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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Kingsasian(m): 12:04pm On Aug 20, 2015
no be small... grin
sonofananimal:
grin grin LOLZZZ!

KING ARTHUR.

NL GUYS WON MAKE NAIJA WOMEN GET HEART ATTACK grin grin

LIKE SERIOUS THOSE ANIMALS DON DO GUYS STRONG THING grin grin
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Nobody: 12:08pm On Aug 20, 2015
new2020:


I wrote a reply on the possibility of Nigerian struggling young men following the path of Japanese men. Below is my reply. Link https://www.nairaland.com/2472792/japan-major-too-many-virgin#36208163


A lot of people don't know what is happening in Japan. I had a Japanese friend few yrs ago tell me what's happening in Japan during a visit with my family. The men in Japan are deciding not to have anything to do with their women anymore. They don't chase their women anymore...Japanese women do the chasing now. This guy told that this started when Japanese women started embracing western culture, feeling as though they can replace men natural role as the head of the family with the "strong and independent" mantra ubiquitous in western countries today. Followed by playing hard and difficult to get...wanting their men to be overly financially stable, handsome, tall enough, have a car, a house, a high paying job before he can even get a chance to get a date with the women let alone sleeping. This infuriated the Japanese men, and they began a movement called " Herbivore Men" similar to what is called MGTOW in western countries...meaning, Men Going Their Own Way. In other words, these men are. saying...there is more to life than women; they are no longer interested in women...chikena! They started to boycott women; won't date women nor sleep with them. They refused to even participate in pornography industry...remember there was an article on this on nairaland in march. Link: https://www.nairaland.com/2308362/japanese-porn-industry-hit-shortage

The Japanese men are vowing not to have anything to do with their women until western gynocentric/feminist culture which they see as a threat to their society is brought down. This MGTOW-style movement is strong in Japan than any country in the world. Even young men as 18 don't have a girlfriend; doesn't care to have one nor is he interested in sex. He prefers being a virgin; worst case he goes home and masturbate. He dresses how he wants to dress; he can wear the same clothes for days, he doesn't shave...I mean they don't acknowledge women validation any more. They are more focused on their careers, school, sports, playing video games, financial independence...save their money and live modest lives. If a woman needs help...like for example her car breaks down on the road, the men will just drive by and pretend they didn't see her. The message they are sending is...since you have embraced western, feminist culture and think you can replace the natural position of men, that's fine, but be prepared to do these traditional men jobs yourself.


What has this done to the Japanese society? Marriage and birth rate are all time low. Which has the government and older generation worried...they have never seen anything like this before. Women now chase men. Women are now begging men to date them. Most women are tired of being alone. Some are even paying to sleep with men. It's crazy in Japan I tell you. The same movement is making gain in US now. Research about MGTOW! Men in general are no longer interested in modern women. Men as old as 40 have no wife or girlfriend. If he wants sex...he masturbates or pay for an escort. That's it...all they are saying is, we want nothing to do with modern women.

Google about Japanese Herbivore men. I did a research on this last yr...that's why I'm very knowledgeable about it. I took my time to put this in context; explain this because someone who reads the OP article will just assume something is wrong with the men especially with the article not providing reason why this is happening; NO Nothing is wrong with them, they have had a enough of today's women and choosing to be celibate by choice!
YEAP! I DID A RESEARCH ABOUT THAT STUFF, AND I AM GRADUALLY SEEING NIGERIA GOING THAT DIRECTION

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Ephemmm: 12:08pm On Aug 20, 2015
EggovinMma:
kiss

One sensible guy.

Really! How much did your father had before he started screwing your mother if I may ask? Truth be told, money is needed in relationship, but not to the level the writer has exaggerated it. For instance, I have witnessed a scenario whereby the wife of a rich dude is using her rich husband money to finance/upgrade the activities of a broke dude.

The problem with we guys is that we don't have a clear-cut vision, direction, purpose and prospect: any lady can stay with an average guy with good vision, aims and objectives from my own opinion: get your fact right.

