RetroBoy:

A lot.
Chronic porn with masturbation desensitizes the brain to excitement to a normal female
His brain has been wired to respond to self-touch and porn, and not to a woman, no matter how beautiful or sexy she is.
The woman is on a long thing, as she has to understand this and be patient with the guy for his brain to be rebooted

so while at it as i in being patient what if agro holds the wife? She should still be patient abi?

And by the way what happens to a woman who uses porn to mastirbate? Shey she to will loose intrest in sex and would rather mastturbate?

Oketwin:
tor bad goon lol fall for keke

Abeg get up, trailer dey ya back

cornoil:
The koko be say, u have never been sexually attracted to ur husband. He might ve seen different quality in u for marrying u. Masturbation only occurs with sexual thought about an opposite sex or fantasy. Sexual attraction is different from love. Just pray and try to work on ur seductive qualities.

I totally disagree that ' Masturbation only occurs with sexual thought about an opposite sex...'.
I'm surprised nobody thought of the fact that this guy could b gay or bisexual. he's obviously not deriving pleasure from her and possibly fantasizing about another man.

Had this gay friend in school. he was really good looking, i mean good height, cute face a damn fresh. girls would swarm our hostel to see this guy. when he finally had a gf she complained to us he wouldn't get intimate with her, after she tried persuading him he later told her he wanted to stay a virgin till marriage. in less than 6 months the ship was over.

Few yrs later he got married to a pretty lady. after 3yrs he left the marriage and went to the US. he later opened up to his friends via yahoo messenger that he was gay and was attracted to only men.

None of his friends knew this because he had so many girls around him. He's the most excited man in the world since Obama legalised gay marriage.

OP shld ask her husband if he wants a third party in there sex life. and if he doesn't mind anoda man .I bliv that's the only way u can know he's gay.

Pierocash:


I know she Is married Bt she needs our help.I just help one of my neighbours wife yesterday night.I am generous.

Having sex with a married woman is what you call help? Dude are you serious?

pickabeau1:


you mean smell pucci?


cc: 5minsmadness dinachi

My dear rotten pucci can totally mess up a sex mood.
I keep telling ladies to keep down there clean or risk a sexless relationahip. Many men are leaving
ladies because of this ailment. This days wicked ladies sent the curse of the rotten puccy to their rivals. The effect is usually devastating!

Obvously,u av lost that look he oce cherrish,check urself!

lol.....


na wa

dinachi:

My dear rotten pucci can totally mess up a sex mood.
I keep telling ladies to keep down there clean or risk a sexless relationahip. Many men are leaving
ladies because of this ailment. This days wicked ladies sent the curse of the rotten puccy to their rivals. The effect is usually devastating!

5minsmadness:




But seriously,

Most guys have issues explaining thier sexual inclinations to thier loved ones. And they are highly embarrassed to voice thier opinions on certain turnoffs for fear of offending thier spouse e. g:

Smelly pucci
Stinking armpits
Stinking hair
Body odour
Fat vajayjay
Multicoloured vajayjay
Excessively hairy vajayjay
Watery vajayjays
Wide ocean vajayjays
Puckered vajayjays
"borehole"vajayjays
Vajayjays with excess skin
Obese tummies with skin folds whose undersides are unwashed
Discharging pussi
Mouth odour
Dirty thighs
Rash infested buttocks
Stinking underwear
Stretch marks (though this one turns me on )
Etc.

Op, mishipsy, go through the list pls. Anything familiar?

Exhaustive list. Op take a Biro and tick

misshipsy88:
For sometime I have noticed that my husband would rather masturbate instead of having sex with me,even when I try as much as possible to spice up our sex life.please what do I do to stop it?

Try mutual masturbation as a way of re-sensitizing him on how it is to be with a woman. Act out his FANTASY and gradually bring him back to REALITY.......
#JustSaying.

