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halfrica:
So whose fault is dat?
And u complain no one wants to employ a nigerian graduate
ow will they?
Wen dey are mindless of d basic things surrounding dem
When av issues wiv their courses who do dey meet the they meet their lecturers? And u expect d rate of sex btw lecturers and student to reduce
Therr is a reason course advisers are givin to cubb direct connection wiv lecturers
lookin at all dis it will take d grace of God for dis country to progress

Now you are making so much sense but the truth is here in Nigeria we are fond of attacking problems from one end which is very bad...And what's more we love politicising everything otherwise implementing some of these beautiful ideas of yours would have been the best...

The report letter dey fear year of occurrence?

halfrica:
Wat do u mean u bliv dis letter For any complaint u av unilag only recieved typed letter and dis is hand written unilag has never accepted any form of hand written letter u just bliv dis no facilitator approving it dsa nt signinh it why are u guys actin like u didnt go to school
If he did dat more girls shd av cum out why is it only 2 girls why why why why she is nt d only one he is supervising her project whr are d oda ones too

You as a lady should know the stigma attached to rape. Often the woman is blamed. Not all girls have the strength to go through the whole ordeal of being blamed, accused of sexy dressing, being doubted and publicity that goes with it. Some just try to bury it.

Fact is if that man could want to sleep with that 18 year old daughter of his friend just seeking admission, in a secluded office with almost nobody around, I won't put it beyond him threatening a near-graduate of failing her just to have his way.

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tony1918:
This is what happens when a man lets is john thomas think instead of his brain

This one no concern me...

Even that toto that a cat is doing shakara with and making a nigga spend his hard earned thousands and millions,

Once freaking gateman hits it first and another nigga in shomolu is hitting it for free...

Life is too short to be wearing bullet proof pants..

Live and lets fuckkkk....

Jaideyone:
and it gets worse. madam pls keep quiet. go and read the original story. the rape happened the first and only time the girl stepped into his office!!!

I can't fit laugh finish. That halfrica girl is nuts, ah-swear. I cant believe how crazy she sounds, but saddly she honestly thinks she is talkin sense....

Seventeen:
I can't fit laugh finish. That halfrica girl is nuts, ah-swear. I cant believe how crazy she sounds, but saddly she honestly thinks she is talkin sense....

I honestly believe she's Mr baruwa

lastpage:
Actually, if a girl is not drunk or sick, .....and she is determined you would not have shex with her, YOU CANT!
You would only keep trying for the next few hours until you tire out.
She would let you do all the "effort" and when you are about penetrating, all she need do is just "shift aside" a bit and you are completely out and will start all over again.

Only by physically assaulting her" to a state of total weakness, to the point where she cant move her body at all (which would take some hours) will you be able to overcome her. (One-on-One situation, .......not being held down by three men o!)

so, all these talk of one old man pinning down a woman in her prime, in an office nevironment for a few minutes and r@ping her..... sound more to me like there was "willingness" in the whole thing initially.

Just my thoughts sha.



Lastpage!

You are such a dangerous human being. Women are not safe around you.

Very good. Nigerian police are now having enough leads to a very conclusive investigation. No excuse for them not to get to the bottom of this case

MarvellousGod:
Whether the stories of his rape are true or false, I really don't care... but what would a lecturer be doing with packets of condom in his office? That speaks volume already. .

Spits and exits thread....

good one dear, dint even think of dat. Hnmmmmm, or maybe the 18year old girl brought it along for dia 'CONSENSUAL' sex. Stupiid man.

Na wa

ronald4lif:
The way one dresses has no role to play in cases of rape. A randy and sick individual would still rape even if one dresses like Mary Magdalene.

Women that dresses seductively do it for a reason just like men who takes of their shirt to show off their muscled body. If a man could walk shirtless and be free of sexual assault from women then women should be free even if they dress scantily. One's attire doesn't influence rape by any slightest, it's just a silly excuse for randy men.

