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Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by JeffreyJamez(m): 10:25am On Oct 02, 2015

DrGroove:
of course! on comparison,the person is literate, not educated

Bullshit!!! angry

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by simdam500(m): 10:33am On Oct 02, 2015

Romance section is here again with story...

Asking which you should choose... don't choose any ooo, go get another woman from outside. undecided

Confusion of the highest order

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by DollyParton1(f): 10:37am On Oct 02, 2015

bestestgirl:
So the cleaning she does is what makes you notice her more Bulletin for you; we girls have mastered the art of pretence.
If a clean house and freshly laundered clothes sway you that much, hire a housekeeper/cook and buy a washing machine, then marry your beautiful, well educated, grammar controller and enjoy the best of both worlds.

PS. The educated girl is not necessarily bad mannered, she just might surprise you after marriage

girl what would you like to drink?
On the house!!!!

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Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by Nobody: 10:44am On Oct 02, 2015

DollyParton1:
girl what would you like to drink?
On the house!!!!

just one chilled bottle of Snapp!

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Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by ChynoBEATS: 10:45am On Oct 02, 2015

tido77:
I am a graduate with tastes, I don't know what I want again, I am confused, somebody advise.

The school-cert bae is more preferable 2me

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by viktor01(m): 10:51am On Oct 02, 2015

drmikeadams:
all these indomie girls dey support the girl wey dey blow grammar.....blow grammar em no go Sabi cook, em beauty go enter em block head...una go employ house help to dey cook for u cos madam beauty no go wan use her manicure hand cook or wash...indomie girls dey tell u make u go buy washing machine...hian...shebi u go still come back tell us ur beautiful wife is cheating on u...good manners good manners good manners good manners good manners...

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Make God bless you for this your comment.
Even the so called love go fade with time let alone beauty. How girl with manicure hand go take cook food for you?
hunger go dey tear you and i bet all she will be doing is surfing the internet with her android phone dey jist you the latest cars and wears

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by damocheezy(m): 11:14am On Oct 02, 2015

Marry the educated and teach her manners, moreover the school cert lady is only intimidated by your status that's why she does all that. Dont be quick to assume she is wife material.

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by FLOURICON: 11:17am On Oct 02, 2015

OP, First try to have heart-to-heart talk with the educated lady about your expectations of her (please try not to use abusive words) and see if she adjust/improve or protest in the name of 'am a graduate' or base on religion tenet (because I know some churches that preach against doing those things mentioned during courtship)

Besides, may be she is an 'ajebota' that doesn't do such chores in her house.

After observing her response, then I think you will be able to make sound decision.
Best of Luck.

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by Nobody: 11:17am On Oct 02, 2015

Enough people here will give you the age old cliche I.e. manners is the best; me I beg to differ, my premise is stated simplicita: Beauty is nature, manner is nurture; you can teach manners but beauty is in born...go for beauty my friend, you can always teach her to behave

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by possibilita(m): 11:27am On Oct 02, 2015

Beautiful mannerss!!! I will marry a girl with beautiful manners!!!

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by prontoniero(m): 11:27am On Oct 02, 2015

Manners of course!

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by alaskido(m): 11:29am On Oct 02, 2015

Young man, please marry a girl with good manners and good education. If you follow beauty, you will be disappointed. wink

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by Maximus85(m): 11:29am On Oct 02, 2015

tido77:
I am limping between decisions, I need your piece of advice to buoy my wobbling senses. A well educated lady is in my radar, I like ladies that control grammar very well, in fact I am a sucker for such ladies. This my lady controls grammar so well and she is beautiful, a graduate.

Now, I also have a young lady that comes around, and I observed that they are both different in manners. She is not a graduate, she stopped at secondary school level due to finance problem.

When this not so schooled lady comes around she always notices disorganized things and would arrange them, would notice dirty floor and mop up,wash dirty dishes etc. She would not greet me without bending her left knee slightly to show respect. She is not as beautiful as the educated lady though.

The graduate lady do none of these things, all we do is just gist.

Lately the school cert lady makes me feel the warmth of a caring lady, I am beginning to notice her more.

