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BlaqCoffee109:
not metaphysics.. what's not with men? BTW men don't love easily but are drawn to love and fascinated by love but when they eventually love,they love hard

uncjay:
Dear Nairalanders, this piece is my personal opinion, submission and conclusion as regard the topic. It's quite lengthy notwithstanding I want you to take your time and go through everything in order to effectively decode my point and bone of contention base on the subject matter. Knowledge, they say is open ended and not tentative, hence no one is a custodian of it. You can share your views and criticism, but please be concrete and discreet. There are two peculiar words at play here, in uses they are sometimes interchangeable but one is deeper and stronger than the other. Here we go.....

Love is actually a feeling that goes with human existence and emotions, it is sometime referred to as the greatest magic in the world because of it power of proficiency over man. It's good to love and be loved in return, but at times the reverse is the case. Often times we discovered that there are different varieties of love or rather, we see and observe love from different disposition and levels, as some consider it 'casual', some consider it 'genuine', some consider it 'TRUE', some consider it 'Agape', other varieties include; fatherly, motherly, brotherly, and sisterly love, these I call the 'LY' love. Whichever way we see it, it exist and function only where two or more persons co-exist and lived as a people in a specific society.

Despite all the attributes of love and it pertinent, I still struggle to come to term with how people refer to love as 'TRUE' and argue that there is nothing like 'TRUE LOVE'. After observing experiences and experiment carried out, I hereby conclude that there is no true love. The context of the phrase 'true love' is one thing I find yet to be justified in the world of man. Love can be genuine, casual or agape for that matter but there is nothing like true love. Love is a phenomenon that comes and go. It is not static and does not stand the test of time, where is the true in love.

A guy may love a girl genuinely from a sincere heart (and vice versa) and will be eager to do anything whatsoever to profess that love to her. At that point some will regard it as TRUE LOVE, without even considering the gravity of it. It is not true love but love in it genuineness, which of course can be reverse by circumstances or the coming of another love. That guy though loves the girl but after some time into the relationship the degree or percentage of the strength of the love reduces and continues until it becomes very low or non existent anymore, why is that? Such love cannot be term as true.

True is an everlasting phenomenon, no matter how long it is hidden, it will eventually come to manifestation someday and when it does, it indisputably stands and remain for life. Hence love cannot be regarded as true because it does not possess such quality. History will forever remember every scenario for its trueness. Though history or historical event sometimes can be twist or rewritten to suit or concur with the selfish desire of some people, or still in order to create either a negative or positive impressions, all aimed at either painting someone or people good or evil. That notwithstanding does not mean that there is no true story of the said history. Most African countries suffer this degradation from the bigoted whites.

Therefore, there is no true love, it only comes and go. Love does not remain forever, it changes as regard change in behaviours and circumstances around men. When someone loves, he/she cherish with all his/her heart, but at some point in time it becomes odd or rather not as effective as it were at the beginning, (a true love must maintain the degree and percentage base on which it started) this maybe due to the fact that someone else came that manage to stole the love a man has toward a woman and vice versa, or something unfortunate breach the love rendering it less effective or infidelity. Thus, as long as love got to do with emotion it should not be referred as true because anything can affect emotion as it may change.

Provided that, in a situation where someone love another probably from secondary school through tertiary institution and for one reason or the other they were no longer together, yet he/she professes his/her love toward that person as firm, in such cases it is only expedient to examine why they were not together in the first place, as it stand as the reason why such a love could be regard as rather genuine love that couldn't stand the test of time but certainly not true. Else they will rather be together, and breach will be found in the relationship.

That a couple lived and grew old together does not mean the love between them is true, it maybe genuine enough to sustain them all through their lifetime but it not necessarily true as there will be situation where the man or woman wish they had another person as partner or still may at one time or the other love and cherish another person even briefly, (I mean real love and not brotherly and sisterly love) yet they are still together as couple. At that point there is a breach making it less true but genuine to keep them together.

A true love must maintain a single strength from beginning to end. A true love must not change or shift affections toward another person (no matter how little). A true love must be eternal. So tell me where can we find such among men. As such people should put into cognisance the gravity and weight of the phrase "true love", before considering whether to term certain affections as true. Thanks.


