Useless ranting by women to sound caring. You believe your children over the nanny? Just tell us that you are uncomfortable with the nanny's influence on the children. She does her work perfectly and some idiots are here shouting you should sack her, whats her offence? She hasnt wrong you but you want to send a forty year old back to the unemployment market because of soemthing you can handle by sitting her down and voice your concern. Women being their worst enemy as ever, idiots.

You said, “it Seems she isn't challenged enough with the workload” is she your slave? Kill her with workload then so that u will be happy. You are trouble maker and a gossiper that is why you are not free to yourself let alone your neighbours. Tell yourself the truth.

gbosaa:



You are a horrible person. Your sort should not head any organisation. This man didn't complain about the lady not getting the job done. He is not happy that the women went to the neighbours to watch TV with the kids.

Did you even ask how much the lady collects every hour,day,week or month.

She cleans the house, school runs, prepare food, teaching etc... ...

You people should turn her into a donkey.

y u carry dis matter 4 ur forehead pass d op?......frm ma findings d maid is less occupied so all I listed above is to kip her alil preoccupied so watz ur hypertension over dis matter? in d 1st place are dos chores humanly possible?.......mr man dey reason well b4 u start to open all ur mouth like a westerner

I don't really get what the problem is, if it's about your private life, I'm sure if you are nice to her she won't talk shyt to your neighbours.
I don't get the issue here tbh.

ambient:
all you women up there advicng her to sack her or give her extra load are wicked what happened to simple telling her not to go there.wicked housewives

In fact ehh, I can tell you that Jezebel is a saint compared to some women of today.

gbosaa:
@ mystical888.

Is there anything about your neighbourhood or the residents that you are not comfortable with? If your answer is yes, maybe it's time to find and relocate to a more comfortable environment.

Secondly, how much are you paying this 40 something year old lady that she has to commit 60 hours or more of her life every week to work for you?

Have you got TV and other entertainments inn your house...such as radio or music? What sort of programmes are accessible on your TV?

I don't want to believe that you are a sociopath or sadist. Someone is working 7am-7pm and you and some phools here are suggesting that she needs more work load.. . For all those animals advising you to add more work load for her, may their hands and legs break with more work load.

What is her offence? That she went to your neighbours to watch TV with your kids If someone like you would take time to know your neighbours, you wouldn't be online posting this. If you are not happy with your neighbours or the environment, address it with her otherwise stop being paranoid and mean. She and your kids are not under some house arrest.

Btw has that woman not got a family to endure 7am-7pm everyday in your house??

The lady works at least 240 hours every month..that's from mon to fri. or more if she works weekend and people are asking you to add more work......... ...isi gbasaakwaa ha there. What nonsense....go get a slave.

Abi

yomi007k:
Those people aint Robots.

They need 2 mingle wt other ppl or else depression gona creep in.

So long as she does her job well n does no harm, I don't think dts a big deal.

SUPPORTED!!!. A woman at her age suppose not to be alone. She probably ment NO harm by visiting your neighbour but to ease stress/fatique having worked for at least 72 hours a week for you. You need not to worry except if you don't feel safe with your neighbour.

(1) prepare the kids and take them to school every morning.

(2) Return to the house and do housekeep.

(3)Take the kids home after school hours.

(4)Prepare lunch for them and help them with their home work.

Her hours of work is between 7am and 7pm when she resigns to go to her house



What is ur role as a mother if a stranger spends 13 hours with your kids
U HV to define the type of training u intend to give to ur children ,
After making the money u want to make I hope u won't regret it.

Mystical888:

Hello House,

I'm in a dilemma concerning my househelp and Nanny.

I've noticed she has developed a relationship with the neighbours which I'm not comfortable about.

She isn't a live in hand but has been with us for 2 years now.
She is a woman in her early 40s, a Yoruba Christian who stays not too far from my place.

She helps with housechores when we are away at work.
Her job role is to:-

(1) prepare the kids and take them to school every morning.

