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Spacebooking... And I actually lost that space, no thanks to ds fake UC Web browser.. Well, FTC on page 1, n I actually feel like FTC on page 1..

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BTTT, Op, na lie u dey lie, U sabi write like ds, n you no sabi toast girl, who you wan dey form 4?!.. NL ladies, beware, ds Op sabi wetin en dey do.

n ds chics bn dey fall already sha.. Chai!

If the Op is truly successful, naija babes would be all over him.

Ravenwolf:
Financially okay/ emotionally depleted.

That pretty sums up my life now.... I have always

this shows, we can't always have it all.

Socialize more bro.

Sorry dear. Its not really easy for successful people like us. Nice write up by th way

Well i think you should try harder and believe you'l find that one.
Besides i thought id be easier for guys, you are supposed to easily chase what you want. Unlike us, you have to wait to be found.
And don't regret your achievements- there are people out there who neither have achievements nor partners.
Also socialize more (i think)

Sorry op! U sound strong,
Heads up, this too shall pass

Men! I have this question in my head all the time...I thought I was the only one that felt this way.

loneliness is a choice. you are feeling that way cause you let your self feel that way. if it's that bad you could get a surrogate mother to give you kids. at least you would have something to worry about for the next 22 years

I need no more love... Just wanna be alone 4 now, bt those damn biitches won't let me be.

Hahaha... I never loved any of you.

And you guys explain why? I mean you're guys right? Why cant you just walk up to someone? (This is me being curious, not rude)

kay29000:
Men! I have this question in my head all the time...I thought I was the only one that felt this way.

Well no matter how bad n depressed you feel......................
Please dont think of committing suicide























Be calm ..............change your neighborhood ..............or better still start visiting public places ......





















Youre not the only one feeling depressed





Yes "we" Cos we'r Many here on nairaland





Not matter how bad things get













GOD is always here


For ME





YOU






N EveryOne who needs HELP






Even the arms of christ is wide Open











We are Here too .............


















Depression kills slowly but Christ heals Faster

Ishilove:
@Oraculus,

Eyah, how touching.

First things first, upload a profile picture.

Register with dating sites. There's no guarantee you will find your choice there, but you will have the experience of sifting through varied choices which in turn will boost your confidence.

Just be yourself, man. There's someone for everyone. I know this. Even if you're a geeky, anti-social person, there's a geeky anti-social woman somewhere going through what you're experiencing. You just need to be connected.

You can create a thread in the Dating and Meetup section, drop your contact details and let the searching sisters connect with you.

You're a good writer, BTW. I was captured by this line

"when the loneliness takes a humanoid form and glares at me over my shoulders"

It's so poetic and the imagery, startling... at least for me. Absolutely lovely.

this...

Dyt:
Seriously I am beginning to think this way

You too

Thought you're married?

Life is so funny that we cannot even understand,,,,man, your spirit is weak despite paying the utmost sacrifice of dedication, steadfastness and commitment to a worthy course only to be tossed around by loneliness, zero love life and emotional trauma. That special person that will appreciate your personality is not far from you. No matter what, there is someone out there for you.

theplushist:
And you guys explain why? I mean you're guys right? Why cant you just walk up to someone? (This is me being curious, not rude)

Let me speak for myself...I might ramble a lil while trying to explain myself. The thing is, you give your all to your passion (business, writing...whatever that thing is that has made you a success, or on the road to success), and you just don't have enough 'juice' left to really court/chase women. You want to, but your goal over-rides it. And when you really really need love/loving, you just feel you are incapable of just jumping into the dating ring like that, when you have not been doing any practicing like the average guy. You feel you would do/say the wrong thing. So, you settle for a girl with the least perceived resistance, which may not necessarily be your taste...and might just be like a short term thing, like a 'friend with benefit', cos you also don't want to commit to anyone...Cos you really really value your total freedom...cos you need that total freedom to keep succeeding at what you do.

Davvymavvy:
Life is so funny that we cannot even understand,,,,man, your spirit is weak despite paying the utmost sacrifice of dedication, steadfastness and commitment to a worthy course only to be tossed around by loneliness, zero love life and emotional trauma. That special person that will appreciate your personality is not far from you. No matter what, there is someone out there for you.

People need to learn how to be happy with themselves... Loneliness is a choice... nothing stops a person from socializing..

Dyt:
Seriously I am beginning to think this way

Are you lonely?

theplushist:
And you guys explain why? I mean you're guys right? Why cant you just walk up to someone? (This is me being curious, not rude)

why can't most NIGERIAN women just walk up to guys they like and start a discussion

I guess the person you are asking is also asking the same question... SO SPEAK UP

Dyt:
Seriously I am beginning to think this way

And you don't have a dp

Adaobi12:
this shows, we can't always have it all.

Socialize more bro.

Well in my case socialising more is not the answer, I do that already... I work in a large organisation, I get to interface and meet with lots of people.... Outside of work, my social life is also quite active... But then again, everyone's story is different as to why they haven't found love....

in summary,diz dude lacks social socialization together with ur high self esteem. change ur ego and see ur self bin connected.

Oraculus:
Sometimes I try to settle for someone around the corner but that fighter in me refuses to.. prefering to stick to my 'old glory' of getting the best and what I feel I deserve.

Maybe I deserve the best.. yes.. but not the best 'the one'..

I know that feeling.

.

think wat?

Ravenwolf:
Well in my case socialising more is not the answer, I do that already... I work in a large organisation, I get to interface and meet with lots of people.... Outside of work, my social life is also quite active... But then again, everyone's story is different as to why they haven't found love....

it is well.

One day we'd find what we are looking for, or maybe we won't? Maybe we'd find something better.

steppin:
If the Op is truly successful, naija babes would be all over him.

I dey look you..

theplushist:
And you guys explain why? I mean you're guys right? Why cant you just walk up to someone? (This is me being curious, not rude)

It is not about not been able to approach a girl, many guys do it everyday and still get turn down or later discover that they met the wrong one. It is not easy to find true this days for both gender now that people value material things and sex than anything. Even if a guy shows all the qualities of being the Mr right many girls will still want to friendzone him and prefer to date the mad guys that have more fun same as guys too. I am talking from personal experience, among all my close guys I am the one without a serious girlfriend even now without any but I am among the most lively.