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Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bamisepeters(m): 6:03am On Jul 29, 2017
Our intention most times determines the success of our relationship, not what anyone says.

Like we know that it is never possible for two people who are blood related to stay with each other for little period of time without offending each other.

So also, it is paramount that we know that two who are not related by blood nor gender can never be together in the name of love and expect an offense-free relationship.

Personally, i feel when your partner go wrong it makes you know more about them and how to handle them in the future.

I understand there are some offense that are hard to forgive, but love knows no offense as it even forgives before any offense is committed.

I have heard, read and witnessed some extremely bad situations whereby the partners of those involved still overlooked the sin and moved on happily.

One thing i used to tell those who care to listen to the sense making relationship nonsense that i say or write especially when they need to forgive their partner is that it can be anyone's turn, and it can be the other way round the next minute because we are humans and not spirit.

In a relationship, which other offense is greater than seeing your partner whom you have sacrificed all for moaning in confirmation of a great sexual experience under someone else?

For your information, I have seen couples who still moved on together after the above happened.

Believe me, it is never easy to forgive one's partner after such experience, in fact, many people will tell you to even run as far as possible from such partner.

Most times you take some decisions on your own when it comes to relationship because other are blind when it comes to what you see in your partner as they don't know your desires and the point of attraction.

This is not about the sacrifice or desperate measures you've taken to sustain the relationship, but the love making you to be as foolish enough to see reasons why you must forgive your partner.

This post is not just about cheating, it can be anything else apart from cheating.

The fact is that offense and forgiveness is what makes many relationship or marriage to be as strong as they are.

Remember, you are not a perfect man, neither is she a better woman, we are all striving to be the best to our partner.

And as your partner is trying all to be better for just you, you need to be ready to give room for mistakes.

I don't want to give some of the examples I have witnessed so as not to look as if I am on the side of one gender, because to me we are all the same, what is good for one goose is good for another goose.

As I am preaching forgiveness, it should make us to try harder at achieving great union free of scandal and divorce which is rampant this days.

This should make those that cheat see reasons why they must stop as it harms the partner emotionally.

Those that abuse their partner physically and mentally should also stop as the pain inflicted on your partner is more than your understanding, don't take the spirit of forgiveness which accompanied the love for granted.

In case you don't know; the day your partner stops forgiving you is when they stop loving you.

Don't abuse the spirit of forgiveness, don't do it to the point that your partner will see nothing attractive in you anymore.

Love is blind they say, you may not be the one to share the experience when the blindness receives healing.

Cc: Talk2bella, Rorachy, tosyne2much,

Source: http://bamisepeters./2017/07/relationship-is-for-those-who-are.html

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by IamLovely: 6:06am On Jul 29, 2017
101% true uncle rock.

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by shinarlaura(f): 6:30am On Jul 29, 2017
Nice write up but then do u think u can keep on forgiving ur partner for committing one and the same mistake over and over again. undecided

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Martin0(m): 6:33am On Jul 29, 2017
shinarlaura:
Nice write u but then do u think u can keep on forgiving ur partner for committing one and the same mistake over and over again. undecided
see question Godgrin op show come and answer her..

How was ur night na laura

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Martin0(m): 6:35am On Jul 29, 2017
Hmmmm so my girl friend should continuously cheat on me and I continuously forgive her hahahahaahahahagrin op what happend,are you having problem with your babe?

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by shinarlaura(f): 6:46am On Jul 29, 2017
Martin0:
see question Godgrin op show come and answer her..

How was ur night na laura

My night was good.

I slept like a baby.


Hope u had enough rest...

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by shinarlaura(f): 6:47am On Jul 29, 2017
Martin0:
Hmmmm so my girl friend should continuously cheat on me and I continuously forgive her hahahahaahahahagrin op what happend,are you having problem with your babe?

Help me ask am wink

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Martin0(m): 7:10am On Jul 29, 2017
shinarlaura:

My night was good.
I slept like a baby.

