DollyParton1:

Traditionally, introduction [/b]is the most important thing. Once the parents from both sides have pronounced their blessings on the union, I think the remaining ish is just for ceremonial and legit sake.

Naaaa!
Guess u're mixing Introduction wt [b]Engagement. Engagement is the single most important part of the wedn process. Introduction is jst family reps coming 2 know one another. It is what it is______[i]INTRODUCTION[/i]!!!

Drabrah:

Naaaa!
Guess u're mixing Introduction wt Engagement. Engagement is the single most important part of the wedn process. Introduction is jst family jreps coming 2 know one another. It is what it is______[i]INTRODUCTION[/i]!!!

errrm really? If the introduction wasn't successful, how will the engagement and the other ceremony take place. You might wanna ask the elders around u.

peedeeasobie:




And who will be at loss? Not the man my dear.
A man can marry even if he's 70. If they are ready for introduction, they should be ready for marriage!

My sister got married when she was about going for her law school, the husband wanted to pay the fees but my dad refused. My dad paid her fees and everything even though the husband was also very much capable of doing so.

Introduction is not marriage, it doesn't confer the status of a husband to the man. Unless after introduction she starts staying with the man!


Kindly make ur arguments without being insulting.

Sorry,ddnt mean to insult.

Like u said, introduction is not marriage but remember that after introduction u will be expected to go to his place and start doing the duties of a wife to him. Everywhere you go, people will call you his wife, ur family, ur friends, everybody will call u his wife. U can no longer be friends with ur old boyfriends which means you cnt get anything from them. If u cal ur brothers, ur cousins, ur uncles, ur aunts to give u somtins they wont give you like before cus they will be like 'this girl i tut u r married' and she cnt openly and boldly ask u for things. U see dat after introducton, u ve placed the girl in a very tight corner. No body is forcing you to pay for her fees but if u ve dignity and you are finacially owk, why not offer to pay her fees? Cus as far as i knw, dat will earn you more respect frm her family. Then it's left for her family to either accept or reject ur offer. I cud still remember wen my big sis was getting married, her husband nd his people came wit the dowry but my father only touched the money nd gave it back to the husband saying that he's not selling his daughter. That does not mean the next person dat is coming to marry frm my family shd come without dowry. What i'm saying is that once you r ready to introduce youself and ur family to my people as my husband, be ready for any responsiblity that will come wit it. DO NOT PUT ME IN TIGHT CORNER.

versashee:
a wise man would engage her in school and marry her after she graduates!

Guy!
u b Ibo?

Poverty nah disease shaa.

Both sides should not be bothered about money. They are not yet married..

Sunshinelady:
. Lmao . Or d introductist

Chinoble:

Sorry,ddnt mean to insult.

Like u said, introduction is not marriage but remember that after introduction u will be expected to go to his place and start doing the duties of a wife to him. Everywhere you go, people will call you his wife, ur family, ur friends, everybody will call u his wife. U can no longer be friends with ur old boyfriends which means you cnt get anything from them. If u cal ur brothers, ur cousins, ur uncles, ur aunts to give u somtins they wont give you like before cus they will be like 'this girl i tut u r married' and she cnt openly and boldly ask u for things. U see dat after introducton, u ve placed the girl in a very tight corner. No body is forcing you to pay for her fees but if u ve dignity and you are finacially owk, why not offer to pay her fees? Cus as far as i knw, dat will earn you more respect frm her family. Then it's left for her family to either accept or reject ur offer. I cud still remember wen my big sis was getting married, her husband nd his people came wit the dowry but my father only touched the money nd gave it back to the husband saying that he's not selling his daughter. That does not mean the next person dat is coming to marry frm my family shd come without dowry. What i'm saying is that once you r ready to introduce youself and ur family to my people as my husband, be ready for any responsiblity that will come wit it. DO NOT PUT ME IN TIGHT CORNER.

This is themost bias analysis I've ever seen. Dowry u said (Bride price, actually) & it's different frm paying her sch fees. Introduction comes b4 payment of bride price & it's after the payment of bride price dat he is seen as d hubby. Dat takes place @ engagement, not at Introduction.
I'm glad u said ur big sis hubby came wt d (dowry) bride price, not her sch fees. Hence i wudda bn disappointed if ur dad collects it. Buh even if he collects the bride price they brought, no big deal.

DollyParton1:

errrm really? If the introduction wasn't successful, how will the engagement and the other ceremony take place. You might wanna ask the elders around u.

Same point we're making. Jst like many relationships don't result 2 marriage. So, imagine u paying d sch fees of evry gal u've dated (wen u no be ATM).
At Introduction, u're telling her family u wanna marryher. They know u, & probably agree. Buh they avn't given her 2 u, so they may still change dia mind. @ Engagement, they giv her 2 u & she's practically ur wife, jst awaiting other formalities.