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by MattChidi(m): 12:11pm On Aug 20, 2015
Can money really buy happiness? I DOUBT That, a lady who can't be there for me when I'm nothing can not smell nor get anything from me when I'm something. As a struggling guy that has a prospect, quiting any relationship now because you don't have enough is never advisable because when that money comes I tell you, you'd hardly fall in love because you'd be seeing ladies as properties and not worthy of your love. And more importantly, you will see them as one who only comes to eat where they never sowed in the first place. 2face love life is a typical example.

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Ephemmm: 12:14pm On Aug 20, 2015
sparkwil:
Nice one.
But u r wrong in d way u generalised ur facts.
Issues concerning relationship are subjective and never general.
My fiance earns more than I do yet she is on top of our relationship. She spends without looking back and I can swear she loves me Wt her life.
Not all ladies like to be spent on except d lazy ones of course lipsrsealed

That is what I am saying. The problem is that most guys lack vision, mission and objectives in life. Irrespective of her status, any lady can date a guy with good prospect and clear-cut goals and objectives. Afterall, all investors will like to invest in a profitable business. tongue tongue tongue

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by phefo12345(m): 12:15pm On Aug 20, 2015
Nice...
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by free37: 12:19pm On Aug 20, 2015
Hmm.
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Nobody: 12:21pm On Aug 20, 2015
boboLIL:
For the records,,,Na guys wey no get moni de love pass.....na dem de jealousy pass..... grin ..if the bae strts acting strange.....d guy wil ask her,,,is it cos I don't av money? grin grin
Met ds girl a month ago on my way to get dinner funny enuf I was able to toast her n get her to go home with me(lucky me) she spent d nyt n we had amazing sex..I was single so I kinda asked her out n she agreed dating me.she never asks fr a dime frm me buh sumtyms I just decide to give her.fast forward two weeks later gettin to knw her more she dishes out her number to every tom dick n harry dat asks.yes she's hot but its kinda annoyin she doesn't hv regard fr her number.funny enuf anythin I ask of her she gives willingly buh a fact I knw s dat she goes on dates with all dese guys dat collects her number..anytym I accost her bout it she'd feel unconcerned n proud n she keeps askin me if I wanna breakup..its annoyin n I dunno wat to do..need help frm d house cos I do really like her
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Captainswag225(m): 12:22pm On Aug 20, 2015
tantidora, whats ur opinion on dis topic?
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by ruffDiamond: 12:23pm On Aug 20, 2015
grin grin grin cheesy boys I ve been laffing so hard at some comments tear dey commot my eyes grin while I will concur with the points raised by the op as the brutal reality but it ain't new most guys knew this all along especially wit 9ja girls!it must also be said I agree entirely with the points raised by thoughtful guys to counter the op too grin them make sense die cheesy for me the bottom line is that whether rich or poor ,struggling ,hussling or cruising ,there is a bi*CH for EVERYONE!the only difference be say everything get LEVEL grin as u all know, but I want every dude here, irrespective of status,to get one last all important thing at the back of mind,first off, when it comes to 9ja gals, menh,there is no such thing as love in their mental and physical or psychological lexicon grin AGAPE OR EROS,shvt don't matter a damn ! These present generation of bit*hes ain't simply LOYAL tongue no matter yr level they will switch side like onyeka owenu grin ,before u could say buhari! grin the million dollar question I always ask myself is even with all the so called materials to please their vanity minded mindset grin OK,what DO THESE BIT*CHES HAVE TO OFFER BACK IN RETURN in term of support, intelligence, resourcefulness and goal undecided just the almighty PUNNA Mtchewww...it's-two-a-dime these days tongue with the dearth of ladies with the aforementioned much needed qualities above,90% of them got absolutely NOTHING TO OFFER beside the overrated PUNNA of which condition nobody is ever sure of, ala innumerable sexcapade tongue relationship with them is a waste of time, effort and resource ! Like one dude rightly commented,they are best left alone with their OLOSHO mentality and behavior s ,their body and 'love' IS for sale and for the highest bidder cool good for guy to zone outside like one poster said too currently I'm Rocking a very beautiful ZIMBO bimbo cool

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by eye2sabi(m): 12:29pm On Aug 20, 2015
Captainswag225:
tantidora, whats ur opinion on dis topic?