Hope u had enough rest...
yeah sure....happy weekend
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by shinarlaura(f): 7:46am On Jul 29, 2017
Martin0:
yeah sure....happy weekend

Happy weekend to u too....

Hope u enjoy ur day
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Martin0(m): 9:02am On Jul 29, 2017
shinarlaura:

Happy weekend to u too....
Hope u enjoy ur day
thanks you welcome dear
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Next2Bezee(m): 9:11am On Jul 29, 2017
shinarlaura:
Nice write u but then do u think u can keep on forgiving ur partner for committing one and the same mistake over and over again. undecided

Op's write-up is quite good for relationship offenders who hurt their partners a few times..probably once or twice.

But if someone keeps doing the same thing, even after numerous confrontations and apologies, then i believe forgiveness is wasted on them.

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bamisepeters(m): 10:44am On Jul 29, 2017
IamLovely:
101% true uncle rock.
the last two paragraphs clearly anwered this, never take a forgiver for granted.
Next2Bezee:


Op's write-up is quite good for relationship offenders who hurt their partners a few times..probably once or twice.

But if someone keeps doing the same thing, even after numerous confrontations and apologies, then i believe forgiveness is wasted on them.
you are right, serious offence though not the small shewdren plays sha.

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Talk2Bella(f): 3:35pm On Jul 29, 2017
bamisepeters:
Our intention most times determines the success of our relationship, not what anyone says.

Like we know that it is never possible for two people who are blood related to stay with each other for little period of time without offending each other.

So also, it is paramount that we know that two who are not related by blood nor gender can never be together in the name of love and expect an offense-free relationship.

Personally, i feel when your partner go wrong it makes you know more about them and how to handle them in the future.

I understand there are some offense that are hard to forgive, but love knows no offense as it even forgives before any offense is committed.

I have heard, read and witnessed some extremely bad situations whereby the partners of those involved still overlooked the sin and moved on happily.

One thing i used to tell those who care to listen to the sense making relationship nonsense that i say or write especially when they need to forgive their partner is that it can be anyone's turn, and it can be the other way round the next minute because we are humans and not spirit.

In a relationship, which other offense is greater than seeing your partner whom you have sacrificed all for moaning in confirmation of a great sexual experience under someone else?

For your information, I have seen couples who still moved on together after the above happened.

Believe me, it is never easy to forgive one's partner after such experience, in fact, many people will tell you to even run as far as possible from such partner.

Most times you take some decisions on your own when it comes to relationship because other are blind when it comes to what you see in your partner as they don't know your desires and the point of attraction.

This is not about the sacrifice or desperate measures you've taken to sustain the relationship, but the love making you to be as foolish enough to see reasons why you must forgive your partner.

This post is not just about cheating, it can be anything else apart from cheating.

The fact is that offense and forgiveness is what makes many relationship or marriage to be as strong as they are.

Remember, you are not a perfect man, neither is she a better woman, we are all striving to be the best to our partner.

And as your partner is trying all to be better for just you, you need to be ready to give room for mistakes.

I don't want to give some of the examples I have witnessed so as not to look as if I am on the side of one gender, because to me we are all the same, what is good for one goose is good for another goose.

As I am preaching forgiveness, it should make us to try harder at achieving great union free of scandal and divorce which is rampant this days.

This should make those that cheat see reasons why they must stop as it harms the partner emotionally.

Those that abuse their partner physically and mentally should also stop as the pain inflicted on your partner is more than your understanding, don't take the spirit of forgiveness which accompanied the love for granted.

In case you don't know; the day your partner stops forgiving you is when they stop loving you.

Don't abuse the spirit of forgiveness, don't do it to the point that your partner will see nothing attractive in you anymore.

Love is blind they say, you may not be the one to share the experience when the blindness receives healing.

