@OP How do I stop been a jerk? She likes me a lot, I know that, I like her too, but I just can't stop myself from being a jerk. Its not that I like been a jerk though

@ bxboss

The stint With her sister was totally wrong....
First the sister is feeling used kinda, and as she said she wouldn't let u date the elder sister. One can only imagine the picture she's painted. But am guessing it isn't pretty.

Quite frankly I'd have suggested you moved on. But if that's outta the question, giver her time if its been up to 2 months since she blocked u, and in that space of time you haven't contacted her, Cool u can send her a message or call her(if its not been up to that long its preferable you wait till then).... Be smooth about, it nothing about love should be said, nothing emotional just conversation, nothing specific, u said she's brainy...great minds think alike(am assuming u're indeed a great mind), show her another face of ur person aside from the love struck one. DON'T tell her, but rather SHOW that u're not what ever bad image her sis might have painted of you, and Still DONT give the impression that u're wooing her...do this like once every week, making sure that each time, you bring something new to thE table, should always be lively and fun......do this for a month or till when she begins to be receptive(anyways at least a month). At this point a kinda camaraderie should most probably have been established. U can make the calls and/or vists more frequent, but not overly so.
When she's become accommodating and u both could be called friends.......you can drop subtle hints.
Flirt a little, but not out rightly, if she responds
well.. Amp it up..still not out rightly. Leave her
confused as to your intentions....
Eventually you feign disinterest(assuming everything goes as planned) she'll probably ask what's
wrong still feign disinterest..ignore her a little.
Absence they say makes the heart grow fonder.
Do this for like a week or so, then outta the blues
make known ur intentions
Hopefully it helps.
Ps.. I assume the lady is still single

BEst of LUCK

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Tenison96:
@OP How do I stop been a jerk? She likes me a lot, I know that, I like her too, but I just can't stop myself from being a jerk. Its not that I like been a jerk though

A jerk? How? Could you be more specific, it's rather ambiguous and vague

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HisRib:
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Thks for this thread tho..

1)Here is one pretty girl in d hall..actually this isnt the first time will hav been seen each other face b4...the girl is so carinq to me ehnn,she picked up mai tab,Charge it wit her system,come to mai seat and Returned mai charger..Carinq in short...I wanna try to approach that girl and have her num..I need some tips,Discussion dat she will av an interest in nd code to make it work out perfectly n av her num cuz diz girl in an eminence girl and I don't wanna mess up wit her at all or less myself... HELP!!!

2)I really like this girl so much,will talked for the
first time,xchange contact,Anytime will are together
in hall..She try to be fun, will talked
together,touched me,Share our feeling and
thought,Talked abt wat going in Hall,She do call me
where necessarry,She came to my Hostel to visit
me just for a once and left Immediately.. buh the
prbs is anytime I called her on phone,she is boring
during Conversation wit short short replied..
"fine" good" am
coming"no"yes"ok"when"why"Nothing much"I will"
bye"Evening'
In fact am tired of all this ,I don't no how to woo
her self and catch her feeling wit all this..
Nairalander shld give me tip to stop all this and
win her heart...

Hi, am a guy still schooling, 200lvl precisely. And I met this girl who I love very much; she once asked me to define the relationship and I told her I plan to take things to the next level but I want to know her better first. But now am thinking what would be the point of a relationship, we're the Godly type so there would be no sex and also I don't have a job yet (still years before I graduate) and am the kind of person wouldn't date for fun, I'd rather it end in marriage.
Is it reasonable that I ask her out cos I don't want to lose her

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There is this girl that works next to my house, I tripped d very first day I set my eyes on her but I am the shy type but had to come out of my shyness and just compliment her. And she really appreciated . This girl started showing some green lite , What I Observed then was that whenever she is in d midst of her colleague's and she see's me passing by. She would surely look for a way to draw ma attention there. So I walked up to her one night and she agreed to see me after work . She was walking home with her colleagues that night but she had to part with them and we went to her aunt's shop. Whenever I talk about us being together in the nearest future she just keep telling me to wake up to reality . I observed she used to touch me in the course of our conversation. I didn't look for her for 2 days , Just this night she saw me where I was sitting so she walked up and say hi. So I asked if I'll b seeing her 2nyt and she said yea . after work I saw her walking home with her colleagues so I stopped her . She said she would rather leave with them but she gave me her number and asked me to call, I need advice pls. What do u think?