wrong quote
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Nobody: 12:30pm On Aug 20, 2015
Atlantian:
The Bible says, and I quote; "MONEY ANSWERS ALL THINGS". I do not need a woman to love me. I am a strong man. But when it comes to women loving me, I can say I am a butterfly with women. They love me, because I am enigma of some sort. My environs is welcoming, soothing and calm. I treat every guest as the queen of heaven, yet I am superficial and eccentric with the humility of a palm wine tapper. I pour the wines as a professional bar man. In the valley of the shadows of death, I make them fear no evil. I rob their hair with oil and their cups runs over with the wines. Their Goodness and mercy follows me all the way down the bed. In the valley of the shadows of their thighs, I fear no evil. My words, soothes their pains, and make light their worries. True love dies, real love is oiled by wealth. Go and hustle my friend.
+I love your wordplay. You're good. cheesy

I don't quite agree with a part of your stance on the subject though.
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Nobody: 12:32pm On Aug 20, 2015
omoharry:
All you guys complaining here, abusing women....thank you very much...yes we agree we like security, comfort and care...on the other hand you guys like beautiful women as well as those that has all the qualities of a wife...abi? now why are you guys complaining? Get a job and make your self and your woman comfortable and stop coming to Naira land to start abusing them. Yes we like money...what about you...wont your love be put to test when you become a millionaire tomorrow? will you remember that woman that stayed with you when you had nothing and still married you. would you still use that same eyes to look at her after her body must have weakened due child birth and working round the clock to keep the home front running smoothly... would you? you are here lashing at us when your fellow men's sins are expose for all to see...what will be your excuse then..that you are an African man and your wife is no longer as attractive as the young olosho girls you are now abusing..these are the ones you will be running after and spending your money on because you want some variety added to your sex life....women are selfish just the way men are selfish...SO YOU GUYS SHOULD GO BACK TO WORK AND BE THE PROVIDER AS IT WAS DESIGNED INSTEAD OF LAMENTING AND ABUSING US.
WHILE THE WOMEN SHOULD SIT DOWN AND BE FORMING FEMINIST, EATING LIKE FOWL undecided


SO YOU THINK YOU MAKE SENSE undecided

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by eye2sabi(m): 12:32pm On Aug 20, 2015
onaks2015:

Met ds girl a month ago on my way to get dinner funny enuf I was able to toast her n get her to go home with me(lucky me) she spent d nyt n we had amazing sex..I was single so I kinda asked her out n she agreed dating me.she never asks fr a dime frm me buh sumtyms I just decide to give her.fast forward two weeks later gettin to knw her more she dishes out her number to every tom dick n harry dat asks.yes she's hot but its kinda annoyin she doesn't hv regard fr her number.funny enuf anythin I ask of her she gives willingly buh a fact I knw s dat she goes on dates with all dese guys dat collects her number..anytym I accost her bout it she'd feel unconcerned n proud n she keeps askin me if I wanna breakup..its annoyin n I dunno wat to do..need help frm d house cos I do really like her
your case is not a case of money or not. your woman is either possessed or has experienced somethings in her life that made her loose value for her body.
its up to you to leave or stay but if i were you, i wud leave cos from experience, staying might rob you of your happiness and even your goals if care isn't taken.
#TEAMBRAINSOVERBEAUTY

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by omoharry(f): 12:32pm On Aug 20, 2015
sonofananimal:
WHAT MAKE YOU THINK I AM A BITTER MAN undecided

YOU MAY SEE IT AS GENERALIZING COS YOU ARE A FEMALE, BUT THIS IS JUST THE TRUTH ABOUT YOU PEOPLE.
Give some of us some slack here..we are not all that bad..Are women also right by generalizing that all Nigerian men are unfaithful.
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Captainswag225(m): 12:33pm On Aug 20, 2015
eye2sabi:

wrong quote
lol@possessed.... Okay oo boss.