I am flummoxed a lady like you would make such flippant comments. What does a lady clothes have to do with wanting to get raped? Women don't wear provocative clothes to get raped. They wear them to look pretty, sexy, attractive to whoever cares, but not to a RAPIST. This question comes up too often claiming women ask for it. As if I'm passing across a jewelry store and I easily gain entrance and cart away items I'd come out and say the store was an easy target and tender such flimsy reason.

her argument is just unbelievable. What of all those 2year and 5year olds dat have bn molested, i guess their clothes were revealing too. I cant even wrap my head around her stupiid argument

Genea:
Well i guess we all have 2 mindfl of ourselves in all ways

and what abt kids that are raped? should we blame them also because of the way the are dressed. The fact still remains that some pple are serial rapist irrespective of who you are and what you wear.

ferdiii:
na wa...who go marry these ones? lecturers?

U boys nau

AreaFada2:
You as a lady should know the stigma attached to rape. Often the woman is blamed. Not all girls have the strength to go through the whole ordeal of being blamed, accused of sexy dressing, being doubted and publicity that goes with it. Some just try to bury it.

Fact is if that man could want to sleep with that 18 year old daughter of his friend just seeking admission, in a secluded office with almost nobody around, I won't put it beyond him threatening a near-graduate of failing her just to have his way.

Since women are blammed why dnt u train women to be careful wiv their life
please go take lessons from d females not raped yet or are those ones living ghost?
Some rape are caused by d females themselves period!!!!

Seventeen:
I can't fit laugh finish. That halfrica girl is nuts, ah-swear. I cant believe how crazy she sounds, but saddly she honestly thinks she is talkin sense....

Fine am nt makin sense bt till d world ends girls like u wud still always make rape rate high ok its u dats makin sense
am not makin sense by sayin
Ladies shd be careful of d kinds of frnds they keep
Ladies shd be careful of whr they go to
Ladies shd be careful and kno alot bou their environmt
Ladies shdnt be out late
Ladies shdnt go to a male lecturers office alone and so on
All dis dont make sense bah
Please giv me d defination of makin sense
Or u want me to tink u type faster dan u tink

halfrica:
Singing *rock of ages*
Since wen as lecturers be a safe person to put ur child under deir care
We talkin of people exposed to so many wild things

u are unbelievable. Before it was dat she may hv dressed wild and given d man signal, now it is her fathers fault for placing her in d care of a lecturer dat may be wild. Are you not contradicting urself. So which one is it now... Is d girl d innocent girl placed in d care of a wild lecturer or d innocent lecturer seduced by a wild girl. Gv it a rest Halfrica, ds argument has become tiring.

If u all like dont train females from their young age how to protect themselves am talkin about females 18yr and above still screamin rape rape
U kno u guys are d ones to feel d pain and stigma
My own fyt all tru dis thread is to find solution to minimize d rate of rape act by girls takin precautions since at intervals guys becomes rapist nt a girl dats raped
I mean prevention is bettr dan cure
Bt av seen it nigerians dont like to solve problems from the root thats why d country is standstill no progression u guys shd keep attackin rapist
Dont teach d ladies ow to protect themselves till there is a way of stopin rape hopefully comes
I hate weak ladies who allow situations to over take them
We still av girls nt raped are they living ghosts?
So cos there are rapist i shdnt be smart enof to protect my sef kwa? if u cant beat a rapist atleast avoid them dat as been my argument so far

ultra100:
and what abt kids that are raped? should we blame them also because of the way the are dressed. The fact still remains that some pple are serial rapist irrespective of who you are and what you wear.

well something must b done to curtail dis

Sometimes i wonder wat dey gain frm it

Ayo25:
Ahah, you remind me of Dr Dotun Ogunkoya(RIP) of the dept of philosophy in those days. In one of his classes, he once told us that the Bible makes use of symbols a lot, that the forbidden fruit eaten by adam and eve is actually sex, that sex is natural and it does nt mk sense for anybody to blame him anytime he does it. He was so vile and sexually immoral and would do anytin to justify his vile nature. He was quite young when he died. I hope it was not sex that killed him.