1Cor10vs26:
Hi, am a guy still schooling, 200lvl precisely. And I met this girl who I love very much; she once asked me to define the relationship and I told her I plan to take things to the next level but I want to know her better first. But now am thinking what would be the point of a relationship, we're the Godly type THERE WOULD BE NO SEXand also I don't have a job yet (still years before I graduate) and am the kind of person wouldn't date for fun, I'd rather it end in marriage.
Is it reasonable that I ask her out cos I don't want to lose her

you see, that is one of the biggest misconceptions ever. relationships btwn a guy and girl isn't for sex. rather, it's to get to know each other well, and see if your compatible. case in point, yours...... you want one that will end in marriage. u don't just meet a person today, and get married the following Saturday. no, that's what relationships are for...to familiarize yourself with her, and vice versa. now, if the decision for no sex is mutual, and you indeed love her as u claim... then I say go for it. cos trust me...U're not the only guy with eyes on her. and she isn't gonna wait forever. there probably is someone else already. hence why she asked to DTR(define the relationship). so she knows where she stands with you.
in summary, yeah ask her out. and quick too

Donabydeco:

Thks for this thread tho..

1)Here is one pretty girl in d hall..actually this isnt the first time will hav been seen each other face b4...the girl is so carinq to me ehnn,she picked up mai tab,Charge it wit her system,come to mai seat and Returned mai charger..Carinq in short...I wanna try to approach that girl and have her num..I need some tips,Discussion dat she will av an interest in nd code to make it work out perfectly n av her num cuz diz girl in an eminence girl and I don't wanna mess up wit her at all or less myself... HELP!!!

2)I really like this girl so much,will talked for the
first time,xchange contact,Anytime will are together
in hall..She try to be fun, will talked
together,touched me,Share our feeling and
thought,Talked abt wat going in Hall,She do call me
where necessarry,She came to my Hostel to visit
me just for a once and left Immediately.. buh the
prbs is anytime I called her on phone,she is boring
during Conversation wit short short replied..
"fine" good" am
coming"no"yes"ok"when"why"Nothing much"I will"
bye"Evening'
In fact am tired of all this ,I don't no how to woo
her self and catch her feeling wit all this..
Nairalander shld give me tip to stop all this and
win her heart...

sorry, am confused here. these aren't the same person....., so, which one exactly do you like??

j0rdannkyle:


you see, that is one of the biggest misconceptions ever. relationships btwn a guy and girl isn't for sex. rather, it's to get to know each other well, and see if your compatible. case in point, yours...... you want one that will end in marriage. u don't just meet a person today, and get married the following Saturday. no, that's what relationships are for...to familiarize yourself with her, and vice versa. now, if the decision for no sex is mutual, and you indeed love her as u claim... then I say go for it. cos trust me...U're not the only guy with eyes on her. and she isn't gonna wait forever. there probably is someone else already. hence why she asked to DTR(define the relationship). so she knows where she stands with you.
in summary, yeah ask her out. and quick too

Wow, Tanx a lot.

One more thing, after the DTR questions nothing changed between us, we actually got closer. Someone told me that there's no need to ask her out and that I should just start acting as her boyfriend since she has shown such interest in me. Is this okay?

1Cor10vs26:
Wow, Tanx a lot.

One more thing, after the DTR questions nothing changed between us, we actually got closer. Someone told me that there's no need to ask her out and that I should just start acting as her boyfriend since she has shown such interest in me. Is this okay?

yeah, .....if thats the case, yeah you shouldn't.
but don't just act, become her boyfriend. and as much as possible make it known to her( just so no one is left behind). you could for example throw in a phrase like, "wow my girlfriend is looking real great today". it will have an even greater effect if u say it in the presence of other ppl.(like the one who advised u not to ask her out). cos now there are no more assumptions. you've made it known to not just her, but ur friends and colleagues. and at this point, I believe you have Defined the relationship

j0rdannkyle:


sorry, am confused here. these aren't the same person....., so, which one exactly do you like??

I like D second one...buh wanna make friends wit D first one.

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Alikaxon:
There is dis girl I've toasted before but didn't acept, so I moved on but she kept coming closer to me, sending me text nd all that. At these point, I thought she had changed her mind but couldn't say it verbally; So, I now wooed her again, I was surprised that she didn't stil acept, and I am not d type that continues to pester girls around, so I tried to forget totally about her but she is still coming close to me. The whole situation is funny, as in sometimes, she calls me twice a day. Not that we can't be frds if I toasted her nd she didn't acept but am amazed by her, bcox of these, I can't get over her bcox she always makes me think of her. What is she up to?? If she doesn't wana acept me, she shud let me be, so that I can get over her, nd not makin me feel she loves me. Yes! She is making me feel she love me and I don't understand. My brother, na so e be o, I really tire, wetin I go do?

