Zeedarh:
It doesnt always work that way, sis. Marry who you love and love who you marry

Eddygourdo:
ha. And if you realise he is cheating pig and couldn't love him back?

Eddygourdo:
it does makes sense to you cos that's the safest option for your tender heart. Though it's a bit selfish but hey everyone is responsible for his or her emotional health and happiness, so spot on

Well, true...it's A bit selfish....actually it's really Selfish...

Buh Looking at things on another perspective...there's no way you'd stay with someone all your life without truly having some sortah feelings for that person...Hence my theory "Love grows with time"...

Shegzkenneth:
It is better to mary whom u love provided d person loves u in return....love whom u marry is only applicable in a situation whereby one of d parties(especially ladies) or both of d parties is older than d marriageable age or u are pressurize to marry a particular fellow....

MrsPhyno:

Mmhhm. Altho I always thought I could do an arranged marriage well. Not that it's ideal lol. Please translate @bolded

I read very quickly so I skip parts and then my brain fills in the rest lol and ur monicker resembled someone's at first glance or maybe I'm becoming OCD lol who knows.

Eddygourdo:
though you strayed from the topic. You gat an intelligent head up there, we will all marry jesus if we could, till we se him we gat ourselves bro. Thus Wat u said earlier makes sense, though u left out marrying someone whom you might have an attraction towards

Estharfabian:
Well, true...it's A bit selfish....actually it's really Selfish...

Buh Looking at things on another perspective...there's no way you'd stay with someone all your life without truly having some sortah feelings for that person...Hence my theory "Love grows with time"...

obiorathesubtle:
marry someone you might have an attraction?


See how the world works for men bro
You meet a girl, she's terrific, out of the ordinary, the best! Everything! you want to marry her, but you remember the feet you have on the ground are shaky(innuendo) she could be the same age as you, so you can't marry her because of your feet, she goes off and gets married to someone else whose legs are a lot firm on the ground, you feel betrayal. Yes! But that's the order of things.

When your legs are finally firm, you look around, there's no more time, you need to have a family, you go for a younger girl because your mates are less attractive now, you don't feel the love, you just want to get married and complete the natural 'to-do list' of life

Then you end up like me, the guy in the sequel comment, life goes on, you die, do it all over again in the next life.

So, you see? Marry a woman, try to Love her. Not that you shouldn't marry the woman you love, but will fate allow it?

Eddygourdo:
exactly now dear if that preposition is true, why exactly did we start frowning at arranged marriages and calling our parents archaic, I believe whether arranged marriage or one based on love both will work with application of learning to love the person,

Arranged Marriage?? Now, that's another thing entirely.... The thought of it churns my stomach!!

It's way different Eddy...It's new territory...getting married to A complete stranger? someone You know absolutely nothing about? Hell NO!!! call me naive...Buh the thought of it sucks..

Decker:

But guy, I have to admit, you are really good with memes. I always find myself laughing at your memes whenever you post them.

True talk; yesterday, I almost went through all your posts just so I could have a good laugh. You got real talent bro.

MsBliss:

Nah there problem go start. but I will be very sure he loves me before being involved with him in the first place.

Eddygourdo:
not to jump into your discussion but if you ever thought an arranged marriage could work for you. That should tell you alot about ur personality, your strong, brave and love challenges plus you could love someone truthfully and dearly if you put ur mind to it. Cheers

Eddygourdo:
this is a sequel to my next thread, all these you pointed out. The economy and other issues really scuttle things and pushes us to a stereotyped life we never hoped for. Well will think about this and hopefully say something about it in my next thread

Estharfabian:
Arranged Marriage?? Now, that's another thing entirely.... The thought of it churns my stomach!!

It's way different Eddy...It's new territory...getting married to A complete stranger? someone You know absolutely nothing about? Hell NO!!! call me naive...Buh the thought of it sucks..

obiorathesubtle:
I'm glad you see my point. Please do mention me on your next thread so I don't miss it. Thanks.


#anticipating

Eddygourdo:
your not naive dear, it's a reasonable opinion which am sure many others share, let me put it this way, am sure you crush on someone like Ben affleck or tekno, let's assume that am not very bright in entertainment, now these are handsome rich dudes whom you don't know, by your own analysis if u were arrange with them, what would be the pros and cons you could think of.

Uh...I don't crush on people based on Looks... tekno isn't Attractive....

Uh...There has to be A connection...everything doesn't havetah revolve around "handsomeness" and "wealth"..