Seventeen:
u are unbelievable. Before it was dat she may hv dressed wild and given d man signal, now it is her fathers fault for placing her in d care of a lecturer dat may be wild. Are you not contradicting urself. So which one is it now... Is d girl d innocent girl placed in d care of a wild lecturer or d innocent lecturer seduced by a wild girl. Gv it a rest Halfrica, ds argument has become tiring.

We are givin suggestions ok possible ways since no one has seen d girl or kno mch bou her way of life
D dress part was even my own experience wiv a lecturere u dont read my earlier posts u pick one and jump into conclusion wiv more of u in a country d country is ruined truss me

All my second argument is dat d suppose rape happened in an environment whereby sexual act btw females and lecturers are mostly and highly based on mutual agreement even if d females arent too ok wiv it there is stil somwat final mutual agreement for wateva d case may b
Dont u kno wen a case arises d environment is taken
into consideration

For cryin out loud it happened in a university setting

investigation is on goin not even d judge or d police blived eida of the story cos they kno ow d school setting be
If the girl was trusted atleast d sexual test was enof to give d man judgement since nau
bt to show u ow both parties can be terrible and cos of d environment it happened they still just av to do an investigation to kno if it was rape or not
Smh for people o i laugh laugh laugh laugh

montestic:
STORY EXCLUSIVE TO STELLA DIMOKO KORKUS BLOG.

Lets call her Lady X....

She called me this Morning and told me a chilling recount of how Mr Akinfolarin Baruwa the lecturer who is presently being held for allegedly raping an 18year old girl also tried same with her in his office.

She recounted how she reported him to the school authorities and nothing was done...Please read her story with proof attached.
If you are a pen pushed with a Daily News and wish to interview her,please call me and i will give you her contact...
She wishes to remain anonymous for now but she is already making moves to re-open the case she filed last year.







MY STORY:-As Told By Lady X

This happened early 2014.
I had finished my project with my supervisor a pleasant middle aged woman but because she retired before I could get time off work to have her sign off my score sheet I had been re-assigned to Mr Akinfolarin Baruwa as my new project supervisor.
I remembered immediately I got off my first call from him my roommate let’s call her K told me “omg! Is that guy your supervisor?hian” it took me a while to get around the meaning of her words.

My first impression about him was he was a no nonsense kinda lecturer. I walked into the office he was at the bus admin complex top floor he seemed to be sharing an office with another lecturer.
It was about 5pm I had a paper that day. He didn’t attend to me till the other man was done, he sent me on silly errands like “make this photocopy”, “go and buy me tom tom” all this continued till about 8pm after waiting for like forever he attended to me, glanced at my work and said it was rubbish and couldn’t believe my former supervisor who happened to be a professor could approve such nonsense I appealed to him that it was exam period I couldn’t possibly work on my project from the scratch and still meet the deadline for submission so I begged him to let me make corrections instead.


He said someone has done the same topic 2/3 years back and he would easily report me to the authorities that I copied which would guarantee I’ve an extra year. He went on and on ,he had me believe the work was so bad assuring me that I couldn’t escape an extra year he even said he would report me for plagiarism because I forgot to site a particular reference. At some point he said I shouldn’t bother with correcting the work that he’s submitting my name to Admin with the batch of students to be carried over next year, I was stoned.


After begging him over and over to make me correct [mostly typographical errors] he finally agreed, my mind was finally at rest and I thanked him, as I made to leave he looked at me and was like ‘is that how to say thank you?’ I then went on both knees thanking him profusely “thank you sir”, “God bless you sir”…. While I was at it he was closing the blinds of the office and he turned off the A/C [the office was very cold] like he was going to wrap up for the day, he was clearing the sofa that had other peoples projects next thing I know he locks the door…


I was stilling trying to wrap my head around him locking the door when he dragged me; Stella I was a size 12 5”4 then, I am big, this guy is strong ,he just grabbed my boobs and my arms to his manhood rubbing it, next thing He was forcefully trying to remove my clothes, when I tried to force myself off his grip he got more aggressive when I tried to scream he got even more aggressive.

