EggovinMma:


Now that is the decay I am talking about-This is a clear case of patriarchal nature of the home defiling that which is rational. Here, things that supposed to be questioned are left unquestioned, victims are rather rebuked or seen as cowards/effeminate.Until men understand that they are as vulnerable as the women when it comes to both physical and sexual abuse, we still have a long way to go in this country.

Teempakguy:
we were saying the same thing all along. Yet you chose to directly contradict me by quoting my entire post and terming it wrong. How would you react?
Perhaps you need to learn how to convey your point without seeming confrontational.
You have a good day yourself.

EggovinMma:
This nairaland na very funny place.
Some dey complain say women rape them, while some dey pull boxers dey beg women to come rape them. Nna mehn! Nzuzu!

JeffreyJamez:
The statistics on this thread alone is very disturbing.. almost every guy here has had an experience or 2.....it goes to show the alarming rate of Male child molestation that is going unnoticed.

JeffreyJamez:


I Pity those ones... lemme tell you a short story a friend told me that happened in his school..

There's a certain route in his school that boys don't pass through once it's 9pm...any guy that passes there would be raped mercilessly by girls who belong to a certain cult..... 2 boys who got admission into this school where told this story, but they were like "ooooo boy abeg show me the route abeg... na that kind thing I dey find... chaaaaiii!!"..the other guys tried to warn them, but they were adamant... long story short... they were shown the road, they went past 9 ,got raped mercilessly by up to 15 girls.. for weeks they were sick.. almost died sef.... when they recovered, 7pm no dey meet them for outside. Lol

So I pity this ones asking to be raped..... after the first 2 rounds, they'll know why it's called Rape.

craziebone:


those who say you should come and rape them are sayig that because PROBABLY, they have passed through the same thing as a child so they now see sex as that which you do not have to be deeply and heartily involved with a woman in order to be able to have. These men are PROBABLY those who would rape, are serial heart breakers, and also guys you would see sagging their trousers with whom you may not consider a long term relationship until the change their ways.

cococandy:


What I said is wrong was the biological rather than social angle you attributed boys reaction to rape as.
And that's was what we were initially talking about.
I even said that would be off topic to start discussing in details so how much clearer could I have been that I meant the bio/socio aspect instead of implied responsibility on the victims that you tried to make of my post afterwards?

Maybe because I didn't highlight that part of your post to say specifically it was the part I thought was wrong. I assumed you'd know because we started out on that foot of bio vs socio.

Sorry for any misunderstandings.

craziebone:


those who say you should come and rape them are sayig that because PROBABLY, they have passed through the same thing as a child so they now see sex as that which you do not have to be deeply and heartily involved with a woman in order to be able to have. These men are PROBABLY those who would rape, are serial heart breakers, and also guys you would see sagging their trousers with whom you may not consider a long term relationship until the change their ways.

EggovinMma:


The stubborn fly follows the corpse to the gravgrave.Its only victims of rape that understand the true meaning of the word.I know someone that got raped by some ladies in ph then.It devastated him big time.This is a grown man who got raped and not even a child.

cococandy:
I was going to create a thread about this and how gender stereotypes hurt men too.
Then I remember the last time I tried to bring that up on someone's thread, how 'alpha' males shut me down.

So basically it's ok for men to suffer some things in silence because of the few who think their pride is the most important thing in the world.

God help the ones who are in touch with their emotions and don't consider ego that most important thing in life. They can't even complain without being called effeminate.

craziebone:


my dear, you are the one seeing it that way, the court will not. For the court, a drunk man who has sex with a lady is seen as culpable and responsible for his actions even when the lady was the lured him into bed kowing he is drunk. If the lady concieves, the guy cannot tell her to abort it if she doesn't want to. But when it is the other way round, all hell will break loose!

Holyfield1:
Eeyaahh sorry okay.....If u didn't enjoy it..Why was ur dìck erect in the First place

hemmaoshos:
Not only male children are being raped, Male Adult are also victims of rape. When you tell her you are okay after the third, fourth, fifth, Sixth and she still want Seventh. Forcing you when you are weak with no more strength...that means you been raped by a she beast....

EggovinMma:


Now that is the decay I am talking about-This is a clear case of patriarchal nature of the home defiling that which is rational. Here, things that supposed to be questioned are left unquestioned, victims are rather rebuked or seen as cowards/effeminate.Until men understand that they are as vulnerable as the women when it comes to both physical and sexual abuse, we still have a long way to go in this country.

shaybebaby:

The court decides on precendents, if the evidence presented is similar to previous cases, then most likely the same finding would emerge.
You forget that those that preside over legal proceedings are humans just like those of here. Luck of the draw, you could get a judge/ jury that thinks like the " you enjoyed your rape crew" or you could get someone who would actually consider the merits of the case irrespective of gender. You have heard of rulings known as landmark rulings. They are the ones that challenge and changed the ways certain cases were tried successfully.
Put the cases out there first, if they are tried wrongly, then the next step would be to challenge the judicial system. What we cannot do is adopt the " why bother? It will make no difference" attitude. It is defeatist!
Things will change because we will keep trying till it does.

cococandy:
I was going to create a thread about this and how gender stereotypes hurt men too.
Then I remember the last time I tried to bring that up on someone's thread, how 'alpha' males shut me down.

