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How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 3:50pm On Oct 10, 2015
According to the Webster dictionary, expectation is a strong believe that something will happen or be the case.
Webster dictionary also states standard as something used as a measure, norm,or model in comparative evaluations.

In our society today, a lot of ladies loose great guys due to expectations and standards.
Been expectant is normal so is having standards but the ability to differentiate reality from unrealistic expectations and standard is key.
Knowing fully well and acknowledging that life itself doesn't give you the exact things you want helps you to leave that high mountain of expectations and be able to relate with people on a more civil ground.
At age 13, its OK to read novels, watch cartoons and also believe the prince charming is always the cute guy riding a horse. Who either falls in love with the humble maid or marries the princess.....but you should also know that a lot of ladies today see humility as too big a cross to carry.
It gets to a point when you see beyond the looks and the cash and be able to relate with the personality and character.

Ladies today still have some expectations and standard that's makes one wonder what planet they come from....

-he must be tall
-he must be dark
-he must be handsome
-he must have a car
-he must have his own apartment
-he's age range must not less or more than----
-he must be great in bed
The list continues.......
In our generation, its as though struggling to start life with a guy means the guy doesn't exist or isn't ready.
One thing most fairy tales don't teach us is how the guy treats the girl in d end. Its always "and they lived happily ever after' but how happy is the after?
The beautiful part of been with a person is having memories, having tales you can pass on.
A lot of times, we prevent ourselves from discovering how awesome a guy can be because we don't give ourselves the chance to know him because he is not what we expect or doesn't meet our standards.
Some of these things ladies do are to them normal. They think they are protecting themselves but in actual sense they are only limiting their reach.
Age- imagine a girl who has sworn never to marry a man who is senior to her by anything more than 5 years.... The minute she gets into a conversation and realises the guy doesn't fall in that group, she indirectly shuts her mind to the possibility of having anything to do with such a guy. If tables are turned, a guy tells you a false age and you get to know him and probably fall in love with him, realising he a great guy with an awesome personality would you give all that up when you find out he's like 15 years older than you?

TDH- We all had the dream of marrying the tall, dark and handsome dude.... The 1st question is how many guys are in the tdh group? So if he doesn't fall in this group does that automatically mean he can't be a great guy who could end up as your prince charming?
While we all want the best man the real question is are these expectations really worth throwing the chance of been happy away for?

Cash and material things: who no get today fit get tomorrow. The future of a man is in the hands of God. Its common today to see a guy talking to a girl and all you see on her face is the look of disgust just because he isn't driving or isn't taking her to a Chinese restaurant to have a meal and the minute another guy with a clean car parks she snobs and jumps into the car.
Which brings more joy Having a guy pick you up every time to go have fun and spend money or walking into a dealer's shop with your husband to pick a car?
That he doesn't have an apartment now doesn't mean you can't both pick one out and also pick the furniture in it. Some lifetime memories are worth more than the flexing life we want as youths.
A true gentleman is defined by his character not by his wallet size.  Some ladies suffer home battering and violence because they couldn't see beyond the looks and the pockets. Some others would trade their handsome husbands for a faithful ugly man but it's too late. Different ladies today have tales to tell but have no one to listen, others look for a shoulder to cry on but find none..

Some get lucky and meet "the perfect man" but a lot loose track of what perfect to them means because to every man or woman the concept of perfect varies depending on who is looking for that perfection.

N:B You don't have to agree with me, if you want to insult well you are not free cos you will get double. This write up is not meant to make sense to everyone but just a few and I won't stop airing my views because some people cant relate with the reality of today's world.

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by dharay99: 3:52pm On Oct 10, 2015
grin
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by agarawu23(m): 3:52pm On Oct 10, 2015
TDH- We all had the dream of marrying the tall, dark and handsome dude.... The 1st question is how many guys are in the tdh group? So if he doesn't fall in this group does that automatically mean he can't be a great guy who could end up as your prince charming?
While we all want the best man the real question is are these expectations really worth throwing the chance of been happy away for?


These are things some ladies aren't getting, you can't get all the good things in a guy at once. You yourself can build him to your taste and both of you will live happily smiley

The guy u dumped because he doesn't have all the good qualities you are demanding from your future guy might be a good hubby to another Lady. Must we even date appearance? You will only see the outside of the guy you call your dream guy but his inside is unknown to you. No wonder the rate of divorce is now high.

Don't be disappointed if the Mr TDH you are looking for is not worth ending up with and take note not all guys wanna marry a second hand Lady so choose wisely and forget appearance.

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Nobody: 4:09pm On Oct 10, 2015
very true @op especially majority of NIGERIAN LADIES
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Vinshu(f): 4:11pm On Oct 10, 2015
I agree with you Op. This is common everywhere not just amongst Nigerian women but even in Europe. When I was very young I said I would marry an American with blue eyes or never marry at all. Today, it's a different story cheesy

If only ladies today could read articles like these and review their lifestyle and then adjust for tomorrow, our society would be a better place

+1 For you Op.

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by ronald4lif(m): 4:24pm On Oct 10, 2015
Lol @ the caveat ab initio. So you'd give it to anyone who curses you in double folds.

OP, just a quick question though, would you date a barrow pusher like me...I've got potentials o. Would you date a palm wine tapper? tongue

Just playing around, never mind.
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by wristbangle: 4:33pm On Oct 10, 2015
Great Job mzflexydeeva.

Had it being a male open this kind of thread, ladies would have bashed him.

Seriously I don't understand why broke a ss ladies like living a fairy stale life expecting a prince charming from palace to baptise them with treasures, money and other goodies.

From the onset, the role of women is "helpmate or helper" not "eater". I pity the influx of hungry ladies parading the streets nowadays.

Ronald4lif, lol has the OP agreed to your proposal?

