queenfav:
Wow, your point is that a woman should keep on doing all you pointed out, knowing her husband is cheating,just to avoid being deserted?It doesn't work that way.Ask any married lady here.Again,you are entitled to your own opinion.But from someone who has spent close to a year handling all sorts of matrimonial cases,I'll say you need a firmer grip on reality.No offense!

I will advice you to maintain psychological liberality when dealing with your clients so that you can give them top notch advice but i you allow sentimentality to set in then you just might be giving wrong advice which may destroy their homes more.

Men are polygamous by nature and there is nothing you,me or anyone can do about it.

A woman is left with 4 choices.

1.Divorce an adulterous man and remain single for life.
2.Remarry another man with no guaranty that he wont also cheat on you.
3.Go about sleeping with randy men.
4.Remain in your marriage and focus on building your life and that of your children.

The choice is yours.

Complete rubbish!
There are men who will still cheat regardless of their woman's great qualities. The same applies to women.
If your man or woman really wants to cheat, you can't control or stop it.

sparkleice:
I smell lies here.sme men will stil cheat on u evn aftr doing all these.evn f u want to gve him. Ur kitty cat everyday,tie. Ur two legs on d ceilng,cook hs best meal,and all dat he wil stil nt b satisfy wt u alone a cheat s always a cheat.so forgt ds post

Inasmuch as I agree with u, there's always ds peace of mind knwing dat u hv done ur best.

IzonOwei:
the world has actually relegated the seriousness of marriage in the times we live in...its so hard for men to be faithful these days...it will only take a guy who respects and appreciates good qualities in a women not to cheat on her...but such men are rare..sometimes even the few who are wel behaved end up falling sometimes... ...there are a few reasons why its so tough for men:

1..MONEY: money is such a bad thing for a guy who is struggling to be faithful to his woman...with so much cool cash there is this tendency for an average guy to ginger any beautiful lady out there...this is a very serious issue...i have had friends who were all churchy and chaste right through the university but are now womanizers after securing a job with SHELL,MOBIL,CHEVRON etc...so bad...money can make a man feel he can do all things...And we know the beautiful girls are on the prowl to get them well to do boys...

2..DECADENCE in the world presently..fornication is just right in front of all men...the internet,at our work places...Ladies wont let a chaste man think well...In the past sexual immorality wasnt much advertised,but now its viral(instagram,facebook,porn sites,bbm etc)...

For me...its all about applying scriptural principles and always putting the interest of Jah and our wives ahead of ours..then we can avoid hurting them...


E NO EASY OOOOO...

waooo! thumbs up!
and to even think this is even coming frm an izon guy.

Pamelayoung:


Inasmuch as I agree with u, there's always ds peace of mind knwing dat u hv done ur best.

GBAM!

Many ladies crying a cheat will always be a cheat are mare noise makers.

Asides from getting the whole drift wrong im very certain that most ladies against this do not even have two out of the 6 qualities.

Obinrin so iwa nu o ni owun o ri ile oko gbe(A woman who lacks good virtues will usually complain that all men are bad)

ladygudhead:


waooo! thumbs up!
and to even think this is even coming frm an izon guy.

e no easy my sister oo..but we dey try sha...

true talk. but a cheat is always a cheat not matter what u do to please him. we don hear u oooooooo.

Ladies run from nigerian men...ruuuuuuun! Your life depends on it, you are not super human, you've got feelings and needs too. We nigerian men are unappreciative of you, we'll always blame our stupidity on u. We want u to work, cook, clean, be sex maniacs for us, soon we'll give y'all the work of producing sperm and then when we cheat it's ur fault! Never ours! We no get sense at all at all! Ruuuuuuun . Thanks

We always expect 100% from u but we never give you 100%. Are u a robot?? Run o!

Do all these things are we'll not be "snatched" because we are vulnerable handbags that can be stolen, we have no minds of our own!

true talk. but a cheat is always a cheat not matter what u do to please him. we don hear u oooooooo.....

Nice one op. Person wen chop better pounded yam with egusi soup wen bush meat spoil nor get business with gala for outside

sparkleice:
I smell lies here.sme men will stil cheat on u evn aftr doing all these.evn f u want to gve him. Ur kitty cat everyday,tie. Ur two legs on d ceilng,cook hs best meal,and all dat he wil stil nt b satisfy wt u alone a cheat s always a cheat.so forgt ds post

So what should women/wives do; leave everything to chance?

@Tok2008, True talk. But not all men are dsame. Wil always play my part. Thanx

Good write up except you screwed up with the God fearing part. That's hogwash.

EgunMogaji:
Good write up except you screwed up with the God fearing part. That's hogwash.

Wettin GOD do you?

Toks2008:


Wettin GOD do you?

