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Let him follow his mind, let him also go and collect the list, then if he as the power, I now left for him to decide.

adazinnie:
yoruba boiz....I luv dem like kilode...my 1st boyfrnd was Yoruba we lived each oda bt he still goes bk to his Yoruba babies wen am not around...wat do u expect if I get married to him..it is certain he would still want someone from his tribe...it deir way....

You are wrong...

Gguy4real:
My guy likewise me i'm having the same problem as you but i thank GOd for my life everything is under control all you have to do is. Convince her that you really love her and she's meant to be with you just go ahead with the traditional then i believe that things we be ok but first pray hard igbo people can be mad at times oooooo just believe in God

Smiles...

Mcowubaba:
Bro na lie....
I have had an Igbo babe.....
She is Nt 4rm a wealthy background, but the girl d hardworking die....very considerate....she make sense die...I won't generalise sha!!!...but most Igbo girls I have met r Excellent...I fit even marry dat side

@bolded,

Why u com drop dat igbo girl wey MAKE SENSE DIE na, wetin happen---abeg no lies o?

PreciousBro:
Well, as much as I don't like inter-marriage,we have to accept that things are/and have changed. Its no longer a thing of pride to stay loyal to your kins men, Nigerian women are all looking for husbands and they'd take anyone that comes now.

I'd always advise that people should marry from their tribe or at most,their region and neighbouring ethnicity for better cultural and traditional understanding.

Quality is a thing that cannot stay hidden and for some reason Igbo girls seem to be at the mention of most wanted marital-wise.

To me, Igbo guys have taste ,its no wonder they hardly look outside their region and hence tribe,because they see that the quality lies within,why look else where, Yoruba guys seem to be at the rising of every ethnicity because they accept anything and anyone

I hate to say this but, I don't like igbo girls marrying non-igbo. {{{Quality Depletion}}}

Tribal Disloyalty ,un patriotism and carelessness to marital justice are what this Igbos marrying non -igbos are to me.

F•ck you if you think I'm sentimental and bigoted. We all are in this f^cked up corpse of a country we all drive fictitious preach for unity and oneness . We are not one, we are not the same. Deal with it and stick to your moderf•cking tribe.

This is one egbe igwe!!!

My brother iyav vex pieces..

- The bolded is very harsh but also very true.
- The indented like you said (and I believe) is the major reason why girls marry anyone. Also don't forget our society made it seem like a woman without a husband is useless. Another reason why females settle with people of other tribes.

Well I wish him all da best,but left 2 me alone as a yoruba guy notin wil make me even tink of marryin ibo girls. 2008 wen I go admisn 2 unilorin,met an ibo girl unfortunately 4 ha she wasn't in good standin nd was withdrawn frm sch nd ha parents force ha in2 marriage.met anoda one in 200L we started datin...only 4 ha 2 just woke up one day wen we were in final year dat she doesn't tink ha parents will allow ha 2 marry a yoruba man.so as 4 me oooo...a lot of yoruba girls out thre worth more dan gold.nobody even knw whre diz country is headin to......am nt tribalistic but my xperience has made me nt 2 wantin anytin wit ibo girls. I stand to b corrected!!!

EroticAngelina:
lols sorry I'm taken

Who told you you've been taken? Biko wait jare. Toshmann nwa mama is a dangling handsome aristocratic prince.
Abeg ping me joo. Gini wu "I've been taken" ? Message me make we begin from there.

See fine girl, beauty with brains. Come add smiles join am. Biko forget that "ive been taken" line. My own line na "i will 'un-take' you"

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Look at these hypocritical clowns talking as if being Polygamous is a disease when in actual fact most of them are "frequent flyer" members in various Hotels they go to commit harlotry while still married to a Spouse at home!

I would rather a man marry a second wife and take care of both wife, each knowing each other, than be one who takes various women to phuck in Hotels, brings disease to the one at home (of course he would never agree he is the reason) and on his burial day, various "Now our Daddy" Children show-up with their first time Mothers!

As a matter of fact, man is polygamous by nature only that "economics and modernisation" from being subservient to White man's culture has "toned it down" to the point which, like Homosexuality, it is becoming acceptable and tending to the norm.