That place is isolated and quiet at night [the office is opposite UNILAG guesthouse by the sea side] I figured screaming was a waste of time and being forceful wasn’t getting anywhere so I lay still begging, then I began to cry “I’m asthmatic I can’t breathe” so I pretended to have an attack then he stopped he started apologising he said it was a mistake and he’s usually not like that and he’s sorry then he started again apologising that he’s hard, okay he doesn’t want sex again that I should just give him a hand job, I said I needed air that he should please open the door [acting like I was about to faint], he then finally opened the door apologising, I rushed out and I was still acting like I was short of breath and fainting with plenty tears in my eyes.


He later called me apologising that he doesn’t know what got over him, it was a mistake etc. I told my best friend, i was in complete shock ,all my years in UNILAG I had never experienced such, i was so stunned that day i lost my bag.

He said we should set him up And I am like “no all I want is to just graduate in peace” because when the matter gets to the authorities now it is another thing he would say.... he can even say we are cultists.

I started using different strategies when visiting his office like going with friends, he always says he is not around [because from up he could see people down] he would later call me to say “you think you are smart abi, you are playing with your graduation”.

On another occasion I had to have him sign my score sheet and i thought to my that this was broad daylight and what could possibly happen?

I was wrong!

A lecture was going on the floor before and the noise from the mega phone clouded the office and this man started again. I was furious and I started to insult him when he was trying to pin me down and as we were dragging my shirt tore and as I was shouting he pushed me.

I stormed out and he was shouting “get out of my office”, ”you can’t graduate i promise you”.

This time I had had it and I was going to the authorities, when I got downstairs I met a friend who happened to be a staff and he saw how mad I was and I narrated all that had happened.

we went to faculty of bus admin and reported to some lecturers they then followed me to his office and met with him.

If you see the way this man painted me black, he denied what happened he almost denied knowing me sef in fact he was mumbling my name like we had just met 5min ago. “He said you know how these students can get” the way he turned the story around I know deep down they knew he was lying but they had to be diplomatic they asked me to do my corrections and forget the matter.


Baruwa then started stalking me.

I remember after an exam while hanging with a friend of mine he called my number saying something like “is that your boyfriend? Is it because of him you are doing shakara for me” I was disgusted, I couldn’t see him but obviously he could see me. This happened on 2 separate occasions.


Stella this man frustrated me because it was a finished project before I was assigned to him, he made me redo and retype, photocopy, bind about 3 times over and every given time he says “you just like punishing yourself” with a snare.

I felt bullied.

it was one thing for a lecturer to ask a student out, it was a different thing entirely to manipulate me into sleeping with you and physically and emotionally harassing me in the process.

When he saw I was adamant he held on to my score sheet without which I couldn’t submit my project or do my defence. He was eager to break me but when I had had enough I reported to the authorities and at that point I was introduced to another girl by my class governor who had complained about this same Baruwa man.

I’ve attached a copy of the handwritten letter I submitted to the authorities and I had to keep it short and brief. The other girls he sexually harassed [my roommate and the other girl] didn’t show up on the day of the report and my class governor didn’t want to have anything to do with the case too so i flew solo.

I guess everybody was afraid of the consequences of reporting a lecturer.


The school promised to look into the matter but I think because of lack of concrete evidence or other witnesses the best they could do was stop him from supervising student’s projects.

I’m not saying he raped or didn’t rape the girl but the way he’s going on about it being consensual and sounding all believable made me remember when I had those lecturers go meet him and he turned the tables around and got them all confused.

