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Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by folashade0(f): 3:21pm On Sep 21, 2015
Hi guys, Please advice me on this issue... My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 yrs now, it will be 5 yrs next year February. The problem started two yrs ago, when he started moving with some guys around his street. The day i met those guys, I knew they won't teach anything good. I told my bf about it that I don't like the guys he's now moving with,he said 'Baby, they are nice people now', said it's because I don't know them yet and I said OK. Last year, my phone got spoilt, he came to my place of work to take it for repair,when I saw him I was mad. He came sagging with earring in his ear, I was really embarrassed but I kept my cool. He knew I don't want such lifestyle and I do tell him so always, I later confronted him and he said 'Baby, it's just a sturd, not real earring'. To cut the story short, he's now into yahoo, he goes to hotel and do stuffs that yahoo guys do.i once came across a pic of him smoking, I confronted him again and he said 'Baby, it's not cigarette na, it's just shisha, it's not bad. Maybe I will take u out so u can taste it, it's great'. Since am hearing shisha for the first time, I went to search for information on Google and I told him all I found.. He's hasn't change but getting worse and each time I talk, he will say he's doing it for me. I know he loves me but his love is reducing in my heart and I find it really hard to let go cos he holds my priceless gift.. Pls guys, what should I do?, I'm lost!

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Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by Nobody: 3:24pm On Sep 21, 2015
Your boo choosed to be among the swaggish boys!!!

HE IS NOT A CLASSIC MAN
#YolO

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Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by mayreeh215: 3:24pm On Sep 21, 2015
Continue talking...if you don't like it and you keep quiet, you'll get newer surprises each day. also if you know any member of his family that he will listen to, I suggest you take it to that person. It will be well...just don't give up yet
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by hob(m): 3:28pm On Sep 21, 2015
Show him all his bad aspects that can bring about his new lifestyle.


But most of all, pray for him


Since he is just adopting this kind life, i believe he will listen to voice of reason either from d elderly or his mentor that can talk some sense into him..
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by folashade0(f): 3:30pm On Sep 21, 2015
mayreeh215:
Continue talking...if you don't like it and you keep quiet, you'll get newer surprises each day. also if you know any member of his family that he will listen to, I suggest you take it to that person. It will be well...just don't give up yet
thanks a lot but his mom knows about this and I'm not sure she's saying anything.
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by folashade0(f): 3:32pm On Sep 21, 2015
hob:
Show him all his bad aspects that can bring about his new lifestyle.


But most of all, pray for him


Since he is just adopting this kind life, i believe he will listen to voice of reason either from d elderly or his mentor that can talk some sense into him..
thanks bro
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by donTbone(m): 3:33pm On Sep 21, 2015
First thing first... never let your love for anybody be dumb! There is a saying that if you are falling in love, make sure your brain falls with you. Am sorry my words might sound a little harsh!

Secondly, for you to have endured 2years...my sister, trust me, its not worth it. Guys can be funny, so goes for love. Thank your stars you are not married to him yet before you get to know the real him, I wonder what you will do!

Third, he holds your priceless gift huh, if I may ask "is that what defines you"? There is more to your self than just the 'priceless gift'. It is precious, I agree, but life goes on my dear.

Lastly, my advice! Try as much to bring an end to the relationship now before the guy drags you along or even give you a big negative surprise! A word they say is enough for a wise. I bet if you marry him, more tragedy awaits, except if God intervenes.

I rest my case!

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Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by williamsean(m): 3:35pm On Sep 21, 2015
Am short of words
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by donTbone(m): 3:35pm On Sep 21, 2015
mayreeh215:
Continue talking...if you don't like it and you keep quiet, you'll get newer surprises each day. also if you know any member of his family that he will listen to, I suggest you take it to that person. It will be well...just don't give up yet

if getting married to him, will she also kip telling the family members? if they cant understand themselves now, I wonder how its gonna work in future
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by ThePeacemaker(m): 3:38pm On Sep 21, 2015
иι¢є ωяιтєυρ ....
αиѕωєя αℓℓ qυєѕтισиѕ


1. ѕєℓє¢т α ѕυιтαвℓє тιтℓє fσя тнє ραѕѕαgє αвσνє
α. gσσ∂ qυу qσиє вα∂
в.вιт¢н вєттєя нανє му мσиєу
¢.уαнσσ яє∂єfιиє∂
∂.αℓℓ σf тнє αвσνє....


2.ωнαт туρє σf ѕєитєи¢є ιѕ тнє fσσℓσωιиq:
тнє ρяσвℓєм ѕтαятє∂ тωσ уєαяѕ αqσ........



3. ѕυвѕтιтυтє тнє fσℓℓσωιиq ωσя∂ѕ αѕ υѕє∂ ιи тнє ραѕѕαqє.......
α.ρяι¢єℓєѕѕ
в.уαнσσ
¢.ѕαqqιиq
∂.¢σиfяσитє∂
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Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by jhydebaba(m): 3:41pm On Sep 21, 2015
One with head has no cap while one without head has cap.


OP, some girls are even praying to date yahoo boys while u have one and still look confused.


Well, go date pastor son now.
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by femmypages1(m): 3:42pm On Sep 21, 2015
Like the saying goes bad friends and communication corrupt good manners. His recent behavior is as a result of the bad company he keeps.
You need to advice him to avoid such friends.
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Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by majamajic(m): 3:42pm On Sep 21, 2015
Priceless gift ?

how does it look like
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by folashade0(f): 3:44pm On Sep 21, 2015
ThePeacemaker:
иι¢є ωяιтєυρ ....
αиѕωєя αℓℓ qυєѕтισиѕ


1. ѕєℓє¢т α ѕυιтαвℓє тιтℓє fσя тнє ραѕѕαgє αвσνє
α. gσσ∂ qυу qσиє вα∂
в.вιт¢н вєттєя нανє му мσиєу
¢.уαнσσ яє∂єfιиє∂
∂.αℓℓ σf тнє αвσνє....


