joseph1832:
To you validation are like incentives. To me, its not!. Never forget, in Nigeria today, money is the highest motivating factor, not kind words. Any incentives that doesn't add a penny to my pocket goes through my right ear, and comes out via the left.

Dude, amidst all what you said you must learn to be very practical in your analysis, THIS IS NIGERIA People tend to work harder when the pay is better than work harder when they're given just kind words of encouragement.

Griffon:


An Incentive is a thing that motivates or encourages one to do something. Validation on the other hand is getting feedback from others that “what I do and what I say matters to you. You hear me. You see me. You think of me. You thank me. You acknowledge my accomplishments. You appreciate my efforts.”

If you cant spot the correlation in the two then I'm sorry I can't help you. Incentives must not always come in money form, get your dictionary and come good on this debate.

Kachisbarbie:

If humans don't need validation, why do we have/need promotion at work. Why not sit on your desk, do your work, don't get promoted and convince yourself you're the fhucking best.

joseph1832:
The difference is at work we get validated so we can get paid. Promotion means increase in salary, its that simple, but when you get validated by people does it add a single kobo to your account?

I am so not in the mood to do cyberspace argument today. I need energy to validate my man

If everything were about "cash"_ we won't have TANGIBLE and INTAGIBLE ASSETS.

Kachisbarbie:


I am so not in the mood to do cyberspace argument today. I need energy to validate my man

If everything were about "cash"_ we won't have TANGIBLE and INTAGIBLE ASSETS.

joseph1832:
Yes! Typical you. I suppose your tangible and intangible assets can not be converted to cash right

Kachisbarbie:


it really pisses me off to the marrow when you come up with that typical whatever. You don't know me up to cm dear, so drop that shiit.

joseph1832:
Abeg make we hear word joor! The words you spew here, or, the words you've been spewing since we started chatting here is enough for me to have an inkling as to the kind of person you are. You love to dilly dally, give people abstracts and try to play 'the smart girl' but when someone redirect all what you direct at them back to you, you always never seem to like it. This you've shown me countless of times.

So please don't come with at me with that teen drama attitude.

joseph1832:
To you validation are like incentives. To me, its not!. Never forget, in Nigeria today, money is the highest motivating factor, not kind words. Any incentives that doesn't add a penny to my pocket goes through my right ear, and comes out via the left.

Dude, amidst all what you said you must learn to be very practical in your analysis, THIS IS NIGERIA People tend to work harder when the pay is better than work harder when they're given just kind words of encouragement.

iAmCharis:

The bolded got me rolling on the floor

If money was the only thing everyone considers an incentive, the world would be worst than it is now and definitely boring. Like very boring!

You mean some words from your parents or from elderly people or from some family members/friends can't and won't move you?

Kachisbarbie:


Yea. You're definitely the first person I have chatted with in this life or on this forum _ that's why I won't hear word again on this forum?
You talk to someone OFF-LINE, then your brain feeds you to always refer to it ONLINE? I've told you what I wanna tell you, ain't gat much time to dilly dally today.

joseph1832:
Dude, I hope you saw in the post you quoted where I bolded "THIS IS NIGERIA" right?

And to answer your questions, words are just words. Be it negative or positive. I hope you get what I'm saying.

iAmCharis:
I live in the same Nigeria too.
Well, I get you.

joseph1832:
Good.

iAmCharis:
Though your stance is 'somehow', let's leave it there.

Ronald4lif Paulina don finally give you leave abi?

Griffon:


I understand where you're coming from with regards to the write-up. We must not wait for validation from people but to try and give it to ourselves.

But then, I only had to pick on you 'cos you missed a line like this ''When you recognize your good traits, you are not being narcissistic. When you praise yourself for your accomplishments, you are not being self-centered. Praising yourself and let the praise you receive from others be the icing on the cake.''

See, the emboldened in same breath is encouraging you to work hard and praise yourself. It isn't informing the public that you're a real man just because you exist instead it's saying a real man is one who has recognized his good traits and is praising himself for his accomplishments.

We would war some day honey, in the meantime, how is your day moving?

joseph1832:
Since you mentioned it we might as well sought it out. After all, we learn everyday. Please, Lemme hear your thoughts about why you think or believe 'my stance' is somehow.

gsalvatore:
Thread for WUSSIES...

As a man you are not suppose to show any sign of weakness. Nobody said it was easy....digesting the content of this thread is as good as messing up your psyche.


its simple...

'' STANDING ON YOUR OWN TWO FEET, LIVING BY YOU CODE OF HONOR AND DUTY, AN BEING A ROCK FOR THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU.''

gsalvatore:
Thread for WUSSIES...

As a man you are not suppose to show any sign of weakness. Nobody said it was easy....digesting the content of this thread is as good as messing up your psyche.


its simple...

'' STANDING ON YOUR OWN TWO FEET, LIVING BY YOU CODE OF HONOR AND DUTY, AN BEING A ROCK FOR THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU.''

bukatyne:


Isn't strange that it was during a woman's rule that things went topsy turvy for females?

If she believed in those nonsense she propagated, why did she not relinquish the throne for her husband or male relative with a claim to the throne?

Griffon:


There you are, doing what you know best, making sense.

Aristotle would say, ''to avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.

That subtly summarises what happens to a man who have decided to avoid people's views.

iAmCharis:
Though your stance is 'somehow', let's leave it there.

Ronald4lif Paulina don finally give you leave abi?

MizMyColi:


My dear you get to a point in life where arguments don't matter to you as much.

Especially around those you love....as long as they're not saying or doing anything stupid.

I understand your angle and while it true that I think I have a superior argument, I rather rest it.

When you're ready to be exposed to the realms I've seen...you'd understand.

You'd understand that all that really matters is being.
That's the mark of our higher calling.

FrancisTony:
I think this thread is for those that come online forming Alpha-male and seeking self validation from threads to threads reminding everyone they are MEN!
See them perambulating around this thread deceiving themselves in what they are 100% guilty of.
Bunch of internet trolls that shouldn't be taken serious.
A tiger doesn't proclaim his tigritude, it pounces.
Your actions speak for you...

Nice thread, Mizmycoli!

Even though I know you are deliberately looking for turobu, bar that, I gotta admit you made sense.

Ever wondered about the calm and serene nature of this thread?

Now juxtapose the scenario supposing it were titled something in the lines of "Dear Ladies; You have nothing to prove."


Hypocrisy Stanked

Griffon:


Honey to stop arguing and presenting facts, is to defeat the purpose of being in a forum.

I don tell you, make we comot our wedding ring, and grab AK-47s and RPGs.

I believe you've seen the movie, Mr and Mrs Smith, if you think you have a superior argument, shoot me already

Ah nuh do
Nah by forsche?

joseph1832:
Dude don't twist words with me. Kindly re-read what kachisbarbie said because that was the cause of this debate.

This was what she said. Now based on the embolden, I ask you what the end result is in correlation to what kachis.barbie said?

MizMyColi:





Ah nuh do
Nah by forsche?