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by slex(m): 4:36pm On Oct 10, 2015
Mzflexydeeva. U r spot on. The ladies guilty of this know all what you wrote but ll they change? No[left][/left]
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by stuff46(m): 4:36pm On Oct 10, 2015
Its been long i'ave seen a girl with this intelligence.

Cool.

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by ronald4lif(m): 4:39pm On Oct 10, 2015
wristbangle:
Great Job mzflexydeeva.

Had it being a male open this kind of thread, ladies would have bashed him.

Seriously I don't understand why broke a ss ladies like living a fairy stale life expecting a prince charming from palace to baptist them with treasures, money and other goodies.

From the onset, the role of women is "helpmate or helper" not "eater". I pity the influx of hungry ladies parading the streets nowadays.

Ronald 4lif, lol as the OP agreed to your proposal?

Bro, she don't do barrow pushers. embarassed

Her write up is in order and I hope ladies learn and start looking the way of pauperise guys like us. Something has to be done about their love for money which leaves us in the background and put us at risk of becoming bachelors for life. cry wink
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Tallesty1(m): 4:40pm On Oct 10, 2015
Thank God good girls wey get sense still remain.



That's if the poster practices what she preaches.

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Omotayor123(f): 4:50pm On Oct 10, 2015
Hmmm... But by the time she's still single at 30... Nobody will teach her to start crossing out those silly expectations. grin




Cc. Naijasinglegirl wink

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by wristbangle: 5:24pm On Oct 10, 2015
ronald4lif:


Bro, she don't do barrow pushers. embarassed

Her write up is in order and I hope ladies learn and start looking the way of pauperise guys like us. Something has to be done about their love for money which leaves us in the background and put us at risk of becoming bachelors for life. cry wink

Lol. Well said bro. It is the ladies who need to embrace what the OP has said but most of them will turn deaf ear chasing an already established man leaving us in struggling to get our future partner.
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by elantraceey(f): 5:38pm On Oct 10, 2015
Spot on op, couldn't have been said better .

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by naijaboiy: 5:42pm On Oct 10, 2015
But this post long o sad
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 5:44pm On Oct 10, 2015
agarawu23:
I just close work a beg
I will read later
do come back
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 5:44pm On Oct 10, 2015
fantazia:
very true @op especially majority of NIGERIAN LADIES
Nigerian ladies true but not only them
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 5:45pm On Oct 10, 2015
Vinshu:
I agree with you Op. This is common everywhere not just amongst Nigerian women but even in Europe. When I was very young I said I would marry an American with blue eyes or never marry at all. Today, it's a different story cheesy

If only ladies today could read articles like these and review their lifestyle and then adjust for tomorrow, our society would be a better place

+1 For you Op.
babe u r gbaski
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 5:46pm On Oct 10, 2015
ronald4lif:
Lol @ the caveat ab initio. So you'd give it to anyone who curses you in double folds.

OP, just a quick question though, would you date a barrow pusher like me...I've got potentials o. Would you date a palm wine tapper? tongue

Just playing around, never mind.
no time to say no tym... palmwine/ barrow..... guy na Godwin
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 5:46pm On Oct 10, 2015
wristbangle:
Great Job mzflexydeeva.

Had it being a male open this kind of thread, ladies would have bashed him.

Seriously I don't understand why broke a ss ladies like living a fairy stale life expecting a prince charming from palace to baptise them with treasures, money and other goodies.

From the onset, the role of women is "helpmate or helper" not "eater". I pity the influx of hungry ladies parading the streets nowadays.

Ronald4lif, lol has the OP agreed to your proposal?
you can say that again
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by ClassCaptain(m): 5:47pm On Oct 10, 2015
that was how rokiatu lost me too
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 5:47pm On Oct 10, 2015
slex:
Mzflexydeeva. U r spot on. The ladies guilty of this know all what you wrote but ll they change? No[left][/left]
one day one day monkey go go market e no go return. I'll keep talking to them ladies grin
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Nobody: 5:47pm On Oct 10, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
Nigerian ladies true but not only them
nice dp
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 5:48pm On Oct 10, 2015
stuff46:
Its been long i'ave seen a girl with this intelligence.

Cool.
I greet u
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 5:49pm On Oct 10, 2015
ronald4lif:


Bro, she don't do barrow pushers. embarassed

Her write up is in order and I hope ladies learn and start looking the way of pauperise guys like us. Something has to be done about their love for money which leaves us in the background and put us at risk of becoming bachelors for life. cry wink
hmmmmmm! I dey feel u
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 5:50pm On Oct 10, 2015
Tallesty1:
Thank God good girls wey get sense still remain.



That's if the poster practices what she preaches.
I try grin its God's grace
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 5:50pm On Oct 10, 2015
elantraceey:
Spot on op, couldn't have been said better .
thanks ..... let's spread the word
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by iamkingzlee(m): 5:51pm On Oct 10, 2015
I love this smiley I need to show my sister that has been waiting for the "Michael Ealy type of guy"
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by kay29000(m): 5:52pm On Oct 10, 2015
Don't mind them. And if you see some of these girls ehn, maybe the only thing they can do is dress flashy and perform in bed...Like that is all the qualities needed for a wife material. But they want the guy to be God fearing, have millions in the bank, have many cars, a house, tall, dark, handsome, with a long something, a master in bed, a kind loving man...all in one person.

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 5:53pm On Oct 10, 2015
fantazia:
nice dp
thanks
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Alarib(m): 5:59pm On Oct 10, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
thanks ..... let's spread the word
Des** babe....shey u see y I'm jealous of Kenny abi wink
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by agarawu23(m): 6:02pm On Oct 10, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
do come back
wow
I commend you for this post if you are the real writer cool

Its a nice thread.

I have modified wink

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