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OK.. I was surfing the Web and saw this pretty interesting write up and I agree with it completely not jes because it's from a lady but because i've been in that shoe.... so i've decided to throw the question to the house. Do you think it's true??

If you cheat on someone, you simply don’t love
or respect that person fiercely enough.
—
If you cheat on someone you’re dating, you
don’t love that person. I’m sorry, but it’s true. If
you are unfaithful, you are not in love.
I don’t care if people “make mistakes.” I don’t
give a flying f*ck if we’re “all human.”
Cheating is not a mistake you make when you
truly love someone. Let me just clarify this for a second, in case you missed it the first time: YOU CANNOT
CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU LOVE. IT IS
IMPOSSIBLE.
Full disclosure: This article is kind of personal
and very preachy. If you are a person who has
cheated on someone and still believes you love
that person, you’re about to have your a*s
handed to you. When I bring up this subject in my social circle,it quickly dissolves into a heated debate. Allow me to explain why I am undoubtedly correct when I say that you cannot cheat on someone you love.

Let’s start at the very beginning. I should
probably note that I’m not a saint when it
comes to relationships. I know… shocker! I’m, in
fact, a true, undoubted sinner. I’m a notorious
cheater.I believe that my past urge to cheat comes from never really wanting to commit to a relationship — but still selfishly wanting all the benefits of having one.
I’ve always valued my independence and ability
to do whatever the f*ck I want, but I also enjoy
having someone to cuddle and go to dinner
with. During my bizarre and dreadfully muddled
dating history, I’ve been the gluttonous harpy
who must have her cake and eat it too.
My ideal situation was having my boyfriend wait
for me at home while I was off kissing
strangers in sketchy dive bars. In an ideal word,
my boyfriend would have understood my need
to be free. But that doesn’t happen in reality.
In reality, I lied. I was “in a relationship” only
when my boyfriend was present. I was a sh*tty
girlfriend. I openly admit this.
On top of all of this, I’m pretty transparent
about my habits and the insatiability that stems
from my deep-seated FOMO. But every guy who
comes my way is positive that he will be the
guy to change me. He will be the guy to make me give up my cheating ways. I had to wonder what was so wrong with me that I felt compelled to cheat on my boyfriends.

I had to question why I never really felt guilty.
I came to realize that everything had to do with
the tepid feelings I had for the men I was
dating. I didn’t care enough about my
relationships to not risk ruining them. I didn’t
respect my partners enough to treat them like
they were my partners. After a lot of contemplation, I’ve become absolutely sure that if you love someone and respect someone enough, you cannot cheat on that person. You simply cannot. It would kill you.

Let’s talk about respect.
It all comes down to respect. If you truly respect
the person you’ve committed to, you will never
be able to cheat on him or her. You would just
not be capable of doing that to someone you
care deeply about. For the first time in my crazy, messed-up lovelife, I believe that I am truly in love — madly,head-over-heels kind of love. The difference with this relationship is that I have a deep and profound respect for my boyfriend.
He treats me beautifully, he challenges me, and
he is there for me whenever I need him. He is
my best friend. I’m repulsed by the thought of
letting another guy touch me. It makes my skin
crawl. The idea of hurting someone I respect so much breaks my heart. I couldn’t. I wouldn’t. The only time I would do something like that would be if I didn’t honor him the way that I do. If you cheat on your partner, you do not respect him or her enough not to betray stray. You may as well leave now. Your infidelity is all the proof
you need that the two of you are not right for
each other. You can certainly care for your partner, but you don’t care ENOUGH.

I’ve cared for the men I have cheated on. I have loved each and every one of them in my own
way. But I didn’t love them enough to be faithful.
You can certainly care for — and love — a
person you betray. You can obviously have
feelings for this person. (You two are in a
relationship, after all.) But you don’t love him or her enough. If you truly loved this person with all of your heart, there would be no one else. Other men or women would not even exist for you.
It’s understandable that you don’t want to give
this person up. You love him or her. You want
to be with him or her. But this is what you need to understand:
If you cannot sacrifice the touch of another person —
if you cannot resist the physical urge to f*ck
someone else in favor of honoring your
relationship — you do not
value that relationship enough.
You can feel that love, but it does not burn
brightly enough. If you cheat on someone, you
simply don’t love or respect that person fiercely
enough.
Allow me to restate my thesis: YOU CANNOT
CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU LOVE. IT IS
IMPOSSIBLE.
I should know. I’ve been there.
www.informationng.com/2015/09/the-ugly-truth-if-you-cheat-on-someone-you-do-not-love-that-person.html

well composed bullshît!..coming from a woman?, no wonder!