I am a graduate with tastes, I don't know what I want again, I am confused, somebody advise.

Beauty without manners is Ugly. Not so pretty but with manners is georgiousness.

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by akbod02: 11:55am On Oct 02, 2015

bestestgirl:
So the cleaning she does is what makes you notice her more Bulletin for you; we girls have mastered the art of pretence.
If a clean house and freshly laundered clothes sway you that much, hire a housekeeper/cook and buy a washing machine, then marry your beautiful, well educated, grammar controller and enjoy the best of both worlds.

PS. The educated girl is not necessarily bad mannered, she just might surprise you after marriage

Then am sure the guy will bleep the COOK very soon... Cos a wife is meant to cook for her husband

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by Nobody: 11:56am On Oct 02, 2015

Op, with the scenario pertaining the two girls , its better to marry the not so beautiful girl, but u have to train her in school, possibly to OND level, teach her some etiquettes, and dress codes, with table manners, hopefully if she's submissive and wishes to learn and become better individual, all will go well... But if she's stubborn? Then its a pity...
One thing about being stubborn? Is not by doing house chores, a stubborn person can do house chores, cause she likes doing it, but any other thing outside her comfort zone ? That's where u will see a new different dimension of this lady...so place her on some tushing up test and see how she accepts it.
Then pertaining to beauty? If u are ready to spend on tushing her looks.. Trust me, she will become a beauty to behold..the choice is How far and well are u willing to spend on her?? To make her presentable to your taste..?

But upon everything said, there are still some well behaved , graduates, very beautiful ladies out there who are worth marrying , but because of their beauty, some guys are initimidated and rather opt for the not so pretty...

The choice is yours....

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by Kizyte(m): 11:59am On Oct 02, 2015

seunny4lif:
Wait make I call my pastor
After I called my pastor
OP, my pastor say make you wait him, he want to ask Jesus
Maybe after Jesus go ask Holy spirit
Then holy spirit go ask God
I no know oooh

Abeg Wetin be question again

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by Kizyte(m): 12:00pm On Oct 02, 2015

seunny4lif:
Wait make I call my pastor
After I called my pastor
OP, my pastor say make you wait him, he want to ask Jesus
Maybe after Jesus go ask Holy spirit
Then holy spirit go ask God
I no know oooh

Abeg Wetin be question again

What's the second commandment of God?
Thou shalt not use the name of the Lord your God in vain.

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by Nobody: 12:01pm On Oct 02, 2015

tido77:
I am limping between decisions, I need your piece of advice to buoy my wobbling senses. A well educated lady is in my radar, I like ladies that control grammar very well, in fact I am a sucker for such ladies. This my lady controls grammar so well and she is beautiful, a graduate.

Now, I also have a young lady that comes around, and I observed that they are both different in manners. She is not a graduate, she stopped at secondary school level due to finance problem.

When this not so schooled lady comes around she always notices disorganized things and would arrange them, would notice dirty floor and mop up,wash dirty dishes etc. She would not greet me without bending her left knee slightly to show respect. She is not as beautiful as the educated lady though.

The graduate lady do none of these things, all we do is just gist.

Lately the school cert lady makes me feel the warmth of a caring lady, I am beginning to notice her more.

I am a graduate with tastes, I don't know what I want again, I am confused, somebody advise.

If you are asking people on the forum to choose a wife for you then, you re not ready for mrriage.
I suggest you wait till your 18, or atleast go to shoprite and buy yourself a brain. angry

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by chydo55: 12:14pm On Oct 02, 2015

[/color][color=#000099]My dad married my mom when she had just her SSCE... But He made sure she continued and now she has her NCE,BSc and MSc. So I see no reason for looking down on a good wife material when you can always raise her to your standard and taste. Home building/training is not taught in school, as long as she has what it takes and is willing to further, I see nothing holding you from supporting and encouraging her even after marriage and child bearing comes in. Education has no expiration date !

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by Mariojane(f): 12:26pm On Oct 02, 2015

tido77:
I am limping between decisions, I need your piece of advice to buoy my wobbling senses. A well educated lady is in my radar, I like ladies that control grammar very well, in fact I am a sucker for such ladies. This my lady controls grammar so well and she is beautiful, a graduate.