(2) Return to the house and do housekeep.

(3)Take the kids home after school hours.

(4)Prepare lunch for them and help them with their home work.

Her hours of work is between 7am and 7pm when she resigns to go to her house.

My daughter has told me how they've gone twice to watch TV next door in the home of both neighbours. (Nanny took them there).

Should I be worried about this development or is it part of the growing up phase for the kids?

Seems she isn't challenged enough with the workload and what does she do when she's at the neighbours.

GoTv is only N4,500 with 41 channels.

Tell her you don't want her taking your kids to people's houses in your absence.

She's loving her neighbors as herself jaaaare

7 to 7? wow. I just hope you spend time with the kids sha. Let me believe you cone home at least 2 to 3 hrs before she leaves to spend time with the kids before bedtime.
Anyhow back to topic. I wouldnt like that too if my neighbours are not friendly with me. Esp if my neighbours are the nosy amebos and ITK types. Lets be frank, many of us wouldnt like it either if person with personal or intimate details about us starts socializing with people who know us but are not pals with us we will not be comfortable knowing that the small arguement between you and your wife last night is now public debate etc I would ask her to stop going over esp with my kids.
on the other hand, I hope sh3 wont start picking on the kids for letting you know she takes them places.

Mystical888:

Hello House,

I'm in a dilemma concerning my househelp and Nanny.

I've noticed she has developed a relationship with the neighbours which I'm not comfortable about.

She isn't a live in hand but has been with us for 2 years now.
She is a woman in her early 40s, a Yoruba Christian who stays not too far from my place.

She helps with housechores when we are away at work.
Her job role is to:-

(1) prepare the kids and take them to school every morning.

(2) Return to the house and do housekeep.

(3)Take the kids home after school hours.

(4)Prepare lunch for them and help them with their home work.

Her hours of work is between 7am and 7pm when she resigns to go to her house.

My daughter has told me how they've gone twice to watch TV next door in the home of both neighbours. (Nanny took them there).

Should I be worried about this development or is it part of the growing up phase for the kids?

Seems she isn't challenged enough with the workload and what does she do when she's at the neighbours.

Nne becareful before we hear another case of missing children. (God forbid).She is already performing your role as a mother. Try & create time for your kids. This is when they need you

You are not a mother

I have so many questions to ask the woman who runs away from her motherly obligation...

*Who takes care of the Nanny's kids?

*What about your husband, does he work from dawn till dusk too?

*Can you say you are a good neighbour to your neighbours?

*What about your relatives... Don't you think if you pick one up and 'sponsor' until your kids are well grown it could be a plus?

*Are you getting the drift of my questions at all?

TopHand:

Thank you oo, imagine 12hrs wilth children and you want to stop her interacting with people, all those women complaining on nairaland that they are afriad that the nanny will gossip, of course she is going to gossip, what about them do they gossip? asking a woman not to gossip is like asking a leopard to change his spots, ok if you dont want her talking to the neighbours can she invite her friend to visit her. how much are you paying this woman anyway?

You're on point...

Wicked women

NemzySeries:

y u carry dis matter 4 ur forehead pass d op?......frm ma findings d maid is less occupied so all I listed above is to kip her alil preoccupied so watz ur hypertension over dis matter? in d 1st place are dos chores humanly possible?.......mr man dey reason well b4 u start to open all ur mouth like a westerner

Wicked man

Don't tell her anything until you see her give your utensils or.... To any of them. Be extremely observant

NemzySeries:

y u carry dis matter 4 ur forehead pass d op?......frm ma findings d maid is less occupied so all I listed above is to kip her alil preoccupied so watz ur hypertension over dis matter? in d 1st place are dos chores humanly possible?.......mr man dey reason well b4 u start to open all ur mouth like a westerner

How much is she being paid for additional chores. You dot need to reason well to know that's inhumane. Keeping his children safe till he returns from wherever,is that not enough??