Nothing. Why do you ask?

EgunMogaji:


Nothing. Why do you ask?

saying it was a hogwash to add point 6

It's simple, most men need 3 things.

Feed us (real thoughtful and prepared food), fluj us (and I don't mean the ice cream pretending scripture union fluj, I mean hanging from the chandelier, put your leg up here, do that thing with your tongue kinda flujing) and then leave us alone. Then we won't stray.

Toks2008:


saying it was a hogwash to add point 6

That's my opinion.

I'm too matured and too seasoned to think that has any bearing on this specific matter.

I don't need my wife to be an SU. It's rigademdiculous at best to equate religiousness with good wife material.

Some Men are born cheats remember

sparkleice:
I smell lies here.sme men will stil cheat on u evn aftr doing all these.evn f u want to gve him. Ur kitty cat everyday,tie. Ur two legs on d ceilng,cook hs best meal,and all dat he wil stil nt b satisfy wt u alone a cheat s always a cheat.so forgt ds post

dumping u is diferent frm cheating. read nd understand d mssg of d write up. TNK U

EgunMogaji:


That's my opinion.

I'm too matured and too seasoned to think that has any bearing on this specific matter.

I don't need my wife to be an SU. It's rigademdiculous at best to equate religiousness with good wife material.

Fear of GOD has nada to do with being religious.

If not for my fear of GOD i dont think a day will pas without bleeping a chic so its only fear of GOD that wil make a woman mellow down and maintain a status quo.

Toks2008:

Gbam! Thats all.

Women will read this article and without assimilating they start talking about men will always cheat and im like "what on earth were they thinking when they were reading the write up"?

If you like be an angel, a cheat will always be one but the point im making is that even if he cheats on you he will never even imagine dumping you NEVER except maybe he is under a very strong spell and that spell go try.

Come, Toks are u sure you're ok? Is that supposed to be a consolation. Is the dumping worse than the cheating. I should do all these for a cheating man? I dey crase? If my husband cheats, he'll be the one doing all these to remain RELEVANT to me. What the hell is that?

It's women I blame. If they never stayed with their cheating husbands, all these insults wldnt arise. Mtchewwwww!

Toks2008:

Fear of GOD has nada to do with being religious.

If not for my fear of GOD i dont think a day will pas without bleeping a chic so its only fear of GOD that wil make a woman mellow down and maintain a status quo.

I disagree and I'm thankful that I don't associate with women like that.

Any woman that needs the fear of God to mellow is not useful to me as she's practically worthless.

This is why we're still a 3rd world country in 2015. We need to realign out thought process.

Just my thought process sha.

We're not going to agree on this and my position is unwavering so I'll drop down from this molue here.

EgunMogaji out.

Joy1706:

Come, Toks are u sure you're ok? Is that supposed to be a consolation. Is the dumping worse than the cheating. I should do all these for a cheating man? I dey crase? If my husband cheats, he'll be the one doing all these to remain RELEVANT to me. What the hell is that?

It's women I blame. If they never stayed with their cheating husbands, all these insults wldnt arise. Mtchewwwww!

As you have deduced im apparently not ok.

If you ever find ur hubby philandering please leave him sharply and be with another man who will definitely not cheat on you.

I will always repeat,men will be men and if you find a faithful man then thank GOD. I will never advice any man to commit adultery neither does it change the fact that men are potentially polygamous and as i have written before,any woman who catches her hubby in any form of adultery has 4 choices.

1.Divorce an adulterous man and remain single for life.
2.Remarry another man with no guaranty that he wont also cheat on you.
3.Go about sleeping with randy men.
4.Remain in your marriage and focus on building your life and that of your children.

The choice is yours.

EgunMogaji:


I disagree and I'm thankful that I don't associate with women like that.

Any woman that needs the fear of God to mellow is not useful to me as she's practically worthless.

This is why we're still a 3rd world country in 2015. We need to realign out thought process.

Just my thought process sha.

We're not going to agree on this and my position is unwavering so I'll drop down from this molue here.

EgunMogaji out.

Whatever rocks your boat bro.

Thanks

Toks2008:


I guess i would have expressed this article in different languages for peeoplle to read and assimilate because its so baffling that people writting funny stuffs of a man still cheating on a lady despite these virtues definitely did not assimiilate.

Cheating on a woman is never the same as dumping her outrightly for another woman and as i have explained in my write up i was hammering on the fact that a rrandy man will still do side chics but will never dump a woman wiith these attributes.