Cc: Talk2bella, Rorachy, tosyne2much,

Source: http://bamisepeters./2017/07/relationship-is-for-those-who-are.html


he many times do u forgive a cheat?

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Talk2Bella(f): 3:37pm On Jul 29, 2017
this is a good write up probably one of your best, but sometimes na from plat quarrel de start, when you begin to indulge and compromise your ethics and principles you begin to lose yourself, I'm not saying don't forgive, but the person whom you have been forgiving or want to forgive is he/she worth it?

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bamisepeters(m): 7:45pm On Jul 29, 2017
Talk2Bella:



he many times do u forgive a cheat?
if a cheat for once try it again it means such person is taking you for granted. Cheat is in another category on it's own, it is not easy to forgive the first one let alone another. The first one should be enough to teach the offender the lesson.

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bamisepeters(m): 7:49pm On Jul 29, 2017
Talk2Bella:
this is a good write up probably one of your best, but sometimes na from plat quarrel de start, when you begin to indulge and compromise your ethics and principles you begin to lose yourself, I'm not saying don't forgive, but the person whom you have been forgiving or want to forgive is he/she worth it?
this is another issue worghy of deep reflection, this time the offended can determine that only if patient can be allowed because serious measures need serious reflection.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bamisepeters(m): 8:02pm On Jul 29, 2017
Talk2Bella:
this is a good write up probably one of your best, but sometimes na from plat quarrel de start, when you begin to indulge and compromise your ethics and principles you begin to lose yourself, I'm not saying don't forgive, but the person whom you have been forgiving or want to forgive is he/she worth it?
this is another issue worghy of deep reflection, this time the offended can determine that only if patient can be allowed because serious measures need serious reflection.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Beadex1(m): 9:22pm On Jul 29, 2017
well if i catch my GF or wife cheating, i will forgive her but not forget.....the ugliest truth is that whatever pushed the gal to cheat on you will still come around. Some people don't repent from cheating but take another approach of not been caught again.

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by udexc: 10:20pm On Jul 29, 2017
So my partner can cheat abi
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Danny287(m): 10:22pm On Jul 29, 2017
Hmmm funny enough it was discussed in our Seminar today

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by LexngtonSteele: 10:25pm On Jul 29, 2017
This OP and his syrupy-sweet articles.

You are the type ladies love to keep friend-zoned.

I don't forgive...i jilt wink

PS- depends on the gravity of the offence, though. Cheating = Recycle Bin cool

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Nobody: 10:26pm On Jul 29, 2017
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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Deefuray(f): 10:27pm On Jul 29, 2017
hmmmm.

dear Lord, teach me to forgive

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Nobody: 10:27pm On Jul 29, 2017
Nice write-up, nice sermon! But unrealistic and one dimensional!

It's funny how we all preach forgiveness but never provide a pill to forget offenses.Take it or leave it, every human has that "thing" they can't condole, it's not being unforgiving, it's just that we can't bring ourselves to accept it! . Forgiveness is easy, forgetting/letting go is difficult and sometimes impossible. It doesn't make us lesser, it's just a limitation we all experience as human.

Cheating is not something that happens all of a sudden, it is a deliberate act,it is either from lust or attractions not dealt with. It is no mistake! Once a cheat always a cheat! . It shouldn't be encouraged but dealt with!

To err is human, to forgive is divine!

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bamisepeters(m): 10:28pm On Jul 29, 2017
Beadex1:
well if i catch my GF or wife cheating, i will forgive her but not forget.....the ugliest truth is that whatever pushed the gal to cheat on you will still come around. Some people don't repent from cheating but take another approach of not been caught again.
of cause it is hard to forget, it takes time.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Nobody: 10:28pm On Jul 29, 2017
Very true!

Men can easily forgive. Atleast matured men! But ladies.....whether matured or not, can never easily forgive.

I'm saying this from experience, ask me why or reasons and I'll give you enough!