Lexusgs430:

Lol. Then she switches from a cat to a lion overnight!!!!

Lol

What is introduction? No be for just : FAMILIARITY??

If i pay her school fee after [b]mere[/b]introduction, then i can simply dictate to her when she comes and cook for me or when i invite her to straff her.

Lobbish!!

rich dudes wont mind though. but I no go pay oh. make I no lie. b4 dem go add her junior brother own with that he big head.

Drabrah:

This is themost bias analysis I've ever seen. Dowry u said (Bride price, actually) & it's different frm paying her sch fees. Introduction comes b4 payment of bride price & it's after the payment of bride price dat he is seen as d hubby. Dat takes place @ engagement, not at Introduction.
I'm glad u said ur big sis hubby came wt d (dowry) bride price, not her sch fees. Hence i wudda bn disappointed if ur dad collects it. Buh even if he collects the bride price they brought, no big deal.

Owk.

Drabrah:

Same point we're making. Jst like many relationships don't result 2 marriage. So, imagine u paying d sch fees of evry gal u've dated (wen u no be ATM).
At Introduction, u're telling her family u wanna marryher. They know u, & probably agree. Buh they avn't given her 2 u, so they may still change dia mind. @ Engagement, they giv her 2 u & she's practically ur wife, jst awaiting other formalities.

When two people do their introduction ceremony, there is no probability anymore. Both families have sat down and agreed and given their blessings. Thats the ultimate.
Even marriages get dissolved too. Introduction, Engagement, court wedding, church wedding, and Nikkah can be dissolved. The differences are the ceremony and maybe the mode of carrying out.

versashee:
a wise man would engage her in school and marry her after she graduates!

And wait make dem snatch her, are u sure of the girl's age? Ask questions b4 u conclude on someone personal life!

No need to thank me, ure always welcum

Thanks 4 dis thread oh! My eye don open. I intend marring my oldtime galfriend in august dis year who is only in her 200 level now, studing medicine. Will ve to wait till she round up studies. Though am 41 now

Her father's and relatives

[quote author=versashee post=34149290]a wise man would engage her in school and marry her after she graduates! [/quote/]
Lol 😂 I dey tell you

The girl is responsible

All the attendees at the introduction..

DrGroove:

But the spouse can bleep her before the handing over but he can't assist in paying her fees?

she opens her legs on her on consent

that depends on under whose authority the girl is after d introduction,....if after d introduction she moves In with d man then its d mans responsibility to pay her school fees but if she still lives in her parents house then her parents will be responsible for her fees provided she is not yet pregnant for d man,....cos prgnancy b4 marriage can make parents go crazy mehn!

If they are cohabiting after the introduction then she's his problem. Otherwise, she's her parents responsibility.


I just typed that and realized how biased this world is. Why do all these unmarried boys and girls cohabiting complain about footing a girl's bills/becoming a domestic help?

I swear the world has gone mad.

marcondo13:
It is only a father without self respect that will tell his daughter's fiance to pay her fees when she is still under his roof!

The best submission.

Keziehenry:
Please your urgent view is highly needed.

[size=14pt]........just thinking out loud now;
So let's assume the guy is on 100k monthly salary, and his fiance is an undergraduate with one of the more expensive private universities that averages 500k as school fees. Both the guy and girl want the marriage, so i beg advise me, who continues to pay the school fees, the fiance/husband-to-be, or the girls father?[/size]

Blackett:
After introduction and you start cohabiting with the girl and she spends countless nights at your place, warming your bed at night, cooking and cleaning, etc, in fact, acting like a wife to you. . . Tell me why you shouldn't pay her fees. . . Just give me one moral justification.

what if the girl is not cohabiting with u.

The parents of course,the prospective suitor can only support if he really want to show his cheerfulness....

Abeg Job comes before Romans. She should complete her education, get a Job before thinking of the marriage process

Blackett:
After introduction and you start cohabiting with the girl and she spends countless nights at your place, warming your bed at night, cooking and cleaning, etc, in fact, acting like a wife to you. . . Tell me why you shouldn't pay her fees. . . Just give me one moral justification.

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Thank you ohhhhh, I wonder. Its only when it is time 4 expenses that they distinguish between marriage n introduction .......mstchw

I'm ready for marriage and being married are two different things. For me, I'll marry a babe whose parents have paid all the fees. No cash for school girl when there're lots of young working spinsters. To your question: you can help, if you want to. It's parents job and not intending husbands'

Marry into this kind of situation and you don enter one chance be that

[quote author=BlissB post=34233935]Just introduction??...its stil d parents responsibility but u cn still give her money like u use 2[/quote
Lol. sure!
I didn't hear from u again

BlissB:
Just introduction??...its stil d parents responsibility but u cn still give her money like u use 2

I didn't hear from u again