What I do know for sure is though an 18 year old is an adult one cannot expect her to show any more than the decent level of tact she did to avoid an abuser as experienced as Baruwa. She shouldn’t be expected to know how to use Witt or tact to manoeuvre her way around an experienced molester who obviously emotionally and psychologically abuses his victims and pounces on them through a little perceived window of opportunity.


The other girls Baruwa abused that were too afraid to speak up are way older and more experienced than her. Akinfolarin Baruwa sexually harasses like a tutored glutton, If she gave even a little level of physical resistance then SHE WAS RAPED.

To the victim this is for you!..I am coming out to tell my story because of you!


Many Thanks Stella for giving me this platform and God bless.

LADY X


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you should have dated your letter as at when written for proper reference. though that might be a mistake, but this ( date and signature) are things we should never neglect while writing officially.

halfrica:
Since women are blammed why dnt u train women to be careful wiv their life
please go take lessons from d females not raped yet or are those ones living ghost?
Some rape are caused by d females themselves period!!!!

Innocent people die in accident daily. People encounter misfortune daily. So those who don't encounter misfortune it's because they are very wise and perfect. Ok. Continue. Tomorrow is pregnant. Those who have their palm kernel cracked by a benevolent spirit should not forget to be grateful. Chinua Achebe.

AreaFada2:
Innocent people die in accident daily. People encounter misfortune daily. So those who don't encounter misfortune it's because they are very wise and perfect. Ok. Continue.

judging from this case now most are the cause u make sure u take precautions first before u blame nature ai av a frnd in school he never told me mch bou himsef at first bt damn i knew sumtin was wrong he wud always tell me he wants to see me i refused cos i wasnt too ok wiv his attitude later on i discovered he takes in heavy drugs wat wud av happened if i had visited such
Or if i had visited a frnd who said he loves to afflict pain on a girl before avin sexxxx wiv her isnt it my fault if i go
Accidents u say if some drivers just stop over speeding and not be drunk driving which most nigerian drivers are fond of
Hardly do dey follow drivin regulations u see a trailer moving faster than a normal car or u see a commercial bus trying to over take a trailer cant they just b patient or u see a car just come out from kno whr on d road wiv out traficating there is a lot u shd kno bou the causes of most accidents
Most wont do a check on their cars before zooming out sha alot please a lot ok if u drive in lagos especially u wud understand wat am sayin
There are some misfortunes out there that wud av been cubbed or prevented not all misfortunes are nature cause ok
Same wiv rape nt all rapes are nature cause too

emperormero:
The guy is so cursed... I pray God forgives him.







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FTC On a FP Topic

u don't have to name it as rape, but attempt to... Don't get me wrong am not saying he's right though

halfrica:
No not even related to him am only a student i stay in d school female hostel

Are you his girlfriend then? Because I'm totally shocked you're still here defending him so vehemently and with such disingenuous arguments.
Did you sleep at all last night? Someone paid to do this work would at least have slept.

halfrica:
I wonder if most people sit down to tink deep about it she is nt d only female students he wud be supervising dats one point
she wud av known her oda mates who are under d lecturer cos d first day all the students wud go to meet their supervisor togeda.
If it was true all d girls wud cum out as one body and prove not just her ??

She already said he was not her supervisor, she was transferred to him after her original supervisor retired. Her project was already completed then.

You keep trying to twist the narrative with half truths

halfrica:
judging from this case now most are the cause u make sure u take precautions first before u blame nature ai av a frnd in school he never told me mch bou himsef at first bt damn i knew sumtin was wrong he wud always tell me he wants to see me i refused cos i wasnt too ok wiv his attitude later on i discovered he takes in heavy drugs wat wud av happened if i had visited such
Or if i had visited a frnd who said he loves to afflict pain on a girl before avin sexxxx wiv her isnt it my fault if i go
Accidents u say if some drivers just stop over speeding and not be drunk driving which most nigerian drivers are fond of
Hardly do dey follow drivin regulations u see a trailer moving faster than a normal car or u see a commercial bus trying to over take a trailer cant they just b patient or u see a car just come out from kno whr on d road wiv out traficating there is a lot u shd kno bou the causes of most accidents
Most wont do a check on their cars before zooming out sha alot please a lot ok if u drive in lagos especially u wud understand wat am sayin
There are some misfortunes out there that wud av been cubbed or prevented not all misfortunes are nature cause ok
Same wiv rape nt all rapes are nature cause too