C

trapQ:
you're wrong. love is love, and can only be true.. but for the sale not this agreement, i'll stick with the true love.

true love is very real, and also very rare. that you've not experienced it doesn't change the reality of that fact. it is indescribable, endless and unchanging. it's selfless, unselfish,etc. when you have true love, you see absolutely no reason to cheat or betray your partner because hurting them will hurt you more.

so yeah, true love does exist.

uncjay:
Dear Nairalanders, this piece is my personal opinion, submission and conclusion as regard the topic. It's quite lengthy notwithstanding I want you to take your time and go through everything in order to effectively decode my point and bone of contention base on the subject matter. Knowledge, they say is open ended and not tentative, hence no one is a custodian of it. You can share your views and criticism, but please be concrete and discreet. There are two peculiar words at play here, in uses they are sometimes interchangeable but one is deeper and stronger than the other. Here we go.....

Love is actually a feeling that goes with human existence and emotions, it is sometime referred to as the greatest magic in the world because of it power of proficiency over man. It's good to love and be loved in return, but at times the reverse is the case. Often times we discovered that there are different varieties of love or rather, we see and observe love from different disposition and levels, as some consider it 'casual', some consider it 'genuine', some consider it 'TRUE', some consider it 'Agape', other varieties include; fatherly, motherly, brotherly, and sisterly love, these I call the 'LY' love. Whichever way we see it, it exist and function only where two or more persons co-exist and lived as a people in a specific society.

Despite all the attributes of love and it pertinent, I still struggle to come to term with how people refer to love as 'TRUE' and argue that there is nothing like 'TRUE LOVE'. After observing experiences and experiment carried out, I hereby conclude that there is no true love. The context of the phrase 'true love' is one thing I find yet to be justified in the world of man. Love can be genuine, casual or agape for that matter but there is nothing like true love. Love is a phenomenon that comes and go. It is not static and does not stand the test of time, where is the true in love.

A guy may love a girl genuinely from a sincere heart (and vice versa) and will be eager to do anything whatsoever to profess that love to her. At that point some will regard it as TRUE LOVE, without even considering the gravity of it. It is not true love but love in it genuineness, which of course can be reverse by circumstances or the coming of another love. That guy though loves the girl but after some time into the relationship the degree or percentage of the strength of the love reduces and continues until it becomes very low or non existent anymore, why is that? Such love cannot be term as true.

True is an everlasting phenomenon, no matter how long it is hidden, it will eventually come to manifestation someday and when it does, it indisputably stands and remain for life. Hence love cannot be regarded as true because it does not possess such quality. History will forever remember every scenario for its trueness. Though history or historical event sometimes can be twist or rewritten to suit or concur with the selfish desire of some people, or still in order to create either a negative or positive impressions, all aimed at either painting someone or people good or evil. That notwithstanding does not mean that there is no true story of the said history. Most African countries suffer this degradation from the bigoted whites.

Therefore, there is no true love, it only comes and go. Love does not remain forever, it changes as regard change in behaviours and circumstances around men. When someone loves, he/she cherish with all his/her heart, but at some point in time it becomes odd or rather not as effective as it were at the beginning, (a true love must maintain the degree and percentage base on which it started) this maybe due to the fact that someone else came that manage to stole the love a man has toward a woman and vice versa, or something unfortunate breach the love rendering it less effective or infidelity. Thus, as long as love got to do with emotion it should not be referred as true because anything can affect emotion as it may change.

Provided that, in a situation where someone love another probably from secondary school through tertiary institution and for one reason or the other they were no longer together, yet he/she professes his/her love toward that person as firm, in such cases it is only expedient to examine why they were not together in the first place, as it stand as the reason why such a love could be regard as rather genuine love that couldn't stand the test of time but certainly not true. Else they will rather be together, and breach will be found in the relationship.

That a couple lived and grew old together does not mean the love between them is true, it maybe genuine enough to sustain them all through their lifetime but it not necessarily true as there will be situation where the man or woman wish they had another person as partner or still may at one time or the other love and cherish another person even briefly, (I mean real love and not brotherly and sisterly love) yet they are still together as couple. At that point there is a breach making it less true but genuine to keep them together.

