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Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by x6blade(m): 9:15pm On Oct 28, 2015
Bosshugo:
Lesbian things loaded. Lol.


grin
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by rapmike(m): 9:18pm On Oct 28, 2015
esthersolomon00:
Hello Nlders,

I'm an ardent reader and follower of this great forum.
So,I had to create this acct for personal reasons.

To avoid lengthy episodes permit me to keep it simple by going straight to the point. Thanks

As a young lady who's in her early 20s I find it extremely difficult to love a guy not to talk about being in a relationship with one.

There is this guy who can't just help but to love me passionately. We've been together for 9yrs now but who would believe we had sex just once? YES! Just once after enough fighting and struggling.
Sometimes,I had to lock myself inside to weep cuz it's painful and it hurts! Why can't I have normal sex like any other lady out there?

I just detest having sex with a guy and it's as a result of this that I've lost most of my relationships. This stuff is making me sick cuz I want to enjoy sex with a man like any other lady.

THE MAJOR PROBLEM IS THAT AM "BIsexual" but a larger part of me hungers for same sexsad

And the ladies are not even helping matters cuz they also yearn for me every now and then.,
,
I've tried hanging out with some cool guyz even to the extent of doing stuff with them YET! Nothing positive came out.

Presently,am dating a banker and believe me every other thing is perfectly in order EXCEPT the issue of sex.

Am worried cuz I know exactly what it means for someone you love so dearly to deny you of something.

I've prayed
I've also cried my eyes out
I've even gone for counselling @least to ameloriate this kind of lifestyle YET! Things are still the same.
Someone should pls tell me what else to do...

Lalasticlala

Hello,saw this late.

First of all, I understand you very well, have been there sometime before and am back out of it. The fact about this is its difficult to talk about and difficult to deal with also. If you really want to deal with this, I assure you that you are in for a long ride, not discouraging you but being factual with you.

First of all, from all I could gather, its both spiritual and psychological. So I may add some spiritual stuff to it (if you can't handle that, please just pick what you can handle but keep in mind that I used all these to get myself out of these issue).

Then the two aspects will be intermixed, so don't expect one aspect to be dealt with separately from the other.

Let me make a new post.
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by Nobody: 9:19pm On Oct 28, 2015
esthersolomon00:
Hello Nlders,

I'm an ardent reader and follower of this great forum.
So,I had to create this acct for personal reasons.

To avoid lengthy episodes permit me to keep it simple by going straight to the point. Thanks

As a young lady who's in her early 20s I find it extremely difficult to love a guy not to talk about being in a relationship with one.

There is this guy who can't just help but to love me passionately. We've been together for 9yrs now but who would believe we had sex just once? YES! Just once after enough fighting and struggling.
Sometimes,I had to lock myself inside to weep cuz it's painful and it hurts! Why can't I have normal sex like any other lady out there?

I just detest having sex with a guy and it's as a result of this that I've lost most of my relationships. This stuff is making me sick cuz I want to enjoy sex with a man like any other lady.

THE MAJOR PROBLEM IS THAT AM "BIsexual" but a larger part of me hungers for same sexsad

And the ladies are not even helping matters cuz they also yearn for me every now and then.,
,
I've tried hanging out with some cool guyz even to the extent of doing stuff with them YET! Nothing positive came out.

Presently,am dating a banker and believe me every other thing is perfectly in order EXCEPT the issue of sex.

Am worried cuz I know exactly what it means for someone you love so dearly to deny you of something.

I've prayed
I've also cried my eyes out
I've even gone for counselling @least to ameloriate this kind of lifestyle YET! Things are still the same.
Someone should pls tell me what else to do...

Lalasticlala



Its all in ur psychology.....Its all in ur head. just see a very good psychologist n a medical doctor...it could save. Dont shy away from seeing dem
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by Cvesta(m): 9:23pm On Oct 28, 2015
shantelrandy:
did I hear u say notting is wrg with bin a lesbian?...U aint truthful at all,if there's everything wrong with GAY"why can't everything b wrg with lesbian,dia is a Demonic spirit behind lesbianism... and there's everything wrong with bin a lesbian...my dear @op, just pray and fast about it.
Coming from the Randy one..this must be hell of an advice

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Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by simdam500(m): 9:25pm On Oct 28, 2015
Truth is I don not understand the op story, walai!

I can't seem to wrap my head around her life epistle, I read it twice and even went through everyone post but it all reek of confusion.


