Durentt:
LOL, lesbianism is 100% right. Its one of the mysterious ways to reduce da large population frm getting larger you know

are u kidding me ,are u d God that said we should go into d world and multiply.....why would u want d population reduced.......if all people were lesbian d human race would av long gone to extinction....check it out....girls marrying girls(how can they gv birth 2 kids.....) Or man loving man(how will they produce issue). It is ungodly and unwise to say lesbianism is 100% right cos its not,not one bit.

whatsapp me let talk I can help 08065500452

esthersolomon00:


But I wish our society could see things through this same perspective too

YOU'RE A FOOL. YOU JUST WANTED SOMEONE TO ENCOURAGE YOU INTO LESBIANISM.

Durentt, it isn't a scientific fact yet that people are born with homosexual inclinations... All we av yet are hypotheses....scientific guess work for or against. Although I must say that the scientific work that disproves genetic homosexual makeup is more scientifically coherent based on the fact that basically all living things that engage in sexual reproduction do so primarily because they need to preserve their species and not for the pleasure (infact not many living things derive pleasure from sexual reproduction). And if we must perpetuate our species.. Homosexual relationships may be an aberration that is unaccounted for genetically

esthersolomon00:
Hello Nlders,

I'm an ardent reader and follower of this great forum.
So,I had to create this acct for personal reasons.

To avoid lengthy episodes permit me to keep it simple by going straight to the point. Thanks

As a young lady who's in her early 20s I find it extremely difficult to love a guy not to talk about being in a relationship with one.

There is this guy who can't just help but to love me passionately. We've been together for 9yrs now but who would believe we had sex just once? YES! Just once after enough fighting and struggling.
Sometimes,I had to lock myself inside to weep cuz it's painful and it hurts! Why can't I have normal sex like any other lady out there?

I just detest having sex with a guy and it's as a result of this that I've lost most of my relationships. This stuff is making me sick cuz I want to enjoy sex with a man like any other lady.

THE MAJOR PROBLEM IS THAT AM "BIsexual" but a larger part of me hungers for same sex

And the ladies are not even helping matters cuz they also yearn for me every now and then.,
,
I've tried hanging out with some cool guyz even to the extent of doing stuff with them YET! Nothing positive came out.

Presently,am dating a banker and believe me every other thing is perfectly in order EXCEPT the issue of sex.

Am worried cuz I know exactly what it means for someone you love so dearly to deny you of something.

I've prayed
I've also cried my eyes out
I've even gone for counselling @least to ameloriate this kind of lifestyle YET! Things are still the same.
Someone should pls tell me what else to do...

Lalasticlala

Prayed for what? That God should help you enjoy sex before marriage? Or he should help your letsbehonestism quest?

Wos wos wobi, mind yourself ooo

Estharfabian:
LoL! ""
He just likes messing Around...

plus...I think he likes "Lesbians".... *don't tell him I said so*

Lol

i'm curious: what did you do?

banky3w:
I have a female friend who had this issue ones and I helped her out of it. Now she won't think of girls anymore because she is addicted to me but I'm not really proud of myself for what I did sha and won't advice such.

Durentt:
Lol, i just told u to go and give ur mama da coco, is dat why u are dis pained. Lol, u really need to give u mama dat coco.

are u really a lesbian?

lesbianism is bad desist from it.most lesbians are suffering from a curse.dat curse makes them have difficulties in falling in love or enjoying sex.make prayer a priority because prayer works but u must first desist from sin for it to work.secondly desist from premarital sex cause its bad because it causes diseases like hiv aids e.tc and unwanted pregnancy.there is no assurance dat d guy you have sex with would marry u.even condom is nt 100percent effective.a person i know very well used condom yet she got pregnant.before you get married u must study nd make sure hes someone you love.sex is meant for couples alone.make sure u see a psycologist if wat i said doesnt work for u.

U need deliverence my dear.......

Stop deceiving urself..........

U can stop it.......... Everything its possible!!!

esthersolomon00:


Yes I have

But distance separated us

She was all I had then

What if I say I was'nt upto 10 when I started struggling with this ish will you believe me?

