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cutechi:
U nailed it.

Thank you. Just thought I should share. Thank you.

Eastlink:
Nice article bros Preye. You're a true big brother.

My able comrade, God bless you. You're a big brother too.

@Dearpreye, you complicated your emotional issues by listening to Enya. Avoid such soulful music when you are down.

When you need musical upliftment, please find fast-paced Gospel music like songs by MaryMary, Kirk Franklin, etc

I also listen to Eminem (tracks like Phenomenal, Kings Never Die, Not Afraid).

That's from the music point of view o. As for what you leaked over the radio, your narration skipped the details so I wouldn't know what you divulged. Just close your eyes, smile it over and trudge on.
It'll pass.

Thelmerh:
am going through something similar. am so confused. am heartbroken.

Hmmmm....God will see you through. You could send me PM IF you don't mind.

Tinyemeka:
@Dearpreye, you complicated your emotional issues by listening to Enya. Avoid such soulful music when you are down.

When you need musical upliftment, please find fast-paced Gospel music like songs by MaryMary, Kirk Franklin, etc

I also listen to Eminem (tracks like Phenomenal, Kings Never Die, Not Afraid).

That's from the music point of view o. As for what you leaked over the radio, your narration skipped the details so I wouldn't know what you divulged. Just close your eyes, smile it over and trudge on.
It'll pass.

Thank you. I also listened to Toy soldiers, Rat Race by Bob Marley, and other great songs at the time.

Its past now. ...but I divulged some financial mistakes I made years back......nothing more......

While your situation sounds embarrassingly hilarious, it is no way compared to depression.

Good enough you did not talk about any consequences you suffered on the job because of the blip. You couldn't have thought of suicide just because the whole world listened in on your little secrets.

Depression and thoughts of suicide would have creeped in, if as a result of that incidence, you were terminated on the job with no benefit, and with no prospect of getting a complementary offer, while you are neck deep in car loan, mortgage loan, and all kinds of debts.

Confessng:
Well said !
It is unfortunate that we live in a society with more religion less spirituality more churches less live ,more mosques less love
Yv

That's the sad tale, dear.

cecegorz:
While your situation sounds embarrassingly hilarious, it is no way compared to depression.

Good enough you did not talk about any consequences you suffered on the job because of the blip. You couldn't have thought of suicide just because the whole world listened in on your little secrets.

Depression and thoughts of suicide would have creeped in, if as a result of that incidence, you were terminated on the job with no benefit, and with no prospect of getting a complementary offer, while you are neck deep in car loan, mortgage loan, and all kinds of debts.

Apart from my friends laughing me turn by turn, nothing more.

MathsChic:
You guys didn't even read before typing "ehhm", ok, kk, j, p and all other weird entries just to book space.
Well done, op.

No mind them jare. Many thanks.

kk. everyone has their shit history. just move on with life.

emmanuel596:
*modified*. As long as am concerned and have read ur story u didn't make any sense to me. U only came here to spew ur. Personal problems and nnot to advocate for the nigga that killed himself.....sometimes I wonder if it is award winning to create threads online....may GOD grant u ur hearts desires. and grant enternal life to the dead....#advice...you are ur real self when no one is watching don't say things u can't say in people's front behind their backs....ur running mouths gave u wat u deserved tank GOD they didn't kill or jail u

What are you talking about?

Suicide is a way of telling God, you can't fire me. I quit.
But people pass through a lot.
I'm sure if people know what I've passed through, they would have committed suicide. I am living by the grace of God. If not for him, I don't know where I would have been.

:I have never read a piece as encouraging as this on this forum prior to this; op welldone.

QTEST007:
Emotional strenght is a gift. Not all have it.

I've been thru some sh1t myself,but am one of the most positive motherfvckers around.

I love your choice of words. No homo. Just like yourself I have been to hell and back through a shithole and it doesn't seem to be ending soon but guess what, I remain one the the most positive MotherFvcker around.

vislabraye:
Suicide is a way of telling God, you can't fire me. I quit.
But people pass through a lot.
I'm sure if people know what I've passed through, they would have committed suicide. I am living by the grace of God. If not for him, I don't know where I would have been.