Just one question, op how is it you want to live your life?
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by Tamakay(m): 9:31pm On Oct 28, 2015
You are in your early 20s and u've been dating this guy for 9yrs?

With the above in mind, I dare say you are not brought up from a well knitted Christian family. You added dating a banker to even make you look responsible. You need serious deliverance. On this note,I recomend TBJ, Prophet Omoto Fufenyin's Christ Mercyland aka Owomo owomo and Fresh fire aka Free Indeed Warri. I wish u good luck.
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by rapmike(m): 9:34pm On Oct 28, 2015
rapmike:


Hello,saw this late.

First of all, I understand you very well, have been there sometime before and am back out of it. The fact about this is its difficult to talk about and difficult to deal with also. If you really want to deal with this, I assure you that you are in for a long ride, not discouraging you but being factual with you.

First of all, from all I could gather, its both spiritual and psychological. So I may add some spiritual stuff to it (if you can't handle that, please just pick what you can handle but keep in mind that I used all these to get myself out of these issue).

Then the two aspects will be intermixed, so don't expect one aspect to be dealt with separately from the other.

Let me make a new post.

Now am here.

First of all, I advise you give your life to Christ. That was the start point for me and for me, that's not negotiable. And really give it to him this time, not give and take. Be confident and believe in him.

Secondly, realize its a problem, not your nature. This is as much as spiritual as it is psychological. May not have the time to explain this totally but the thing is this: if you want to believe that you are homosexual, then you are, take it or leave it. I know there are situations when doubt will come in, but stick to it long enough, those doubts will disappear from your mind. This is a fact about all things, and what many people see as declaration of homosexuality or 'coming out of the closet' is actually accepting that its true. Some NLanders will even encourage you to accept it but think about this: are you accepting it because they say so or you chose to accept it, no matter what anything or anyone says? Will come back soon.
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by larrol(m): 9:37pm On Oct 28, 2015
Babe,u said u r a bisexual. Ur problem is from d girls u meet. They wil do everyting to ensure dy alwys have you, and mek you see guys as being so disgusting. Lb is a very bad act, and it only takes the grace of God to b out of it. Pray,open up to ur guy,and stay away from d girls. Do tings dat wil mek u hate d act
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by rapmike(m): 9:47pm On Oct 28, 2015
rapmike:


Now am here.

First of all, I advise you give your life to Christ. That was the start point for me and for me, that's not negotiable. And really give it to him this time, not give and take. Be confident and believe in him.

Secondly, realize its a problem, not your nature. This is as much as spiritual as it is psychological. May not have the time to explain this totally but the thing is this: if you want to believe that you are homosexual, then you are, take it or leave it. I know there are situations when doubt will come in, but stick to it long enough, those doubts will disappear from your mind. This is a fact about all things, and what many people see as declaration of homosexuality or 'coming out of the closet' is actually accepting that its true. Some NLanders will even encourage you to accept it but think about this: are you accepting it because they say so or you chose to accept it, no matter what anything or anyone says? Will come back soon.

Thirdly, you can't tackle this on your own( from the evidence I see). You need the help of a counselor.
By a counselor I mean these things must be present in them:
(1) He/She must be spirit filled and bible practising, that is the person is not just any member you meet or any pastor. PLEASE THE CHARACTER IS IMPORTANT! Because some loud-mouthed fools will start telling the whole church and then you won't have the mind to do the other stuffs I may say here.
(2). It must be someone that you can trust with every detail of your life. As a piece of advice (which I hope works) meet pastors that mentor people, especially youths like you. Trust me, if him can mentor a couple of youths without any public announcement of their privates lives, he/she may be able to handle yours, or direct a person that can do that.
(3) Please don't go to a judgemental person, nor someone who can't control his/her body/emotions. Best, go to a pastor that is accountable to someone higher than him/her.
(4) Lastly, go to someone you are comfortable with,that you can tell everything without fear or suspicion. If the other points are in place, you will be able to know this by your intuition.

Sorry, but I have to take a break again.
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by deedan9(m): 9:48pm On Oct 28, 2015
esthersolomon00:
Hello Nlders,

I'm an ardent reader and follower of this great forum.
So,I had to create this acct for personal reasons.

To avoid lengthy episodes permit me to keep it simple by going straight to the point. Thanks

As a young lady who's in her early 20s I find it extremely difficult to love a guy not to talk about being in a relationship with one.

