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Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by ireneony(f): 6:57am On May 30, 2015
ireneidiva:
See why students shouldn't get married. I hope its not a 25k school fee that we are here wasting data for.
grin
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by chamboy(m): 6:57am On May 30, 2015
Blackett:
After introduction and you start cohabiting with the girl and she spends countless nights at your place, warming your bed at night, cooking and cleaning, etc, in fact, acting like a wife to you. . . Tell me why you shouldn't pay her fees. . . Just give me one moral justification.
where do u get ur mentality from
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by chamboy(m): 6:59am On May 30, 2015
greatgod2012:
Her parents!


A wise parents gets their children educated before handing them over to men. As such, the lady in question will have her self esteem intact and not be treated anyhow by the husband. Failure to do that, is one of the reasons wives aint been respected much by their husbands.
best quote ever, Aswear I should marry u fa
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by momove4real25(f): 7:00am On May 30, 2015
After marriage a man sud be responsible n if d man is down his wife kiss sud be of redering assistance. Husband is not ATM both parties sud help one another n prayerful that whatever d family with need God sud provide d husband sud be a responsible father to his children not futherrrrrrrrrr but a gud fatherrrrrrr

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Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by Applaner: 7:01am On May 30, 2015
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how old are you
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by peedeeasobie(m): 7:02am On May 30, 2015
DrGroove:

I am in Africa. Nigeria, precisely

In this part of the world,once a man spends his money on a woman she becomes more worthless than his footmat.
Men shy away from financial responsibilities, they don't want to marry because they don't want to spend money.
Somebody has done introduction but is afraid of paying school fees of his wife to be.... That goes to show how SILLY and STUPID he is... Peradventure, he contributes a dime to assist her get a degree, her name will become SORRY in that marriage.
At the slightest provocation, he will brag " If not for me,you will be a drop out.I paid your fees, your father couldn't "
99 out of 100 men in my region would say this and worse things




Most men decline responsibility of paying school fees after introduction based on experience. Some ladies agree to the introduction because they want their fees paid, after they graduate, they start acting stupid or flirting or outrightly reject the man!

Introduction is not marriage. The man may assist but its not his responsibility to take over the payment of the fees.

Afterall, there are guys who pay their gilrfriends' fees before introduction.


I met women who hid their wedding ring when they were in nysc camps and only put them back when they were leaving camp.

So, when you distribute the blame of irresponsibility, distribute equally.
Most good men were turned bad by ladies they once treated honorably!
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by Chinoble(f): 7:02am On May 30, 2015
peedeeasobie:




Have you not seen ladies who declined marrying a guy even after introduction?

Its only after marriage that it becomes the man's responsibility.


What are you saying? Ve u not seen those that divorce immediately after wedding?

If u r not ready, dnt even carry ur two left legs and come with ur people to my place. Dnt spoil the status quo. Jus remain boyfriend or fiance till i graduate or till u r 100% ready.
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by zendy: 7:03am On May 30, 2015
Introduction is not marriage. People can still split up after introduction. So until the woman becomes the legally recognised wife of the man, he cannot be made to undertake responsibility for her.

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Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by f8luv87: 7:04am On May 30, 2015
If you truely love this girl and you are financially stable,no big deal you can pay her fees.
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by Dejiolaniyi(m): 7:05am On May 30, 2015
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Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by Chinoble(f): 7:09am On May 30, 2015
Lexusgs430:

On the contrary, I have known girls dumped after introduction.
Then wed her immediately after introduction.
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by Sunshinelady(f): 7:09am On May 30, 2015
olu77:
The introductee..no sorry the introductor
. Lmao . Or d introductist
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by mimionye(m): 7:10am On May 30, 2015
Loll, I think the girl parents should continue to pay her fees, but the husband to-be, should use his common sense to know that he is now part of the family and should know when to do the needful if occussion demands. However, it all depends how financial capability the both parties are. That's my submission.
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by peedeeasobie(m): 7:10am On May 30, 2015
Chinoble:



What are you saying? Ve u not seen those that divorce immediately after wedding?

If u r not ready, dnt even carry ur two left legs and come with ur people to my place. Dnt spoil the status quo. Jus remain boyfriend or fiance till i graduate or till i r 100% ready.



And who will be at loss? Not the man my dear.
A man can marry even if he's 70. If they are ready for introduction, they should be ready for marriage!

My sister got married when she was about going for her law school, the husband wanted to pay the fees but my dad refused. My dad paid her fees and everything even though the husband was also very much capable of doing so.

Introduction is not marriage, it doesn't confer the status of a husband to the man. Unless after introduction she starts staying with the man!


Kindly make ur arguments without being insulting.