So basically it's ok for men to suffer some things in silence because of the few who think their pride is the most important thing in the world.

God help the ones who are in touch with their emotions and don't consider ego that most important thing in life. They can't even complain without being called effeminate.

craziebone:


my response to Eggmmm on page 7 is also my response to you.

Truth is, we do not trust you people when you say feminism and crushing gender stereotype is also in the favour of men.

Most times, when feminists say that, they are only trying to get the man to become all moody and shed tears when you attack him with your feminist mantra. When they say that, they are only trying in to increase the number of stay at home dads so that they can assume power etc.

We don't trust you!

VickJames:
I was molested twice or more, the memory is fading by the day.

I remember she won't allow me enter my house because my mum used to leave our key with them. She'll hide my food from me and ask me to suck her niples and touch her vagina. I didn't know what I was doing. I just wanted to eat and enter our apartment then. She'll take off my uniform and start caressing it. I'll just feel like urinating afterwards. Whenever we're done and everyone is around, I used to be scared of her. It wasn't easy trying to stop it.

A young girl also tried it with me too, when I was in primary school. I was scared and I didn't know what to do. She came to my house, pulled her clothes and said I should do. Do what? I asked, she removed my clothes, then she slept on the bed and told me to come on top. I was very scared until I heard the footsteps of my mum before she stood up immediately and wore her clothes.

There are more...

Those years, I didn't know what was going on in my life. I started avoiding the girl but I later found out that I became very sexually active after these series of molestation from women but there was this fear I had being with them alone.

Sabrwahaqqo:

#You could get a judge/jury like the ''you enjoyed the rape crew" - WRONG!!! .... Pls pls n Pls don't misrepresent the true picture of what the judicial precedence is all about with your mind-crafted image. Don't mislead others.

cococandy:
We don't need your trust.it is Not gonna buy one more Michael Kors purse for me.

All I need. We need. Everyone needs is for everyone to recognize the enormity of rape even if a man is the victim.
To recognize that it doesn't hurt less because a man is the one raped.

Why do I need that? Because this neglecting of the issues of male rape directly affects female rape too.

As we can see many guys especially on this forum make light of rape when a girl is raped because to them rape is nothing.
If they didn't think of it as nothing, maybe they would realize how serious an offense it is to even think of it.
Same as women. Many will see it as nothing when a guy is raped simply because the men themselves see it as nothing.

That's why gender stereotypes hurt not just women but men too.

Ain't saying it to win your trust. You can use your trust to go but land in lekki

I'm saying it because the consequences of such social stereotypes could face my own kids or yours too tomorrow.

Ejim trust gi eme gini

noblegrex:
mad man,y hin dick no go rise,u funny oo.abeg I no fit laff. But in actual fact I was a victim too at 7,a friend too by their maid n I'm suspecting a little boy of 8 in my area too being molested by some beautiful ladies living in thesame area, cos I do ask him some questions anytime they invited him in,now he's gone wirld,d funniest part of it is that as small as he is,he's jeolous anytime a guy is with them.very funny.cos he do come to report to me that he saw sis so,so,so with a guy. Bt I guess its nt that imortant. Women r full of pretence.shikena

Kachisbarbie:
Everyone knows that male kids get raped too.

shaybebaby:

http://www.lawgazette.co.uk/practice/bias-has-significant-effect-on-verdicts-jury-research-says/5039295.fullarticle
Membersof the jury are members of the public and we all have our biases so...
And what is the "true picture" of judicial precedence? Where is the basis of your assertation that I am wrong?

Kachisbarbie:
Everyone knows that male kids get raped too. It's just that female rape is more common. I don't think any normal human being or parent would neglect the fact that his/her male child was raped/molested. Men are here trying to put the blame on female folks being more vocal and feminist. It's up to the guys to be vocal too...but no, they tend to act like they enjoy it.
You even hear jokes like 'let women come and rape me'...no woman can say such

(Nairaland)Feminist won't come to your house to protect your male child or give him orientation on molestation and sensitive body parts. So, why call feminist into this?
What's the correlation, please?

Take a look at this topic, how many guys have said something 'sensible'. Some are making it seem like a joke, like they enjoyed it. Waiting for females to comment...lols #oniranus.
You can never see females react that way to a rape topic.