this kind of tin don happen 2 me so many time, d solution is simple. Just play along and pretend u are already dating, try to light up conversation with her and pretend 2convide in her, as time goes on u can introduce touching.....believe me it works like magic

doxiler:
pls advice me,am a graduate, lookin4beta job. i saw a lady&we exchange no&I luv her so much& my intention is2settle down wit her.d problem am havin how is dat she wants us 2b friends bt i want2marry her.she only call me wen hvin problem, but am d one always calin sometime she seems my calls as disturbance thou I call she always.she doesnt gv attention bt want my attention.she gv me some moni to help her on trust.She told me of her boyfriend but tellin me what she wants in life.shld i leave her&go

she told u about her boyfriend? only calls u when she has problems.... considers ur calls as disturbances?? dude leave her and go, this isn't even friend zoning. she's just toying with you, and taking advantage of the feelings you have for her, as illustrated by her only calling when she needs ur assistance. to be honest, I doubt she even wants to be friends... she's just giving false hope.
my advice, is as u put it "leave her and go" she's not the one.
you'll find someone else... someone you'll love even more than now, someone who'll love u in return....

Tanx a lot @ Jordannkyle more grease to your elbow

@ Corinthians

from what U've said so far... she appears to be someone with her head at home, someone with prospects...
now, if I were to give an interpretation, I'd say she was talking to the both of you(herself, and you) and she's quite right too.. a relationship at this point ( age wise and stuff) will indeed be all of what she said, may make u lose focus. I don't think she's not interested, on the contrary, she's protecting her interests....in the sense that she's obviously( I may be speculating here) interested in you. but she not looking at just the present... but long term. she probably envisages a future with you... and for that to happen, u must indeed be focused. to me the underlying message isn't that she's not interested, it is that she is, but its not yet time( notice how she said, not just herself, but any other girl) am guessing she has dreams she needs to work towards, and so do u
if my I'm right (and I think I am) then she's definitely a keeper.
the question now is what do u want? a relationship with someone else?? whatever is ur answer will determine if you should or shouldn't revert to the status quo

I hope this helps... and sorry it's coming late

U're doing greatli j0rdannkyle. I musn't fail to commend ur invaluable effort, 'tho with little wonder where the Mother Bee had gone.
I think u're fitting in just as perfect as she could have,... Just keep keeping it real, bro..

IfyChuky:
U're doing greatli j0rdannkyle. I musn't fail to commend ur invaluable effort, 'tho with little wonder where the Mother Bee had gone.
I think u're fitting in just as perfect as she could have,... Just keep keeping it real, bro..

thanks bro.... and yeah, keeping it real

I dey come make I tell u my own

Please advise me on what to do, there's this girl I wooed about 6 or 7months now and she accepted to date me, so later one day I invited her to my house and she came with her friend but I complained about nt coming aalone but she promised to come alone next time but since then she doesn't want to come to my house again, the worst thing is that whenever she promise me that she'll come and when the day comes she will stop answering my calls so I wass so tired of her not answering call so I decideded not to call her again for like 2months I didn't call her, but last week saturday I called this girl and I invited her and she also came with friend but I explained to her how I love her and told her I want her to change and which she promised and even said she'll come back to my house the second day which was sunday but since on dat sunday now I have been calling her and texting her but nothing to hear from her... Please whaat should I do?

My female friend went to her boyfriend place. while they were making love, she discovered the guys dick was too small and she didn't feel a thing down there. Secondly, the guy doesn't know how to satisfy a woman. She left sad and unsatisfied. to her, she said if it was only to teach him how to satisfy a woman that she would have not been worried. But the dick was small. And there is nothing she can do about that one.
She don't want to hurt the guy bkx he loves her so much. But she can't do without a quality sex. Now she is thinking of quitting but first want my advice.

Etetejake:
Now she is thinking of quitting but first want my advice.

He should get the Di.ck enlarged(they are all over nairaland) and download books on how to satisfy a woman in bed.
It's not difficult.

Etetejake:
My female friend went to her boyfriend place. while they were making love, she discovered the guys dick was too small and she didn't feel a thing down there. Secondly, the guy doesn't know how to satisfy a woman. She left sad and unsatisfied. to her, she said if it was only to teach him how to satisfy a woman that she would have not been worried. But the dick was small. And there is nothing she can do about that one.
She don't want to hurt the guy bkx he loves her so much. But she can't do without a quality sex. Now she is thinking of quitting but first want my advice.