I've tried to distance myself from most girls that comes my way yet! They won't just let me be

Its more like a hard task accepting guyz into my life

u re a lesbian no 2 ways abt that

ALISMILE:
are u really a lesbian?

see jamb question nii

You do girls,so what?

sabi99:
are u kidding me ,are u d God that said we should go into d world and multiply.....why would u want d population reduced.......if all people were lesbian d human race would av long gone to extinction....check it out....girls marrying girls(how can they gv birth 2 kids.....) Or man loving man(how will they produce issue). It is ungodly and unwise to say lesbianism is 100% right cos its not,not one bit.

every one cant be lez joooor

seangy4konji:
You need to calm down and enjoy moments...dont be to hasty with things even if your man is demanding sex or your woman...go to a bar,drink smirnoff,eat asun,watch arsenal,relax your brain,let emotion take its way...develop a kind of interest if its man you want or woman because i dont know the country you are fighting for..either ISIS,Kurds,Fsa,Russia,plenty factions...you are divided...Pa okan e pooo....

See about the romance and sex thing?you need to farabale gan...enjoy the moment andd if God go bless you no b d type boys weh go cum s you touch prick so there will be pre intimacy...

You are just an over anxious little bitcchhh who need a good little rough fucking to get hold of her self...you know how cowboy tame a horse right??she finds it irritating to see any one ride her but force her to it...maybe you need to be humilated with your own conscience...alt.. tied up and abused till you feel free and let go of your beautiful body...

There are a lot of options out there to satisfy every desire we all have...calm down and let me know...i am in IB...WAIT I DEH FIND MONEY NOW...listen to advice people have to gie you..hope you through your nozzles that are blocked soon...

Amen.

Did you just advocate rape and say "Amen" in the same writeup? OMG. Shame on you.

If u are in abuja,come to dunamis intl gospel centre and I assure u,you will be delivered.wherever you are you can come.God has used him to deliver women dat has worse cases dan u do nd dey wea deliverd

EARLY 20S AND A RELATIONSHIP FOR 9YRS. HOW OLD ARE YOU REALLY?

ranson:

Habits such as lesbianism are always difficult to break. It is psychological and will always hunts you especially when you're in environments that encourages it. Don't quit seeing a counsellor but most importantly consider relocating to a new environment where you can stay away from those girls. In the new neighbourhood, take a deliberate effort to find a mature guy that you actually appreciates and make conscious efforts to built a gradual sexual relationship together. Believe me. Heterosexual sex is fun. Nothing compares. Just work on your mind, gradually, you start enjoying sex with males. Frankly speaking, you might not limit yourself to a guy at first, and you might also need to spice it up with different styles and positions. Increase your sexual knowledge by reading related books. Take care.

pls lesbianism is not a habit but a sexuality. Please

esthersolomon00:
Hello Nlders,

I'm an ardent reader and follower of this great forum.
So,I had to create this acct for personal reasons.

To avoid lengthy episodes permit me to keep it simple by going straight to the point. Thanks

As a young lady who's in her early 20s I find it extremely difficult to love a guy not to talk about being in a relationship with one.

There is this guy who can't just help but to love me passionately. We've been together for 9yrs now but who would believe we had sex just once? YES! Just once after enough fighting and struggling.
Sometimes,I had to lock myself inside to weep cuz it's painful and it hurts! Why can't I have normal sex like any other lady out there?

I just detest having sex with a guy and it's as a result of this that I've lost most of my relationships. This stuff is making me sick cuz I want to enjoy sex with a man like any other lady.

THE MAJOR PROBLEM IS THAT AM "BIsexual" but a larger part of me hungers for same sex

And the ladies are not even helping matters cuz they also yearn for me every now and then.,
,
I've tried hanging out with some cool guyz even to the extent of doing stuff with them YET! Nothing positive came out.

Presently,am dating a banker and believe me every other thing is perfectly in order EXCEPT the issue of sex.

Am worried cuz I know exactly what it means for someone you love so dearly to deny you of something.

I've prayed
I've also cried my eyes out
I've even gone for counselling @least to ameloriate this kind of lifestyle YET! Things are still the same.
Someone should pls tell me what else to do...

Lalasticlala

You have prayed?? And you are Bisexual??

There is nothing wrong with being gay. My only advice is that you shouldn't fully avoid the issue of your sexuality so that you would be more educated about safety measures if/when you end up engaging in the act. It makes no sense that God (if he/she/it exists) would create you this way and then choose to punish you for being what he created you. It just makes no sense. I also would advice you to read a lot more about theism and Christianity (from a historical perspective, over the past 2000-2500 years) and you may be surprised what you find out. Or you can start by reading the religion thread... look out for @johnydon22's posts. Maybe some of this would help you contextualize some of the Christian admonitions against homosexuality.