A true love must maintain a single strength from beginning to end. A true love must not change or shift affections toward another person (no matter how little). A true love must be eternal. So tell me where can we find such among men. As such people should put into cognisance the gravity and weight of the phrase "true love", before considering whether to term certain affections as true. Thanks.


C

omojeesu:
Thank you! Great analysis!

But you see Love is, what it is, Love and by nature, it is true and powerful. It will stand the test of time!

Love is divine nature. If one allows God to work in and through him by His Spirit, he will be able to love as in 1st Corinthians 13. There will be occasional miss but there will be a restoration to move on in love because God is in it. This is why those who have the Spirit of Christ, like Him, can love their enemies. It is difficult, but His Spirit makes it easy!

Bless you!

BlaqCoffee109:
..it has no condition attached to it..it sees clearly your ineptitude, warts and all and accepts and love you all the same even if you are undeserving

uncjay:
Dear Nairalanders, this piece is my personal opinion, submission and conclusion as regard the topic. It's quite lengthy notwithstanding I want you to take your time and go through everything in order to effectively decode my point and bone of contention base on the subject matter. Knowledge, they say is open ended and not tentative, hence no one is a custodian of it. You can share your views and criticism, but please be concrete and discreet. There are two peculiar words at play here, in uses they are sometimes interchangeable but one is deeper and stronger than the other. Here we go.....

Love is actually a feeling that goes with human existence and emotions, it is sometime referred to as the greatest magic in the world because of it power of proficiency over man. It's good to love and be loved in return, but at times the reverse is the case. Often times we discovered that there are different varieties of love or rather, we see and observe love from different disposition and levels, as some consider it 'casual', some consider it 'genuine', some consider it 'TRUE', some consider it 'Agape', other varieties include; fatherly, motherly, brotherly, and sisterly love, these I call the 'LY' love. Whichever way we see it, it exist and function only where two or more persons co-exist and lived as a people in a specific society.

Despite all the attributes of love and it pertinent, I still struggle to come to term with how people refer to love as 'TRUE' and argue that there is nothing like 'TRUE LOVE'. After observing experiences and experiment carried out, I hereby conclude that there is no true love. The context of the phrase 'true love' is one thing I find yet to be justified in the world of man. Love can be genuine, casual or agape for that matter but there is nothing like true love. Love is a phenomenon that comes and go. It is not static and does not stand the test of time, where is the true in love.

A guy may love a girl genuinely from a sincere heart (and vice versa) and will be eager to do anything whatsoever to profess that love to her. At that point some will regard it as TRUE LOVE, without even considering the gravity of it. It is not true love but love in it genuineness, which of course can be reverse by circumstances or the coming of another love. That guy though loves the girl but after some time into the relationship the degree or percentage of the strength of the love reduces and continues until it becomes very low or non existent anymore, why is that? Such love cannot be term as true.

True is an everlasting phenomenon, no matter how long it is hidden, it will eventually come to manifestation someday and when it does, it indisputably stands and remain for life. Hence love cannot be regarded as true because it does not possess such quality. History will forever remember every scenario for its trueness. Though history or historical event sometimes can be twist or rewritten to suit or concur with the selfish desire of some people, or still in order to create either a negative or positive impressions, all aimed at either painting someone or people good or evil. That notwithstanding does not mean that there is no true story of the said history. Most African countries suffer this degradation from the bigoted whites.

Therefore, there is no true love, it only comes and go. Love does not remain forever, it changes as regard change in behaviours and circumstances around men. When someone loves, he/she cherish with all his/her heart, but at some point in time it becomes odd or rather not as effective as it were at the beginning, (a true love must maintain the degree and percentage base on which it started) this maybe due to the fact that someone else came that manage to stole the love a man has toward a woman and vice versa, or something unfortunate breach the love rendering it less effective or infidelity. Thus, as long as love got to do with emotion it should not be referred as true because anything can affect emotion as it may change.