How many times do you see Yoruba "teenagers" hopping on the next bus to another tribes neighbourhood to "hustle" and sell in traffic, abandoning education to only their girls?
It is because their parents(in general terms) pay more attention to them and their education, something quite unique to Yorubas since time immemorial..... despite their "open" Polygamy.

I have never seen a people so "self-delusional" and gloating about it at the same time.
You peeps know ow to insult others very well but when insults are thrown at you, you will be the first to start whinning and shouting Marginalisation, if not Genocide!

RESULTS! RESULTS!! and RESULT!!! ..... is what we can based our people's "historical actions" upon
.....and judging by "Historical Events" since Nigeria became a country, we al know which Tribe has the wrong and raw end of the stick, even in the just concluded election!

Like some will say, "innate abilities" are different from things you learn.


We are all Nigerians and we know ourselves and who we are, "deep down", despite all these "posturings and feel good posts" flying around on Nairaland.
Leave matta.


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Is it not even comical that it is only the "sad stories" that these peeps are reporting here?
What happened to the thousands of successful inter-tribal marriages? I know more than quite a few!
Gosh, "herd mentality" is not a good thing at all.

The bolded paragraph from your write-up goes to show how little you brain comprehends the true nature of things.

You've been left behind and are playing catchup to the same people(igbos) in the education sector yet you keep insulting them on daily basis with education as reference point.

You yorubas, always by gra-gra are self proclaimed smart ones in the country but forget that others know more than you and quietly do their things.

You want to marry an igbo girl, well I don't think that even they you call oloshos will even accept you as a Spouse because the promiouscuity associated with yoruba reeks to the high heavens..

omooba969:
@bolded,

Why u com drop dat igbo girl wey MAKE SENSE DIE na, wetin happen---abeg no lies o?

Wat is d lies
Do u knw weda it was my fault that d relationship did nt work out...
FYI- it was my fault ..
Ps..I am currently dating another Igbo babe ..I won't mak my previous mistakes again...
Pls it is not about igbo babe or yoruba babe, its all about who u love nd who u r compatible with!!!...I never knew this girls were Igbo when I saw them!!!..its was wen I got to knw dia names, I was even surprised, bcuz the sabi speak Yoruba pass some of my Relatives.!!!!...at the end of the day..--
Its all about Love nd God's Grace...not Igbo, Yoruba, Hausa,Isoko, Urhobo, Efik.....I make friends with reasonable HUMAN BEINGS not tribe!!!...I don't really care about tribe, race...I only care about Religion..I no carry sango or amadioha servant, Or ISIS member come my house!!! ..
Peace... #Saynototriablism

Ibo girls love Yoruba guys. I deduced this from experience. No tribe is better than the other it all boils down on individual characters and traits and the family you come from. If you love her by all means to the needful and wife her.

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francizy:
This is one egbe igwe!!!

My brother iyav vex pieces..

- The bolded is a very harsh but also very true.
- The indented like you said (and I believe) is the major reason why girls marry anyone. Also don't forget our society made it seem like a woman without a husband is useless. Another reason why females settle with people of other tribes.

True.

As much as I'd like to pretend like the many lot and swing the Oneness of us all in this country ,I cannot negate the many vile escapades, bad ordeals and the realistically harsh truth that even the ones that claim to be the most educated elites in our country are caught up in this web of tribal segregation as evident in our mainstream economic and political body.

Why should marriage be any different ?

I mean, it can be viewed individually and hence people can live as one together with their nuclear family and get all sweet and what not, but that would be a superficial and selfish reason in itself bearing the huge hole of difference in us because the values in the mind's eye of surrounded ,extended family of yours and that around would always differ. Why should anyone go through that curse of living in the name of being one.

We can live together in peace knowing and identifying the differences in us separately. Not tied to each other and still be our on enemy. Look around you, we can't entirely say we are one, be frank with your self.

As far as I'm concerned Racism carries a larger problem than Tribalism and I am no Racist as I can and even prefer to marry a foreigner more than some non igbo Nigerians, I'm sorry,its just my individual preference, I don't care whether she's white,green or even beige so long as she's christian, with recognised values/culture and tradition,I'm ok.

Its just skin color difference to me, but with tribe ? A whole lot of diversity in way of life and traditions with strange beliefs that scare me.