Dnacode:

Dear Esther I totally understand how you feel.
I too am GAY.
I got to know at age 7.
I have tried all within my power to 'cure' myself.
I have contemplated death.
I was not molested before I discovered my sexuality.
I just knew I was different.
I have prayed, bound and cast, gone for deliverances etc, etc yet to no avail.
I just can't stop feeling for guys.
Its irritating when such feelings come but they are there.
At a point I hated myself but suicide is not an option---hell awaits suiciders.
Now am a medical doctor but I can't just think of women.
I conduct deliveries and all yet I don't love women.
I stay away from men just because God says so but I know deep down within me the hair at the back of my neck stands when I see a handsome, quiet and graceful man.
It has always been like this @ age 7 till date.
I have had sex with girls as a corrective measure but trust me I did not like nor enjoy it at all.
It was very very irritating and annoying n I felt VIOLATED!
Anyway I have put my hope and faith in Jesus for my justification because only Jesus saves.
I have looked beyond my sexuality and focused on Christ.

Jesus understands our problem. I believe you should read the book of Rev 7 and Rev 14. It talks about men who have never had sex with women.

Jesus knows our every weakness.

I have a heterosexual friend who helps me in prayers. He is understanding.

I have stopped walking with my Igbo kit and Kin because they r too judgmental. If you are Igbo I would advise you to avoid Igbo and move with Yoruba. Igbo will give you the biggest headache you can think of in this issue.

Oluwa bless u darling sister.
I love u in this ur trying hour but God loves you more.
Muah!

Cronnie7:
Durentt, it isn't a scientific fact yet that people are born with homosexual inclinations... All we av yet are hypotheses....scientific guess work for or against. Although I must say that the scientific work that disproves genetic homosexual makeup is more scientifically coherent based on the fact that basically all living things that engage in sexual reproduction do so primarily because they need to preserve their species and not for the pleasure (infact not many living things derive pleasure from sexual reproduction). And if we must perpetuate our species.. Homosexual relationships may be an aberration that is unaccounted for genetically

in English please?

esthersolomon00:


But I wish our society could see things through this same perspective too

Look I'm not here to judge you, but you are a core lesbian! The question you should ask yourself is when did all these abnormal sexual behavior start? Who initiated you into this? Have you seeked for spiritual help? Why do you love to make love to women more than men? If you get answers to these questions then you are in the right part to correct your sexuality. The problem with most homosexual people is that they always believe that they are born that way, hence there is no need to try and change their sexual orientation. Sis, the problem with homosexuality is that society especially in a place like Nigeria will seriously be frowned at. Regrettably, if you don't correct this it will ruin your life

OP, it is a fault and you know you have it, but faults are meant to be corrected, not to be enhanced. Most girls here on Nairaland are Lesbians and their advices would always skewed towards that direction. You can correct yourself and the only way you can do that is by being disciplined. Don't just have sex with your lover(man) but make love with him. What are those things that you think that same sex can offer you, teach him how you want it. Learn pre-intimacy, don't just jump into having sex because that will hurt you more.

shantelrandy:
did I hear u say notting is wrg with bin a lesbian?...U aint truthful at all,if there's everything wrong with GAY"why can't everything b wrg with lesbian,dia is a Demonic spirit behind lesbianism... and there's everything wrong with bin a lesbian...my dear @op, just pray and fast about it.

Lies..My babe is a les. nd am ok with it. It doesn't make her any less of a partner to me. As for gay men, that is unacceptable.

Have a 3some; you can lick all you want and he can phock all he wants...problem solved

Durentt:
Hey shut d fvck up. U lame nigerian, always bringing religion into sexuality.
If she's a lesbian there is NOTHING wrong with it! And no demonic spirit is leading Lesbianism, this is 21st century Everyone has right to sexual preference even ur whole president buhari is Faqqot! Or dont u know, now pack ur 'prayer and fasting trash' out of here before u see da other side of me. Fvcktard!!

I hope you are not abusing the little girl in your DP sexually? Homosexuality is evil and abnormal. It will never have a place in our society

Durentt:
OP, It seems u are emotional attracted to guys but physically attracted to ladies. You are fine, dont mind some nairalanders here, they are just re.tards. My advice to u, is to keep up a healthy sexual relationship with da same sex and also maintain a healthy romantic relationship with da guys. If possible, u can tell any guy coming ur way about ur sexuality so dat he doesn't end up calling u all sort of names. Dont let anyone force u into sex, if u are nt physically attracted to guy, its not ur fault, u are not even alone, from wat i know about 85% of naija ladies feel da same way #Fact. But be careful when indulging in same sex acts, bcuz amebos are everywhere. #Remain blessed.

Jeeze! Really? 85 %? Hmm, If this is really a fact, then I think I'm getting so scared!