There is this guy who can't just help but to love me passionately. We've been together for 9yrs now but who would believe we had sex just once? YES! Just once after enough fighting and struggling.
Sometimes,I had to lock myself inside to weep cuz it's painful and it hurts! Why can't I have normal sex like any other lady out there?

I just detest having sex with a guy and it's as a result of this that I've lost most of my relationships. This stuff is making me sick cuz I want to enjoy sex with a man like any other lady.

THE MAJOR PROBLEM IS THAT AM "BIsexual" but a larger part of me hungers for same sexsad

And the ladies are not even helping matters cuz they also yearn for me every now and then.,
,
I've tried hanging out with some cool guyz even to the extent of doing stuff with them YET! Nothing positive came out.

Presently,am dating a banker and believe me every other thing is perfectly in order EXCEPT the issue of sex.

Am worried cuz I know exactly what it means for someone you love so dearly to deny you of something.

I've prayed
I've also cried my eyes out
I've even gone for counselling @least to ameloriate this kind of lifestyle YET! Things are still the same.
Someone should pls tell me what else to do...

Lalasticlala
Sex is not the best thing go life. Plan your life very well.. If sex is the best thing in life, why do people still hustle to survive even after having countless times of sexual intercourse
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by BamideleOJ: 9:49pm On Oct 28, 2015
You need all time sex with men hopefully you get to enjoy it with time as you abstain from your lesbian shii
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by dinachi(m): 9:50pm On Oct 28, 2015
Lesbianism in Nigeria is alarming! Almost every young lady in Nigeria has at one time or the other practiced Lesbianism. It is horrible. Lets not waste our time on this thread. The whole purpose is to promote homosexuality. The Lesbian curse here is just trying to give a human face to homosexuality. She wants to subtly advance the course of the evil act. If she is truly ready to change nairaland is the last place she will come. She came here to promote her evil lifestyle and she will fail.
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by ranson(m): 9:51pm On Oct 28, 2015
Durentt:
pls lesbianism is not a habit but a sexuality. Please
your opinion.
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by flightz(f): 9:54pm On Oct 28, 2015
MadCow1:



You are a Lesbian.. #PERIOD.


And There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING with that. Atleast not from where I stand.

Its just rather unfortunate for you that you were born on a continent that is very intolerant of everything that does not conform to their ways.

My advise is that you do your thing on the low-low as homosexuality has been criminalised by our overly-righteous and sanctified law makers. What makes it a crime is still a mystery that I will never understand.

Or better yet, work your way out of Nigeria to a more accommodating nation.


You are alright by me.. Simply a young girl living a lie.
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by Nobody: 9:56pm On Oct 28, 2015
dinachi:
Lesbianism in Nigeria is alarming! Almost every young lady in Nigeria has at one time or the other practiced Lesbianism. It is horrible. Lets not waste our time on this thread. The whole purpose is to promote homosexuality. The Lesbian curse here is just trying to give a human face to homosexuality. She wants to subtly advance the course of the evil act. If she is truly ready to change nairaland is the last place she will come. She came here to promote her evil lifestyle and she will fail.

Seriously, you are rite
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by rapmike(m): 10:02pm On Oct 28, 2015
After all this above, you need to meditate on the word of God. As in seriously because this is when the battle becomes serious. Those ladies will try over and over and over to get you by their side, please stand on your ground. If you stumble ( which may happen) pick yourself up and continue on your path from dealing away with lesbianism. Many people who eventually 'became' homosexual give up at this point. This part needs the Word of God and Your Will aligning to it.

The Word of God is for you to set down mental blockades and beliefs which from your story has been inserted very long ago and has became a mighty wall that I know that God can pull down.

Be patient here, because you may have it difficult following it after a while. Moreover, this is where your counselor does a lot of work, encouraging you to quit it, giving you useful advice ( that's why I gave those conditions), and support you in prayer and every other means.

Note this, that it will not disappear overnight. It may take months or years (yes years), but don't be discouraged and give up, carry yourself up and continue. This is where your Will and determination is needed.
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by silversonuc(m): 10:02pm On Oct 28, 2015
esthersolomon00:


Yes I have

But distance separated us

She was all I had thensad

What if I say I was'nt upto 10 when I started struggling with this ish will you believe me?

I've tried to distance myself from most girls that comes my way yet! They won't just let me be

Its more like a hard task accepting guyz into my life
dis gal na born lesbian o, @ 10 u are already aware of ya sexuality, hw?
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by MadCow1: 10:02pm On Oct 28, 2015
flightz:
hypocrites! Lesbian is ok but faggotrrry is bad, huh?