Provided that, in a situation where someone love another probably from secondary school through tertiary institution and for one reason or the other they were no longer together, yet he/she professes his/her love toward that person as firm, in such cases it is only expedient to examine why they were not together in the first place, as it stand as the reason why such a love could be regard as rather genuine love that couldn't stand the test of time but certainly not true. Else they will rather be together, and breach will be found in the relationship.

That a couple lived and grew old together does not mean the love between them is true, it maybe genuine enough to sustain them all through their lifetime but it not necessarily true as there will be situation where the man or woman wish they had another person as partner or still may at one time or the other love and cherish another person even briefly, (I mean real love and not brotherly and sisterly love) yet they are still together as couple. At that point there is a breach making it less true but genuine to keep them together.

A true love must maintain a single strength from beginning to end. A true love must not change or shift affections toward another person (no matter how little). A true love must be eternal. So tell me where can we find such among men. As such people should put into cognisance the gravity and weight of the phrase "true love", before considering whether to term certain affections as true. Thanks.


C

patwickk:
I would second your opinion because as it stands, for true love to be, it must be consistent and have zero changes with time like the Love of God. Humans are fallible and inconsistent in all they do, its second to our nature.
Genuine love comes momentarily and at a point when it attains the height of its genuineness, the illusion and joyous feeling is deceptive often mistaken for true love. If adam hadn't eaten of the forbidden fruit, then I suppose who so ever your spouse is at the Eden garden then and only then can you call such love true cause its pure like we were created to be. True Love Is Gods love exclusively.

Tallesty1:
You contradict yourself a bit.

There is love. And love is love.

There is no true or fake love. Just love.

God is love and he gave a good example of how to love.

Scripture says that God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him.....

That's love in its truest form.

It is just love not true love.

Now if a man mistakes infatuation and lust for love and starting dating a woman for that reason, chances are, the relationship won't last because it was rooted in infatuation and lust not love.

You have been enjoying love for decades.

It is love or nothing.

Any other feeling outside it is either like, hatred, lust, etc.

There is nothing like love that is true and one that is not.

Love is Love.

#MY OPInION.

uncjay:
Thank you sir, I like your sincerity with the divine, but you see anything divine is divine and cannot be compared to any kind that is less divine..in the article I mention 'AGAPE' that's different from others, my contention is the level that men never seems to attain but professes the quality which scale can never be justified. True love does not exist among human. My candid opinion.

ozimec:
I agree with you. I think there are only two examples of true love. One is Gods love to mankind which is the greatest, and the second one is the parents love to their children which can stand a test of time. Every other love is based on circumstances. It can be induced and depends on several factors. My opinion though.

patwickk:
I would second your opinion because as it stands, for true love to be, it must be consistent and have zero changes with time like the Love of God. Humans are fallible and inconsistent in all they do, its second to our nature.
Genuine love comes momentarily and at a point when it attains the height of its genuineness, the illusion and joyous feeling is deceptive often mistaken for true love. If adam hadn't eaten of the forbidden fruit, then I suppose who so ever your spouse is at the Eden garden then and only then can you call such love true cause its pure like we were created to be. True Love Is Gods love exclusively.

uncjay:
I simply understand where exactly u coming from...if you go through the article again, I'm sure you'd see where I mention having gone through experience and series of experiments......now to you, have u ever wonder why what u call true love grow odd and gross at some point? Does true grow odd? Have u ever wondered why the said 'true' affection gets halted by circumstances of life? Maybe u need to understand my definition of true as regard love, probably then u can have a clear view of what I meant. Thank you

trapQ:
I have experienced true love dear and I know ther your assertion is wrong. True love exists and it doesn't wane, it is unconditional, and never wanes. If love isn't like this, its not love.

Infuation and lust fade with time. And we have always confused these with love. The book of solomon is about a man's love for each other, it talks about true love for your partner, the kind of love that never changes.

pinceprinz:
Only God qualifies for that being that keeps the true love for Humans IMO. Even at that, he still went ahead to create Hell.

HawksDude:
The only kind of "true love" that exists is God's love.

Tallesty1:
Scripture says that God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him.....
That's love in its truest form.

