MissAssy:

I thank God i survived those horrible three years of my life, i remember one time like that my mum visited me, when it ws time for her to leave i started crying that i want to follow her bt she advised me to stay that it was only a matter of time before she will come back and take me with her and she was crying too.

eeya my dear it is well.....just take heart and forget the past.

itsmine:
" will say it times and time again;
Women are one Heartless creatures!!! I only Hope u don't grow to treat another kid like ur aunt..."

Gbam!

I concur!
I would never send my child/children to go stay with any relaTION no matter the condiTION!

As in...there is no place like home and no body like family. Else where you'll alwsys be treated like a second class citizen, taking crap from people who would ordinarily dare not to.

When I hear stories like this I feel bad, sure if someone asked your aunt she would not agree she was treating you badly. It's like some people loose all human compassion once they have authority over another person.

Pidggin:
One woman was here a few weeks back trying to justify herself for enslaving an 11years old child in the name of helping, may God help us. OP take heart it is well.

They will always find an excuse to justify their wickedness

@op at least your's happened when you were 11.Mine happened from april-july 2014.I had a problem with my law school posting for court and chambers attachment.Instead of my house local govt area in ughelli south,I was posted to Effurun.My mum had to arrange for me to stay with a family friend who was living around refinery,very close to Effurun high court.Now this couple is well travelled,both are lawyers and have been friends with my family since I was a kid.They owned the duplex they lived in, with a maid and gateman.They are very well to do.The first 2 weeks were very ok.since they had a maid,I cudnt really sweep the house because she does that.So I made sure I washed dishes anytime I saw any in the sink.I normally leave the house by 8,return 4 or 5 depending on when my court closed.I wasn't even eating breakfast in the house o,just dinner.
Everything started when she started complaining that I don't work in the house."I thought to myself, like..seriously?I had bar finals I was reading for.Was she expecting me to do eye service?"I wash dishes I meet in the kitchen without being told.Even when the househelp insists I leave it ,I still do it.She even went as far as gossiping me to her friends o.On many occasions,she would wake me by 3am on sunday.She would then pile the clothes of she,her husband and her four 4 kids for me to iron.At times after ironing for like an hour she would bring another set,that she prefers that one to the ones I have ironed.
I was so depressed at a point I couldn't read.I had to caution myself to bear.The househelp at a point stopped greeting me,because she felt we were now mates.lol.Many nights in a week,the husband would buy suya or barbecue,she wouldn't even ask if I want to eat.I would come back from court and find the fridge locked.As if the drinks they noemally keep there was my problem.she would even go as far as counting the coke inside the crate kept in the kitchen store.it got to a stage she started telling the househelp to lock her store when ever I get home.All that was to safeguard her provisions.I called my mum to tell her,she cried eh!She asked me to come back home,that even though my house was like an hour plus to the court,she would ensure I leave the house on time.I packed my things then told her I was leaving.The husband was home that night,he was shocked I even considered going.The poor man no know say e wife na countess dracula.He begged me to forget about anything that happened and stay.That one even worsened things,I will greet her at times she won't answer.On saturdays,she would instruct the househelp to tell me to sweep both upstairs and downstairs of the duplex.I was always sad..The day I was leaving to go back to school for our bar finals,my friend came to pick me up with his car back to my house.Na so the lady call me o,that I should go and mop the guest room I lived in before leaving.A room I always kept clean,and moped the tiles every friday afternoon?I almost cried!I had to come down from the car,then gave the househelp 500 to do it.My friend was so pissed.He was asking how I managed to cope for 4 months.I just told him I knew it wasn't forever.Recently she called my mum saying I don't keep in touch,I just laughed!Thank God for the bad experience o,because it spurred me to read with zeal.At least I passed my exams with honours to her shame.That's why I have vowed never to squat with any friend or relative.If I even get a job in abuja where housing is expensive,I'd rather share a room with someone ,than stay rent free in a mansion and take sh.it.Many people just become demi-gods once you are eating their food an living under their roof.Forgetting that no condition is permanent!I would not advice my enemy to squat with anyone o.Because thats when you get to see the person's true nature.

It's very, very strong in Nigerian culture to treat people one feels is dependent on them, badly.