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by cyprus000: 12:33pm On Aug 20, 2015
new2020:


I wrote a reply on the possibility of Nigerian struggling young men following the path of Japanese men. Below is my reply. Link https://www.nairaland.com/2472792/japan-major-too-many-virgin#36208163


A lot of people don't know what is happening in Japan. I had a Japanese friend few yrs ago tell me what's happening in Japan during a visit with my family. The men in Japan are deciding not to have anything to do with their women anymore. They don't chase their women anymore...Japanese women do the chasing now. This guy told that this started when Japanese women started embracing western culture, feeling as though they can replace men natural role as the head of the family with the "strong and independent" mantra ubiquitous in western countries today. Followed by playing hard and difficult to get...wanting their men to be overly financially stable, handsome, tall enough, have a car, a house, a high paying job before he can even get a chance to get a date with the women let alone sleeping. This infuriated the Japanese men, and they began a movement called " Herbivore Men" similar to what is called MGTOW in western countries...meaning, Men Going Their Own Way. In other words, these men are. saying...there is more to life than women; they are no longer interested in women...chikena! They started to boycott women; won't date women nor sleep with them. They refused to even participate in pornography industry...remember there was an article on this on nairaland in march. Link: https://www.nairaland.com/2308362/japanese-porn-industry-hit-shortage

The Japanese men are vowing not to have anything to do with their women until western gynocentric/feminist culture which they see as a threat to their society is brought down. This MGTOW-style movement is strong in Japan than any country in the world. Even young men as 18 don't have a girlfriend; doesn't care to have one nor is he interested in sex. He prefers being a virgin; worst case he goes home and masturbate. He dresses how he wants to dress; he can wear the same clothes for days, he doesn't shave...I mean they don't acknowledge women validation any more. They are more focused on their careers, school, sports, playing video games, financial independence...save their money and live modest lives. If a woman needs help...like for example her car breaks down on the road, the men will just drive by and pretend they didn't see her. The message they are sending is...since you have embraced western, feminist culture and think you can replace the natural position of men, that's fine, but be prepared to do these traditional men jobs yourself.


What has this done to the Japanese society? Marriage and birth rate are all time low. Which has the government and older generation worried...they have never seen anything like this before. Women now chase men. Women are now begging men to date them. Most women are tired of being alone. Some are even paying to sleep with men. It's crazy in Japan I tell you. The same movement is making gain in US now. Research about MGTOW! Men in general are no longer interested in modern women. Men as old as 40 have no wife or girlfriend. If he wants sex...he masturbates or pay for an escort. That's it...all they are saying is, we want nothing to do with modern women.

Google about Japanese Herbivore men. I did a research on this last yr...that's why I'm very knowledgeable about it. I took my time to put this in context; explain this because someone who reads the OP article will just assume something is wrong with the men especially with the article not providing reason why this is happening; NO Nothing is wrong with them, they have had a enough of today's women and choosing to be celibate by choice!
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The sense in this post is so deap like an ocean, with smooth reading like a lotion and sense in every article portion. I just feel a stronge emotion equating it in our society.

What a blissful feeling it will be,but all this perverts will sabotage us.

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by omoharry(f): 12:35pm On Aug 20, 2015
sonofananimal:
WHY THE WOMEN SHOULD SIT DOWN AND BE FORMING FEMINIST, EATING LIKE FOWL undecided


SO YOU THINK YOU MAKE SENSE undecided
yes..i made alot of sense... you did not answer my questions..as a millionaire, would you still be faithful to that woman that stood by you when you had nothing? will she be the only woman in your life? of cos NO...

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by ghostofsparta(m): 12:39pm On Aug 20, 2015
adorable29:


Some black men especially our Naija guy's mentality sucks, I tell you....

Firstly "who is a struggling guy"?

Cos in this country, at least 90percent of the men are struggling if you ask me. So when does the struggling end that you now decide you want a woman who you can use ur "struggled money" to finally settle down with... This writer thinks he knows women!

The women who even accepts to date you in the first place when you are dirt poor is probably and highly likely the one who LOVES YOU FOR YOU....

So much bull crap on the internet this days...

If you can't find a woman to love you when you are a broke ass niccur, its probably because your attitude su_cks untop your poverty... Funny enough, some girls still fall in love with broke assss niccurs with bad attitude and abusive tendencies. They are so many of them on campus here.

