Chubhie:
I once thought I was immuned until I set off as a youngman to find my place in this world. I floated my first business and within 10months folded up partly due to Nigerian system and some fault on my part as an inexperienced young gun.

My Manhood was questioned, people who on a normal day couldn't look me in the eye found the strength to do so. A babe who used to serve my food kneeling down outta Love and Respect walked.
I saw it first hand!!! I knew it can only take a guy like me few years to get my groove back. I went back to drawing board a designed a better version and reclaimed my Manhood. It thought me a huge lesson about humans.

cococandy:
Well that's part of the problem.
The fact that you felt you needed some people to act like that around you in the first place to affirm your manhood.

cococandy:
Well that's part of the problem.
The fact that you felt you needed some people to act like that around you in the first place to affirm your manhood.

naijaboiy:
Interesting read I must say.

This how you'll know the difference between a woman and a girl. See how the women on this thread have talked about this issue in a way a man won't feel less of himself. Very maturely.

Not like all those small small girls in romance section. The only thing they know is "broke ass guy" "Ready made man". That is the reason why I keep taunting them.

Yeye girls

MizMyColi:

https://wordsmithf./2015/11/10/you-sir-have-nothing-to-prove/

Stillfire:


So where are you feeling pressured? Let us help you overcome it. I hope it's not a matter of having 7 inches worth of penile meat, because no help for you there o. Hehehehe

cococandy:
Well that's part of the problem.
The fact that you felt you needed some people to act like that around you in the first place to affirm your manhood.

armyofone:
Reclaimed manhood, which one is that again eh. So manhood could be declaimed?

cococandy:

Griffon:


This is a healthy perspective, but then, don't you think you'll be discouraging some slothful men from striving for greatness on the ground that they've got nothing to prove to anyone?

The way I see it, a real man is one who's doing something right. That includes, having a clear definition of his life, working towards a predetermined goal and reaching out to the people around him.

Most men who had ignorantly subscribed the 'I no send them' idea, are found sitting idly in front of their homes everyday collecting free greetings from passersby. The 'I no send them' thinking has been enshrined in most men's modus operandi and has turned out to be the bane of their existence.

In a nutshell, men should start 'sending wetin people go talk and then allow the criticisms to kick them to life.

Every real man should understand that criticisms are only there to serve as a springboard that'll help lift him and that by working hard enough, he isn't angling to earn a petty validation but he's working towards greatness.

armyofone:
It was for the one who reclaimed his manhood from the lady who stopped kneeling down to serve him food. The whole thing confused me.

How are you, hope doing good and not craving like me

ronald4lif:


LMAO @ embolded. I don laugh die.

I agree with you here. Human's need a spur to motivate them into becoming resourceful and hardworking. Something that would make us sit up and embrace the fact that life waits for no one and everyday counts.

While growing up my father would always remind us that life is a battle field and we should assume that everyday it's a new challenge requiring a different method of approach as no two days are thesame. And if we must scale through and succeed we should always harbour this in mind.

He'd remind me in particular that I should never depend on anyone for livelihood not even my elder brothers who were providing me with everything I needed at that time as they might disappoint me in the future, when he might have gone and by which time it might be too late to make amends. Those words are like an afflatus, muse and influential in shaping my life and approach towards life.

It takes more than just breathing, eating and sleeping to live life. One has to develop themselves everyday in whatever they do. Be it studying, working or whatever they specialise on. Be at the top of it.

Lastly, I'm very comfortable when a fellow guy employs any of those cliche lines on me about being a real man than when a lady does. Reason being that she might be falsely assuming or think that it's only men who should work hard and be successful. The conception that men are to strive harder in life more than females is baseless and Victorian. If a man should be 'real' a woman too should.

cococandy:

Yea I understood you initially.

I'm doing awesome.
Thanks
Happy veteran's day

armyofone:
Happy Veterans day. The off day too short and the darkness @ early hours not fun.

Glad to hear that

cococandy:
It seems like some folks are misunderstanding the OP. I don't see how that post says a man should be lazy or whatever inference y'all are drawing from it.