Now, I also have a young lady that comes around, and I observed that they are both different in manners. She is not a graduate, she stopped at secondary school level due to finance problem.

When this not so schooled lady comes around she always notices disorganized things and would arrange them, would notice dirty floor and mop up,wash dirty dishes etc. She would not greet me without bending her left knee slightly to show respect. She is not as beautiful as the educated lady though.

The graduate lady do none of these things, all we do is just gist.

Lately the school cert lady makes me feel the warmth of a caring lady, I am beginning to notice her more.

I am a graduate with tastes, I don't know what I want again, I am confused, somebody advise.

i think you should go for the graduate. in your write-up there is nowhere you said the graduate is rude or uncultured. you only said she visit and gist with you while the school-cert visit and clean and bend her knees to greet you.
your girlfriend not bending to greet you is not a sign that she disrespect you. she is already familiar with you and may not take it to mean anything. and why should you leave your house dirty for a lady to come clean up? she is suppose to be a companion not an househelp. am not saying she shouldn't clean up your house but it shouldn't be a complusory thing like you won't clean your house if you are single. assumming you are married to the graduate and you have an househelp who does the cleaning of the house will you be asking for option to date tha househelp since she cleans the house?
and i believe the other girl coming to clean your house for you and bending to greet you is just doing that as a sign of respect for an area brother but if cos of house cleaning you go for the other girl by the time she start showing her true self, don't come here for advise ooooo

have you tried talking to your girlfriend about the house cleaning? what was her response? though it is womanly to keep things cleans but also it is gentlemanly to keep things clean too not waiting for your girlfriend like she is your househelp. the only issue you have with the graduate is cleaning no other issue so what is your problem? to me you dont have any issue you are just looking for excuses.

yoruba people says 'kneeling is not character' yorubas in the house abeg help with that adage

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by babywhite(f): 12:33pm On Oct 02, 2015

[quote author=Oliviaarims post=38582059][/quote]I don't get u

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by willibounce1(m): 12:39pm On Oct 02, 2015

Nigga be looking for a house maid. So u no plan to make life comfortable for your wife? Buy washing machine if na to wash be your problem.

Both of you can do house chores together. Marry an educated woman. It will help you and your children a lot. Na 2016 we wan enter so o. Behold, old things have passed away, new things a gwan.

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by ebengems(m): 12:41pm On Oct 02, 2015

vizkiz:
just because she's gat good attitude doesn't mean I should marry a vulture

To those guys quoting me to type trash. Na me talk say make una go marry fugly girls abi?

I just typed what I am gonna do mehn, an educated girl is "beauty" she is successful in her business which means she's gat brains

So what else do I need apart from a pretty girl who knows what she truly wants, forget about the manner, she go learn

Make I come go marry illitrate cuz she dey always wash cloth Seems you guys think marriage is all about house chores abi? FOOLS

One day, you will grow older before her...then you will know what caring means! beauty is only on the flesh and will probably die with the body, but eternal beauty is in the heart and doesn't waste away after death.

when you grow up you will know the meaning!

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by seunny4lif(m): 12:41pm On Oct 02, 2015

Kizyte:
What's the second commandment of God?
Thou shalt not use the name of the Lord your God in vain.

Na lie pastor??

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by Nobody: 12:46pm On Oct 02, 2015

400billionman:
The bolded is excellent.

When a man meets a woman who is a control freak, who dissagrees with everything he says and asnwers him before she reasons, he will prefer never meeting such woman all his life .

Yea..true.

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Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by mrdino(m): 1:14pm On Oct 02, 2015

tido77:
I am limping between decisions, I need your piece of advice to buoy my wobbling senses. A well educated lady is in my radar, I like ladies that control grammar very well, in fact I am a sucker for such ladies. This my lady controls grammar so well and she is beautiful, a graduate.

Now, I also have a young lady that comes around, and I observed that they are both different in manners. She is not a graduate, she stopped at secondary school level due to finance problem.