KingKuntaVart:
Cut off your husbands hands, that would stop it.... i wouldnt advice u get another fork mate, since its obvious ur no longer in the market..... gosh any man that would prefer his hands to the wet hole must have married the worlds ugliest wife...... as in eeeeehhhh babe go check urself... madam wide hole... slippers boobs

jeeeeeeeeeez! are u this wicked?!

bigboss80s:

That's rubbish...you can have an extremely sexy girl but the sex is terrible. And only a guy who hasn't been with enough women will talk like u

so you are blaming the lady... Even if he's tired of his wife... Can't he go outside Must he masturbate

iRepNaija1:


Going through these comments makes me laugh and makes me sad. I've seen some other topics where the situation is reversed and posters have responded that the wife must submit. No one asked questions about the man's appearance, the man's weight issues, whether the man is doing enough to please his wife. No one blamed the husband. Being a Nigerian wife seems so undesirable sometimes.

OP, I'm not going to assume anything about you. All I have is what you have given us. All I'm going to say is that the both of you need to sit down and have an honest conversation about your lack of relations. Communicating is key.

people who responded that wifey must submit are gullible people... whats good for the goose is good for the gander. NO gender hipocrisy here.

@francescainnoce
you are entitled to call men (who desire for sexual practices that you dont deem "righteous" ) whatever you like, but what you wrote is exactly the problem. your partner shouldnt have to go to some ashewo to satisfy his libido, thats your job as a wife. the fact that you think that wives dont do an.al (and/or all other practices that you dont deem righteous) is your FIRST mistake on this issue. the fact that you believe that only who.res and ashewos do these practices is your SECOND mistake in this issue. your FINAL mistake in this issue is to believe that women can only do an.al etc if they get paid for it, while many do it simply out of PLEASURE!!!

as for your question, why would i pay my woman for sex? she is not an ashewo but will do all what i desire in the bedroom (and vice versa). the day this arrangement doesnt suit any of us, thats the day we will part ways.

now again, you bring religion to this issue, like the hypocrite that most Christian people are. does your bible tell you its ok to give b.lowjob to your man? no, but you probably do... so here is below a list of verses that your bible tells you to do, care to tell us which ones you follow? or do you selfishly disregard them because it suits your needs?! please, do take the bible for ALL ITS WORTH or nothing, sista!

MURDER/INFANTICIDE IS OK
- If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them: Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto the gate of his place; And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die. Deuteronomy 21:18-21

SLAVERY IS OK
- You may purchase male or female slaves from among the foreigners who live among you. You may also purchase the children of such resident foreigners, including those who have been born in your land. You may treat them as your property, passing them on to your children as a permanent inheritance. You may treat your slaves like this, but the people of Israel, your relatives, must never be treated this way. Leviticus 25:44-46

CANNIBALISM IS OK
- If in spite of this you still do not listen to me but continue to be hostile toward me, then in my anger I will be hostile toward you, and I myself will punish you for your sins seven times over. You will eat the flesh of your sons and the flesh of your daughters. Leviticus 26:27-30

- I will make them eat the flesh of their sons and daughters, and they will eat one another’s flesh because their enemies will press the siege so hard against them to destroy them. Jeremiah 19:9

RAPE IS OK SO LONG AS YOU MARRY YOUR VICTIM
- If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered, he shall pay her father fifty shekels of silver. He must marry the young woman, for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives.
Deuteronomy 22:28-29
MURDER FOR BESTIALITY
- If a man has sex with an animal, he must be put to death, and the animal must be killed. Leviticus 20:15

BANG YOUR CHILDLESS BROTHER'S WIFE
- Moses wrote for us that if a man’s brother dies and leaves a wife but no children, the man must marry the widow and raise up offspring for his brother. Mark 12:19

STONING OF NON VIRGNS
- If, however, the charge is true and no proof of the young woman’s virginity can be found, 21 she shall be brought to the door of her father’s house and there the men of her town shall stone her to death. She has done an outrageous thing in Israel by being promiscuous while still in her father’s house. You must purge the evil from among you. Deuteronomy 22: 20-21

CURSE YOUR PARENTS, YOU DIE
- anyone who curses their father or mother is to be put to death. Because they have cursed their father or mother, their blood will be on their own head. Leviticus 20:9

WEARING OF CLOTHING MADE OUT OF DIFFERENT MATERIAL
- Do not wear clothing woven of two kinds of material. Leviticus 19:19