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bamisepeters(m): 10:28pm On Jul 29, 2017
Danny287:
Hmmm funny enough it was discussed in our Seminar today
that's good enough.

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bidez(m): 10:30pm On Jul 29, 2017
[quote author=bamisepeters post=58934993]Our intention most times determines the success of our relationship, not what anyone says.

Like we know that it is never possible for two people who are blood related to stay with each other for little period of time without offending each other.

So also, it is paramount that we know that two who are not related by blood nor gender can never be together in the name of love and expect an offense-free relationship.

Personally, i feel when your partner go wrong it makes you know more about them and how to handle them in the future.

I understand there are some offense that are hard to forgive, but love knows no offense as it even forgives before any offense is committed.

I have heard, read and witnessed some extremely bad situations whereby the partners of those involved still overlooked the sin and moved on happily.

One thing i used to tell those who care to listen to the sense making relationship nonsense that i say or write especially when they need to forgive their partner is that it can be anyone's turn, and it can be the other way round the next minute because we are humans and not spirit.

In a relationship, which other offense is greater than seeing your partner whom you have sacrificed all for moaning in confirmation of a great sexual experience under someone else?

For your information, I have seen couples who still moved on together after the above happened.

Believe me, it is never easy to forgive one's partner after such experience, in fact, many people will tell you to even run as far as possible from such partner.

Most times you take some decisions on your own when it comes to relationship because other are blind when it comes to what you see in your partner as they don't know your desires and the point of attraction.

This is not about the sacrifice or desperate measures you've taken to sustain the relationship, but the love making you to be as foolish enough to see reasons why you must forgive your partner.

This post is not just about cheating, it can be anything else apart from cheating.

The fact is that offense and forgiveness is what makes many relationship or marriage to be as strong as they are.

Remember, you are not a perfect man, neither is she a better woman, we are all striving to be the best to our partner.

And as your partner is trying all to be better for just you, you need to be ready to give room for mistakes.

I don't want to give some of the examples I have witnessed so as not to look as if I am on the side of one gender, because to me we are all the same, what is good for one goose is good for another goose.

As I am preaching forgiveness, it should make us to try harder at achieving great union free of scandal and divorce which is rampant this days.

This should make those that cheat see reasons why they must stop as it harms the partner emotionally.

Those that abuse their partner physically and mentally should also stop as the pain inflicted on your partner is more than your understanding, don't take the spirit of forgiveness which accompanied the love for granted.

In case you don't know; the day your partner stops forgiving you is when they stop loving you.

Don't abuse the spirit of forgiveness, don't do it to the point that your partner will see nothing attractive in you anymore.

Love is blind they say, you may not be the one to share the experience when the blindness receives healing.

Cc: Talk2bella, Rorachy, tosyne2much,

Source: http://bamisepeters./2017/07/relationship-is-for-those-who-are.html[fantastic]
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by SucezYiz: 10:31pm On Jul 29, 2017
how about muller...op
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Afromalaika(m): 10:31pm On Jul 29, 2017
Try and acknowledge sources of your information. This is a direct lift/copy cunningly modified from the original teaching of Rev. Mrs. Funke Adejumo.

Nothing stops you from quoting or lifting someone else work BUT, you must always acknowledge them in the context wherein their work (s) were quoted.

Plagiarism is a punishable offence.
Be warned.

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Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by Nobody: 10:31pm On Jul 29, 2017
You are right OP.

but i personally cannot accept back any woman that cheats on me.. My forgiveness in such a case is 'peaceful' ways-parting.
Re: Relationship Is For Those Who Are Willing And Ready To Forgive Each Other by bamisepeters(m): 10:32pm On Jul 29, 2017
shinarlaura:
Nice write u but then do u think u can keep on forgiving ur partner for committing one and the same mistake over and over again. undecided
the last two paragraphs clearly anwered this. You should learn not to take that forgiving spirit for granted, by doing this the probability of offense is reduced drastically.

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