I've seen the difference in the way my siblings who have very Nigerian mentality treat people versus the ones who don't buy into all that Nigerian culture treat people: the first group will complain that you fried eggs for yourself in their kitchen without bothering to make for them (never mind they have a cook and a nanny and other help) and will think you ungrateful no matter what, like you owe them your life for even a cup of water; and the latter group politely say "thank you" to the gateman, the cab driver who takes them for a trip, anywhere. Heck, they'll even start a small conversation.

Nigerian culture is not generous so even treating another person like a human being feels alien and like they're doing too much, so they start wanting to "put you in your place" and make you as humble and subservient as can be, whilst loudly declaring they are doing you a favour.

queenfav:
@op at least your's happened when you were 11.Mine happened from april-july 2014.I had a problem with my law school posting for court and chambers attachment.Instead of my house local govt area in ughelli south,I was posted to Effurun.My mum had to arrange for me to stay with a family friend who was living around refinery,very close to Effurun high court.Now this couple is well travelled,both are lawyers and have been friends with my family since I was a kid.They owned the duplex they lived in, with a maid and gateman.They are very well to do.The first 2 weeks were very ok.since they had a maid,I cudnt really sweep the house because she does that.So I made sure I washed dishes anytime I saw any in the sink.I normally leave the house by 8,return 4 or 5 depending on when my court closed.I wasn't even eating breakfast in the house o,just dinner.
Everything started when she started complaining that I don't work in the house."I thought to myself, like..seriously?I had bar finals I was reading for.Was she expecting me to do eye service?"I wash dishes I meet in the kitchen without being told.Even when the househelp insists I leave it ,I still do it.She even went as far as gossiping me to her friends o.On many occasions,she would wake me by 3am on sunday.She would then pile the clothes of she,her husband and her four 4 kids for me to iron.At times after ironing for like an hour she would bring another set,that she prefers that one to the ones I have ironed.
I was so depressed at a point I couldn't read.I had to caution myself to bear.The househelp at a point stopped greeting me,because she felt we were now mates.lol.Many nights in a week,the husband would buy suya or barbecue,she wouldn't even ask if I want to eat.I would come back from court and find the fridge locked.As if the drinks they noemally keep there was my problem.she would even go as far as counting the coke inside the crate kept in the kitchen store.it got to a stage she started telling the househelp to lock her store when ever I get home.All that was to safeguard her provisions.I called my mum to tell her,she cried eh!She asked me to come back home,that even though my house was like an hour plus to the court,she would ensure I leave the house on time.I packed my things then told her I was leaving.The husband was home that night,he was shocked I even considered going.The poor man no know say e wife na countess dracula.He begged me to forget about anything that happened and stay.That one even worsened things,I will greet her at times she won't answer.On saturdays,she would instruct the househelp to tell me to sweep both upstairs and downstairs of the duplex.I was always sad..The day I was leaving to go back to school for our bar finals,my friend came to pick me up with his car back to my house.Na so the lady call me o,that I should go and mop the guest room I lived in before leaving.A room I always kept clean,and moped the tiles every friday afternoon?I almost cried!I had to come down from the car,then gave the househelp 500 to do it.My friend was so pissed.He was asking how I managed to cope for 4 months.I just told him I knew it wasn't forever.Recently she called my mum saying I don't keep in touch,I just laughed!Thank God for the bad experience o,because it spurred me to read with zeal.At least I passed my exams with honours to her shame.That's why I have vowed never to squat with any friend or relative.If I even get a job in abuja where housing is expensive,I'd rather share a room with someone ,than stay rent free in a mansion and take sh.it.Many people just become demi-gods once you are eating their food an living under their roof.Forgetting that no condition is permanent!I would not advice my enemy to squat with anyone o.Because thats when you get to see the person's true nature.

Thats really bad, atleast it over now. Don't know what they gain from it.

MissAssy:
There are some experiences you don't wanna keep to yourself. Mine is what i experienced when i lived with my aunt and her children who are all older than me in 2006.Am gonna make this story as short as possible.Am not much of a writer so please bear with me and share your experiences too.