No offence to anyone/tribe or people of 9ja

Lilimax:
sadly Segun died in a ghastly motor accident 2 days after my wedding on his way back from Redemption camp.

eyaa sorry o.. Such a sad news.

ritababe:
K

me na igbo wey wan marry yoruba......but nollywood over spoil our image

Neplusultra:
Lolz!! U get mouth I swear!!! I don't know y, i feel notting but pity for any igbo girl marrying a Yoruba guy, maybe it's cos of one incident I witnessed, Dis igbo lady was working in a bank with a Yoruba colleague, one tin led to d oda and dey fell for each other, d guy loves her like Kilode and was pushing for marriage, Dis guy came from a Muslim home, but he claimed he was a christain and wuld neva be a moslem, d girl's family vehemently refused but she went ahead and married him anyway, now as am talking to you, d guy has converted back to Islam with d three children dey had and dey even wear hijab, dat wasn't enough, he married another Muslim lady and told Chioma dat she can go to he'll if she wont accept it!

dont mind some stupid igbo girls after they will go to igbo pages n facebook and start complaining on how yoruba people are this and that,meanwhile she took her self to them and get want she wanted we always laugh at those ones...

kernel504:
Am an Igbo guy, but then, l don't like your remarks towards your tribal sisters. Appreciate them, reserve certain remarks, for courtesy sake.#OneLove

never get me wrong bro. i appreciate & love my yoruba sisters very much. i neva meant igbo iz superior to yoruba. kindly understand my post. except dat we dont wanna be truth, most igbo guys loves yoruba galz. one love

tonychristopher:
pls I have been asking this question


WHY DO YORUBA MEN FIND THE YORUBA WOMEN UNDESIRABLE?

THIS IS A POSER

actually, i met a yoruba girl this very morning, i was just drooling.

the thing i have come to notice about yoruba girls is that the beautiful ones are quite desirable while the vast majority of the uglyyyyyy ones leaves you under a risk of having nightmares.
i saw one of such that works at NNPC amuwo odofin.

dewstar:
I have wondered about this myself. I have a friend (who is also a church) member who has sworn publicly never to date talkless of marrying a yoruba girl. He is a yoruba guy (both father and mother are yorubas). He has always dated igbo girls and the closest he has ever got to dating a yoruba is an Edo girl (who he is currently dating). He says yoruba girls are dirty, lousy and rude. I find it surprising cause I am currently dating a yoruba girl and she is the neatest person I have ever met, she is not at all lousy and definitely not rude. Still baffles me though.

Stereotypes... Stereotypes...

lalasticlala:
A Nairalander sent me this mail. Let's help him with useful advice.

Below is the exact message, the way it came:


"Why Igbo Can't Marry Yoruba

Though we have been facing so many challenges about this before but we overcome it . they use to tell my lady, HE CAN"T MARRY U but when they all see how serious we are(Preparing for Traditional Marriage) then they came up with, IF HE MARRY U AFTER TWO KIDS HE WILL STILL MARRY HE"S TRIBE. I'm Yoruba guy while my lady is Igbo. What should i do but i love her, mean love her."


Please, if you have any useful and mature response to his message, don't hesitate to give him. Please no tribal bashings ooo. Thanks. He will be reading it..

If you both love each other big time and compatible, Go ahead! Have some friends as such and they are doing just fine.
Forget all this tribal sentiment. ......but if you are a tribalist then No need because your marriage will hit the rock in the near future because of sentiment reason or you start judging each other action or relative actions based on tribal judgement or sentiment.

Mcowubaba:
Wat is d lies
Do u knw weda it was my fault that d relationship did nt work out...
FYI- it was my fault ..
Ps..I am currently dating another Igbo babe ..I won't mak my previous mistakes again...
Pls it is not about igbo babe or yoruba babe, its all about who u love nd who u r compatible with!!!...I never knew this girls were Igbo when I saw them!!!..its was wen I got to knw dia names, I was even surprised, bcuz the sabi speak Yoruba pass some of my Relatives.!!!!...at the end of the day..--
Its all about Love nd God's Grace...not Igbo, Yoruba, Hausa,Isoko, Urhobo, Efik.....I make friends with reasonable HUMAN BEINGS not tribe!!!...I don't really care about tribe, race...I only care about Religion..I no carry sango or amadioha servant, Or ISIS member come my house!!! ..
Peace... #Saynototriablism

I enjoyed reading ur epistle. I asked u a question & u started ur reply wit 2 questions bothering on d investigative nature of my question; must be dat my question found u out.

