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Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Eddygourdo(m): 5:25pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Zeedarh:thank you |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by MsBliss(f): 5:25pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Eddygourdo:Nah there problem go start. but I will be very sure he loves me before being involved with him in the first place. 1 Like |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Nobody: 5:28pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Eddygourdo:Well, true...it's A bit selfish....actually it's really Selfish... Buh Looking at things on another perspective...there's no way you'd stay with someone all your life without truly having some sortah feelings for that person...Hence my theory "Love grows with time"... |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Eddygourdo(m): 5:28pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Shegzkenneth:do you presume that because a lady or man is above marriageable age, then they must settle? the only option for them is to love whom they marry cos they lucky to even find someone? That's a bit harsh Being that many are single through no fault of theirs. None at all |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Nobody: 5:29pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
MrsPhyno: Obu ndi Igbo kacha eme ya - It's Igbos that are mostly fond of doing it. I thought you understood Igbo well? Or maybe I wrote it wrongly. My Igbo isn't top notch though. Hmmm....that someone must be weirdly unsettling, for you to have panicked when you saw my moniker. |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by obiorathesubtle: 5:29pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Eddygourdo:marry someone you might have an attraction? See how the world works for men bro You meet a girl, she's terrific, out of the ordinary, the best! Everything! you want to marry her, but you remember the feet you have on the ground are shaky(innuendo) she could be the same age as you, so you can't marry her because of your feet, she goes off and gets married to someone else whose legs are a lot firm on the ground, you feel betrayal. Yes! But that's the order of things. When your legs are finally firm, you look around, there's no more time, you need to have a family, you go for a younger girl because your mates are less attractive now, you don't feel the love, you just want to get married and complete the natural 'to-do list' of life Then you end up like me, the guy in the sequel comment, life goes on, you die, do it all over again in the next life. So, you see? Marry a woman, try to Love her. Not that you shouldn't marry the woman you love, but will fate allow it? |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Eddygourdo(m): 5:31pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Estharfabian:exactly now dear if that preposition is true, why exactly did we start frowning at arranged marriages and calling our parents archaic, I believe whether arranged marriage or one based on love both will work with application of learning to love the person, |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Eddygourdo(m): 5:34pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
obiorathesubtle:this is a sequel to my next thread, all these you pointed out. The economy and other issues really scuttle things and pushes us to a stereotyped life we never hoped for. Well will think about this and hopefully say something about it in my next thread |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Nobody: 5:35pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Eddygourdo:Arranged Marriage?? Now, that's another thing entirely.... The thought of it churns my stomach!! It's way different Eddy...It's new territory...getting married to A complete stranger? someone You know absolutely nothing about? Hell NO!!! call me naive...Buh the thought of it sucks.. |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by IamLEGEND1: 5:36pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Decker:I'm humbled, good sir. very much so! 1 Like
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Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Eddygourdo(m): 5:37pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
MsBliss:you see that it defeats the idea of avoiding problems in the first place. I understand you desire to rather be with a man who loves you than you love him, because in truth it's the safest option. Maybe you forgot to add that you will like him at least or find him attractive in order to make the possibility of future falling in love easier |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Nobody: 5:37pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Eddygourdo:This is even ur thread self, don't be apologetic and thank you. That's too kind of you Cheers to u too, be good and have a nice Sunday. |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by obiorathesubtle: 5:40pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Eddygourdo:I'm glad you see my point. Please do mention me on your next thread so I don't miss it. Thanks. #anticipating |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Eddygourdo(m): 5:40pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Estharfabian:your not naive dear, it's a reasonable opinion which am sure many others share, let me put it this way, am sure you crush on someone like Ben affleck or tekno, let's assume that am not very bright in entertainment, now these are handsome rich dudes whom you don't know, by your own analysis if u were arrange with them, what would be the pros and cons you could think of. |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Eddygourdo(m): 5:41pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
obiorathesubtle:sure bro. Cheers 1 Like |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Nobody: 5:49pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Eddygourdo:Uh...I don't crush on people based on Looks... tekno isn't Attractive.... Uh...There has to be A connection...everything doesn't havetah revolve around "handsomeness" and "wealth".. I have to marry someone I have a chemistry with...Not some total stranger..for all things worth, I might not like the way he talks, eats, sleep, Or acts..then, I'd have to cope with that all my life?? mbanu!!!! |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Cutehector(m): 5:52pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Estharfabian:nw u talking like a lady. My respect for u has gone high |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Eddygourdo(m): 5:54pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Estharfabian:really he is not handsome? Well am a man so what do I know about such issues, back to topic, well your right though, guess there could be chemistry for you but not love, hopefully with time your love will grow for your man. But he must love you unconditionally at first and meanwhile, well OK dats is comfortable. But what if the love never came after marriage plus thanks to another yeye handsome bloke who keeps chasing you around pretending he never saw your wedding ring, don't you think k because there was no initial love, your most likely to stray? |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Nobody: 5:57pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Cutehector:Hector and whinning... Still at the Cafe?? |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Nobody: 5:59pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Eddygourdo:When I'm married...I'm married...my duties would be to my supposed "Husby'' And "kids"...I'm a big fan of fidelity... LoL...Besides, I don't find handsome guys attractive... |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Cutehector(m): 6:00pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Estharfabian:yh yh. Lol if u surprised at the time, dnt worry, d admin dude gave me free browsing. He z ma guy, besides its sunday. No one is there except us and one oda lady . |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Cutehector(m): 6:00pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Estharfabian:totally going to pour acid on my face right now |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Eddygourdo(m): 6:03pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Estharfabian:really? sweetheart did your house maid throw you down as a child? the things your saying are kinda weird. I thought every lady loves a handsome man, guess I am naive to think I have met all female stereotypes, well if true and you can say it out loud, your personality is strong and I have no doubt on your earlier submission on your love for fidelity in marriage. learnt something else today though still sounds weird |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Nobody: 6:03pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Cutehector:Oh! Lucky you...; |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Cutehector(m): 6:05pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Estharfabian:yeah lucky me. Ur gona call tonyt rhai? |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Nobody: 6:07pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Eddygourdo:LoL! I'm weird?? well, you're definitely not the first to tell me that... Uhm...Every girl's dream is to find that Handsome guy to sweep her off her feet...Blah!!.Well, mine is to find that Intelligent guy that could add numbers faster than me... I Love Smart people! I fall in love with personality....not Looks! I'm glad u learnt something today tho... Nairaland isn't that bad after all... |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Nobody: 6:08pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Cutehector:Yas!! I still Owe You... |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Cutehector(m): 6:10pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Estharfabian:bueno |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Eddygourdo(m): 6:18pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Estharfabian:hmmmmm m. Am really really impressed. Let me go and change all posts in the past where I bragged I had met them all, this is evidence that's a farce |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Nobody: 6:20pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Eddygourdo:i accept the fact that many that are above marriageable age are still single neither through their fault nor even through their parents, but the mere fact that it is none of their fault doesn't mean they will remain single for life, buh what u actually mean is that a lady that is 45+ for instance will refuse advances from a man that truely loves her even though she might not yet develop any feelings for him.........you mean she will prefer to be single for life |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Eddygourdo(m): 6:21pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Shegzkenneth:ok now I get you. With age comes the greater understanding that you must wait for love, you can always learn to love. I grab now. Kudos |
Re: Should You Marry Whom You Love Or Love Whom You Marry by Nobody: 6:26pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Decker:Ah no lol. The phrases I understand, I overuse; so it seems like I have a clue, when really...... I'm looking for a teacher? yessir very much so, although I think the worst is over. |
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