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I think the spirit of sex have possessed u already and u have to be very careful. just go close God if u want that to spirit to leave u.

Hmmmmm

ezechima132:
its happening to me too, i dont enjoy sex with my wife any more, she is 6 months preg, she is now the one requesting for sex, i have a high sex drive i have another lady am planning marrying this christmass, the cause of this is that my wive has a very very very loose vagina, men i dont enjoy anythinf from it

Well, dis same tin hppnd 2my cousin bt we leta found out dat d husband is even having a wife nd kids b4 marrying her wtout knowing so he spends most of his tym out claiming is work work work, bt i blv u see dis one most of d times unlike, den dere mst b sum devil sumwhr 4rm ur family YES i said ur family due 2 envy manipulating him. Lady plz seek d face of GOD 4rm a very knwn and strong man of GOD okk??

And as 4 d lust, nor try am ooo because fowl wen Oba won kil na only neck he dey fat!!! See yaaaa

Shave ur toto and armpit if ee no walk go buy dilido or cucumber and do the needful shekina!

U are just starting fresh madness

R u scared he will fyiok outside or is it tht u want to dry up ur wet klit?

biaka1994:
Please I just need your advice or advices which ever of them. I met my husband in 2013 things were going on well and sweet. We normally make love almost every minute of the day so much dat I got used to it. When we got married and I got pregnant my husband became so cold towards sex I thought maybe he was scared of my pregnancy. Some times i'll have to beg him to make love to me. After much begging he'll reluctantly do it. I gave birth and I thought things would change but it's all the same. I keep begging and begging I have just decided to be myself and take my mind of it. The only person I talk to is his cousin and have become so close to him that am beginning to lust after him he is married tho but he lives close to us. Just this evening I nearly kissed him and I felt so embarrassed. Please guys help me it's Getting out of hand. What do I do? Please no bashing we all are humans and we do silly things atimes.




Cc: Lalasticlala

ah detest it wen people are so obsessed with desires of the flesh

Fact: Nobody except you can make him touch you or make love to you again. Mind you, never discuss your sexual life with a known third party is just too bad and if it gets back to him there will be consequences.

Do this, my wife uses it for me , i just found out and it works. Pray a lot for him, discuss his work and work related issues with him. Discuss his problem and try to proffer good suggestion. Stress and other psychological issues. If he feels more relaxed , he will beg you for sex and not the other way round. And lastly, cook him good sex stimulating home made meals and eat with him or watch him eat, pamper him . When was the last time you prepared his bathe and offered to bathe him despite him protesting? He is your baby despite being the head of the family. But the way how many books and tapes on marriage have you read or listened to.

gidjah:
then just hope u r not getting too mouthy for him o!,its either he is phsycologically worried with things ,ie the reality of matrimony has pretty dawn on him good time.u will be d one to help out in this case , don't know about his financial status ... But if it is not too nice then u might have to get something doing ma, u will need to help him augument home needs , your familly needs are there too u know ?so pls try getting a job or may be petty trader.Then the next matter is if u r a financial time bomb at home ! Have you bin helping him to manage the home funds?have really help him to be prudent with finance ?...pls work that out. If your mouth is caustic, you shall also need some panel beating in that sector.finally;be sure he is not seeing a stranger some where, hope he isn't the type fomerly...

the life of a woman! D's world is so unfair... she should do this ...do that...do this and that. what is marriage is there is only one sided? oh...the life of a woman!

@ezechima132

(its happening to me too, i dont enjoy sex with my wife any more, she is 6 months preg, she is now the one requesting for sex, i have a high sex drive i have another lady am planning marrying this christmass, the cause of this is that my wive has a very very very loose vagina, men i dont enjoy anythinf from it).

I write this with a heavy heart of a sort. Your wife`s dilemma was caused by child birth, another joy of womanhood. This problem can be corrected through specialized exercise and medically. Kindly discuss this with your spouse while working at seeking remedy together. As a fellow man, we must accept the responsibilities of living up to our marriage vows and pride of manhood. With due respect, I hope u are not taking advanatage of the current predicament (which can solved) to fulfill your lust. How will u feel if u suffer some disabilities imparting on ur sexuality and ur wife takes advantage of that to cheat on u or leave u for another man. Another wife does not solve this problem(amicably), what if she also suffers the same fate? Pls jettison the idea of a second wife and stay true to the wife of ur youth by solving `you problems` together. Best

ezechima132:
who is talking of divorce here am not dicorcing anybody. Am making them two, how many wives had abraam ,isaac, jacob etc

It won't still solve d problem, u will find another fault in d new one n den decide to go for another. manage d one u have n solve d problem. thank u

ArchEnemy:
Why not sit down and have a 'heart to heart ' discussion with your husband. You need to dig deep to know the reasons for his action. And kill that lust Sister before it kills your home

Seconded

OYO

Joavid:
Lol. If you had not included the bolded, I would have thought someone hacked your account.