Guy, u knw dat part of wot u wrote up there are LIES but I wud still be fair to u by believing ur account on who dumped who. An igbo girl dumped u & u went for another, must be dat u r not gud enuf for dis girls or better still, u dnt deserve dem. Obviously, one size doesn't fit all, some guys get lucky wen they av d gud ones but I still maintain dat most igbo chicks r LAZY & INCONSIDERATE...some of dem reading dis nw wud probably get my drift.

FYI, am not being tribalistic but abt character so dnt get it twisted baby.

quimicababes:
It depends on the reason(s) upon which he wants to marry her.If it is due to an inferiority complex where he thinks his yoruba sisters are less than Igbo girls...that is not a good reason.If he genuinely love the girl and is willing to embrace her culture by all means.

From the comments on this thread...I reckon it seems like Yoruba guys suffer from the same complex like Blacks in the west....a deep sense of Inferiority.I reckon that a lot of people say bad things about Yoruba women on nairaland and they label them ugly because they are dark and have thick lips which just shows the amount of self-hate amongst Black people.Perhaps Yoruba men feel ashamed that their women are not light skinned etc

Many of us in the west prefer to marry non-black or mixed folks due to the fact it has been hammered into our heads that 100% African is not beautiful.Many Black men in the west deliberately disrespect their women calling them ugly,lazy,no good etc unlike Indians,Chinese ,Whites and Mixed folks.A couple Yoruba guys had nothing good to say about their sisters...which is utterly shameful.

I reckon Igbos and other lighter skin tribes fall higher on the beauty pole according to Euro-centric standards so Yoruba men rush towards them.Despite the rampant mixing amongst Blacks and other races most blacks get married to blacks due to there not being a full openness to mixing by the other races.I suspect similar will hold in Naija in that though Yoruba guys mix with Igbos...most Igbo girls prefer their own men.

The best advice I can give to Yoruba chics like the Black women in the west...do u.Surely life goes and you can't correct a man who have been conditioned to dislike self and kind.You just embrace those who embrace you and screw the rest.

For me,I embrace Blackness in all its manifestation so I will never label a sister who is dark or whatever as ugly despite the fact that I am not exactly dark.At the same time I wants no self-hating negro around me either.

Naija has an obsession with light skin like Jamaica.

Geeez! For all your "We in the west" rhetoric you are so ignorant. So you saw a few comments allegedly made by some Yoruba and you immediately conclude that the entire Yoruba tribe (a tribe of over 30mil people in Nigeria alone) is suffering from inferiority complex? Complex over what exactly? Beauty?

Physical and behavioural attributes as they concern tribes are a spectrum. You will definitely see people with the attributes from the very bad to the extremely good and anywhere in-between in any particular tribe. The Yorubas are no different. There are Yoruba people who are very beautiful and others who are not so beautiful, and same goes with their behaviour. There is no way one person or a few persons can be adequately used to represent their race.

As they say, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I've seen very beautiful Yoruba girls, I've seen very beautiful Igbo girls and I have equally seen very beautiful ladies of other tribes and races. I've also seen the reverse.

For you madam, I recommend an introductory class in sociology.

My friend marriage is for better for worst while everybody prayed for the former.
Marriage is not about tribe or religion but it is pple mentalities that considered religion as most important part in choosing your life partner. We have a lot of people who married from other tribes and religions and they were living happily which is most importance aspect of marriage.
I hailed from Iludun Oro in irepodun local Government Area of Kwara State married to ibo lady from Egwulobia in Anambra State. My wife and I are not related in tribe or religion but what keeps us together is LOVE and we are bless with two girls.
My wife observed the doctrine of Islam and every idr fitry (ileya) we traveled from Asaba Delta State to Kwara State.
if you married your tribe there is no 100% guarantee of peace and success. what is important is LOVE

PreciousBro:
True.

As much as I'd like to pretend like the many lot and swing the Oneness of us all in this country ,I cannot negate the many vile escapades, bad ordeals and the realistically harsh truth that even the ones that claim to be the most educated elites in our country are caught up in this web of tribal segregation as evident in our mainstream economic and political body.