Its not necessary I post a personal experience on a public forum but for the first one year I dated my boo, he could only give me #500 which I rejected. Lol . Ironically, even tho he is doing well now, I loved him more when he had nothing cos of course, his attitude has changed now God has blessed him and he thinks he can get all the women in the world.

Just live life as it presents and stop all this immature hard and fast rules rubbish you come up with based on YOUR OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE of a girl dumping you
. OTHER STRUGGLING GUYS STILL FIND TRUE LOVE. Sadly, they are likely to dump the "true love" when they dive into big cash for a more beautiful gold digger. #FACT
I can relate to your submission, though it is only true for those kinds of 'broke niccurs' with insecurity and/or psychosexual issues. However, what I think the OP is trying to put forth but didn't articulate properly is the peculiar attitude of the generality of Naija babes (specifically those accustomed to Lagos ways) in which they act as if bereft of that kind of 'understanding' that should be mutually understood or otherwise take for granted - in the sense that she being a level-4 or 5 babe would be homing for level-9, 9.5, 10 guys settling at level 7-8 leaning to his material or monetary loudness, which ordinarily shouldn't be so as it isn't so outside Nigeria. A Ghanian, Yankee or European babe doesn't care if a guy is good looking or ugly, rich or poor, intelligent or dull, wayward or decent, she likes you for whatever the reason she sees in you to like you for, but here majority of our babes are all about glamor, they can be likened to that which gravitates towards that which glitters and sometimes it can be truly a gemstone but most times turns out to be flickering embers of pyre. It's even worse nowadays as it is sometimes difficult to tell the classy from the pretentious. In the meantime read: WHY BEEN GORGEOUS IS MORE OF A BURDEN THAN A GIFT IN NIGERIA

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Raalsalghul: 12:40pm On Aug 20, 2015
finditng:


Realistic post indeed...but let me pitch up this simple inverse to your post which you all similar writers, tend to forget...:

Cool...get money...keep your woman happy ....bla bla bla...now here's the turn...who the hell says the objective after making the money should be to please that woman?...why do women have to just slide in with love at that time...who says you as a guy, can't then decide...IF YOU DONT HAVE MY KIND OF MONEY, BOUNCE!..raise your standards boiz and stop giving these girls handouts....I have always said it....its OK when down as a guy..keep up the struggle...but if your woman don't stay...no wahala..but please, when made don't buy that bullshit love yarns if they ain't got your kind of money or a father that can give them same...simple....

Let's see which gender will weep last last cheesy...
Girls be scamming boiz with looks and surprisingly, they are all dying to become acceptable by these bunch of greedy, lazy, unambitious ladies....lol....

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE......upgrade your reasoning men!...
Don't let women toy with you via the "bought" presentation of love...because, really it is BOUGHT when you are made and a broke babe becomes faithful.....
bid higher...get one with similar status and not just looks....now let's see where all these hungry girls who demand things that their fathers can't afford them will run to... grin.....
unfortunately they constitute about 80% of the female population...

Small evidence: boiz already zoning into Angola, Zimbabwe, mauritius, e.t.c to marry.....lol
When I first saw your comment, I thought it was a counter to the Op's thread, but in reality you've just taken the thread further and added things the Op missed. Good one!

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by eye2sabi(m): 12:44pm On Aug 20, 2015
omoharry:
yes..i made alot of sense... you did not answer my questions..as a millionaire, would you still be faithful to that woman that stood by you when you had nothing? will she be the only woman in your life? of cos NO...
yes he would but he may not because just like every other naija guy out there, he might never find that girl even if she exists. our society has made it so hard to survive without owning good cash and the female folks are making it even worse by demanding too much financially from their male counterparts.

#TEAMBRAINSOVERBEAUTY

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Raalsalghul: 12:44pm On Aug 20, 2015
I've always said it, the best time for a struggling guy to get a girl is when the money has started entering, but it hasn't started showing in your lifestyle.