It started when i went for a vacation at their house in aba. I was 11yrs then and that made it easy for them to brainwash me with fake love using bleach and iron sponge. Well one day like that, my aunt gave me nd my cousin some chores to do and left for market, after i finished mine my cousin tried to cajole me to do hers so i refused but when she tried to drag me inside to beat me or something, my eyes hit the key lock.i thought i ws going to go blind because blood started gushing out of my left eye as if that was not enough she asked me to lie on how i got the accident and that was during the period of my vacation,i thought that was an accident and that such thing wont happen again cos they asked me to live with them which i agreed meanwhile my mom disagreed cos she was maltreated by her aunt when she was little on the other hand my dad agreed cos that is his sister. As time went on,they showed me their true colour.i go to school only 3times in a week except when we have exams.i do all the hard work in the house and they're never satisfied, as an 11yr old girl i fetch water with 25liters of gallon i bet that's why all my siblings are taller than me ,i wake up around 5 every morning to wash the plates, fetch water meanwhile i fetch water every night and the most painful part is that she have sons that can fetch water and am always late for school and am always the last to pay school fees, everyone knows me in school then, most of the time i wont eat breakfast before going to school and i will stay hungry till 4 with nothing in my tummy.i cry myself to sleep every night and they don't care, i hardly smile or laugh when am with them.school is my escape route cos i have a best friend then who buys things like food for me then and help pay for my textbooks then cos am always the last to pay for everything.If i ask her to give me money for a textbook worth 150 she will say she doesn't have meanwhile she will bring money in bundles and count in my presence our school then is a mixed school so i gained alot from boys,at a time our sp stopped punishing me for coming late.Her daughter sends me out at night to buy things for her and if i refuse i will get a beating.whenever my mum or dad visits me, they start treating me well and calling me by my short name which us Muanya instead of Chimuanya they usually blurt out.whenever they cook a new soup i will b the one to eat the old one and by the time i finish it, the new one will b old.when i was in jss2, my lil sis who was around 6 then came for a holiday so one day it rained so hard,u know aba nau with bad road and everything After the rain my aunt asked me to go and buy pepper so i bought dry pepper which they usually use, when i came back she asked me to go and change it that she needs fresh pepper so i told her that we have fresh pepper and she asked me to bring it, when i brought it, it turns out that the pepper has decayed with maggot the next thing i knew she poured the on my face and i didn't even know what i did to deserve that.i thought my heart was going to break,i couldn't even cry but when i turned and saw my lil sis crying, i couldn't hold back my own tears with my heart aching after i washed off the pepper on my face she still asked me to go and change the pepper and it was already dark then.These are just half of the things they did to me and the only thing i regret till now is never running away cos i know they would have alot to answer to everyone if i did.

Lalasticlala please push this for me

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Your Aunt must be a devil in Human flesh just forget about what happened and move on. The best way to revenge what they did to u is for u to work hard and become wealthy and successful so they can groin in jealousy.

eyaa...sorry, people came into your life either for a lesson or a reason

This shi is real ..been there ..they show u fake love so they can use you ..it stains us mentally but makes us bold and at d end we know who our real families are..

why i didnt want to stay with my relatives during my NYSC.

kk

when I was little, I would beg my mum to allow me go spend my holidays with our rich relatives. I wanted to go and 'enjoy', escape 'manual labor' at home and 'enjoy life'. mama would say that even it is only garri she can afford, we will all drink it like that. now I know why.

MissAssy:
There are some experiences you don't wanna keep to yourself. Mine is what i experienced when i lived with my aunt and her children who are all older than me in 2006.Am gonna make this story as short as possible.Am not much of a writer so please bear with me and share your experiences too.