YOU SIN WITH YOUR ARM; LEG OR EYE, YOU CUT IT OFF
- If your hand causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life maimed than with two hands to go into hell, where the fire never goes out. And if your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life crippled than to have two feet and be thrown into hell. And if your eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into hell. Mark 9:43

SOMEONE STEALS FROM YOU, GIVE HIM MORE
- And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. Mathew 5:40

NEVER GETTING A ROUND HAIRCUT OR CUTTING YOUR BEARD
- Do not cut the hair at the sides of your head or clip off the edges of your beard.. Leviticus 19:27

A BASTARD CAN NEVER EVER BE A CHRISTIAN
- No one born of a forbidden marriage (bastard) nor any of their descendants may enter the assembly of the Lord, not even in the tenth generation. Deuteronomy 23:2

OK TO THROW KIDS ONTO WALLS
- Happy is the one who seizes your infants and dashes them against the rocks. Psalm 137:9

WOMEN CANNOT TEACH MEN
- I permit no woman to teach or have authority over men; she is to keep silent. Timothy 2:11

WOMAN TOUCH ANOTHER MAN'S DIKC, CUT OFF HER HAND
- When men fight with one another, and the wife of the one draws near to rescue her husband from the hand of him who is beating him, and puts out her hand and seizes him by the private parts, then you shall cut off her hand. Deuteronomy 25:11-12

WOMEN UNCLEAN WHILE MENSTRUATING
- When a woman has a discharge, if her discharge in her body is blood, she shall continue in her menstrual impurity for seven days; and whoever touches her shall be unclean until evening. Everything also on which she lies during her menstrual impurity shall be unclean, and everything on which she sits shall be unclean. Leviticus 15: 19-20.

LOOKING AT A WOMAN IN LUST IS A SIN
- But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matthew 5:28)

CIRCUMCISED MEN CANNOT BE CHRISTIAN
- No one who has been emasculated by crushing or cutting may enter the assembly of the Lord. Deuteronomy 23:1

SHARE ALL YOUR POSSESSIONS
- Anyone who has two shirts should share with the one who has none, and anyone who has food should do the same. Luke 3:11

WOMEN MUST PRAY WITH THEIR HEADS COVERED AND NEVER SHAVE THEIR HEAD
- But every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head—it is the same as having her head shaved. 1 Corinthians 11:5

coolsix:


Having sex with a married woman is what you call help? Dude are you serious?

Do u know that in Europe those women or their husbands pay dudes like me for helping them out? Bt in my own case i dnt charge them anything except for d food they prepare for me as a token of appreciation.afterall what are frnds for.

To be candid if you actually did all that and he never responded, he had lost trust in you, he probably found you out! That's the only reason a man can change

Really don't understand nairaland dz days. Why all these marital complaints always making Frontpage? Personally I feel they should remain in the family section' Hian

Houseofglam7:

Wetin I do na?

say u be chair lady

Better place ur man on a daily fruits (Watermelon inclusive) and stop complaining.

Stays off sweetening agents and embrace unripe plantain consumption.

These would RESET his TOYSTICK.

Goodluck!!!

If only you would heed this advice.
Feed him regularly with this and pounce on him regularly too. This doesn't have to lead to sex at all times, sometimes just grab and squeeze his rod very early in the mornings, this should be after you have started feeding him with the above. I bet he would start nacking you regularly. Note: Each time u pounce on him or he initiates the fiolehleh and he spills out, that means he wnt entertain masturbation for at least 2days. Be there to grab his rod again, sucking and mounting him before he knows it, make him spill again. Gradually he wld overcome the habit. It takes time.

Something tells me the op is a man that has this problem. If am right, please ensure your wife sees this post. Stay blessed.

You did something bad which he finds too hard to forgive or forget.

Please don't give us half story next time.

. Funny you. Husband (not dog)for sale! LOL.

Houseofglam7:
Take him to a strip club and pay to let him have a lap dance!

I swear na car him go nail you!