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Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by tranxo(m): 7:11am On May 30, 2015
Keziehenry:
Please your urgent view is highly needed.
introduction is not marriage
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by Hustlerlomo(m): 7:12am On May 30, 2015
You said introduction, dnt 4get anytin can happen after introduction. Rather I wait after her schooling. If I pay her schoolfees b4 marriage, na her grand-parents go pay my children own?... School fees kon, school fees ni.

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Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by ol2012: 7:14am On May 30, 2015
Raymondenyi:
it is my responsibility...... Please nairalanders, I pay tuition fee for every girl that have done introduction.... I bear the financial burden forthwith ....

Shit thread everywhere
Lol
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by laoma4u: 7:16am On May 30, 2015
Kai.... Don't even think about marrying/ engaging a gal still in sch... Bad guys dey campus ooh... They wee toast her life. Why not wait till she graduates
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 7:18am On May 30, 2015
Blackett:
I have rights to my opinion. . . Don't be a fvcking _retard.
Krall3 has rights to his too
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by Lexusgs430: 7:19am On May 30, 2015
Chinoble:

Then wed her immediately after introduction.

Lol. Then she switches from a cat to a lion overnight!!!!
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by Nobody: 7:19am On May 30, 2015
marcondo13:
It is only a father without self respect that will tell his daughter's fiance to pay her fees when she is still under his roof!

U nailed it bro.
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by pek(m): 7:23am On May 30, 2015
Anything can happen after introduction. Both of you can go your separate ways for any reason. So, after introduction, she is not yet your wife.
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by nex(m): 7:23am On May 30, 2015
Which girl?! Are you involved in Child Marriage?! Why do Introduction for someone who does not know who will pay her school fees. Abeg, make una dey wait make dem grow, and make dem start work first dis kain matter no be talk at all.
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 7:24am On May 30, 2015
Chinoble:



What are you saying? Ve u not seen those that divorce immediately after wedding?

If u r not ready, dnt even carry ur two left legs and come with ur people to my place. Dnt spoil the status quo. Jus remain boyfriend or fiance till i graduate or till u r 100% ready.
Well, after marriage he pays the fees, if they get divorced he stops. But introduction is not marriage.
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by Sunshinelady(f): 7:27am On May 30, 2015
Lmao! Now it has come to money matters see all guys shouting..'She is not ur responsibility yet till after marriage!' But ask dem 'wen is it right to strt knowing her intimately, Before or after marriage proper?' Dey start chorusing..'Marriage is white man's culture, once u hav done traditional intro she's urs!'. Interesting..., but my opinion is ; after trd, court & white wedding, she is all his, & he is all hers, responsibilities & all. Except if d grl's parents insist on completing it (which is d case, many atimes, xcept if they aint buoyant)

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Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by loomer: 7:30am On May 30, 2015
Blackett:
After introduction and you start cohabiting with the girl and she spends countless nights at your place, warming your bed at night, cooking and cleaning, etc, in fact, acting like a wife to you. . . Tell me why you shouldn't pay her fees. . . Just give me one moral justification.

Introduction doesn't mean she should start spending the night with the guy or behaving as a house wife.
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by akinszz: 7:30am On May 30, 2015
Blackett:
After introduction and you start cohabiting with the girl and she spends countless nights at your place, warming your bed at night, cooking and cleaning, etc, in fact, acting like a wife to you. . . Tell me why you shouldn't pay her fees. . . Just give me one moral justification.
mere girlfriends do what you listed above anyway.
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by otokx(m): 7:33am On May 30, 2015
There are so many irresponsible parents in Nigeria and that is what has destroyed this nation together with the horrible mentality.

If you cannot finance a child then please zip it.
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by oluwhathossyne(f): 7:34am On May 30, 2015
The parents are to pay her school fees, except the guy only wants to do it out of kindness..... grin
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by Rajosh(m): 7:35am On May 30, 2015
versashee:
a wise man would engage her in school and marry her after she graduates! grin
better to marry a lady first before training her in school if you don't want stories that touch.
meanwhile, introduction is not marriage. it's still the parent's responsibility to train their child. But it's not bad if the guy lends a helping hand.
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by Drabrah(m): 7:37am On May 30, 2015
Ur choice, buh it ai'nt ur duty cos she ain't ur wife yet.
Introduction is only a show of intent. It's the Engagement (payment of Bride price, actually) that makes her ur wife & that's where ur responsibility starts though ur responsibility may still be deferred till after the ceremony proper (especially if u guys ain't cohabiting
Re: After Introduction, Whose Responsibility Is It To Pay A Girl's School Fee? by 46arcadez(m): 7:39am On May 30, 2015
marcondo13:
It is only a father without self respect that will tell his daughter's fiance to pay her fees when she is still under his roof!
There are so many father without self respect

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