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by cyprus000: 12:47pm On Aug 20, 2015
CutieViva:
Am a gal & a virtous woman in d makin aswel. Plz 4 dose of u guyz out der dat tink dat moni is evrytin & also a reality in a relationship. U guyz re in a longtin, i mean u guyz re gettin it all wrong bcoz if u want 2 knw if ur goin 2b wealthy in lyf it's d power of a woman bcoz we women ve powers 2 control tins. If u lyk ve all d masion on earth, if u marry a woman dat does'nt ve a vision & focus she wil drag u frm masion 2 mud house. So my dear frends, wether it is 21 century or nt wether or realistist or idealist. D 2ruth remains dat if u marry or date a gal bcoz u ve moni, ur goin 2b doom. 4 my strugglin guyz, my advice is u should kip on 2 show ur woman d luv & appreciate her, if she loves u: she wil b der 4u evn if buhari son is askin her out. Then my general advice & conclusion is dat real women in quote ## VIRTOUS WOMEN## look out 4 men of focus wether stil strugglin or nt, dey look out 4 luv nt moni. while ordinary women look out 4 material tins believin dat moni is all abt luv buh i quote dem all wrong dat moni is nt all abt Luv. gd mornin peeps, 10k u all.
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You are an intelligent matured lady.
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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Raalsalghul: 12:48pm On Aug 20, 2015
Kingsasian:
the truth be say you can never satisfy a woman no matter how hard you try to or no matter how much you spend on them. I know of many of my friends wey no get shi shi before yet their gf stuck to them till they got married. A serious and wife material suppose dey tell you how to make money and save for future use. If you like take her out on trips, get her some nice clothes, give her money all the time, if she wan leave you she go still leave you for someone who has more than you. I would rather spend such money on my mother who sacrificed a lot for me and that is exactly what I am doing. No lady is worth my sweat for now. They deserve the crumbs that falls from my table.
You are sensed my brother.
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 12:48pm On Aug 20, 2015
I don't know why some men think that a woman,s happiness in a relationship can be bought with money. Well, for me, I guy that don't k for u when he's broke can not k when he makes money.



That's why I wanna make my money so that no silly man will think I'm loving him for his stupid money.
One thing I know is that love can not be bought. So if u are man and u think that u can buy a woman,s heart with money, sorry for u cos u are in deep shit. We will just train them in the university and they will comeout to hate u for one thing or the other even with all ur money.
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Nobody: 12:49pm On Aug 20, 2015
mubarak001:
I expected to read a life story here but oops, the Op just talked stories...support it with an instance and the blurred pix becomes clearer.
Is a common knowledge that you will struggle in r/s if you have not got the cash but hell no. If you have got swag, lyrics, brains, smart and creative mind...you will lose count of them dying at your beck and call.
+Tell them.
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 12:51pm On Aug 20, 2015
I don't know why some men think that a woman,s happiness in a relationship can be bought with money. Well, for me, I guy that don't k for u when he's broke can not k when he makes money.



That's why I wanna make my money so that no silly man will think I'm loving him for his stupid money.
One thing I know is that love can not be bought. So if u are man and u think that u can buy a woman,s heart with money, sorry for u cos u are in deep shit. We will just train them in the university and they will comeout to hate u for one thing or the other even with all ur money. Just as some women are not husband material according men, some men are not husband material. They are jonly good for fun.
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by charlesbailey(m): 12:56pm On Aug 20, 2015
Nice one OP, girls tend to take you for granted when you show too much affection and all... they like project-guys.. the whole game turns sour when they realize the dude is already falling head over heels for them.. complicated right? that's just the truth
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Nobody: 12:56pm On Aug 20, 2015
omoharry:
yes..i made alot of sense... you did not answer my questions..as a millionaire, would you still be faithful to that woman that stood by you when you had nothing? will she be the only woman in your life? of cos NO ...
YOU WANT ME TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION BUT YET GIVE THE ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION WHICH MAY EVEN BE WRONG.

YES. FORGET THOSE CELEBRITY ON TV WHICH MAY BE GIVING THE WRONG MESSAGE OF LIFE WITH THERE SOCIAL LIFE STYLE.

IT DO HAPPEN ALOT, MANY PEOPLE HAVE MARRIED TO A WOMAN WHO STOOD BY THERE SIDE WHEN THERE ARE NOTHING, AND I HAVE SEEN MANY LIKE THAT.