Why should marriage be any different ?

I mean, it can be viewed individually and hence people can live as one together with their nuclear family and get all sweet and what not, but that would be a superficial and selfish reason in itself bearing the huge hole of difference in us because the values in the mind's eye of surrounded ,extended family of yours and that around would always differ. Why should anyone go through that curse of living in the name of being one.

We can live together in peace knowing and identifying the differences in us separately. Not tied to each other and still be our on enemy. Look around you, we can't entirely say we are one, be frank with your self.

As far as I'm concerned Racism carries a larger problem than Tribalism and I am no Racist as I can and even prefer to marry a foreigner more than some non igbo Nigerians, I'm sorry,its just my individual preference, I don't care whether she's white,green or even beige so long as she's christian, with recognised values/culture and tradition,I'm ok.

Its just skin color difference to me, but with tribe ? A whole lot of diversity in way of life and traditions with strange beliefs that scare me.

No offence to anyone/tribe or people of 9ja

Well, we all know that we aren't one because as much as we pretend to hide our hatred for one another, it will always show any day, anytime. When I was younger, I thought there wasn't much difference between us and others in this country apart from the northerners. This's because I was born and brought up in Lagos, there was no internet back then for people to utilize in showing the world their tribalistic nature and my mum had a terrible experience doind business in Kano (where she almost lost her life).

We can't see thru our noses and know for real that our leaders want us to be forever divided because once we are divided, we can't stand up and fight them and they can loot as much as they want. Little wonder all of them fuel tribalism and bigotry.

The little internet warrior allows himself to be used to fuel hate while they help themselves with the Nigerian money. We all have to struggle on our own to make sure we secure a great future for our children. Else, it won't be easy for them.

kingbasil:
The bolded paragraph from your write-up goes to show how little you brain comprehends the true nature of things.

You've been left behind and are playing catchup to the same people(igbos) in the education sector yet you keep insulting them on daily basis with education as reference point.

You yorubas, always by gra-gra are self proclaimed smart ones in the country but forget that others know more than you and quietly do their things.

You want to marry an igbo girl, well I don't think that even they you call oloshos will even accept you as a Spouse because the promiouscuity associated with yoruba reeks to the high heavens..

[size=18pt] Hahahaha......Losers! [/size]

Your delusions compare to none


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tonychristopher:
pls I have been asking this question


WHY DO YORUBA MEN FIND THE YORUBA WOMEN UNDESIRABLE?

THIS IS A POSER

Buh what about me? Am i not a Yoruba guy? And u knw what av neva date a yoruba gurl in ma life, always chilling around with ma beautiful igbo angel

godoluwa:
never get me wrong bro. i appreciate & love my yoruba sisters very much. i neva meant igbo iz superior to yoruba. kindly understand my post. except dat we dont wanna be truth, most igbo guys loves yoruba galz. one love

l love the softness in your tone, you are on point.#CarryGo

omooba969:
I enjoyed reading ur epistle. I asked u a question & u started ur reply wit 2 questions bothering on d investigative nature of my question; must be dat my question found u out.

Guy, u knw dat part of wot u wrote up there are LIES but I wud still be fair to u by believing ur account on who dumped who. An igbo girl dumped u & u went for another, must be dat u r not gud enuf for dis girls or better still, u dnt deserve dem. Obviously, one size doesn't fit all, some guys get lucky wen they av d gud ones but I still maintain dat most igbo chicks r LAZY & INCONSIDERATE...some of dem reading dis nw wud probably get my drift.

FYI, am not being tribalistic but abt character so dnt get it twisted baby.

lol..who be ur baby !!
Nobody has ever dumped me...
I have only being into 2 relationships..the first 1 we broke up due to irreconcilable differences mostly caused by me (I was a student then)..nw I am in my 2nd relationship nw, nd I am hoping it will lead to Marriage..
Stop generalising...as some big foools say my Tribe sisters r dirty!!!...dat a big Lie..
Yoruba Girls Rock...Igbo Girls Rock..
Just that I have only dated Igbo girls..I have never had the opportunity of dating Yoruba female beauties....May GOD's will be done .....
4 nw..I love my babe (who happens to be igbo)
Safe....