Nice advice BTW

i did get banned for a week though lmao for tribalizing threads. trust you are fine

Eyaah ok first of all know da major reason that warrant ur hubby to avoid and secondly put everything in hands of God to control ok!I wish u gud dear ok

Elvis506:
Nairaland supposed screen some people well...who be dis mad fellow?

Na u be mad fellow wetin concern u I mention ur name back off before u get smack down

OH MY GOODNESS WHAT KIND OF PROBLEM IS THIS??

OP I'm sorry, I haven't married and I don't have specific advice to give but I am praying for your situation, that all that is knotted in this may be loosened, that all that is unclear should become clear.

Read through all the advice that has been meted out to you on this forum, evaluate it and decide for yourself which approach is best.

If you have any relations or very good friends you can discuss this with please do, but keep the number of people you tell to a minimum.

Please take heart, what is hot must surely become cold. The problem you are facing will with time fade away but you need to approach it with caution and maturity.

*****AND DON'T, I REPEAT DO NOT DO ANYTHING WITH THAT COUSIN!!!!!!! IT IS A SURE PATH TO DESTRUCTION!!!!!!!*******

Goshhhh what doesn't kill us makes us very strong indeed!
Very best of luck!!

Na wetin make i like oyibo. They don't manage marriage. Divorce him and move on!!! It should be a symbiotic relationship. No party has the right to torture the other.

OnyeIbo:
Na wetin make i like oyibo. They don't manage marriage. Divorce him and move on. Its should be a symbiotic relationship. No party has the right to torture the other.

but how many times can somebody do that? how do you know the next person wont be worse

biaka1994:
Please I just need your advice or advices which ever of them. I met my husband in 2013 things were going on well and sweet. We normally make love almost every minute of the day so much dat I got used to it. When we got married and I got pregnant my husband became so cold towards sex I thought maybe he was scared of my pregnancy. Some times i'll have to beg him to make love to me. After much begging he'll reluctantly do it. I gave birth and I thought things would change but it's all the same. I keep begging and begging I have just decided to be myself and take my mind of it. The only person I talk to is his cousin and have become so close to him that am beginning to lust after him he is married tho but he lives close to us. Just this evening I nearly kissed him and I felt so embarrassed. Please guys help me it's Getting out of hand. What do I do? Please no bashing we all are humans and we do silly things atimes.




Cc: Lalasticlala

You need deliverance in a Mountain of FIRE church.

Gurgle:
but how many times can somebody do that? how do you know the next person wont be worse

what are u saying? That because this husband is bad, every other husbands will be bad? Blacks and poor reasoning. What happened to probability. The current husband is bad 100%, a future partner is bad 50%. Soot yasef.

MrPresident1:
When you get married, you get married to a human being, warts and all. To make the profound decision to get married to someone, to want to share a lifetime with a special person, is to accept the person with all apparent or inherent faults.

We all will change physically, so only a fickle minded human being will start avoiding a spouse because he or she begins to show the inevitable signs of aging (or the permanent or transient changes that pregnanc(ies) will bring). At this point is where a marriage becomes more of a companionship and less of a sexual union, the wine getting better with age. Marriage is beyond the physical looks so if one has chosen well, when you have yanshed yourself to 'stuporous' satisfaction, you then begin to appreciate the finer details of your companion, details especially of the mind.

To have sex every single second of a young marriage is not wrong, and for a woman to play hard to get for a man who has paid her bride price is the height of foolishness. Except she is ill or otherwise indisposed, the first few months of a marriage or a relationship for that matter is a period of wild sex. sex everywhere everytime, until the calming down to the real business of matrimony.

They are no longer twain but one, your elvis presley example is a bad example to cite.

[b]you made great points which will be well received in an ideal world. however this is not an ideal world and some people refuse to deal with the fact that the union has morphed into companionship. some people want to yansh till dey enter grave lmao

and secondly you say we all change physically so we have to deal with it and accept our partners as they change. nigga puhleezeeee this is just idealistic talk. it is not reality. i am dealing with reality not fantasy. if you stop trying to look good then expect your partner to stop wanting to yansh you. it is what it is.

