XavierBlue:
some do, like 80% of ladies do.


XavierBlue

Ok.

Well, I'll admit to having stalker tendencies but I never follow through because I don't like the thought of being consumed by somebody to THAT level. I usually snap out of it because the aim is to move forward & not get stuck. Which is what I think will happen if you keep checking what the ex does online, etc. Total avoidance works for me. I delete ery'thang related to them. Poof! Like they didn't exist. Keyboard happy fingers right hur! Delete! Bye! Hahaha.

PunkyOh:


Ok.

Well, I'll admit to having stalker tendencies but I never follow through because I don't like the thought of being consumed by somebody to THAT level. I usually snap out of it because the aim is to move forward & not get stuck. Which is what I think will happen if you keep checking what the ex does online, etc. Total avoidance works for me. I delete ery'thang related to them. Poof! Like they didn't exist. Keyboard happy fingers right hur! Delete! Bye! Hahaha.

. You're right, one of the best ways is total avoidance :8


XavierBlue

I did 5,7 and 8 ,very undisciplined guy he was....

Guys also do the same.I knw guys dat hav become born again coz of hrtbreaks #ACE

playboy99:
Guys also do the same.I knw guys dat hav become born again coz of hrtbreaks #ACE

seems you're one of em.


XavierBlue

octopusfreaky:
I did 5,7 and 8 ,very undisciplined guy he was....

ohh... Sowie. It good you go over him.


XavierBlue

XavierBlue:
. You're right, one of the best ways is total avoidance :8


XavierBlue

Very true. One thing with me though is, if I do happen to come across anything related to them- be it them in person, how they blink or some stupid comment they make to someone else. Even if it's unrelated to me or the relationship, it just makes me hate them so much lol. My love turns to hate then indifference. Nothing they do, after the break up, makes me want them back in any way. I become a HATER, honey. Lol! It just hurts so much I guess. Shrugs.

OP, I don't do any of those

I just sip ijebu garri and watch Vampire Diaries again and again.....U know Damon and Klaus gives the best tips when it comes to paybacks

XavierBlue:
seems you're one of em.

XavierBlue

most of us hav crossed dat river even u sef lol #ACE

PunkyOh:


Very true. One thing with me though is, if I do happen to come across anything related to them- be it them in person, how they blink or some stupid comment they make to someone else. Even if it's unrelated to me or the relationship, it just makes me hate them so much lol. My love turns to hate then indifference. Nothing they do, after the break up, makes me want them back in any way. I become a HATER, honey. Lol! It just hurts so much I guess. Shrugs.

I thought u were in love with d person b4 d breakup.how did hate just overcome d love.n I thought u supposed to fight for love. #ACE

PunkyOh:


Very true. One thing with me though is, if I do happen to come across anything related to them- be it them in person, how they blink or some stupid comment they make to someone else. Even if it's unrelated to me or the relationship, it just makes me hate them so much lol. My love turns to hate then indifference. Nothing they do, after the break up, makes me want them back in any way. I become a HATER, honey. Lol! It just hurts so much I guess. Shrugs.

mmmm. So you wouldn't love to get back to the last person you dated? Inferring from the fact that you said your love turns sour for them.
As for my case, i just avoid them. I vividly remember a time i broke up with a busy girl living in my street. She'll always intentionally bump into me with the guy she choose to date just few days after we split, only God knew how painful that was. Sometimes it painful seeing your ex with another.


XavierBlue

playboy99:
I thought u were in love with d person b4 d breakup.how did hate just overcome d love.n I thought u supposed to fight for love. #ACE

That's how *I* roll. Everyone copes differently I guess. Also the reasons for the break up matter. If it's due to cheating then the hate becomes that much stronger. Some people are very black or white in their thinking. No in between. It's either love or loathe.

Twaci:
OP, I don't do any of those

I just sip ijebu garri and watch Vampire Diaries again and again.....U know Damon and Klaus gives the best tips when it comes to paybacks

you're a very crazy lady perhaps emotionally strong.

Well! For you to be only sipping garri after a break up only signifies that the split wasn't a severe one. I expect you to curl up on before and cry your eyes out

XavierBlue

playboy99:
I thought u were in love with d person b4 d breakup.how did hate just overcome d love.n I thought u supposed to fight for love. #ACE

different strokes for different folks.