Careful boy.

I have always made my position clear on homosexuality. If you bothered to read that post to understand and not just for the sake of it, you would have picked that up.

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Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by Alfred234(m): 10:02pm On Oct 28, 2015
OP you are Bisexual and there's nothing wrong with that. Don't mind all this religious bigots the last time I checked God will still roast people who are vegetarians. Imagine roasting someone in hell because they don't eat meat grin

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Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by rapmike(m): 10:14pm On Oct 28, 2015
Then destroy all links to those 'friends' that lure you in. The whole process won't be complete without this. Every link to lesbianism, whether porn or social networks, destroy them. If you are friends with them on social media unfriend them ( at least for now). Change phone numbers if possible. Make all the blockades.

Why I said that is because those friends will be the links to you returning to it, that's the plain truth. You might be able to handle them as acquaintances or mere 'friends' but don't bring any of them close, unless they want to change too.

Then finally use the Word Of God on those lesbian thoughts, because they will come! They will want to press you in, but you must resist and even if you fall, pick yourself up and move!

As I said previously, if you sincerely want this 'homosexuality' thing to go and not coming to make Public announcement, then to be frank it will be a long ride. But with all I have managed to advice you on and God showing himself for you, you can make it! He did it for me and he can do it for you. Mind you, all those guys telling you to have sex with a guy knows nothing about it.

Good bye and God bless @ esthersolomon00
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by AdaMeme(f): 10:18pm On Oct 28, 2015
Bae ure OK

Nothing is wrong with u
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by Elymoney(f): 10:19pm On Oct 28, 2015
Wow that's a lot to process.. You should probably see a therapist. .and yes I agree with some of the other members it might be psychological. Also be open about sex with your spouse, direct him. Men claim demigod status when it comes to sex and later end up showing way less than they've mouthed .. Be honest with your partner. . You've been with women beforehand so sex is not new to you. Sex is sex that's what you should have at the back of your head.
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by ALISMILE(m): 10:22pm On Oct 28, 2015
Durentt:
see jamb question nii
jamb question only if d answer is a yes!
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by chinweAlice816: 10:27pm On Oct 28, 2015
Don't ever accept that u are a lesbian, God did not make any body to b a lesbian rather devil did, you are possess by a lesbian spirit. Go to TB Josua church or mountain on fire for derevrance and after dt don't go back to premarital sex with both male or female, if you do that the demon will come back becus sin make way for devil to come in, get married and u will see ur self leving a normal life. Gudluck.
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by samopad(m): 10:36pm On Oct 28, 2015
U need to give your life to Jesus. U really need spiritual help.
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by thamarvelz(m): 10:41pm On Oct 28, 2015
Mznaett:
Your case islipsrsealed


Her's is a case of 'come n see me'.. She should hit the city of Port Harcourt aka Pitakwa n amma treat her addiction or should i say, anomaly?
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by cigwegbe(m): 10:42pm On Oct 28, 2015
esthersolomon00:
Hello Nlders,

I'm an ardent reader and follower of this great forum.
So,I had to create this acct for personal reasons.

To avoid lengthy episodes permit me to keep it simple by going straight to the point. Thanks

As a young lady who's in her early 20s I find it extremely difficult to love a guy not to talk about being in a relationship with one.

There is this guy who can't just help but to love me passionately. We've been together for 9yrs now but who would believe we had sex just once? YES! Just once after enough fighting and struggling.
Sometimes,I had to lock myself inside to weep cuz it's painful and it hurts! Why can't I have normal sex like any other lady out there?

I just detest having sex with a guy and it's as a result of this that I've lost most of my relationships. This stuff is making me sick cuz I want to enjoy sex with a man like any other lady.

THE MAJOR PROBLEM IS THAT AM "BIsexual" but a larger part of me hungers for same sexsad

And the ladies are not even helping matters cuz they also yearn for me every now and then.,
,
I've tried hanging out with some cool guyz even to the extent of doing stuff with them YET! Nothing positive came out.

Presently,am dating a banker and believe me every other thing is perfectly in order EXCEPT the issue of sex.

Am worried cuz I know exactly what it means for someone you love so dearly to deny you of something.

I've prayed
I've also cried my eyes out
I've even gone for counselling @least to ameloriate this kind of lifestyle YET! Things are still the same.
Someone should pls tell me what else to do...