Nobody is saying we should not take precautions, every reasonable person should do so and most do. Many research findings and personal experience dealing with rape victims in a clinical setting show that the vast majority of rapes are carried out by people known to them. People they have a degree of trust towards: close friends, inlaws, course mates, teacher, neighbours, work colleagues. prospective lovers and even family members! As for accidents, they are usually caused by one person's error, neglect or irresponsibility BUT there are usually many innocent victims who could not have prevented it.

halfrica:
We are givin suggestions ok possible ways since no one has seen d girl or kno mch bou her way of life
D dress part was even my own experience wiv a lecturere u dont read my earlier posts u pick one and jump into conclusion wiv more of u in a country d country is ruined truss me

All my second argument is dat d suppose rape happened in an environment whereby sexual act btw females and lecturers are mostly and highly based on mutual agreement even if d females arent too ok wiv it there is stil somwat final mutual agreement for wateva d case may b
Dont u kno wen a case arises d environment is taken
into consideration

For cryin out loud it happened in a university setting

my dear i read ur whole argument, i dint jump into conclusions. I honestly know what u are tryin to say but it still doesnt make sense to me. I am entitled to my opinion about hw ur argument sounds. I mustn't agree with u. I have not attacked u, i have just said ur argument is wack. A lot of ppl have called u ode, daft, fool, biitch, disgrace to women, some said u are baruwas daughter, some said u probably had and affair with him.. And so on and so forth, on this very thread. I have not attacked u personally, so I wonder where dis statement is coming from.... 'with ppl like me d country is ruined' what do u even mean by that. My dear, U dont know me so dat statement is uncalled for.. Nairaland is all about arguments. I musnt agree with u, and u musnt agree with me. Life goes on. Chill dear

halfrica:
Thats wat am saying evry one shd be smart bou the way they live university education is not all about you learning or acquiring knowledge its all about helping an individual to be independent acquire skills so they can be useful to themselves and to the society at large

When a lecturer is giving u signals u dont just go to his office next time wivout you finding a solution to it cos of u do they feel u av stylishly agreed to it she
Said he his her new supervisor meaning d first day he was appointed u guys must av met he myt av givin her signals bt mayb she over look it
Goin to his office the next day was like a green lyt for d man
Like me whenever am goin to a lecturers office i go with friends like for real

who's this bi.tch? wtf do u think u r saying or what do u think u know...so u feel because a girl is semi dressed she deserves to be raped? honestly u deserve to be gang raped by all ur close friends and a video of the deed uploaded on the internet for depraved people like u to watch...but then again, maybe u r just a dumb masochist who enjoys rough sex.
How come such lecturers never report their victims for sexual harassment or seduction? Think, or at least try.
There is no excuse whatsoever for rape... if a woman decides to roam the streets butt naked no man has the right to touch her, period.

halfrica:
I hope u get wat am saying ryt am only a student bt wiv wat those girls do u wont say all this even most guys from other schools are always careful wen dealin wiv unilag girls
Gat a frnd wen a guy approached her and she mentioned unilag he drove off
Anoda a case a guy said he can never get marrid to a unilag female students
U wud understand wat am saying if u were a student in d school runz girls dominates higher percentage now true fact so most lecturer student sexual life is based on mutual agreement

most lecturer-student sexual life is based on mutual agreement in unilag(according to u) doesnt debase there cant be lecturer-student sexual life base on rape in few cases wat if one of the few case is this case?