Yes my bro....but it's really not easy on some people. I knew the pressure I felt the very moment I was told what happened.

Clonus:
:I have never read a piece as encouraging as this on this forum prior to this; op welldone.

Hmmmmm......good to know you found it worth the while. Thank you.

Nice one OP

It's not everybody dat knows how to handle dere emotions , including me

I have been down dat road b4 where nothing matters anymore, i was just a living corpse, if not for the love of my family nd friends dat knew my problems nd stood by me, am not sure i would have pulled through

I later realize that no matter what we are going through in life, letting ourselves go is not the option but staying strong nd face our problems head on will only make us stronger, wiser,life is beautiful, and it offers us more than one chance to make things right nd start all over again

stonecoldcafe:
You guys are not getting it. Op does NOT support suicide but he is stating where one does, we can show empathy instead of raining abuses on the victim. He is saying a suicidal person is mentally disturbed. If you ever met someone like that, don't dismiss them or curse them out. They are frail in that state, so show them love.

Op is not saying the student did the right thing or that suicide is good. Please go back and read his post again.

Some folks must have struggled with their English comprehension.

And if the subject z gat no encouragement anywhere he/she can decide to kill him/her self..... Pele o the one that could comprehend english.... Ain't nothing, I repeat ain't nothing can justify a man taking his life, even when the whole world doesn't encourage him.

Greekgoddess:
Nice one OP

It's not everybody dat knows how to handle dere emotions , including me

I have been down dat road b4 where nothing matters anymore, i was just a living corpse, if not for the love of my family nd friends dat knew my problems nd stood by me, am not sure i would have pulled through

I later realize that no matter what we are going through in life, letting ourselves go is not the option but staying strong nd face our problems head on will only make us stronger, wiser,life is beautiful, and it offers us more than one chance to make things right nd start all over again

What a short story. Thank God for having a lovely and sensitive family. At any moment, never fail to share your story with someone experiencing a similar situation.

Many thanks.

muh4eva:
And if the subject z gat no encouragement anywhere he/she can decide to kill him/her self..... Pele o the one that could comprehend english.... Ain't nothing, I repeat ain't nothing can justify a man taking his life, even when the whole world doesn't encourage him.

I quite agree with you but when one is suicidal, most times they are not thinking straight.

@op wia u sacked? If no hw did u overcome?

dearpreye:
I'm sharing this message due to a thread I read last night where it was reported a Nigerian higher Institution student committed suicide after being allegedly told to repeat a year by the school authorities. As the manner is with most Nigerians, the victim was lampooned and mocked by most commenters on the thread, even when they didn't travel in the victim's shoes. Only a few could even type the now-redundant RIP. I pray his soul rest in peace.

I've got a somewhat similar experience though I didn't go the extra mile the Nigerian student went. I was withdrawn from my normal shift duty to cover a new project that will require my being on permanent duty for over 3 weeks. I was mandated to draw the HSE plan for the project, conduct safety talks at appropriate intervals and give situation report to my department on a daily basis. On this terrible day, I had gone to the job site even before the contractors had shown up. It was a Tuesday- a black one for that matter.

When I arrived the site and saw no workers around, I elected to seat with some other workers in a stormshleter- a little building operators seek little comfort whenever there are running the plant. While waiting for my colleagues to show up at the job site, some talks started. It was around money, the Rat Race, Women, etc.....but financial management or the lack of it, was the MAIN ISSUE. After listening for some time my consent was sought on the matter. Believe me, I spoke passionately. An I spoke for over 10 minutes, narrating my financial struggle from the day I was employed to the present day, and my beliefs about financial discipline, the role of women in our lives, etc.

