Mature minds only please. Don’t judge me. I created this username just to get some advice. And also I don’t need anyone to do holier than thou, I’m not claiming to be a saint. For the purpose of this message I’ll call the name of one Seyi and the other Bimpe.

I was dating Seyi who’s about 4 years younger than me for about 1 year. We did our intro after 1 year but during the dating period, I noticed that she had an offensive odour down there, we talked about it once and she did tests but it wasn’t infection or anything like that. I had a friend in my office (Bimpe) that we were close but there was nothing between us. She’s 2 years older than me.

So, sometime after the intro, one thing led to another and I was just curious to know if I was the one over-reacting to the smell of Seyi down there or something, so I and Bimpe slept together and her smell was okay (I liked her but the motivation also included finding out if I was the one being paranoid about the smell). She uses Fem fresh (ladies should know what this is). Seyi also used Fem fresh somewhere along the line but the odour was still there.

To cut the long story short, somewhere along the line I and Seyi broke up and I and Bimpe started dating. I’m yet to introduce Bimpe to my folks but I’ve met her folks.

Now my dilemma, Seyi is more homely and stuff, more prayerful and taller than Bimpe, (I like taller babes), and we are more compatible than myself and Bimpe. I make much more than Seyi. My friends know Seyi but don’t know about Bimpe yet.
Bimpe on the other hand is richer than I am, not as prayerful and we aren’t as compatible as Seyi and myself. And Bimpe is more of a high maintenance chick but she has her business in addition to the work so can handle her expenses.

Seyi because of her job will have more time to assist me than Bimpe who also has to deal with her business and is more of a rich person’s kid kind of. Both of their dads’ are late.

Challenges:
I and Bimpe work in the same office, I’ve actually met her folks, but I find it hard to call it off. Maybe cos we keep seeing each other. I kinda think Seyi would be better for me but get turned off when I think of the odour and what I have to pass through by meeting her folks after the damage done with her folks cos of my breaking it off.
If I’m with Seyi, I’d probably carry most of the financial load but she’s not high maintenance and we will be able to cope. If I’m with Bimpe, she can contribute more but then that probably means that while Seyi will be okay to stay with me where my finances can secure a building in the long term even in places like Ogun state (close to Lagos like the Berger, Opic etc), Bimpe will not mind contributing so that we stay in an area that’s more highbrow like Lekki and stuffs.
I’m also worried about the age of Bimpe and having kids, if I stayed with her and the kids don’t come on time then what? I and Seyi tried for kids earlier when we were together but it didn’t happen, maybe cos we didn’t try long enough, (about 6 months).
I and Seyi are talking again after the break but I’m hesitant about going ahead again cos I don’t know if the smell’s still there (we’ve not slept together) and if it’s there, what do I do again? Call it off? Or do I just go ahead with Bimpe? We are not allowed to date in my organization but she says she can resign and concentrate on her biz if it gets to that point. I told Seyi about the affair with Bimpe but told her I'd called it off.

If there are any specific clarifications you need before you can advise me, please ask.
Mods, I’d appreciate it if this doesn’t make front page as I’m sure Seyi uses Nairaland. Thanks.

your first line will not make me read your story.

when you live fake life online with your old moniker, then you will create new one to solve your problem

To be frank, I'd say forget them both. If you can't do that kindly stick to Bimpe.

You cannot stand the odour today. Don't think you will grow to accommodate it tomorrow.

Maybe u should just get another new chick and forget the two of them

I understand your dilemma op. Very intriguing, especially because it has to do with choosing a lifelong partner.

Bimpe is 6 years younger than Sheyi, rich, uptown and clean...

I will get back to you later. Just relax.

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If u truly luv seyi,wil suggest u help her out in her condition. She should go c a pastor. Since according 2 u,d smell isn't as a result of infection.

Brugo:

To be frank, I'd say forget them both. If you can't do that kindly stick to Bimpe.
You cannot stand the odour today. Don't think you will grow to accommodate it tomorrow.

She says the smell has stopped. But I'd have to sleep with her before I know that and wouldn't want to sleep with her and if its still there, break up with her again. I think that may hurt her spirit more.

StPete:
Maybe u should just get another new chick and forget the two of them

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I really don't want to start changing babes again. And not even sure what one will meet out there.

pretydiva:
If u truly luv seyi,wil suggest u help her out in her condition. She should go c a pastor. Since according 2 u,d smell isn't as a result of infection.

Don't know about this one cos some pastors may start doing the no fornication thing.

Seyi's PH balance is off thats why she has an odour down there. She needs to ditch Femfresh and use water only (no douches). She needs to start wearing knickers that are 100% cotton. Tell her to avoid wearing thongs and anything tight like skinny jeans and ish. Also, no underwear in bed either. She needs to allow that area to breath. She should also try not to use the same pads doing her menstrual cycle for tooo long. 4 hours tops. Most importantly she needs to watch what she eats. She needs to eat clean/healthy.

arinolaa:
Seyi's PH balance is off thats why she has an odour down there. She needs to ditch Femfresh and use water only (no douches). She needs to start wearing knickers that are 100% cotton. Tell her to avoid wearing thongs and anything tight like skinny jeans and ish. Also, no underwear in bed either. She needs to allow that area to breath. She should also try not to use the same pads doing her menstrual cycle for tooo long. 4 hours tops. Most importantly she needs to watch what she eats. She needs to eat clean/healthy.

Thanks. arinolaa. If she does this, how long do you think it'll be before we notice any changes? I know its a kinda sensitive thing for ladies, but I don't want to start and we just keep waiting till God knows when...

arinolaa:
Seyi's PH balance is off thats why she has an odour down there. She needs to ditch Femfresh and use water only (no douches). She needs to start wearing knickers that are 100% cotton. Tell her to avoid wearing thongs and anything tight like skinny jeans and ish. Also, no underwear in bed either. She needs to allow that area to breath. She should also try not to use the same pads doing her menstrual cycle for tooo long. 4 hours tops. Most importantly she needs to watch what she eats. She needs to eat clean/healthy.

Thanks. arinolaa. If she does this, how long do you think it'll be before we notice any changes? I know its a kinda sensitive thing for ladies, but I don't want to start and we just keep waiting till God knows when. Cos I think she saw some Doctors' on it and there were no changes...

femboye2015:


Thanks. arinolaa. If she does this, how long do you think it'll be before we notice any changes? I know its a kinda sensitive thing for ladies, but I don't want to start and we just keep waiting till God knows when. Cos I think she saw some Doctors' on it and there were no changes...

No problem. Two weeks tops.

arinolaa:

No problem. Two weeks tops.

okay. Thanks. That's not too long. Will keep my fingers crossed.

I prefer seyi to bimpe cos both of you are more compatible and she's homely. concerning her odour, she should avoid going to bed with pants so as to allow fresh air

Take the average. As in add seyi+bimpe den divide by 2... Thank me later

oluwadamilolah:
I prefer seyi to bimpe cos both of you are more compatible and she's homely. concerning her odour, she should avoid going to bed with pants so as to allow fresh air

Thanks. Will discuss with her and see how it goes.

im not gonna yab but be blunt with u

dude if smelly P is d issue den u personally have an issue urself cos she sounds more perfect for u than d other
what's relationship when u cant help each other get over problems? first issue ure running for the hills, what will happen after u marry and ur wife has a baby and she doesnt look as sexy anymore?
if u wanna date for fun dats a dift story but when it comes to someone u want to marry then think twice
u work tru things not away from dem?
there are a lot of remedies for smelly P and they work, try and work the miles urself and help her even just as a friend

femboye2015:


Thanks. Will discuss with her and see how it goes.

you are welcome