DISCLAIMER: This is for matured minds who dosen't see sex primarily as a tool for catching fun and showing your love for someone.
Do you know why most relationships and marriages fail today? Why people date multiple partners within a short period of time? It's because people left what they ought to be doing and focused all their energy more on emotions, feelings and SEX. People today think that the only stage to a relationship is attraction and boom, next thing is sleeping together. Sex is being promoted so much that partners miss all the other stages of relationship that would have given them a solid and lasting experience. Intimacy ought not to be all about sex because you can't sustain it. Once it wears out, both parties are left with nothing to hold onto that's when a guy starts looking for a new adventure, and the lady gets drowned into emotional downward spiral.
Relationships are meant to be gradual thing, think of when you were kids, how being around each other gets you excited, learning how to relate on just that level and then touching each other and then holding each others hands and interacting which finally culminates into physical intercourse when the time comes finally in marriage.
If you are looking to be free from emotional uncertainties and the trend of divorce of 7 out of every 10 marriages, miserable singles and married, broken relationships and broken hearts in our world today, then you need to try something different, say no to sex from the onset. It won't be easy, but you will glad you did.
Opinions are gladly welcomed.

guy na story u dey find, how can i be cooking a soup without tasting it.

Really true. Cause by the time both partners gets tired of the sex (of which was the major fancy that made them entered into a relationship ) there would be nothing else fascinating enough to keep their relationship going or sustain it.

Relationship Is Really Not About Anything

sweetorgasms:
guy na story u dey find, how can i be cooking a soup without tasting it.

Did you read the disclaimer at the beginning of the post sir?

I totally agree with you @OP. Its just the situation we find ourselves especially in Nigeria where all a girl has to offer in most cases is zero apart from her body. In other words, what else do you do when she cannot hold an intelligent conversation for up to 5 secs, cannot support emotionally, spiritually, financially, etc?

bxcode:

Did you read the disclaimer at the beginning of the post sir?

did u read the write up sir?

sweetorgasms:
did u read the write up sir?

smh in laughter.... am the author of the write up sir.
Go back and read the disclaimer now that you are back from were you travelled to.

Sex is a no no

The truth is our perception of relationship can differ hence your claim is not totally true. And I think sex is over rated, What if all i want from a relationship is sex?

if you sincerely love the person,i advocate for sex,buh condemns it if it's infatuation

@bxcode
let me get this straight, so you want people to get to know one another BETTER before they have sex... is that it?!

Blizzy9ja:
The truth is our perception of relationship can differ hence your claim is not totally true. And I think sex is over rated, What if all i want from a relationship is sex?

Then you are simply driven by lust and not relationship our love

Kingsley1000:
if you sincerely love the person,i advocate for sex,buh condemns it if it's infatuation

So those that don't advocate for sex ain't loving sincerely?
What a world we live in.

MRBrownJ:
@bxcode
let me get this straight, so you want people to get to know one another BETTER before they have sex... is that it?!

You can say that sir.

Legend says: fuçk love,penetrate vagínas.

Having a sexual relationship doesn't make the affair a sex inclined one, does it?

bxcode:

Then you are simply driven by lust and not relationship our love

I advice you check up the meaning of the word relationship first before you can put up a decent argument.
Some relationship are purely er0tic. ie they are basically for sexual satisfaction and the day the sex is removed it dies.

ALL I CAN SAY IS RELATIONSHIP HAS DIFFERENT MEANINGS TO DIFFERENT PEOPLE


WE HAVE PEOPLE WHO STARTED THEIR RELATIONSHIP WIT SEX AND ARE WAXING STRONGER WHILE PEOPLE WHO HAD TO WAIT TILL AFTER MARRIAGE *no offiense* *nick cannon nd marey carie as examples*
BREAK UP THEIR MARRIAGE
IT ALL DEPENDS ON PARTNERS MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING

Blizzy9ja:
I advice you check up the meaning of the word relationship first before you can put up a decent argument.
Some relationship are purely erotic. ie they are basically for sexual satisfaction and the day the sex is removed it dies.

Sir, their is nothing like erotic relationship, relationship is relationship! Stop coating words to suit your canal and lustful desires.

bxcode:

Sir, their is nothing like erotic relationship, relationship is relationship! Stop coating words to suit your canal and lustful desires.

WTF is wrong wif nairaland? Do they have 2 change(Auto text) words to suit their believe? Er0tic and intimate can't be the same thing... Just making the whole conversation to sound stewpid

I dont know why our ladies always avoid a thread like this at all cost

This lackadaisical attitude of theirs towarding avoding a thread like this simply means that they are also in for sex

Make i see any lady wey go talk say na only guy dey enjoy bleeping and me and that girl go enter one trouser

Bottom line : Say No to pre marital Sex!

sweetorgasms:
guy na story u dey find, how can i be cooking a soup without tasting it.

Exactly! How can one be paying for hair attachment, manicure, shopping and all and not expect reward? It's even in the bible, you reap what you sow.

IamLEGEND1:
Legend says: fuçk love,penetrate vagínas.

Chinekeee when did you turn to transgender Bruce jenner


Mrsphyno, gurgle, your husband don turn to woman oo

Juxtified:
I totally agree with you @OP. Its just the situation we find ourselves especially in Nigeria where all a girl has to offer in most cases is zero apart from her body. In other words, what else do you do when she cannot hold an intelligent conversation for up to 5 secs, cannot support emotionally, spiritually, financially, etc?

is this statement applicable to all the girls you've dated?

I think there's time for everything,time for sex,time for discussions, and times you help each other when in need financially

tosyne2much:
I dont know why our ladies always avoid a thread like this at all cost

This lackadaisical attitude of theirs towarding avoding a thread like this simply means that they are also in for sex

Make i see any lady wey go talk say na only guy dey enjoy bleeping and me and that girl go enter one trouser

Lol

ronald4lif:
Having a sexual relationship doesn't make the affair a sex inclined one, does it?

What else do you need to do in other to make it sex inclined?

OP I disagree with you!

Sex is an expression of love! There are different types of Relationships... a relationship whereby both parties are in love and connected to each other, there isnt any reason why there should be no sex.

Omotayor123:
Bottom line : Say No to pre marital Sex!

My virgin boo has offered a piece of advice to y'all

Let he/she who have ears hear now

bxcode:

What else do you need to do in other to make it sex inclined?

Your caption reads relationship is not all about sex which evince all sexual relationships are sexually inclined. Having a sexual affair doesn't mean it's all about sex. Same way one can say relationship isn't all about money, doesn't mean a relationship can function efficiently without money. Similarly, having sex with one's partner doesn't implies sex is the substantive and foundational rock on which the affair is premised and founded upon.

Don't make an issue out of sex, no one is coercing you to indulge. If you don't fine, but others do.

Laveda:
is this statement applicable to all the girls you've dated?

I think there's time for everything,time for sex,time for discussions, and times you help each other when in need financially

Dated? No
Talked to? Yes - about 90% of them