Do you know what that woman endure from being in his house? Do you think it's easy to start your day by around 5am, go to work at his house and start by 7am, feed and get his kids ready for school, take them to school, clean his house, go back to school in the afternoon to bring the kids back, feed and clean them, teach and help with their home work??. And you lot are asking him to add more!!! How wicked can you people be. Ask your boss at the office to add more for you.

Yes I'm hyper cos I know someone going through similar experience. Do you all care if that woman has got children of her own or husband? Do you care how she feels after each day? Do you care what time she goes to bed in the night to wake at probably 5am? Do you care who prepares food for her family?

All you care is...add more work to keep her busy!! How do you lots think? Tell your sociopath friend to make friends around the neighbourhood, that visit might be helping the kids to socialise, it might be good for thee development. It might be helping the lady to unwind.

Anybody who shouts more work for that woman, may that person carry an atlas stone on his/her shoulders

Mean, disgusting people.

Some things are funny!
She's been working with you for 2 years and you expect her not to talk to anyone in a place where she spends most of her time.
Even those who work In companies still get to chat about certain things other than work. Except if you have issues with the neighbors.

Mystical888:

Hello House,

I'm in a dilemma concerning my househelp and Nanny.

I've noticed she has developed a relationship with the neighbours which I'm not comfortable about.

She isn't a live in hand but has been with us for 2 years now.
She is a woman in her early 40s, a Yoruba Christian who stays not too far from my place.

She helps with housechores when we are away at work.
Her job role is to:-

(1) prepare the kids and take them to school every morning.

(2) Return to the house and do housekeep.

(3)Take the kids home after school hours.

(4)Prepare lunch for them and help them with their home work.

Her hours of work is between 7am and 7pm when she resigns to go to her house.

My daughter has told me how they've gone twice to watch TV next door in the home of both neighbours. (Nanny took them there).

Should I be worried about this development or is it part of the growing up phase for the kids?

Seems she isn't challenged enough with the workload and what does she do when she's at the neighbours.

Op, you should only be concern if she's discussing your family affairs with your neighbours or someone who's not in good terms with u. As for the woman, she can be bored and decides to chill out a little. Do u think is easy to work from 7am-7pm taking care of kids with no adult to socialize with? Is not easy oo. Am sure in ur place of work you have colleagues or partners who usually chat with u thereby making ur day soar smoothly. Again, what are u doing? U can't cook for ur kids? U can't prepare them for school? Then what can u do? Listen to the evening gossip ur kids spit out? Better put your home in order. From ur write up, i can deduce that if u have a housemaid, her name na sorry. Some of you guys advising op to add more work to that poor woman are wicked. Who knows? That woman might even be your mother.

Mystical888:

Hello House,

I'm in a dilemma concerning my househelp and Nanny.

I've noticed she has developed a relationship with the neighbours which I'm not comfortable about.

She isn't a live in hand but has been with us for 2 years now.
She is a woman in her early 40s, a Yoruba Christian who stays not too far from my place.

She helps with housechores when we are away at work.
Her job role is to:-

(1) prepare the kids and take them to school every morning.

(2) Return to the house and do housekeep.

(3)Take the kids home after school hours.

(4)Prepare lunch for them and help them with their home work.

Her hours of work is between 7am and 7pm when she resigns to go to her house.

My daughter has told me how they've gone twice to watch TV next door in the home of both neighbours. (Nanny took them there).

Should I be worried about this development or is it part of the growing up phase for the kids?

Seems she isn't challenged enough with the workload and what does she do when she's at the neighbours.

so far she is an adult,u can talk to her about your fear so that she will know u r not comfortable with it.

gbosaa:


How much is she being paid for additional chores. You dot need to reason well to know that's inhumane. Keeping his children safe till he returns from wherever,is that not enough??

Do you know what that woman endure from being in his house? Do you think it's easy to start your day by around 5am, go to work at his house and start by 7am, feed and get his kids ready for school, take them to school, clean his house, go back to school in the afternoon to bring the kids back, feed and clean them, teach and help with their home work??. And you lot are asking him to add more!!! How wicked can you people be. Ask your boss at the office to add more for you.