It is well.

cococandy:
It seems like some folks are misunderstanding the OP. I don't see how that post says a man should be lazy or whatever inference y'all are drawing from it.

It is well.

Kachisbarbie:


Understanding is deep nne.
The thread is not in anyway encouraging laziness, no sane woman would validate a lazy man. The thread is directed at real men who are trying their best, but somehow the society and ladies around them think otherwise.

They say they don't validation, try saying the men in your lives are the only reasonable men on earth and watch some of them come for you like an anticipated prey.

If humans don't need validation, why do we have/need promotion at work. Why not sit on your desk, do your work, don't get promoted and convince yourself you're the fhucking best.

Kachisbarbie:


Understanding is deep nne.
The thread is not in anyway encouraging laziness, no sane woman would validate a lazy man. The thread is directed at real men who are trying their best, but somehow the society and ladies around them think otherwise.

They say they don't validation, try saying the men in your lives are the only reasonable men on earth and watch some of them come for you like an anticipated prey.

If humans don't need validation, why do we have/need promotion at work. Why not sit on your desk, do your work, don't get promoted and convince yourself you're the fhucking best.

joseph1832:
The difference is at work we get validated so we can get paid. Promotion means increase in salary, its that simple, but when you get validated by people does it add a single kobo to your account?

MizMyColi:
Griffon

As you can see, Cococandy and Kachisbarbie are doing justice to the topic at hand.

Truth is, I have deliberately avoided commenting on the topic....talk of being lazy.
You know it requires intellectual effort to engage your ilk....
I no ready to board that bus now...

Except you coerce me

Griffon:


Validations are like incentives, they give you reasons to work better, smarter and harder.

We must welcome them, just as we must welcome criticisms, they are there to spur us up.

It must not necessarily add a penny to your account.

Kachisbarbie:


Understanding is deep nne.
The thread is not in anyway encouraging laziness, no sane woman would validate a lazy man. The thread is directed at real men who are trying their best, but somehow the society and ladies around them think otherwise.

They say they don't validation, try saying the men in your lives are the only reasonable men on earth and watch some of them come for you like an anticipated prey.

If humans don't need validation, why do we have/need promotion at work. Why not sit on your desk, do your work, don't get promoted and convince yourself you're the fhucking best.

ronald4lif:


LMAO @ embolded. I don laugh die.

I agree with you here. Human's need a spur to motivate them into becoming resourceful and hardworking. Something that would make us sit up and embrace the fact that life waits for no one and everyday counts.

While growing up my father would always remind us that life is a battle field and we should assume that everyday it's a new challenge requiring a different method of approach as no two days are thesame. And if we must scale through and succeed we should always harbour this in mind.

He'd remind me in particular that I should never depend on anyone for livelihood not even my elder brothers who were providing me with everything I needed at that time as they might disappoint me in the future, when he might have gone and by which time it might be too late to make amends. Those words are like an afflatus, muse and influential in shaping my life and approach towards life.

It takes more than just breathing, eating and sleeping to live life. One has to develop themselves everyday in whatever they do. Be it studying, working or whatever they specialise on. Be at the top of it.

Lastly, I'm very comfortable when a fellow guy employs any of those cliche lines on me about being a real man than when a lady does. Reason being that she might be falsely assuming or think that it's only men who should work hard and be successful. The conception that men are to strive harder in life more than females is baseless and Victorian. If a man should be 'real' a woman too should.

Griffon:


Let's for once place aside this love we have for eachother and war intellectually.

You've been avoiding that for aeons, shey you think I don't know?

joseph1832:
To you validation are like incentives. To me, its not!. Never forget, in Nigeria today, money is the highest motivating factor, not kind words. Any incentives that doesn't add a penny to my pocket goes through my right ear, and comes out via the left.

Dude, amidst all what you said you must learn to be very practical in your analysis, THIS IS NIGERIA People tend to work harder when the pay is better than work harder when they're given just kind words of encouragement.

MizMyColi:


When it comes to people I hold dear

The principle of live and let live holds sway.