iswearinowell:
abeg wetin be dutch?? buh if its wat am thinking, then it'll only happen after RAPTURE

Jollyjoy:
like seriously? U asked a gal out and u sure expected her to pay her bills? Infact u are nt serious! So why hammering "it a man's world" mtheeew uhu? Common bill o.

Its very obvious you lack comprehension skills.

Madam look at the title of the thread and come back to quote me sensibly.

If not just remain on your dumb lane let me see more sane people to converse with.



Common bill? You said.

So how many times have you paid for a bill when you go out on a date?

You seriously sound like a typical nigerian broke girl.

Mtchew!

naijaboiy:
When a coçk starts to lay eggs

A coçk actually lays egg when it becomes old though.

AgapeCharis:
A coçk actually lays egg when it becomes old though.

AgapeCharis:
A coçk actually lays egg when it becomes old though.

Are you kidding me?

Abi no be hen dey lay egg again?

naijaboiy:

Well i've read your previous post thoroughly and I didn't see where you referred to both genders so concluded you were talking about the male folks only.
And besides in this part of the world it's generally the male folks who ask a girl out on dates.
As for your other points,,they are well stated and that was what I was trying to prove too.

DollyParton1:
Not every male wants a lady to go dutch or whatever u call it.
And some lady will share the bills or even pay for everything.
The thing is when u invite a girl out on a date, be ready to foot the bills.

DollyParton1:

Because thats how it should be. When I invite you out on a date, I should foot the bill except if u object.

DollyParton1:

Thats common sense. He or she was on their own jejely, u approached them and asked to take them to lunch/dinner. What if they don't have money at that point?
I think if you want them to split the bills with you, you should let them know beforehand.

naijaboiy:

Are you kidding me?

Abi no be hen dey lay egg again?

AgapeCharis:
True. A coçk lays egg when he's old. Those that grew up in the village in the 80's or early 90's should know this.

angieberry:
This kind of thread though.
So, why is paying for bills on a date such a big issue? It takes two to go on a date and it depends on the agreement between the couple on how the bill is settled.
I've read all the comments and I've concluded that most guys think that Nigerian girls are nothing but greedy, blood sucking leeches,which is untrue. I guess it depends on the type of girls you meet.
Now, in this part of the world, it is our mentality that it is the guy who takes care of the girl, it's the guys that takes the girl out and pays for whatever she takes. If you as a guy have a problem with that, it won't do you any harm to tell the girl that she will foot her own bills. You can imagine how rude that will sound. So you cannot compare Nigeria to 'other parts of the world'.
I'm not saying it's wrong to expect a girl to play dutch or whatever you called it, its just that it's a concept that's is not really popular among the ladies.

You girls keep saying it depends on the type of girls you meet. This has got me wondering if there are other sets of persons called "different girls" in this Nigeria. Abegi!
Abi have you met them? @Ronald4lif @Naijaboiy

AgapeCharis:
You girls keep saying it depends on the type of girls you meet. This has got me wondering if there are other sets of persons called "different girls" in this Nigeria. Abegi!
Abi have you met them? @Ronald4lif @Naijaboiy

AgapeCharis:
You girls keep saying it depends on the type of girls you meet. This has got me wondering if there are other sets of persons called "different girls" in this Nigeria. Abegi!
Abi have you met them? @Ronald4lif @Naijaboiy

treesh:


That's because you keep going for the same type
To the issue at hand, it is mainly because of the stereotypical roles society hands to us. Maybe I'll foot the bill at a date one of this days

DollyParton1:




Ok I agreed, my mistake. This one post is the only place I referred to the male folks. But I redeemed myself later on when I broke it down.


Then I said thats what I would do. I am female and there is no way this was exclusively referring to male.


And this referred to both gender.
So what are u talking about?

AgapeCharis:
The stereotype appears to be true actually. It's a fact that a great percentage(that renders the other percentage insignificant) of girls we have here in our country are parasitic in nature. They expect the guy to carry the financial burden alone because he is the man.

Just from your above post, I can deduce that you have not for once foot the bills on a date and you even used "maybe" to refer to a future date which means you may end up deciding not to do so.

On this subject, a great great percentage of you are all the same.

I thought I was the only one who saw that.

"Maybe" she would pay for a date one of these days.

SMH

It's not even as if we men want these ladies to be paying for these bills. But the moment they brought up that "come to my house syndrome" we also had to attack them back with the "going dutch" method.