I had this Motorola radio in my hand. It's a means of communication within the department. A lot of top guys are also linked to it. Some managers, senior colleagues, junior ones, even casual workers by proxy are tuned into this departmental channel. Now the radio on me was kinda a little defective and I've improvised on it by tapering it with a tiny binding wire. Somehow the wired rested on the SPEAK knob, and all along, while I thought I was having a discreet convo with some persons, ALL my communications were heard by EVERYONE who was on the HSE channel. Some of the details I had revealed were regrettable mistakes I wouldnt want anyone beyond that group to hear. So far as the binding wire depressed the speak knob, and I didn't know, I was on channel air- interrupting every other call in the channel, in an emergency channel. I didn't know. I later realised mobile calls were made by my superiors to my mobile phone but I hadn't seen them as the phone was on SILENT mode, hidden away in my coverall. All attempts to have me stop was of no effect.

All this while the contractors had not arrived for work. I've found another work. LOL! Firemen and other HSE professionals were dispatched to physically stop my programme. SMH. I knew there was some troubles when I saw a team of firemen running towards me in a manner similar to their response to a fire emergency. I looked around and didn't spot any fire in the operational area. One of them was even laughing. They motioned for my radio and removed the binding wire, stopping my programme. SMH. When they told me what happened, I almost dropped dead. My blood pressure rose; my heart tripled it's rate, my feet quaked, my mood dropped and I wished the Earth would open up and had me swallowed.

My God! What have I done to myself? I've shared on radio issues I'll consider too personal. The shame. The embarrassment. Will my colleagues even stop mocking me? Why? I wished I hadn't come to work that day. I had never felt such pressure. The pressure almost choked me. How do I go to face my colleagues? My superiors? God. How do I erase these details from the minds of my colleagues? How do I go back to the control room? No one could describe the pressure I felt.

When the pressure became too much, I had to distract myself and play some Enya music like Caribbean blue,Orinoco Flow, etc, to relax me. The more I tried,the more my mind wondered back to the issue. Immediately, I felt what most suicide victims felt before committing suicide. Once in my lifetime, I had found myself in their shoes and it wasn't palatable in the least.

Ours is a society that has failed to try to understand depression and people. We suddenly become experts at advice whenever people commit acts that we feel were improper. We don't mind abusing and denigrating them even when we've not understood their struggles, depression,anxiety and deep worries. We simply condemn; we simply attack.

If I had done the worst, the extreme, God forbid, the same attacks would have landed on me. SMH. Now, I'm NOT in any way supporting or encouraging suicide; I'm simply saying we should endeavour to show sympathy and empathy to people whenever they can't seem to handle the pressures of life and quit.

Whatever you're passing through at the moment, don't give up. There's still hope and life ahead. There's still light at the end of the tunnel. When pressures seem too tough, seek a true friend and confide in, OR seek some other means of relieving the pressure. It could be some serene sort of music. Don't just give up. Suicide is a temporal solution to a permanent problem. Think about your loved ones and the pains and gloom they'll experience.

Man that's born of a woman is of few days and full of trouble. Job 14.1. But with determination and patience,all worries and sadness will give way to peace, serenity and joy. And when you observe a person to be in deep depression, don't judge them.Simply help them. A word could save a soul. Call and encourage that friend passing through unemployment, marital crisis, temporal barrenness, admission delay, etc. Give someone a hug. Send an email. A text message could also suffice.

God bless you all. And have a great day.

Lalasticlala, good morning. Please, let's share; it could save a soul.

@OP thank you for the entertainment it made me laugh until the pineapple I was eating almost choked me again like yesterday.

As for me I font know if the word Karma is in the dictionary, but I will check after posting this piece. OP have noticed that no matter how powerful one is or how well placed or well made one is, there are always repacautions for our evil actions. Its as if Nature has written a program to govern all parties.

# When Saddam hueissain gases the kurds for whatever reasons of his, it may seem like the best option for him at the time to achieve a particular objective....but can u remember what happened to Saddam and how he ended.

# When the US and their allies deposed Saddam and committed all sorts of atrocities under the guise of WMD, yes it seemed like they had a just cause, as we speak over 500,000 refugees, battle hardened and radicalized Iraqis, Syrians, Afganistans, Lybians have crossed into Europe and the mumu US are busy delibrating on whether to accept refugees . Now this is another case of Karma in the making so let's leave this story here.

# When the gov of a nation is insensitive to the plight of a people for so long and all efforts at sensible dialogue goes unanswered what do you call the inevitable militarization of the people against their gov? Karma my friend.

