₦airaland Forum

muphasar11:
Painfully your sense isn't common. If a lotta ladies could see this your line of thought then your far and possibly the fear of many other people would be curbed.

Toks2008:
Countleess number of naija babes are being dumped every minute because some rich dudes do not value them because they know its about their money.

look at our stars aand you will see the trend where the guys marry their old time girlfriends after scwrng the shit outta the money mongers who think these guys are fools nd foolishly and shamelessly becoming a side dish or baby mama of a rich dude when one vision driven potential multi millionaire is begging theem to b the only woman in their lives.

this is why th likes of dbang,mikel and many more chose to get a non Nigrian lady as their ladies.

I really feel for many of our ladies.

bigass123:
Na today?
Many of them will end up on olx.. Just dey watch as the film dey go.

misspicy:
My dear it all boils down to the misogynist nature of men,afterall its a men's world....
So why will anyone advice me to suffer both ways,i cnt wait for u to make it n get dumped again,i would rather hustle for my money,or go for that financially okay man,n damn d consequences.....note,i cnt evee fend for a man....

Cc Toks2008

misspicy:
My dear it all boils down to the misogynist nature of men,afterall its a men's world....
So why will anyone advice me to suffer both ways,i cnt wait for u to make it n get dumped again,i would rather hustle for my money,or go for that financially okay man,n damn d consequences.....note,i cnt evee fend for a man....

Cc Toks2008

Charles4075:
I swear, you too funny. What of Jumia and Konga?

fexyrich:
@you can't even fend for a man or support him financiallybut you can eat his money with your big mouth and open legs for him that's all you have to offer right..You are a big thief and gold digger..Tell me why a man shld think of marrying a girl like you..As much as I don't need a womans mony but your making that statement makes me detest your type..Ole buruku oshi..So if the rich guy you married becomes broke 2moro instead of supporting him you would rather dump him abi?? Clap for your self..elenu raga raga..Oponu oshi!! Iranu abasha..

Toks2008:
We are on the same page.

joseph1832:
I've read comments, all I see are just opinions based on generalizations. I've always maintain that in life, we choose who we want to date/marry. Its that simple.

Many ladies out there crave a financially okay guy, that's the truth, even I crave a financially okay lady who will take care of me, tantalize me and spoil me, after all, I'm totally worth it. Lol. Seriously even as I crave this, I'm not stupid to know that the reality of me meeting a lady who will do all this is 1 over 10. So why should I deceive myself and become fool hardy?. This is what many ladies fail to know, hope and dream have become their out doing because they let it happen.

I've always maintained that many Nigerian ladies want to eat their cake and have it, even marrying a financially okay guy doesn't mean it will not cheat on you, because as it is now, the financially okay guys cheat more than the guys who are not okay financially.

The issue of cheating its now a scourge in Nigeria and may be all over the world. I tell people that they should learn to be smart when making decisions about who they marry particularly when finance comes to play.

PunkyVeer, the story you told, I blame the lady 100%. I blame her for trusting the man in question. She should have cemented her hold on him by making him sign a writ that he will not leave her or cheat, that if he's found wanting, he will part with most of his asset. Its that simple.

Kachisbarbie, misspicy I always blame ladies who say they married a guy when he had nothing, now that he has something he's forgotten them. The instance I gave punky.veer is what they should have done.

I for one know I will not marry any girl without setting clear cut rules for us to follow, everything must not be omitted, even when it comes to sex. After all, marriage is an agreement.

joseph1832:
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Many ladies out there crave a financially okay guy, that's the truth, even I crave a financially okay lady who will take care of me, tantalize me and spoil me, after all, I'm totally worth it . Lol. Seriously even as I crave this, I'm not stupid to know that the reality of me meeting a lady who will do all this is 1 over 10. So why should I deceive myself and become fool hardy?. This is what many ladies fail to know, hope and dream have become their out doing because they let it happen.

joseph1832:
I've read comments, all I see are just opinions based on generalizations. I've always maintain that in life, we choose who we want to date/marry. Its that simple.

Many ladies out there crave a financially okay guy, that's the truth, even I crave a financially okay lady who will take care of me, tantalize me and spoil me, after all, I'm totally worth it. Lol. Seriously even as I crave this, I'm not stupid to know that the reality of me meeting a lady who will do all this is 1 over 10. So why should I deceive myself and become fool hardy?. This is what many ladies fail to know, hope and dream have become their out doing because they let it happen.

I've always maintained that many Nigerian ladies want to eat their cake and have it, even marrying a financially okay guy doesn't mean it will not cheat on you, because as it is now, the financially okay guys cheat more than the guys who are not okay financially.

The issue of cheating its now a scourge in Nigeria and may be all over the world. I tell people that they should learn to be smart when making decisions about who they marry particularly when finance comes to play.