Abi nor be so?

treesh:


That's because you keep going for the same type
To the issue at hand, it is mainly because of the stereotypical roles society hands to us. Maybe I'll foot the bill at a date one of this days

angieberry:
Well the way y'all keep on tagging Nigerian girls to evil, I naturally assume that you come in contact with the wrong girls. Most girls I interact with are not the money loving, blood sucking, gold digging witches you describe.

AgapeCharis:
You girls keep saying it depends on the type of girls you meet. This has got me wondering if there are other sets of persons called "different girls" in this Nigeria. Abegi!
Abi have you met them? @Ronald4lif @Naijaboiy

AgapeCharis:
I beg to differ miss. An average Nigerian girl has leeching and gold-digging tendencies. Some leech consciously as in intentionally milking a guy's pocket while the others just see it that it's a guy's responsibility to foot her bills.

naijaboiy:

I thought I was the only one who saw that.

"Maybe" she would pay for a date one of these days.

SMH

It's not even as if we men want these ladies to be paying for these bills. But the moment they brought up that "come to my house syndrome" we also had to attack them back with the "going dutch" method.

Abi nor be so?

Na so o.
They can't eat their cake and have it.

AgapeCharis:
Na so o.
They can't eat their cake and have it.

At all mehn!

They want to win both ways.

angieberry:
I'm an average Nigerian girl. I don't have those tendencies.
Again, the wrong girls.

So how about a date some day so you can prove it.

*woman wrapper mode on*

angieberry:
Well the way y'all keep on tagging Nigerian girls to evil, I naturally assume that you come in contact with the wrong girls. Most girls I interact with are not the money loving, blood sucking, gold digging witches you describe.

naijaboiy:

Well I won't lie. I haven't met leeches among the girls i've encountered so far.

But it doesn't strike out the fact that they are in the majority,,sadly.

I may just be a lucky guy.

Yea, you're lucky. Those girls are among what we call negligible value in Physics.
Most of them now go wan dey build office for guy head.

angieberry:
I'm an average Nigerian girl. I don't have those tendencies.
Again, the wrong girls.

ronald4lif:


You and your clique of friends might not fall within the category of girls our submission was illustrating and your friends are a teenier fraction on the larger scale of girls who expect men to pick up the bills on a first date.

We normally wouldn't complain as I personally would love to foot the bills but our reaction was based on the footings of ladies on a thread that propelled the OP to come up with this one. On that thread, most ladies frowned at the Nigerian guys attitude of always inviting a girl to their homes rather than a public place, which in most cases restaurant.

They cited Western custom as their reason. But forgetting or shying away from the fact in same Western it's a culture for a woman to pay for her own bills, most of the time.

For the records, this western culture is observed by indigenious Westerners not Nigerian immigrants as a lot of them aren't different from their ilks in Nigeria.

AgapeCharis:
Yea, you're lucky. Those girls are among what we call negligible value in Physics.
Most of them now go wan dey build office for guy head. Okay. I've got a question for you though. Have you at any time asked a guy out on a date and foot the bills?? A simple yes or no will do.

ronald4lif:


Good question. I hope she answers that sincerely.

She has to.

Insidous:


Same here

Although I know most Nigerian ladies are like that, at the same time it is very easy to meet a decent, well-mannered, independent and beautiful Nigerian lady. So what are your problems?

naijaboiy:

So how about a date some day so you can prove it.

*woman wrapper mode on*

ronald4lif:


Don't get into a crossfire, miss. This thread is like a revenge of one created today were guys got lambasted for inviting girls to their homes. How can you people expect a date out in a restaurant and place all the bills on the guys shoulder?. And when they employ ways of cutting cost and minimising expenditure it becomes a problem?. It's payback time.

DollyParton1:


Did u read my post thoroughly? Did you notice I referred to both gender? Whether you are male or female, if you invite anyone out to lunch or whatever, you should be ready to foot the bills. If you can't foot the bills exclusively, let him/her know before hand.

I have gone out with couple of guys who had to caution me to keep my wallet anytime am with a guy, that a lady shouldn't pay for anything in the presence of a guy. One even went ahead to say its an insult on his person. I am the type of person that will bring out my wallet when the bill is presented, its left to the guy if he wants to share the bills with me or not. And if I am broke, I would let the guy know before hand.

And if a girl refuse to go on a second date because you asked her to split the bill with u, you should be happy. It just goes to show she is after your money. Or aren't u guys always complaining about girls trying to dig your golds.
If I see what I like in a guy, except the splitting bills side, I will still go on second and even third date with him. Onky if his reason for splitting the bills with me doesn't sit well with me, would I refuse to go on more dates with him.