and then you said to restrain yourself from someone who has paid your bride price is foolish. well in that case you have to be ready for the law of diminishing returns to hit your union quicker. there is a reason why marriages dont last anymore. people dont restrain themselves anymore. you yansh the hell out of each other in the first two years and then you cant stand to think about yanshing the same person again after so many times which is why most young couples are divorcing at a faster rate. so, its your choice. marriage is like a bank account, it has to be managed very well. you cant just go and withdraw all your money as soon as you get paid and expect to be rich. you have to leave some for the raining day. same with s-ex and marriage. the problem with all these demonic people of today is instant gratification. let me yansh the hell out of this woman. then two years down the line you are tired of seeing her naked you will pay her to keep her clothes on lmao[/b]

ezechima132:
its happening to me too, i dont enjoy sex with my wife any more, she is 6 months preg, she is now the one requesting for sex, i have a high sex drive i have another lady am planning marrying this christmass, the cause of this is that my wive has a very very very loose vagina, men i dont enjoy anything from it

Loose vagina is not a reason to marry another woman o. Kegel exercise can help her get tight down there. Why not discuss with her instead

Talk to your husband


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OnyeIbo:
what are u saying? That because this husband is bad, every other husbands will be bad? Blacks and poor reasoning. What happened to probability. The current husband is bad 100%, a future partner is bad 50%. Soot yasef.

not that but the devil you know is better than the angel you don't

since OP doesn't actually know what the guys problem is and the matter is still unsettled I don't see why we should be throwing the word "divorce" around so casually. she can still work on it unless it has become clear that it would be better to part ways

plus we cant compare ideas of divorce between Africans and "oyibos" without considering the many socioeconomic and cultural differences that exist

OnyeIbo:
what are u saying? That because this husband is bad, every other husbands will be bad? Blacks and poor reasoning. What happened to probability. The current husband is bad 100%, a future partner is bad 50%. Soot yasef.

100%? He may have some turn off that he hasn't gotten over subconsciously. Don't be too quick to judge. There are ladies who can't get themselves to have sex with their husbands because of unaddressed abuses piled up in there subconscious mind. Doesn't make them bad. Human psychology is complex.

I wish the man will go for counseling sha. But I hope he is not masturbating o. That one too ...

PMIcon:
100%? He may have some turn off that he hasn't gotten over subconsciously. Don't be too quick to judge. There are ladies who can't get themselves to have sex with their husbands because of unaddressed abuses piled up in there subconscious mind. Doesn't make them bad. Human psychology is complex.

I wish the man will go for counseling sha. But I hope he is not masturbating o. That one too ...

You pile shiiit in ur mind and ur marriage is suffering cause of that? That's a more reason to divorce his azzz. Mcheww. I and many other men wont allow ma marriage to suffer just cause of crap feeling. Whatever happened to discussion.

biaka1994:
Please I just need your advice or advices which ever of them. I met my husband in 2013 things were going on well and sweet. We normally make love almost every minute of the day so much dat I got used to it. When we got married and I got pregnant my husband became so cold towards sex I thought maybe he was scared of my pregnancy. Some times i'll have to beg him to make love to me. After much begging he'll reluctantly do it. I gave birth and I thought things would change but it's all the same. I keep begging and begging I have just decided to be myself and take my mind of it. The only person I talk to is his cousin and have become so close to him that am beginning to lust after him he is married tho but he lives close to us. Just this evening I nearly kissed him and I felt so embarrassed. Please guys help me it's Getting out of hand. What do I do? Please no bashing we all are humans and we do silly things atimes.




Cc: Lalasticlala

don't ignore my comment.

maybe you have gotten fat.

Before to do enything you need serious investigation may be he has eny relationship outside and get tired before he get home. And stay away from his cousin

OnyeIbo:
You pile shiiit in ur mind and ur marriage is suffering cause of that? That's a more reason to divorce his azzz. Mcheww. I and many other men wont allow ma marriage to suffer just cause of crap feeling. Whatever happened to discussion.

You still don't get it. SUBCONSCIOUS. It is not in the conscious mind. Trying to act against it may even make it worse. Discussions can help but professional help is better because while trying to discuss, some people say what they don't know they shouldn't and make matters worse. And then some may not be able to handle the consequence of such discussions- it may open up things worse than what they want resolved. I hope you get me now.

blakky97:
I dont see anywhere I insulted you.
im playing with you
its all about differences in our sense of humour
I thought tou played along when you called me adult.
its nice. we learn everyday. im so sorry I insulted you. how uncouth! how manner forsaken! I promise it wont happen again.

No problem.

PMIcon:
You still don't get it. SUBCONSCIOUS. It is not in the conscious mind. Trying to act against it may even make it worse. Discussions can help but professional help is better because while trying to discuss, some people say what they don't know they shouldn't and make matters worse. And then some may not be able to handle the consequence of such discussions- it may open up things worse than what they want resolved. I hope you get me now.

see a specialist for something u dont know about (subconscious)? Its either u tryna play with words or... Attend to ur marriage and stop giving excuses