It started when i went for a vacation at their house in aba. I was 11yrs then and that made it easy for them to brainwash me with fake love using bleach and iron sponge. Well one day like that, my aunt gave me nd my cousin some chores to do and left for market, after i finished mine my cousin tried to cajole me to do hers so i refused but when she tried to drag me inside to beat me or something, my eyes hit the key lock.i thought i ws going to go blind because blood started gushing out of my left eye as if that was not enough she asked me to lie on how i got the accident and that was during the period of my vacation,i thought that was an accident and that such thing wont happen again cos they asked me to live with them which i agreed meanwhile my mom disagreed cos she was maltreated by her aunt when she was little on the other hand my dad agreed cos that is his sister. As time went on,they showed me their true colour.i go to school only 3times in a week except when we have exams.i do all the hard work in the house and they're never satisfied, as an 11yr old girl i fetch water with 25liters of gallon i bet that's why all my siblings are taller than me ,i wake up around 5 every morning to wash the plates, fetch water meanwhile i fetch water every night and the most painful part is that she have sons that can fetch water and am always late for school and am always the last to pay school fees, everyone knows me in school then, most of the time i wont eat breakfast before going to school and i will stay hungry till 4 with nothing in my tummy.i cry myself to sleep every night and they don't care, i hardly smile or laugh when am with them.school is my escape route cos i have a best friend then who buys things like food for me then and help pay for my textbooks then cos am always the last to pay for everything.If i ask her to give me money for a textbook worth 150 she will say she doesn't have meanwhile she will bring money in bundles and count in my presence our school then is a mixed school so i gained alot from boys,at a time our sp stopped punishing me for coming late.Her daughter sends me out at night to buy things for her and if i refuse i will get a beating.whenever my mum or dad visits me, they start treating me well and calling me by my short name which us Muanya instead of Chimuanya they usually blurt out.whenever they cook a new soup i will b the one to eat the old one and by the time i finish it, the new one will b old.when i was in jss2, my lil sis who was around 6 then came for a holiday so one day it rained so hard,u know aba nau with bad road and everything After the rain my aunt asked me to go and buy pepper so i bought dry pepper which they usually use, when i came back she asked me to go and change it that she needs fresh pepper so i told her that we have fresh pepper and she asked me to bring it, when i brought it, it turns out that the pepper has decayed with maggot the next thing i knew she poured the on my face and i didn't even know what i did to deserve that.i thought my heart was going to break,i couldn't even cry but when i turned and saw my lil sis crying, i couldn't hold back my own tears with my heart aching after i washed off the pepper on my face she still asked me to go and change the pepper and it was already dark then.These are just half of the things they did to me and the only thing i regret till now is never running away cos i know they would have alot to answer to everyone if i did.

Lalasticlala please push this for me

Wow!!!
They did all this to a fine gal like you, they re so wicked ooo..

Oya come to my place for vacation, I won't send u on errands nd won't beat u..

My my my,see as you fine like obanje,if no be say i don settle down,i for persecute you via toasting things..try follow me back abeg,i like dey roll with fine people

Your ordeal is quite touching, i laughed at the point where you said you would be made to eat the old soup and later the new soup which have become old too. Pele dear!

You are so beautiful. l guess part of why they abused you was because U are more beautiful than them.
Let it go girl and have a blast living your life fill with fun and happiness, that will be the best revenge.

God help me ooo, but my own kids can never ever grow up with any of my siblings... It's not as if they are bad people but I just don't trust people to take care of my own children better than I will.

OP, your own story even has a happy ending so you should be thankful. Pls forgive them and move on.

I also have my own stories growing up with a cousin that was supposed to help out because my mom had been doing a program in school for a few years.

Now he is older and was trying to form friendship at some point but I still remember the things he did and that can never let me be free with him.

When I see him I act friendly but in my heart, I still remember. I say I have forgiven him but I just can't help but remember.

God forgives but i don't.

I make war so i may live in peace.
My asshole Aunties , friends and uncles are reaping the fruits of their labor.
They did say I'm useless when i was in Nigeria because i had no job.
I traveled to America in 2008, studied medicine, now i make millions in just a year

They treated me like shit when i was nobody & I'm kind of rich now and they want me to forgive and forget.

I ripped my heart and buried it in the grave, now i don't have any sympathy for anyone.

wow..assumpta,is dis u..i rmbr u frm spmss.,woww

I experienced such too..women can be very heartless

MissAssy:

I thank God i survived those horrible three years of my life, i remember one time like that my mum visited me, when it ws time for her to leave i started crying that i want to follow her bt she advised me to stay that it was only a matter of time before she will come back and take me with her and she was crying too.

Why did your parents leave you with these devilish people. Was is financial problem?

And now you are looking more beautiful....old things are passed away.

10x of that happened to my mom but how she is enjoying her life ...
i`m helping those guys that mom served as house help ... table turn

Sorry about your ordeal. Please why exactly did you have to stay that long with your aunt? I assume you must have stayed long enough for them to think they could treat you as a house help.

I have had to stay with some relations for quite a long time but my own experience was different and I was much older. The family treated me very well and I truly appreciate what they did for me.

I empathize with you.