Lalasticlala

You have the grace of God to resist sex until marriage, and you are trying to abuse that grace. Do not force yourself to become what you are not. God is watching over you.
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by yemi4ui(m): 11:26pm On Oct 28, 2015
lesbian alert !!!
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by obiak4(m): 12:02am On Oct 29, 2015
esthersolomon00:


But I wish our society could see things through this same perspective too
no be see na cecilia u better sort out ya self ur mama na les na him she born u abi?
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by nytooo(m): 12:08am On Oct 29, 2015
Well receive some sense dear.
I hv been with a gal DAT has xactlly ur kind of problem...blv me dey is notin wrng with u...all u just need is sum1 DAT undstnd u n will study u n knw wat 2 do n wen to do....
Wen I met her she told me she can't anytin wit me cos she doesn't feel anytin sexual 4 a guy n she has tried lyk u but d pain is more Dan d gain 4 her...we got talking n she became free with me n gradually we started doing it @ 1st it was xactlly as she said painful n she cried but I didn't gv up n she didn't soo we tried different stuffs n I got 2 knw d1s she lykd n so on n so fort.
D truth is DAT she is ok nw n she enjoy sex nw.
So dear find sum1 u can talk 2 n sum1 DAT will listen 2 u.I blv u will b fyn.
All d best.
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by ebosed: 12:09am On Oct 29, 2015
esthersolomon00:
Hello Nlders,

I'm an ardent reader and follower of this great forum.
So,I had to create this acct for personal reasons.

To avoid lengthy episodes permit me to keep it simple by going straight to the point. Thanks

As a young lady who's in her early 20s I find it extremely difficult to love a guy not to talk about being in a relationship with one.

There is this guy who can't just help but to love me passionately. We've been together for 9yrs now but who would believe we had sex just once? YES! Just once after enough fighting and struggling.
Sometimes,I had to lock myself inside to weep cuz it's painful and it hurts! Why can't I have normal sex like any other lady out there?

I just detest having sex with a guy and it's as a result of this that I've lost most of my relationships. This stuff is making me sick cuz I want to enjoy sex with a man like any other lady.

THE MAJOR PROBLEM IS THAT AM "BIsexual" but a larger part of me hungers for same sexsad

And the ladies are not even helping matters cuz they also yearn for me every now and then.,
,
I've tried hanging out with some cool guyz even to the extent of doing stuff with them YET! Nothing positive came out.

Presently,am dating a banker and believe me every other thing is perfectly in order EXCEPT the issue of sex.

Am worried cuz I know exactly what it means for someone you love so dearly to deny you of something.

I've prayed
I've also cried my eyes out
I've even gone for counselling @least to ameloriate this kind of lifestyle YET! Things are still the same.
Someone should pls tell me what else to do...

Lalasticlala

Just try me and you would see what you are missing. The-
Re: Talk Sense Into My Head Plssss... by Nobody: 12:18am On Oct 29, 2015
esthersolomon00:
Hello Nlders,

I'm an ardent reader and follower of this great forum.
So,I had to create this acct for personal reasons.

To avoid lengthy episodes permit me to keep it simple by going straight to the point. Thanks

As a young lady who's in her early 20s I find it extremely difficult to love a guy not to talk about being in a relationship with one.

There is this guy who can't just help but to love me passionately. We've been together for 9yrs now but who would believe we had sex just once? YES! Just once after enough fighting and struggling.
Sometimes,I had to lock myself inside to weep cuz it's painful and it hurts! Why can't I have normal sex like any other lady out there?

I just detest having sex with a guy and it's as a result of this that I've lost most of my relationships. This stuff is making me sick cuz I want to enjoy sex with a man like any other lady.

THE MAJOR PROBLEM IS THAT AM "BIsexual" but a larger part of me hungers for same sexsad

And the ladies are not even helping matters cuz they also yearn for me every now and then.,
,
I've tried hanging out with some cool guyz even to the extent of doing stuff with them YET! Nothing positive came out.

Presently,am dating a banker and believe me every other thing is perfectly in order EXCEPT the issue of sex.

Am worried cuz I know exactly what it means for someone you love so dearly to deny you of something.

I've prayed
I've also cried my eyes out
I've even gone for counselling @least to ameloriate this kind of lifestyle YET! Things are still the same.
Someone should pls tell me what else to do...

Lalasticlala

Check your past darling. For signs, occurrences, traumatic events with the opposite sex, dat may have triggered this. Go way back dear.
That's the first step.

And NO, u are not a Lesbian.
No one is born that way.

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