@esthersolomon00
There's nothing wrong with being lesbian if that's your primary emotional and sexual attraction. I would advice you to consider moving to a different country where people are more tolerant; if you in the future decide to fully embrace your lesbianism, Nigeria can be a dangerous place. Since you are still young, you could try applying for a masters degree in Germany or Canada... Germany is cheaper because international student tuition is completely free after which residency is not that difficult to get. For Germany, go to www.daad.de/en (they have lots of MSc programs in English, and lots of jobs) and for Canada go to www.universitystudy.ca/search-programs/

If you choose to go the student route, go to these threads on Nairaland to read and ask people questions:
Germany: https://www.nairaland.com/2098236/general-german-visa-enquiries-part
Canada: https://www.nairaland.com/2557850/travelling-canada-part-9

I would advice that you use a different moniker though if you post on those other threads, but this is probably obvious to you already.

esthersolomon00:
Hello Nlders,

I'm an ardent reader and follower of this great forum.
So,I had to create this acct for personal reasons.

To avoid lengthy episodes permit me to keep it simple by going straight to the point. Thanks

As a young lady who's in her early 20s I find it extremely difficult to love a guy not to talk about being in a relationship with one.

There is this guy who can't just help but to love me passionately. We've been together for 9yrs now but who would believe we had sex just once? YES! Just once after enough fighting and struggling.
Sometimes,I had to lock myself inside to weep cuz it's painful and it hurts! Why can't I have normal sex like any other lady out there?

I just detest having sex with a guy and it's as a result of this that I've lost most of my relationships. This stuff is making me sick cuz I want to enjoy sex with a man like any other lady.

THE MAJOR PROBLEM IS THAT AM "BIsexual" but a larger part of me hungers for same sex

And the ladies are not even helping matters cuz they also yearn for me every now and then.,
,
I've tried hanging out with some cool guyz even to the extent of doing stuff with them YET! Nothing positive came out.

Presently,am dating a banker and believe me every other thing is perfectly in order EXCEPT the issue of sex.

Am worried cuz I know exactly what it means for someone you love so dearly to deny you of something.

I've prayed
I've also cried my eyes out
I've even gone for counselling @least to ameloriate this kind of lifestyle YET! Things are still the same.
Someone should pls tell me what else to do...

Lalasticlala

u are suffering from "EMOTIONAL CONJI"

esthersolomon00:


But I wish our society could see things through this same perspective too

I don't think you are seeking a solution if what you want is for our society to see and approve lesbianism. Why will one have a vagina and then say, instead of a penis, I'd appreciate a fellow vagina, finger, candle or cucumber. I am not condemning you dear, but what is wrong is wrong. So if you want to use what you were given rightly, you must first of all hate abusing it [ an abuse is when something is used not as it manufacturer would have intended it to be used].
Your problem has a solution but only you can play the great role than any psychology or guy. I was had a girl that had similar issue, but she wasn't really ready to work with solution I thought she needed. And she ended up being rape, cause the guy unlike me wouldn't stop when she shouts "please stop, its is paining me".
So what is my recommendation? First try and get which may have been the cause:
1) Abused as a child
2) Religious about not engaging in sex and has now turn to guilt each time you had wanted to indulge in it.
3] Addicted to playing with same sex (which seem to be your case).
Now, if you have had any of these and you are now consciously preparing your mind to get to have good sex with the opposite sex, it create a sort of resistance in some women which send a signal down to their vagina to get "closed" (tight) and dry and which explain the pain and lack of enjoyment. Most of such women don't even get wet during pre-intimacy.
So work on your mind: desire to have a passionate love making session with your present guy, fantasize with the thought, every other mode of satisfying yourself, when you get to play with him just handover your thoughts to the pleasure you intend to derive from the act and you would have started some progress.

There's a handle the devil uses to handle every living soul.

In your case the enemy of your soul crept in secretly and planted the seed of lesbianism in your heart.

Your bi-sexual tendencies are unnatural.

The forces at play are strongholds stationed in your heart; so even if you decide against lesbianism, your resolve will last but for a few days.

So, what's the way out?

First, surrender your life to Jesus. If you have done so, I'll advise you get the ebook - Secrets to Purity at http://faithfuljoel.com.

Alternatively, I'll suggest you seek help at any of the Deliverance Ministries along Lagos-Ibadan Expressway.

After deliverance, you'll still need to maintain your freedom, so the information contained in Secrets to Purity is recommended.

First u should want to have sex for the right reason n not just to be like other ladies out there. Bisexual or not God made you so I think. Keep yourself for the right person who would love you n you will love him in return n b willing to make love with him. Believe m most of the guys n girls chasing you r doing so cox they want to taste from a bisexual. I encourage u not to gv in to pressure but uphold ur dignity. Go to God