STEP OUT, GUYS
Most times, l hear people say “Igbo people like marrying themselves”, some even go further to say Anambra guys are the “ my Mama said ” people but my issue is, Is there any tribe who do not love to Marry from their own. Am from Anambra, worked a bit in Lag before l gained admission in a federal University in the South-South, served in Rivers, currently reside in Ph and hav stayed in the North a bit (saying all these not to show off but to let u know l hav seen the three Nigerian tribes and currently lives above tribal restrictions). Using myself as an example, even before my last relationship break-up (My X left to get married, though Igbo) my parents gave me free hands to choose from any tribe, the only condition been that she MUST be a Christian, ( I hav never dated an Anambra Babe). I hav friends of both gender who cuts across different tribes, funny as it sounds out of my wonderful female friends God blessed me with, I have found two very interesting and compatible so l did the right thing by asking them out ( at different times like 7 Months apart. One is Edo and the other Yoruba) but to my surprise they both refused, their reason been that am Igbo, is far and their people love them to marry from their tribe.
Note these two ladies do not stay in same City, l met them at different places, occasions etc and we hav not had any level of intimacy though we spend good times together, funny enough my parents welcomes her ( the 1st) and she shows lots of admiration for my parents yet she does not want to hurt her people.
As for me, my fingers ar crossed and l recall telling one “I may never wait forever” cos she always insists wait, lets just remain friends etc. Please am not lacking in female friends but l talk of who is compatible with me. My call to all who feel is only Igbos that do this to hav a rethink and to our Youths please is time to live outside the tribal restrictions and believes. When my real woman comes she wl not care about the tribe but the personality and I trust God for the right person whether Igbo or not

best advice..go on man,anyone asking you not to is tribalistic and outa point..

oluamid:
Geeez! For all your "We in the west" rhetoric you are so ignorant. So you saw a few comments allegedly made by some Yoruba and you immediately conclude that the entire Yoruba tribe (a tribe of over 30mil people in Nigeria alone) is suffering from inferiority complex? Complex over what exactly? Beauty?

Physical and behavioural attributes as they concern tribes are a spectrum. You will definitely see people with the attributes from the very bad to the extremely good and anywhere in-between in any particular tribe. The Yorubas are no different. There are Yoruba people who are very beautiful and others who are not so beautiful, and same goes with their behaviour. There is no way one person or a few persons can be adequately used to represent their race.

As they say, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I've seen very beautiful Yoruba girls, I've seen very beautiful Igbo girls and I have equally seen very beautiful ladies of other tribes and races. I've also seen the reverse.

For you madam, I recommend an introductory class in sociology.

Ummm...I have done sociology.Also I didn't mean the entire Yoruba race just as not all Blacks in the West dislike their blackness.I suggest you channel that energy to your Yoruba brothers who seem to be putting down their own sisters.

Ok anula m,udo

kernel504:
Ojemba, obughi mgbe nile ka dike n'anu ogu. Ha anaghi acho anyi okwu ugbua.

switdick:
Madam, haba!! Don't you think you're contradicting your self, with the two bolded" lol

Try to be succinct with your thoughts, stick to what you want,first you say tribe doesn't matter then you still went on to slur people from that certain tribe.

no I'm not.
The way I view a certain tribe isn't the way others do.
Now, when I say follow ur heart, I mean it... Buh the second statement u bolded is simply an opinion of mine, its not bashing or contradicting myself, its just the way I see them(there must also be things they dislike about Igbo people). I'm not with a Yoruba guy now, buh in future I can fall in love with a Yoruba guy(and I'm definitely going to fall in love with a Yoruba guy with all the qualities I luv in a man)
I don't know if u get me
even if I marry a Yoruba guy, my opinion(the second statement u bolded) about some Yoruba guys and ladies ain't gonna change.

I really hope I didn't type these whole thing in vain

toshmann:
Who told you you've been taken? Biko wait jare. Toshmann nwa mama is a dangling handsome aristocratic prince.
Abeg ping me joo. Gini wu "I've been taken" ? Message me make we begin from there.

See fine girl, beauty with brains. Come add smiles join am. Biko forget that "ive been taken" line. My own line na "i will 'un-take' you"

lol I luv my boo too much to leave him. maybe u can be my sideguy