Yes I'm hyper cos I know someone going through similar experience. Do you all care if that woman has got children of her own or husband? Do you care how she feels after each day? Do you care what time she goes to bed in the night to wake at probably 5am? Do you care who prepares food for her family?

All you care is...add more work to keep her busy!! How do you lots think? Tell your sociopath friend to make friends around the neighbourhood, that visit might be helping the kids to socialise, it might be good for thee development. It might be helping the lady to unwind.

Anybody who shouts more work for that woman, may that person carry an atlas stone on his/her shoulders

Mean, disgusting people.

so so unfortunate dat u dunt av even a pinch of sense or reasoning dat casket u call head....if u like die of frustration & hypertension bkos of a post of less dan 20kb.....insane fellow

Menace2Society:
Wicked man

lol.....no mind dat casket head frm Garbon

NemzySeries:

so so unfortunate dat u dunt av even a pinch of sense or reasoning dat casket u call head....if u like die of frustration & hypertension bkos of a post of less dan 20kb.....insane fellow

That post of less than 20kb shows how wicked people like you are...

People like you should not manage any human being. It's sadist like you lots who will keep underage kids and make them work like slaves cos that's how you see them. Clean, cook, wash etc all year round with no break and when they lose it and attempt something on your household, you brand them witches, Devils and wonder where and how it started.

A woman that has been working with him for 2 years and he is right here posting this thrash, seeking advice from mad people like you on how to increase her work load.

Why can't he cook for his kids? Why couldn't he get his kids ready for school, bring them back and teach them?

Ask your friend how much he pays for all these.

Barselonia:
I never like the idea of a nanny take care of my children when I give birth sha....... na Which kind work the woman is doing that to take of her children is not allowed......


I pray Dey don't abuse your children. ...


respect to my mum. ......

Some women have professional lives you know. Not everyone is a housewife or business woman with flexible working hours. Shout out to my mum

Mystical888:

Hello House,

I'm in a dilemma concerning my househelp and Nanny.

I've noticed she has developed a relationship with the neighbours which I'm not comfortable about.

She isn't a live in hand but has been with us for 2 years now.
She is a woman in her early 40s, a Yoruba Christian who stays not too far from my place.

She helps with housechores when we are away at work.
Her job role is to:-

(1) prepare the kids and take them to school every morning.

(2) Return to the house and do housekeep.

(3)Take the kids home after school hours.

(4)Prepare lunch for them and help them with their home work.

Her hours of work is between 7am and 7pm when she resigns to go to her house.

My daughter has told me how they've gone twice to watch TV next door in the home of both neighbours. (Nanny took them there).

Should I be worried about this development or is it part of the growing up phase for the kids?

Seems she isn't challenged enough with the workload and what does she do when she's at the neighbours.

The nanny is neither a kid nor your child! You can't stop her from doing anything in her spare time after doing her job! Neither would you stop her from being social.

She probably spends more quality time with your children than you do! She's not doing anything wrong, unless you're not in good terms with your neighbors.

Buy tv and keep in your home, then she will not continue going to your neighbors to watch tv. Why did you not have one?

The most important thing is she does her job well, I guess.

adonbilivit:
are ur kids under house arrest? are your neighbours going to pose bad influence to ur kids?

It's wrong for the house help to take the children to neighbours without the parent's permission. They could get physically abused or sexually molested. It's a big no no.

fake story without your husbands take on this issue, pple may hv judge wrongly. these nanny hv ur dirty secret that u re afraid of letting it out. my point is ur husband. who is he and were is he.

luba9876:
if the nanny/househelp does all of these, then what do you do for children as a parent? do you think it's easy being lonely, having no one around to atleast say hi? I feel you only need to warn her on discussing your family issues with outsiders.

Good point and question!

Sadly, it is too late to warn/caution her now.
btw, why do people have neighbour-enemies?
It shows how bad people can be in their neighbourhood!