Snowangel4:
True love exist but it is vry hard to find

charlsecy:
GOD's Love is the purest form of love, yet It has a set of conditions; how much more human love!

uncjay:
Dear Nairalanders, this piece is my personal opinion, submission and conclusion as regard the topic. It's quite lengthy notwithstanding I want you to take your time and go through everything in order to effectively decode my point and bone of contention base on the subject matter. Knowledge, they say is open ended and not tentative, hence no one is a custodian of it. You can share your views and criticism, but please be concrete and discreet. There are two peculiar words at play here, in uses they are sometimes interchangeable but one is deeper and stronger than the other. Here we go.....

Love is actually a feeling that goes with human existence and emotions, it is sometime referred to as the greatest magic in the world because of it power of proficiency over man. It's good to love and be loved in return, but at times the reverse is the case. Often times we discovered that there are different varieties of love or rather, we see and observe love from different disposition and levels, as some consider it 'casual', some consider it 'genuine', some consider it 'TRUE', some consider it 'Agape', other varieties include; fatherly, motherly, brotherly, and sisterly love, these I call the 'LY' love. Whichever way we see it, it exist and function only where two or more persons co-exist and lived as a people in a specific society.

Despite all the attributes of love and it pertinent, I still struggle to come to term with how people refer to love as 'TRUE' and argue that there is nothing like 'TRUE LOVE'. After observing experiences and experiment carried out, I hereby conclude that there is no true love. The context of the phrase 'true love' is one thing I find yet to be justified in the world of man. Love can be genuine, casual or agape for that matter but there is nothing like true love. Love is a phenomenon that comes and go. It is not static and does not stand the test of time, where is the true in love.

A guy may love a girl genuinely from a sincere heart (and vice versa) and will be eager to do anything whatsoever to profess that love to her. At that point some will regard it as TRUE LOVE, without even considering the gravity of it. It is not true love but love in it genuineness, which of course can be reverse by circumstances or the coming of another love. That guy though loves the girl but after some time into the relationship the degree or percentage of the strength of the love reduces and continues until it becomes very low or non existent anymore, why is that? Such love cannot be term as true.

True is an everlasting phenomenon, no matter how long it is hidden, it will eventually come to manifestation someday and when it does, it indisputably stands and remain for life. Hence love cannot be regarded as true because it does not possess such quality. History will forever remember every scenario for its trueness. Though history or historical event sometimes can be twist or rewritten to suit or concur with the selfish desire of some people, or still in order to create either a negative or positive impressions, all aimed at either painting someone or people good or evil. That notwithstanding does not mean that there is no true story of the said history. Most African countries suffer this degradation from the bigoted whites.

Therefore, there is no true love, it only comes and go. Love does not remain forever, it changes as regard change in behaviours and circumstances around men. When someone loves, he/she cherish with all his/her heart, but at some point in time it becomes odd or rather not as effective as it were at the beginning, (a true love must maintain the degree and percentage base on which it started) this maybe due to the fact that someone else came that manage to stole the love a man has toward a woman and vice versa, or something unfortunate breach the love rendering it less effective or infidelity. Thus, as long as love got to do with emotion it should not be referred as true because anything can affect emotion as it may change.

Provided that, in a situation where someone love another probably from secondary school through tertiary institution and for one reason or the other they were no longer together, yet he/she professes his/her love toward that person as firm, in such cases it is only expedient to examine why they were not together in the first place, as it stand as the reason why such a love could be regard as rather genuine love that couldn't stand the test of time but certainly not true. Else they will rather be together, and breach will be found in the relationship.

That a couple lived and grew old together does not mean the love between them is true, it maybe genuine enough to sustain them all through their lifetime but it not necessarily true as there will be situation where the man or woman wish they had another person as partner or still may at one time or the other love and cherish another person even briefly, (I mean real love and not brotherly and sisterly love) yet they are still together as couple. At that point there is a breach making it less true but genuine to keep them together.

A true love must maintain a single strength from beginning to end. A true love must not change or shift affections toward another person (no matter how little). A true love must be eternal. So tell me where can we find such among men. As such people should put into cognisance the gravity and weight of the phrase "true love", before considering whether to term certain affections as true. Thanks.


C

Snowangel4:
True love exist but it is vry hard to find