If that doesn't work, sell him on OLX

Hi

you may have read many responses

this is what I have to say

many smoke, many cheat on their partners and many do other bad things

May be he wants to stop and cant, So you have a role to see HOW BEST you can help

and if you are a church person in helping with the physical ,,,,, do your best to pray regularly for him

God luck and God bless

dexla:


I totally disagree that ' Masturbation only occurs with sexual thought about an opposite sex...'.
I'm surprised nobody thought of the fact that this guy could b gay or bisexual. he's obviously not deriving pleasure from her and possibly fantasizing about another man.

Had this gay friend in school. he was really good looking, i mean good height, cute face a damn fresh. girls would swarm our hostel to see this guy. when he finally had a gf she complained to us he wouldn't get intimate with her, after she tried persuading him he later told her he wanted to stay a virgin till marriage. in less than 6 months the ship was over.

Few yrs later he got married to a pretty lady. after 3yrs he left the marriage and went to the US. he later opened up to his friends via yahoo messenger that he was gay and was attracted to only men.

None of his friends knew this because he had so many girls around him. He's the most excited man in the world since Obama legalised gay marriage.

OP shld ask her husband if he wants a third party in there sex life. and if he doesn't mind anoda man .I bliv that's the only way u can know he's gay.

Masturbation is a bad spirit...All u need to do is to report him to the only One that has control over every spirit-God to deliver him.

misshipsy88:
For sometime I have noticed that my husband would rather masturbate instead of having sex with me,even when I try as much as possible to spice up our sex life.please what do I do to stop it?

The worst thing you can do now is try to pressure (by moaning, nagging, complaining or throwing yourself at) him to feel like having sex with you.

If you have done that already, then you have probably extended the period of the possibility of him being interested in you again.

Remember attraction is not a choice, so demanding you are fancied is lunacy.

Get in shape and try to understand what he finds sexy (possibly from whatever he uses to mastubate) and then be it.

Then let him find you attractive himself.

Houseofglam7:
Take him to a strip club and pay to let him have a lap dance!

I swear na car him go nail you!


If that doesn't work, sell him on OLX

WHAT DAH FUCCK!!!!!!!!!!!

cyprus000:
[size=13pt] On a married woman.?

Are you for real [/size]

boys are not smiling

cyprus000:
[size=13pt] On a married woman.?

Are you for real [/size]

boys are not smiling

By the time a man is 35, he's stuck in his ways sexually, if you can't figure out what your husband wants at that point, it's game over

This is almost definitely a masturbation issue. Reason being, you don't mention his pursuance of other women (which could possibly indicate you, or sex with you being the problem among other things). But no, this is obvi about a man's overzealous relationship with his hand lol, and about a possible addiction to po.rn and fantasy (though you don't say).

There could be a number of variables at work here, but I would bet this is just another case of what we call the "death stroke" - he's beaten so hard and so often, the only way he knows how to get off is with w/ his handy dandy bfff, i.e, his right (or left) hand, possibly with po.rn or his own fantasies as the visual supplement. Even if you're a living, breathing bombshell of a woman right next to him, it wouldn't matter (this includes if the actresses in the hot por.nos he likely watches would've landed ka-plunk right onto his lap). He wouldn't be able to do anything 'cept what he always does.

I wonder if the sex is even worthwhile for you.

If this is the problem, which I bet it is, masturbation can also help him 'reset', ironically enough. I hope the lines of communication between you are open enough to get to the bottom of it. If not, you may have to reconsider...

*Purely observational note here, but I often have to call patients to obtain info they didn't provide on their forms for fertility, eja.culation (eja.culation is a bad word?), and pre/post-vasectomy sperm analysis and morphology testing we run, and a lot of times excessive and/or "death stroke" masturbation is what tends to cause ere.ction & premature eja.culation issues among these patients. The DX actually writes it out as the diagnosis on their lab test requisitions! That's not to say, masturbation in and of itself is evil. It's not. But the old adage "everything in moderation" applies here too.

fibonacciseries:
. Funny you. Husband (not dog)for sale! LOL.

Ha!
Economy dey hard!
If it ain't serving any purpose, SELL IT!

Maybe ya kitten be oozing.....check that out....possible cause...ma thinking tho....

Madam,
The problem may be that he has lost confidence in his ability to perform. I suggest you speak with him to ascertain what is going.