall handsome dudes with six-packs before tying the knot with the governor?

Goodevening everyone!

Adaobi12:
She left you doesn't mean, another lady will do the same. We all are not the same, so you shouldn't generalize. I know many men that are eating on a dinning table today with ladies they drank garri with on the bare floor years bk. Nkechi didn't stay doesn't mean that Nkiru will do the same.