THE ANSWER TO YOURS QUESTION IS YES
WHO WILL EVEN WANT TO MARRY A GOLD DIGGER undecided
MEN ONLY USE THEM FOR SEX

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Raalsalghul: 12:56pm On Aug 20, 2015
otunsman:
Frankly, I am a struggling guy but I don't use my small change to impress any girl for a relationship or love.If konji worry my na brothel I dey go straight. There are hot chicks that suit my taste in the in the brothel I patronize and they satisfy me wella. They even give me head.Ask me how much I dey pay?Na just 1k and with full protection unlike the gf's who gives it raw.
You are sensed. A true son of your father.

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Motivatore: 1:01pm On Aug 20, 2015
Atlantian:
The Bible says, and I quote; "MONEY ANSWERS ALL THINGS". I do not need a woman to love me. I am a strong man. But when it comes to women loving me, I can say I am a butterfly with women. They love me, because I am enigma of some sort. My environs is welcoming, soothing and calm. I treat every guest as the queen of heaven, yet I am superficial and eccentric with the humility of a palm wine tapper. I pour the wines as a professional bar man. In the valley of the shadows of death, I make them fear no evil. I rob their hair with oil and their cups runs over with the wines. Their Goodness and mercy follows me all the way down the bed. In the valley of the shadows of their thighs, I fear no evil. My words, soothes their pains, and make light their worries. True love dies, real love is oiled by wealth. Go and hustle my friend.
and you think Wise King Solomon didn't have all these when he said "vanity upon vanity is VANITY?
Wise up man... If you keep up with this kind of mentality, you'll die lonely and abandoned... Thats where true love comes in - they stay. They never leave, no matter the circumstances. Good health, bad health, rich, poor, shitting on yourself, crippled - they just never leave. You know why? They can't! And that's what money can't buy!

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by bollify(m): 1:02pm On Aug 20, 2015
adorable29:


Some black men especially our Naija guy's mentality sucks, I tell you....

Firstly "who is a struggling guy"?

Cos in this country, at least 90percent of the men are struggling if you ask me. So when does the struggling end that you now decide you want a woman who you can use ur "struggled money" to finally settle down with... This writer thinks he knows women!

The women who even accepts to date you in the first place when you are dirt poor is probably and highly likely the one who LOVES YOU FOR YOU....

So much bull crap on the internet this days...

If you can't find a woman to love you when you are a broke ass niccur, its probably because your attitude su_cks untop your poverty... Funny enough, some girls still fall in love with broke assss niccurs with bad attitude and abusive tendencies. They are so many of them on campus here.

Its not necessary I post a personal experience on a public forum but for the first one year I dated my boo, he could only give me #500 which I rejected. Lol . Ironically, even tho he is doing well now, I loved him more when he had nothing cos of course, his attitude has changed now God has blessed him and he thinks he can get all the women in the world.

Just live life as it presents and stop all this immature hard and fast rules rubbish you come up with based on YOUR OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE of a girl dumping you
. OTHER STRUGGLING GUYS STILL FIND TRUE LOVE. Sadly, they are likely to dump the "true love" when they dive into big cash for a more beautiful gold digger. #FACT


I how I wish I have a thousand like. It's sickening to read these generalisations on here in nairaland always. Born without a silver spoon and still struggling to survive but no girl had ever left me because of that. I'm not even handsome that we will make that as a possible factor, and with my experience so far, a lot of Nigerian ladies want to be seen as the woman behind his success. If one stay too much on here he will get lost from reality.
The girls that are married to those okada men, the one Abu the cobbler made his wife, what about ojo the barrow pusher in agege, didn't these ppl marry Nigerian girls? Are they rich to have marry Nigerian girls? Do they have all the money to spice up the relationship according to the op. I know a lot of hair stylist (barber) who are married to university graduate in my area, akure taxi drivers and so on happily married to graduate.

This generalisation is sickening to say the least. That you have bad experience shouldn't make you come to cyber space to start lashing on Nigerian girls. Naija girls have also face lots of heartbreaks from the men they choose to love. Does that translate to naija guys being emotional dead?

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