2.ωнαт туρє σf ѕєитєи¢є ιѕ тнє fσσℓσωιиq:
тнє ρяσвℓєм ѕтαятє∂ тωσ уєαяѕ αqσ........



3. ѕυвѕтιтυтє тнє fσℓℓσωιиq ωσя∂ѕ αѕ υѕє∂ ιи тнє ραѕѕαqє.......
α.ρяι¢єℓєѕѕ
в.уαнσσ
¢.ѕαqqιиq
∂.¢σиfяσитє∂
є.ємвαяяαѕє∂
peace maker huh?.. I'm sure you must have forgotten ur real name cos u are a trouble maker.. Go apply for waec office and thanks for commenting at least.
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by folashade0(f): 3:46pm On Sep 21, 2015
jhydebaba:
One with head has no cap while one without head has cap.


OP, some girls are even praying to date yahoo boys while u have one and still look confused.


Well, go date pastor son now.
thanks but I don't want such guys in the pages of my life.

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Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by McCarlito(m): 3:55pm On Sep 21, 2015
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Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by jhydebaba(m): 3:57pm On Sep 21, 2015
folashade0:
thanks but I don't want such guys in the pages of my life.
it is clear you know what you want. Leave the guy for good cuz seriously if u think u can change him, ofcourse, you are on a long thing.

BTW, what if he has been hiding his real self from u at first only to reveal to u when he knew u re already in the basket? #think

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Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by folashade0(f): 4:07pm On Sep 21, 2015
Thanks guys, I really appreciate
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by AfroKnight: 4:18pm On Sep 21, 2015
Fine girl like you trying to change your boyfriend. He is enjoying the lifestyle already. He won't change because of you. The question is will you accept him the way he is?

Your lifestyle is very different from his.
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by IamLEGEND1: 4:24pm On Sep 21, 2015
honestly,there is nothing you can really do about his current lifestyle...... you will just come across as a nag..even I am beginning to think that..

you don't like his friends, you don't like his fashion sense, and I'm sure there are other "I don't likes" too.....
his actions might not be justifiable but
You seem to be a semi control freak..... he is going to eventually start seeing ur efforts as annoying,na then real problems go start..

I am not here to bash you or anything,but try all you want.....there is going to be little to no change.

so you are at a crossroads now,you either put up or fúck off...(in a nice way of coz)

and I don't know what is that precious something of urs that he holds...elaborate maybe?
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by Ab025(m): 4:29pm On Sep 21, 2015
@poster

So you have a gift that is priceless, and went ahead to give it to a yahoo-yahoo boy?

Well, one thing I know is, you are in for trouble because that guy will only likely bring u trouble for now

And who told you just because you gave ur virginity (your self-acclaimed priceless gift) to a guy, he becomes ur everything even when he is surely dragging you down to a pit?

Virginity, sex, love..... These are all different concepts and activities that can take place individually without the others.

Why do fools really fall in love...?
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by NemzySeries(m): 4:55pm On Sep 21, 2015
itz rada unfortunate to say dat ur bf jst got to puberty.....


itz high time u took a new route bkos ur vision wit dat of hiz aint no longer same
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by Nobody: 6:03pm On Sep 21, 2015
folashade0:
thanks but I don't want such guys in the pages of my life.

You've talked, waited for him to grow up but he doesn't want to help himself. Move out of his life.
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by UnknownT: 6:21pm On Sep 21, 2015
*in phyno's voice* Punchline Swag adighi enye ego
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by baralatie(m): 6:29pm On Sep 21, 2015
you say he follow bad boys

you go follow join am to be bad girl
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by Nobody: 6:37pm On Sep 21, 2015
Op ur jst plain dumb, how can u waste 5 years with such a shady guy. U better move on. Fish Brain is a disease sha
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by bqlekan(m): 6:47pm On Sep 21, 2015
Really not easy to put an end to a 6years relationship , my dear, take some time out, think about what you want, Do you really want to end up with this kind of man? Will you like this type of man to father your children? And most importantly, Can he change?

Once you can answer these questions, you can make your decisions. May God help you

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Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by Dygeasy(m): 7:14pm On Sep 21, 2015
What is that most priceless thing of yours that's with him?
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by folashade0(f): 8:25pm On Sep 21, 2015
Dygeasy:
What is that most priceless thing of yours that's with him?
kindly ask Google please.. Thanks
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by folashade0(f): 8:27pm On Sep 21, 2015
panachuku:
Op ur jst plain dumb, how can u waste 5 years with such a shady guy. U better move on. Fish Brain is a disease sha
I said it started last year, the remaining years are out of the wasted
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by Nobody: 9:17pm On Sep 21, 2015
folashade0:
I said it started last year, the remaining years are out of the wasted
do d needfull madam. seems ur popped ur cherry hence u cant let go . s Hit happens
Re: Help! I Don't Know Him Anymore. by Dygeasy(m): 9:24pm On Sep 21, 2015
folashade0:
kindly ask Google please.. Thanks
That was a very harmless question. Another one is if you can take back this priceless thing.

If you can't, you very well know this guy is not worth holding on to, just let him go. Whatever it is he took from you, deal with it. Sh!t happens. Move on.

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