naijaboiy:
When a coçk starts to lay eggs

vizkiz:
believe me op, they'v gat no idea what they are typing about on that other thread...

I bet some biitches will soon come here to defend themselves like the coconut head above me...just chill a lil more of them dey come

DollyParton1:
Not every male wants a lady to go dutch or whatever u call it.
And some lady will share the bills or even pay for everything.
The thing is when u invite a girl out on a date, be ready to foot the bills.

naijaboiy:

Why?

AirstarKane:
What's the meaning of "Dutch"? Is it your own slang?

DollyParton1:

Because thats how it should be. When I invite you out on a date, I should foot the bill except if u object.

Which rule says that I must foot the bills if I invite you on a date?

What happened to paying for yours?

naijaboiy:

Which rule says that I must foot the bills if I invite you on a date?

What happened to paying for yours?

Basildvalour:
Some do but really, its not our tradition. It is a tradition thing common to a specific kind of people and adopted by others and that is why it is called DUTCH though few people try to do it.


We believe the guy, according to our tradition should clear the bill. HE IS THE MAN they'll say.

AirstarKane:
What's the meaning of "Dutch"? Is it your own slang?

DollyParton1:

Thats common sense. He or she was on their own jejely, u approached them and asked to take them to lunch/dinner. What if they don't have money at that point?
I think if you want them to split the bills with you, you should let them know beforehand.

naijaboiy:

Now you are making the fact that you agreed to go on a date with a guy like it's a favour of some sort.

I thought you agree to go out on a date with a guy because you probably like him or you are also interested in wanting to know more about him too.

So why should everything be on his head because he's the one who asked you out.

How many times have you,,as a woman told a guy "let's talk over lunch"?

You already feel it's a guy's duty and therefore you summed it up with this mentality.

@your last sentence. If I tell a nigerian girl that we are both going to share the bills on our date,,how many of them,,including you will like to go out on a second date with that guy?

Please be sincere to yourself.

ronald4lif:

Gbammest comment. Don't mind those flimsy excuse of these girls as reason for not splitting the bills with a man on a first date. This parasitic mentality of our girls should stop. That a man invited you for a date doesn't mean he has to pick the bills alone. When we're out on a date we foot the bills not because it's right but because it has become a tradition.

In some parts of the world a man won't even dare pay for a woman's meals on a date. The woman will tell you straight up that's embarrassing and demeaning and you shouldn't dare next time. You needed to see the thread the OP is talking about and the traffic it generated. The NL ladies were all there having a feast and gallivanting about how visiting a guys place it's wrong and that a date should be at a public place. And yet they are dismissing splitting of bills and shifting the responsibility to the man.

I join the OP in asking, why does these ladies reject the supposedly Western custom of meeting a guy in a public place but ignore the fact that in same Western society it's a culture for everyone to pay for their refreshment and consumables?.

Bro,,i saw that thread and I unfollowed it out of anger after reading through a few pages.

The ladies there were just ranting unrealistic droppings.

Honestly if I had decided to pick an argument with one of them it may turn dirty. That topic was too sensitive for my liking.

Guys like cooogar and timbuktoou really did justice to the topic and they spoke my mind.

That thread has really caused a stir in the romance and family section today and it will last for a while

naijaboiy:

Now you are making the fact that you agreed to go on a date with a guy like it's a favour of some sort.

I thought you agree to go out on a date with a guy because you probably like him or you are also interested in wanting to know more about him too.

So why should everything be on his head because he's the one who asked you out.

How many times have you,,as a woman told a guy "let's talk over lunch"?

You already feel it's a guy's duty and therefore you summed it up with this mentality.

@your last sentence. If I tell a nigerian girl that we are both going to share the bills on our date,,how many of them,,including you will like to go out on a second date with that guy?

Please be sincere to yourself.

naijaboiy:

Which rule says that I must foot the bills if I invite you on a date?

What happened to paying for yours?

DollyParton1:


Did u read my post thoroughly? Did you notice I referred to both gender? Whether you are male or female, if you invite anyone out to lunch or whatever, you should be ready to foot the bills. If you can't foot the bills exclusively, let him/her know before hand.

I have gone out with couple of guys who had to caution me to keep my wallet anytime am with a guy, that a lady shouldn't pay for anything in the presence of a guy. One even went ahead to say its an insult on his person. I am the type of person that will bring out my wallet when the bill is presented, its left to the guy if he wants to share the bills with me or not. And if I am broke, I would let the guy know before hand.

And if a girl refuse to go on a second date because you asked her to split the bill with u, you should be happy. It just goes to show she is after your money. Or aren't u guys always complaining about girls trying to dig your golds.
If I see what I like in a guy, except the splitting bills side, I will still go on second and even third date with him. Onky if his reason for splitting the bills with me doesn't sit well with me, would I refuse to go on more dates with him.

Jollyjoy:
aren"t u ashamed ?

Ashamed of what?

Oh! You are one of them girls with that crappy mentality right?

Mtchew!

naijaboiy:
Ashamed of what?
Oh! You are one of them girls with that crappy mentality right?
Mtchew!

naijaboiy:

Ashamed of what?

Oh! You are one of them girls with that crappy mentality right?

Mtchew!

DollyParton1:


Did u read my post thoroughly? Did you notice I referred to both gender? Whether you are male or female, if you invite anyone out to lunch or whatever, you should be ready to foot the bills. If you can't foot the bills exclusively, let him/her know before hand.

I have gone out with couple of guys who had to caution me to keep my wallet anytime am with a guy, that a lady shouldn't pay for anything in the presence of a guy. One even went ahead to say its an insult on his person. I am the type of person that will bring out my wallet when the bill is presented, its left to the guy if he wants to share the bills with me or not. And if I am broke, I would let the guy know before hand.

And if a girl refuse to go on a second date because you asked her to split the bill with u, you should be happy. It just goes to show she is after your money. Or aren't u guys always complaining about girls trying to dig your golds.
If I see what I like in a guy, except the splitting bills side, I will still go on second and even third date with him. Onky if his reason for splitting the bills with me doesn't sit well with me, would I refuse to go on more dates with him.