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Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Nnetriplet: 4:23pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
MissAssy:eeya my dear it is well.....just take heart and forget the past. |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by corisande: 5:20pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
itsmine: I concur! I would never send my child/children to go stay with any relaTION no matter the condiTION! 9 Likes |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by zealril111(f): 5:31pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
As in...there is no place like home and no body like family. Else where you'll alwsys be treated like a second class citizen, taking crap from people who would ordinarily dare not to. 8 Likes |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by babestell(f): 5:46pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
When I hear stories like this I feel bad, sure if someone asked your aunt she would not agree she was treating you badly. It's like some people loose all human compassion once they have authority over another person. 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Nobody: 6:15pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
Pidggin:They will always find an excuse to justify their wickedness 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by queenfav(f): 6:25pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
@op at least your's happened when you were 11.Mine happened from april-july 2014.I had a problem with my law school posting for court and chambers attachment.Instead of my house local govt area in ughelli south,I was posted to Effurun.My mum had to arrange for me to stay with a family friend who was living around refinery,very close to Effurun high court.Now this couple is well travelled,both are lawyers and have been friends with my family since I was a kid.They owned the duplex they lived in, with a maid and gateman.They are very well to do.The first 2 weeks were very ok.since they had a maid,I cudnt really sweep the house because she does that.So I made sure I washed dishes anytime I saw any in the sink.I normally leave the house by 8,return 4 or 5 depending on when my court closed.I wasn't even eating breakfast in the house o,just dinner. Everything started when she started complaining that I don't work in the house."I thought to myself, like..seriously?I had bar finals I was reading for.Was she expecting me to do eye service?"I wash dishes I meet in the kitchen without being told.Even when the househelp insists I leave it ,I still do it.She even went as far as gossiping me to her friends o.On many occasions,she would wake me by 3am on sunday.She would then pile the clothes of she,her husband and her four 4 kids for me to iron.At times after ironing for like an hour she would bring another set,that she prefers that one to the ones I have ironed. I was so depressed at a point I couldn't read.I had to caution myself to bear.The househelp at a point stopped greeting me,because she felt we were now mates.lol.Many nights in a week,the husband would buy suya or barbecue,she wouldn't even ask if I want to eat.I would come back from court and find the fridge locked.As if the drinks they noemally keep there was my problem.she would even go as far as counting the coke inside the crate kept in the kitchen store.it got to a stage she started telling the househelp to lock her store when ever I get home.All that was to safeguard her provisions.I called my mum to tell her,she cried eh!She asked me to come back home,that even though my house was like an hour plus to the court,she would ensure I leave the house on time.I packed my things then told her I was leaving.The husband was home that night,he was shocked I even considered going.The poor man no know say e wife na countess dracula.He begged me to forget about anything that happened and stay.That one even worsened things,I will greet her at times she won't answer.On saturdays,she would instruct the househelp to tell me to sweep both upstairs and downstairs of the duplex.I was always sad..The day I was leaving to go back to school for our bar finals,my friend came to pick me up with his car back to my house.Na so the lady call me o,that I should go and mop the guest room I lived in before leaving.A room I always kept clean,and moped the tiles every friday afternoon?I almost cried!I had to come down from the car,then gave the househelp 500 to do it.My friend was so pissed.He was asking how I managed to cope for 4 months.I just told him I knew it wasn't forever.Recently she called my mum saying I don't keep in touch,I just laughed!Thank God for the bad experience o,because it spurred me to read with zeal.At least I passed my exams with honours to her shame.That's why I have vowed never to squat with any friend or relative.If I even get a job in abuja where housing is expensive,I'd rather share a room with someone ,than stay rent free in a mansion and take sh.it.Many people just become demi-gods once you are eating their food an living under their roof.Forgetting that no condition is permanent!I would not advice my enemy to squat with anyone o.Because thats when you get to see the person's true nature. 85 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Onegai(f): 7:12pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
It's very, very strong in Nigerian culture to treat people one feels is dependent on them, badly. I've seen the difference in the way my siblings who have very Nigerian mentality treat people versus the ones who don't buy into all that Nigerian culture treat people: the first group will complain that you fried eggs for yourself in their kitchen without bothering to make for them (never mind they have a cook and a nanny and other help) and will think you ungrateful no matter what, like you owe them your life for even a cup of water; and the latter group politely say "thank you" to the gateman, the cab driver who takes them for a trip, anywhere. Heck, they'll even start a small conversation. Nigerian culture is not generous so even treating another person like a human being feels alien and like they're doing too much, so they start wanting to "put you in your place" and make you as humble and subservient as can be, whilst loudly declaring they are doing you a favour. 20 Likes |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Nobody: 7:20pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