PunkyVeer, the story you told, I blame the lady 100%. I blame her for trusting the man in question. She should have cemented her hold on him by making him sign a writ that he will not leave her or cheat, that if he's found wanting, he will part with most of his asset. Its that simple.

Kachisbarbie, misspicy I always blame ladies who say they married a guy when he had nothing, now that he has something he's forgotten them. The instance I gave punky.veer is what they should have done.

I for one know I will not marry any girl without setting clear cut rules for us to follow, everything must not be omitted, even when it comes to sex. After all, marriage is an agreement.

Kachisbarbie:
In a nutshell everyone craves financial security/support. I don't have anything against guys that insist on working class/financiall dependent...nobody should judge a lady who wants same.

As for cheating, y'know I don't dabble into that topic.

PunkyVeer:
Come on now, make him sign a note he won't leave or cheat? Like that's gonna stop him if the vows didn't. Plus signing such a note doesn't even sound romantic. He should be able to do that on his own free will without the help of a binding contract. Morals.

ideyhere:
Naija guy sign contract for marriage? You wish... If they had their way, they won't even sign the marriage register in church or court. Yes you heard me right! Most are that unromantic and scared of commitment...

joseph1832:
Yea I do know.

Well it may stop him, or it may not, the bottom line is, when he cheats and he gets caught, then he knows what's coming. It is what it is. You speak of romance, what's the romance when he's busy f*#king another woman and the wife is left hanging high and dry? Morality is now a concept dear, my morals is different from yours.

joseph1832:
Yes so the question is why marry a guy who is scared of commitment? Or isn't that what marriage is? Commitment?.

Kachisbarbie:
In my years of existence I have never seen someone who speaks from both sides like you.

The other day, you said real men go for older ladies. Ladies that have financial independence and are mature.
Another day, you're on a thread for singles above 30+ acting like y'all are team.
Today you are still castigating the same older ladies 'real men' like you cherish.

Abeg, which team are you? ?

ideyhere:
I'm scared of a lot of things...night, crawling animals, guys inclusive But I know I can't escape them totally so I deal with it. Does that answer your question?

PunkyVeer:
Well, for me that won't feel right, to twist a guy's hand & force him to stay faithful to me. He just should. Period.

Yeah, I guess we're different after all.

joseph1832:
Nope. Don't deal with your fears, face it!.

Yes for you it won't feel right. You call it twisting his hand, I call it protecting yourself. If it doesn't feel right then you shouldn't complain when he cheats. That's the way it is.

PunkyVeer:
When someone cheats, I don't complain, I do what's natural & walk.

Toks2008:
Do you know that 7 out of 10 ladies have struggled all their life right from childhood to adulthood? Will you blame such ladies if they refuse to marry a man who can not boast of an income good enough to manage a family?

The economy of this country has made it so difficult that even a man that makes 150k a month dares not think about marriage considering the way it is celebrated in Nigeria and by the time you remove monthly expenses from your 150k you wil be left with little or nothing hence saving for a wedding ceremony wil not even come to mind.

Now lets ask ourselves,how many men even in their 30s have jobs paying 100k and above? How many are even gainfully employed?

8 out of 10 ladies have no reason been single even at 25yrs of age YES you read right but the issue is with these ladies.

A typical Nigerian lady will state all she wants in a man but even if she hides the "Must be financially ok" part,it is very apparent that the financial aspect to her is even more important than the guy being GOD fearing. So in the past, they have probably had guys that are seen as poor by them practically asking them to be their wife but because by her standard,the guy is not financially ok enough,ITS A NO and gradually they get older.

So the bottom line is that 8 out of 10 ladies want a "financially ok guy" and in Nigeria of today,just 2 out of 10 guys are financially ok so the 8 ladies flock around these two guys and because these 2 guys now realize they are hot cakes,they just play around with these 8 ladies and dump them for other fresh ladies and these ladies who are desperately looking for a financially stable guy to marry ends up becoming single and searching again after wasting their time with these 2 guys with the hope that these 2 guys will marry the 8 ladies and the never ending crazy circle continues.

This is why i fear for Many Nigerian spinsters and until they make up their mind to start a life with a man even if he still strugling, we will continue to have crazy increase in the number of averaged single ladies.

Just trying to make common sense.

joseph1832:
And the question is: how many times will you keep walking? Or is your name now Johnny Walker? LOL.

PunkyVeer:
For as long as I'm still capable & athritis hasn't rendered me immobile. I don't tolerate cheating. I'd rather be single forever than forgive someone for that

joseph1832:
Your opinion, your life, your world. Enjoy it, you only live once.

joseph1832:
Nope. Don't deal with your fears, face it!.