Trust me the biggest d*cks don't always guarantee mind blowing, toe curling, sex. (ever heard of the phrase "big for nothing" ).... Communication is key in every relationship. If she's invested in the relationship, She should sit him down and let him know... So he finds ways to deal with it ASAP.
If On the other hand she's not feeling the relationship( u didn't say if she loved him). Then... She should let him down easy. And yeah... He's gonna be heart broken, but he'll be even much so, If she gives into her unsatisfied urges, and cheats or something(how else is she gonna get the quality sex she apparently can't do without??)

Hope this helps...

I have a very troubling issue. I have a boyfriend I love so much and was thinking we'll get married soon. Well,he has decided to go back to school to study medicine because it has been his dream. When he told me,I supported him but am scared for us. Will this his dream not spoil things? I am 27 and he is 28. When will he finish the medicine and also considering the fact that he has no job but will be depending on support from his family,marriage will be the last thing on his mind till when he's through 6 years from now. Am so confuse right now, though he says we can still get married when he is in school,but I can't seem to bliv this because school is challenging and medicine for that matter. Is it wise for me to keep the relationship? I even find it hard loving any other person apart from him.

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Trust me the biggest d*cks don't always guarantee mind blowing, toe curling, sex. (ever heard of the phrase "big for nothing" ).... Communication is key in every relationship. If she's invested in the relationship, She should sit him down and let him know... So he finds ways to deal with it ASAP.
If On the other hand she's not feeling the relationship( u didn't say if she loved him). Then... She should let him down easy. And yeah... He's gonna be heart broken, but he'll be even much so, If she gives into her unsatisfied urges, and cheats or something(how else is she gonna get the quality sex she apparently can't do without??)

Hope this helps... [/q

She said she loves him though.

@ kingteeee

Am assuming, that was the first time u invited her, I think that friend she brought along was a fail safe. She didn't trust you not to try anything. And then u go ahead to complain.. Furthermore confirming her fears, u kept pressuring her to come visit(alone) and then u go another step further by not calling someone u supposedly love for 2 months. It paints this picture that u just wanted access to her pants and nothing else,(and let's face it why else would a guy. wanna be alone with a girl. I may b wrong tho)
And then again, u call back, out of the blues after 2 months. And u still complain about her not coming alone... Still sends the message that all u want is sex. And no one wants to be treated like a sex object.. Hence y she's been ignoring ur calls ( I think)
If u really love her, like u claim u do, then u keep trying, preferably meet her up one on one. Make her understand how u feel, let her know u're here to say (not hit and go) Gain her trust, don't invite her to ur house. Eventually, if u play ur cards right, she'll be the one to invite herself.

@ Etetejake


As I said b4, A big d*ck doesn't necessarily connote great sex. There are tons of Materials out there he could read to improve his game.
Now if she indeed loves him, fine. Communication. Let him know what's up. It'll probably bruise his ego,(but tough love) so try not to let it sting too much. But at the same time make sure the message is loud and clear

j0rdannkyle:
@ kingteeee

Am assuming, that was the first time u invited her, I think that friend she brought along was a fail safe. She didn't trust you not to try anything. And then u go ahead to complain.. Furthermore confirming her fears, u kept pressuring her to come visit(alone) and then u go another step further by not calling someone u supposedly love for 2 months. It paints this picture that u just wanted access to her pants and nothing else,(and let's face it why else would a guy. wanna be alone with a girl. I may b wrong tho)
And then again, u call back, out of the blues after 2 months. And u still complain about her not coming alone... Still sends the message that all u want is sex. And no one wants to be treated like a sex object.. Hence y she's been ignoring ur calls ( I think)
If u really love her, like u claim u do, then u keep trying, preferably meet her up one on one. Make her understand how u feel, let her know u're here to say (not hit and go) Gain her trust, don't invite her to ur house. Eventually, if u play ur cards right, she'll be the one to invite herself.

thank you so much, but she's a type girl that she'll never answer my call and I didn't know her house,so there's no way for me to show her love and to express myself, I even called her this evening with another line but immediately she heard that it was me she droped the call... So I text her that I'll never bother her again cause I think it's time I let her be cause it seems she don't want me or so

kingteeee:
thank you so much, but she's a type girl that she'll never answer my call and I didn't know her house,so there's no way for me to show her love and to express myself, I even called her this evening with another line but immediately she heard that it was me she droped the call... So I text her that I'll never bother her again cause I think it's time I let her be cause it seems she don't want me or so

Yh.... I think so too

Ok I met this girl sometime last year she's a ghanian and one of those pretender church girls we became really close friends and I went to see her in school this semester. Waited for her and she stood me up. After that time I told her she should consider our friendship dead cause I asked her what she was doing then and she said she was preparing for church. Who uses 5 hours to prepare for church. Didn't care anyway but ever since then she will call and whatsapp. She would try talking to me and all. I mean what does she really want.