Please people should learn to assimilate n not just read.

actually, whats baffling here is how you expect women to accept cheating, as if it was something "normal". why would you even want a woman to accept such low state of mind?! why would you want a woman to stay with a disrespectful, unfaithful, deceitful husband?! and then when she possibly catches the deadly disease that the mistress had, you will be the one singing another tune.

what kind of low self esteem person would even want to stay with such ignorant cheating man? what you are saying is that women should be happy that a cheating man stays with her?!
here is the simple fact for you: since "cheating" is now something that we should ALL accept, do you tell these deluded women that they can cheat too?"

unless you believe that cheating is RIGHT, WRONG will always be WRONG no matter how you want to sugarcoat it.

MRBrownJ:


actually, whats baffling here is how you expect women to accept cheating, as if it was something "normal". why would you even want a woman to accept such low state of mind?! why would you want a woman to stay with a disrespectful, unfaithful, deceitful husband?! and then when she possibly catches the deadly disease that the mistress had, you will be the one singing another tune.

what kind of low self esteem person would even want to stay with such ignorant cheating man? what you are saying is that women should be happy that a cheating man stays with her?!
here is the simple fact for you: since "cheating" is now something that we should ALL accept, do you tell these deluded women that they can cheat too?"

unless you believe that cheating is RIGHT, WRONG will always be WRONG no matter how you want to sugarcoat it.

Alagba Brown

I have passed the age of delusion and illusion.I have grown beyond fantasies and wishful thoughts.

Its not about what is right ore wrong and this is not about been happy or sad ore any form of sermon on the mount.

What is the difference between a man that cheats and a man with many wives?

Polygamy is an age long thing and a woman is monogamous in nature and any woman who disagrees should go ahead and marry two husbands and see how good it makes her feel.

I understand that many people especially ladies will never agree to my stand view.

The day a woman starts hinging her marital happiness on her hubby's fidelity is the day she starts to embrace sadness.

Every woman should embrace the virtue i listed to be relevant in her matrimonial home and this has nothing to do with making the hubby stay sexually faithful to her and i repeat,all adulterers are definitely on a destructive path and of-course hell awaits them but this sermon won't change a thing.

As difficult as it may sound,every lady should expect that guy to cheat and if he never does i say congrats to her. I don't expect any teenager to understand this or any one that is immature at heart but as they grow they will remember this fact.

But as im writing for the last time, no one is forcing any woman to stay with an adulterous man as there are several options to pick from.

1.Divorce an adulterous man and remain single for life.
2.Remarry another man who is also likely to be already married and with no guaranty that he wont also cheat on you.
3.Go about sleeping with randy men if your libido kicks.
4.Or remain in your marriage and focus on building your life and that of your children.

The choice is yours.

Toks2008:


As you have deduced im apparently not ok.

If you ever find ur hubby philandering please leave him sharply and be with another man who will definitely not cheat on you.

I will always repeat,men will be men and if you find a faithful man then thank GOD. I will never advice any man to commit adultery neither does it change the fact that men are potentially polygamous and as i have written before,any woman who catches her hubby in any form of adultery has 4 choices.

1.Divorce an adulterous man and remain single for life.
2.Remarry another man with no guaranty that he wont also cheat on you.
3.Go about sleeping with randy men.
4.Remain in your marriage and focus on building your life and that of your children.

The choice is yours.

Men are not polygamous in nature. Pls dnt tell me that BS again. Wld be much happier single than with a philandering man. If I choose to stay, we'd be nothing more than roommates. He does what he likes with his life and I do same.

Joy1706:

Men are not polygamous in nature. Pls dnt tell me that BS again. Wld be much happier single than with a philandering man. If I choose to stay, we'd be nothing more than roommates. He does what he likes with his life and I do same.

Yeah remain single and sleep with another philanderer when you want it or remain celibate forever.Whatever rocks your boat sis.

FIXED!!!

Toks2008:

1.Divorce an adulterous man and remain single for life. what about divorce and find a man that RESPECTS you, treats you and your family RIGHT and makes you happy?!
2.Remarry another man with no guaranty that he wont also cheat on you.why try to put fear in the heart of these women in order for them to accept these NO GOOD MEN?! there is a 50/50% for these women to find a RIGHT man and thats why you should advise them never to settle for less/BS. there is NO guarantees in life and therefore let that woman decide what she wants for her life instead of making it seem like being disrespected, being humiliated, putting her at deadly harm's way is the best thing for them to do
3.Go about sleeping with randy men. although that wont solve the problem at hand, if such lady wants to do it, she sure could (since that the kind of marriage they are into)
4.Remain in your marriage and focus on building your life and that of your children.A) the essence of that marriage is NOT there any longer, B) the RESPECT is NOT there any longer, C) since the reason she got married aint there any longer she must re-evauate her stand and decide if she desperately still want to stay in that deluded deadly union, but most importantly, D) she would be putting her life and that of her children at great risks (who would care for the kids when daddy and mummy are dead from HIV related illnesses?!)