I have to marry someone I have a chemistry with...Not some total stranger..for all things worth, I might not like the way he talks, eats, sleep, Or acts..then, I'd have to cope with that all my life?? mbanu!!!!

Estharfabian:
Uh...I don't crush on people based on Looks... tekno isn't Attractive....

Uh...There has to be A connection...everything doesn't havetah revolve around "handsomeness" and "wealth"..

I have to marry someone I have a chemistry with...Not some total stranger..for all things worth, I might not like the way he talks, eats, sleep, Or acts..then, I'd have to cope with that all my life?? mbanu!!!!

Estharfabian:
Uh...I don't crush on people based on Looks... tekno isn't Attractive....

Uh...There has to be A connection...everything doesn't havetah revolve around "handsomeness" and "wealth"..I have t marry someone I have a chemistry with...Not a total stranger..I might not like the way he talks, eats, sleep, Or acts..then, I'd have to cope with that all my life?? mbanu!!!!

Cutehector:
nw u talking like a lady. My respect for u has gone high

Hector and whinning...

Still at the Cafe??

Eddygourdo:
really he is not handsome? Well am a man so what do I know about such issues, back to topic, well your right though, guess there could be chemistry for you but not love, hopefully with time your love will grow for your man. But he must love you unconditionally at first and meanwhile, well OK dats is comfortable. But what if the love never came after marriage plus thanks to another yeye handsome bloke who keeps chasing you around pretending he never saw your wedding ring, don't you think k because there was no initial love, your most likely to stray?

When I'm married...I'm married...my duties would be to my supposed "Husby'' And "kids"...I'm a big fan of fidelity...

LoL...Besides, I don't find handsome guys attractive...

Estharfabian:
Hector and whinning...

Still at the Cafe??

Estharfabian:
When I'm married...I'm married...my duties would be to my supposed "Husby'' And "kids"...I'm a big fan of fidelity...

LoL...Besides, I don't find handsome guys attractive...

Estharfabian:
When I'm married...I'm married...my duties would be to my supposed "Husby'' And "kids"...I'm a big fan of fidelity...

LoL...Besides, I don't find handsome guys attractive...

Cutehector:
yh yh. Lol if u surprised at the time, dnt worry, d admin dude gave me free browsing. He z ma guy, besides its sunday. No one is there except us and one oda lady .

Oh! Lucky you...;

Estharfabian:
Oh! Lucky you...;

Eddygourdo:
really? sweetheart did your house maid throw you down as a child? the things your saying are kinda weird. I thought every lady loves a handsome man, guess I am naive to think I have met all female stereotypes, well if true and you can say it out loud, your personality is strong and I have no doubt on your earlier submission on your love for fidelity in marriage. learnt something else today though still sounds weird

LoL! I'm weird?? well, you're definitely not the first to tell me that...

Uhm...Every girl's dream is to find that Handsome guy to sweep her off her feet...Blah!!.Well, mine is to find that Intelligent guy that could add numbers faster than me... I Love Smart people! I fall in love with personality....not Looks!


I'm glad u learnt something today tho... Nairaland isn't that bad after all...

Cutehector:
yeah lucky me. Ur gona call tonyt rhai?

Yas!!

I still Owe You...

Estharfabian:
Yas!!

I still Owe You...

Estharfabian:
LoL! I'm weird?? well, you're definitely not the first to tell me that...

Uhm...Every girl's dream is to find that Handsome guy to sweep her off her feet...Blah!!.Well, mine is to find that Intelligent guy that could add numbers faster than me... I Love Smart people! I fall in love with personality....not Looks!


I'm glad u learnt something today tho... Nairaland isn't that bad after all...

Eddygourdo:
do you presume that because a lady or man is above marriageable age, then they must settle? the only option for them is to love whom they marry cos they lucky to even find someone? That's a bit harsh Being that many are single through no fault of theirs. None at all

Shegzkenneth:
i accept the fact that many that are above marriageable age are still single neither through their fault nor even through their parents, but the mere fact that it is none of their fault doesn't mean they will remain single for life, buh what u actually mean is that a lady that is 45+ for instance will refuse advances from a man that truely loves her even though she might not yet develop any feelings for him.........you mean she will prefer to be single for life

Decker:


Obu ndi Igbo kacha eme ya - It's Igbos that are mostly fond of doing it. I thought you understood Igbo well? Or maybe I wrote it wrongly. My Igbo isn't top notch though.

Hmmm....that someone must be weirdly unsettling, for you to have panicked when you saw my moniker.