XavierBlue

PunkyOh:


That's how *I* roll. Everyone copes differently I guess. Also the reasons for the break up matter. If it's due to cheating then the hate becomes that much stronger. Some people are very black or white in their thinking. No in between. It's either love or loathe.

u rite but heartbrks ar bound to happen since dere no plans of getting married although it painfull but life goes on.n d right person is ahead.#ACE

XavierBlue:
mmmm. So you wouldn't love to get back to the last person you dated? Infecting from the fact that you said your love turns sour for them.
As for my case, i just avoid them. I vividly remember a time i broke up with a busy girl living in my street. She'll always intentionally bump into me with the guy she choose to date just few days after we split, only God knew how painful that was. Sometimes it painful seeing your ex with another.


XavierBlue

Interesting. So sad. Well, maybe it's pain experienced as hate in my case. I don't know & I don't wanna know.

I never took back an ex. I had one come up to me a few months after a break up. I don't even remember how we broke up because I'm quick to end relationships lol. I can't deal with stress. Anyway, he came back & wanted another try & it got me SO angry because it took him MONTHS. Like, what, you think I've been waiting for you all this time or something? Exes just never win with me, so it's better to just let sleeping dogs lie.

XavierBlue:
different strokes for different folks.

XavierBlue

u on point on dat #ACE

playboy99:
u rite but heartbrks ar bound to happen since dere no plans of getting married although it painfull but life goes on.n d right person is ahead.#ACE

Yeah.

PunkyOh:


Interesting. So sad. Well, maybe it's pain experienced as hate in my case. I don't know & I don't wanna know.

I never took back an ex. I had one come up to me a few months after a break up. I don't even remember how we broke up because I'm quick to end relationships lol. I can't deal with stress. Anyway, he came back & wanted another try & it got me SO angry because it took him MONTHS. Like, what, you think I've been waiting for you all this time or something? Exes just never win with me, so it's better to just let sleeping dogs lie.

same here, ill never go back to my vomit, am ain't a dog. We can be friends but it'll be strictly FWSB, no strings attached.


XavierBlue

playboy99:
u on point on dat #ACE

that how we roll.


XavierBlue

you forgot to add talking to herself in the street

Ghostlady:
look for replacement immediately.... lol

Na so em dey take get replacement,like itz easy.

XavierBlue:
same here, ill never go back to my vomit, am ain't a dog. We can be friends but it'll be strictly FWSB, no strings attached.


XavierBlue

What does FWSB stand for? So, can you still be friends with an ex that cheated?

I prefer not to be friends with exes for the most part. We dated, that's right, but after that I just don't see a reason to be in contact or remain friends. Friendly, yeah, but more than that is pushing it imo. We owe each other nothing, so..

The stalking part is true, although I don't do that
If we break up, It's good riddance... I dunno you, infact we've never met...

By the time most Manchester United Fans learn to spell Schweinsteiger and Schneiderlin title number 21 will already be in the bag....

PunkyOh:


What does FWSB stand for? So, can you still be friends with an ex that cheated?

I prefer not to be friends with exes for the most part. We dated, that's right, but after that I just don't see a reason to be in contact or remain friends. Friendly, yeah, but more than that is pushing it imo. We owe each other nothing, so..

it an acronym for Friends With Sexual Benefit.

Me i gat no problem with anyone. Ill gladly accept you back as a friend. You know it isn't only cheating that causes breakups?


XavierBlue

Lol

some turn into lesbians.....and hate men..lol.... ;Dor even olosho...

@op the next time u make me waste my MB on your pointless post i shot u.

XavierBlue:
it an acronym for Friends With Sexual Benefit.

Me i gat no problem with anyone. Ill gladly accept you back as a friend. You know it isn't only cheating that causes breakups?


XavierBlue

Oh ok. Thanks for the clarification. Eww @ sleeping with an ex lol. No, I know there's more to break ups than cheating. It's just that cheating is one of those things I do not forgive. Ever. Hence I was interested to hear your view on the ones that cheated. You're nice if you forgive even that. It could be the "benefits"

As a guy I'm only guilty of number 6