queenfav:Thats really bad, atleast it over now. Don't know what they gain from it. 4 Likes |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Atmmachine(m): 7:56pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
MissAssy: Jdkkdkdj |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by ERONX(m): 7:57pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
Your Aunt must be a devil in Human flesh just forget about what happened and move on. The best way to revenge what they did to u is for u to work hard and become wealthy and successful so they can groin in jealousy. 4 Likes |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by bengems(m): 7:59pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
eyaa...sorry, people came into your life either for a lesson or a reason 2 Likes |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Nobody: 8:01pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
This shi is real ..been there ..they show u fake love so they can use you ..it stains us mentally but makes us bold and at d end we know who our real families are.. 5 Likes |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Nobody: 8:01pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
why i didnt want to stay with my relatives during my NYSC. 12 Likes |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Nobody: 8:01pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
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Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by anumide(f): 8:04pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
when I was little, I would beg my mum to allow me go spend my holidays with our rich relatives. I wanted to go and 'enjoy', escape 'manual labor' at home and 'enjoy life'. mama would say that even it is only garri she can afford, we will all drink it like that. now I know why. 20 Likes |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by menix(m): 8:05pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
MissAssy: Wow!!! They did all this to a fine gal like you, they re so wicked ooo.. Oya come to my place for vacation, I won't send u on errands nd won't beat u.. 4 Likes |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by magicminister: 8:06pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
Are your parents dead If they are alive, thrn I guess you should be more upset at your parents than at your aunt. Anyway, it made you a stronger person. 4 Likes |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Nobody: 8:07pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
My my my,see as you fine like obanje,if no be say i don settle down,i for persecute you via toasting things..try follow me back abeg,i like dey roll with fine people 2 Likes |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by francotunsco: 8:08pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
Your ordeal is quite touching, i laughed at the point where you said you would be made to eat the old soup and later the new soup which have become old too. Pele dear! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Roh50(f): 8:08pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
You are so beautiful. l guess part of why they abused you was because U are more beautiful than them. Let it go girl and have a blast living your life fill with fun and happiness, that will be the best revenge. |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by repogirl(f): 8:10pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
God help me ooo, but my own kids can never ever grow up with any of my siblings... It's not as if they are bad people but I just don't trust people to take care of my own children better than I will. OP, your own story even has a happy ending so you should be thankful. Pls forgive them and move on. I also have my own stories growing up with a cousin that was supposed to help out because my mom had been doing a program in school for a few years. Now he is older and was trying to form friendship at some point but I still remember the things he did and that can never let me be free with him. When I see him I act friendly but in my heart, I still remember. I say I have forgiven him but I just can't help but remember. 2 Likes |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Atmmachine(m): 8:11pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
God forgives but i don't. I make war so i may live in peace. My asshole Aunties , friends and uncles are reaping the fruits of their labor. They did say I'm useless when i was in Nigeria because i had no job. I traveled to America in 2008, studied medicine, now i make millions in just a year They treated me like shit when i was nobody & I'm kind of rich now and they want me to forgive and forget. I ripped my heart and buried it in the grave, now i don't have any sympathy for anyone. 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by princessdairies(f): 8:11pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
wow..assumpta,is dis u..i rmbr u frm spmss.,woww 1 Like |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by presh91(m): 8:11pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
I experienced such too..women can be very heartless 2 Likes |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by okpurukata(f): 8:16pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
MissAssy: Why did your parents leave you with these devilish people. Was is financial problem? |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Skyfornia(m): 8:16pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
And now you are looking more beautiful....old things are passed away. |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by ibkgab001: 8:16pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
10x of that happened to my mom but how she is enjoying her life ... i`m helping those guys that mom served as house help ... table turn |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by megainvest: 8:17pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
Sorry about your ordeal. Please why exactly did you have to stay that long with your aunt? I assume you must have stayed long enough for them to think they could treat you as a house help. I have had to stay with some relations for quite a long time but my own experience was different and I was much older. The family treated me very well and I truly appreciate what they did for me. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Heromaniaa: 8:19pm On Oct 24, 2015 |
I empathize with you. |
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