I agree...the message is very clear abt this...been there, done that.

KashyBaby:
I agree...the message is very clear abt this...been there, done that.

*yimu* just pray u don't face the temtation that'll be beyond ur control!

lekjons:
*yimu* just pray u don't face the temtation that'll be beyond ur control!

The thing is Most Nigerians don't think before acting and that's why we fall into temptation with our eyes wide open. this same temptation you are talking about, you can choose to either fall or not. but most times, we Nigerians are carried away by temporary pleasures. choosing to enjoy the pleasures now and suffer the consequences all our lives than endure the pains now and enjoy the gains later on.

Davijunson:
The thing is Most Nigerians don't think before acting and that's why we fall into temptation with our eyes wide open. this same temptation you are talking about, you can choose to either fall or not. but most times, we Nigerians are carried away by temporary pleasures. choosing to enjoy the pleasures now and suffer the consequences all our lives than endure the pains now and enjoy the gains later on.

whenever you're being tempted, ur desires will be controlling half of u, for how long'll u endure? you're fighting urself, within urself..u said something about thinking b4 acting..u think with ur brain, not with ur jt/p*sy, and in sense of cheating, ur jt/p*sy is the one demanding here(don't u wonder y mad people fùck themselves?)

i think the only way out is to stay away from thing/place u can be tempted, or leave quickly b4 the urge becomes great...

True but sometimes its false..like girls desperate to get a job or avoid carry over

lekjons:
whenever you're being tempted, ur desires will be controlling half of u, for how long'll u endure? you're fighting urself, within urself..u said something about thinking b4 acting..u think with ur brain, not with ur jt/p*sy, and in sense of cheating, ur jt/p*sy is the one demanding here(don't u wonder y mad people fùck themselves?)

i think the only way out is to stay away from thing/place u can be tempted, or leave quickly b4 the urge becomes great...

I do agree with you Esp with the Bolded. that's why I would advise that one should avoid temptation by fleeing. but guy, no matter the urge, your mind still rules over your Joystick/Pu$$¥... except maybe you have demons inside you that makes you act against your wish.

Davijunson:
I do agree with you Esp with the Bolded. that's why I would advise that one should avoid temptation by fleeing. but guy, no matter the urge, your mind still rules over your Joystick/Pu$$¥... except maybe you have demons inside you that makes you act against your wish.

well waybe!... see ya!

lekjons:
*yimu* just pray u don't face the temtation that'll be beyond ur control!

I don't pray but everyone has an options either she will continue cheating while shes in a relationahip or she'll end do relationship so she can continue what makes her happy...

KashyBaby:
I don't pray but everyone has an options either she will continue cheating while shes in a relationahip or she'll end do relationship so she can continue what makes her happy...

u don't pray! why?..

note: we're talking about while being tempted..

Nice right up by the op. And yes you cant love someone and cheat on them but please, its not only nigerians that cheat now. Why narrowing your discuss down to nigerians ?

Davijunson:
The thing is Most Nigerians don't think before acting and that's why we fall into temptation with our eyes wide open. this same temptation you are talking about, you can choose to either fall or not. but most times, we Nigerians are carried away by temporary pleasures. choosing to enjoy the pleasures now and suffer the consequences all our lives than endure the pains now and enjoy the gains later on.

I have always been and still am of the opinion that there is never a justified reason to cheat in a relationship. Temptation or not. That's even one of the silliest excuses ever ==» TEMPTATION

ilobasama:
Nice right up by the op. And yes you cant love someone and cheat on them but please, its not only nigerians that cheat now. Why narrowing your discuss down to nigerians ?

Because we are in Nigeria and it has been statistically proven that Nigerian women are the most Unfaithful in the world.

Lols.....well, our ladies are sha. Cant dispute you on that

Davijunson:
Because we are in Nigeria and it has been statistically proven that Nigerian women are the most Unfaithful in the world.

Cheating is not a mistake you make when you TRULY love aΩ̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ respect some1 enuf.. It wud kill you to be with some1 else.


Mayb you do love n care 4 ds person, but you dont love him/her firecely enough to resit d urge.

lekjons:
u don't pray! why?..

note: we're talking about while being tempted..

Temptation is always there waiting for u...but it's up for u to decide what's good for u whether u pray or not..but ppol blame it to d evil once they caught red handed..