When this not so schooled lady comes around she always notices disorganized things and would arrange them, would notice dirty floor and mop up,wash dirty dishes etc. She would not greet me without bending her left knee slightly to show respect. She is not as beautiful as the educated lady though.

The graduate lady do none of these things, all we do is just gist.

Lately the school cert lady makes me feel the warmth of a caring lady, I am beginning to notice her more.

I am a graduate with tastes, I don't know what I want again, I am confused, somebody advise.

@op: if d problem u r avin is dt, u r findin it difficult to choose btw d 2. then u r d root cause of ur own problm, reason is because relatnship/marriage is all abt give & take, readymade singles (willing, responsible, educated & cultured) r hard to com by dis days. my advice is dt u consider wot u can do to improve whoever u choose btw d 2; if u think u can finance d education of d uneducated lady (after marrying her o), fine, or if u think u can influence d educated one, so as to improve her attitude gud, u just av to think abt it deeply. it doesn't matter wot pple say, u r d one who's goin 2 live with d woman.

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by F22RAPTOR(m): 2:07pm On Oct 02, 2015

bestestgirl:
So the cleaning she does is what makes you notice her more Bulletin for you; we girls have mastered the art of pretence.
If a clean house and freshly laundered clothes sway you that much, hire a housekeeper/cook and buy a washing machine, then marry your beautiful, well educated, grammar controller and enjoy the best of both worlds.

PS. The educated girl is not necessarily bad mannered, she just might surprise you after marriage

nice...very nice.

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Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by F22RAPTOR(m): 2:14pm On Oct 02, 2015

the educated lady is just wise enough to know that she is not a wife yet, and shouldnt be doing wifely duties. But the uneducated lady knows she has got a lot to prove due to her not so educated status hence the chores and everything;

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by shatero1: 2:23pm On Oct 02, 2015

Wait until the educated lady start seeing you like her future hubby then you would be surprised how she would transform. Meanwhile, just try and have a conversation with her to know whats on her mind. Who knows maybe shes one of does girls that are against washing their bf clothes and doing house chores or she may not want to seem desperate by doing them. Many girls have a rethink if in their previous relationships they've done all of these things yet the relationship dint lead to marraige, Please tell me why such girl would be eager to wash your clothes or sweep your floor. Reading peoples comments here would get you more confused. i would advise you communicate better with her(the educated one). But if u decide to go with the uneducated one, i hope later in future you dont get to fall for another intelligent lady + there is no guarantee that when the uneducated one goes to school she would endup having good command of spoken english. Goodluck

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by Godfreykc(m): 2:45pm On Oct 02, 2015

tido77:
not sure if u read with understanding , the lady stopped at sec school coz of finance. U need to return to nursery school dude.

you really do not sound like a graduate indeed, what stopped her from being a cert holder is owo, find a way and get her back on d track...I rest my opps

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by tesimola4real(m): 3:28pm On Oct 02, 2015

I am a graduate with tastes huh

?? marry a taste woman

tido77:
I am limping between decisions, I need your piece of advice to buoy my wobbling senses. A well educated lady is in my radar, I like ladies that control grammar very well, in fact I am a sucker for such ladies. This my lady controls grammar so well and she is beautiful, a graduate.

Now, I also have a young lady that comes around, and I observed that they are both different in manners. She is not a graduate, she stopped at secondary school level due to finance problem.

When this not so schooled lady comes around she always notices disorganized things and would arrange them, would notice dirty floor and mop up,wash dirty dishes etc. She would not greet me without bending her left knee slightly to show respect. She is not as beautiful as the educated lady though.

The graduate lady do none of these things, all we do is just gist.

Lately the school cert lady makes me feel the warmth of a caring lady, I am beginning to notice her more.

I am a graduate with tastes, I don't know what I want again, I am confused, somebody advise.

Re: Beauty Vs Manners, Who Should I Marry? by Truckpusher(m): 3:34pm On Oct 02, 2015

freecocoa:
So what you call 'manners' is cleaning up after you and bending knee to greet you? You are beyond mannerless for leaving your house dirty, what rubbish!

Stubborn girls are like MTN these days everywhere you go. cheesy

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