# Now enough of all these abstract examples...if one is a born gossiper and bad mouther or even something as simple as a talkerthieve . Even being too opinionated forgetting that your opinion can only be as worthy as that of your neighbour. Ehen the day that binding wire go remember your matter....I'm afraid there will be no warning. I advice you and all reading this to go and watch Undercover Boss, I'm sure you will adjust some of your inherent characteristics thereafter.

Me myself I'm not a saint o! But the way I see things befall the greats makes me humble my character and after watching Undercover Boss, I now treat people with love and respect and I dont do, say or wish people evil although I'm still struggling with my Pantera Leomatic Temper but I know ones I marry now that one will disappear.

So OP what I'm trying to infer from your story is...check ya self, there is a dirty character of yours that Karmarized you into that suisidal situation you found yourself. (Can a deaf and dumb person fall victim to that?)
I wish y'all the best in your endeavours and as you make your decisions.

#donthate
You might be the victim one day

emotional control people... read a lot of book on emotional control... I am reading one - Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman.

ifeomaekol:
@op wia u sacked? If no hw did u overcome?

I want sacked at all.....It didn't even get to that. But my friends take me shine die......

TeeOw:
emotional control people... read a lot of book on emotional control... I am reading one - Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman.

Thanks brother. I read that book some years back. I also have social intelligence by the same author.

F50:
@OP thank you for the entertainment it made me laugh until the pineapple I was eating almost choked me again like yesterday.

As for me I font know if the word Karma is in the dictionary, but I will check after posting this piece. OP have noticed that no matter how powerful one is or how well placed or well made one is, there are always repacautions for our evil actions. Its as if Nature has written a program to govern all parties.

# When Saddam hueissain gases the kurds for whatever reasons of his, it may seem like the best option for him at the time to achieve a particular objective....but can u remember what happened to Saddam and how he ended.

# When the US and their allies deposed Saddam and committed all sorts of atrocities under the guise of WMD, yes it seemed like they had a just cause, as we speak over 500,000 refugees, battle hardened and radicalized Iraqis, Syrians, Afganistans, Lybians have crossed into Europe and the mumu US are busy delibrating on whether to accept refugees . Now this is another case of Karma in the making so let's leave this story here.

# When the gov of a nation is insensitive to the plight of a people for so long and all efforts at sensible dialogue goes unanswered what do you call the inevitable militarization of the people against their gov? Karma my friend.

# Now enough of all these abstract examples...if one is a born gossiper and bad mouther or even something as simple as a talkerthieve . Even being too opinionated forgetting that your opinion can only be as worthy as that of your neighbour. Ehen the day that binding wire go remember your matter....I'm afraid there will be no warning. I advice you and all reading this to go and watch Undercover Boss, I'm sure you will adjust some of your inherent characteristics thereafter.

Me myself I'm not a saint o! But the way I see things befall the greats makes me humble my character and after watching Undercover Boss, I now treat people with love and respect and I dont do, say or wish people evil although I'm still struggling with my Pantera Leomatic Temper but I know ones I marry now that one will disappear.

So OP what I'm trying to infer from your story is...check ya self, there is a dirty character of yours that Karmarized you into that suisidal situation you found yourself. (Can a deaf and dumb person fall victim to that?)
I wish y'all the best in your endeavours and as you make your decisions.

#donthate
You might be the victim one day

Hahaha. Laughter is medicine and it's free.....actually I didn't feel suicidal in the least.....I only felt the pressure most victims may have felt before they finally called it quit. Suicide is a no go area......

stonecoldcafe:
I quite agree with you but when one is suicidal, most times they are not thinking straight.

Thats true...

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This piece of write up is timely because of my scary experience last night, with a guy that is staying with with my uncle...A 26year old man,full of life, just wanted to take his dear life by drinking SNIPER (An insecticide) and he has refused to say the main reason for attempting to kill himself but we suspect its because of a house help in our house that he is secretly dating whom he recently discovered that the girl has a boyfriend somewhere else...He nearly died if not for the Godly intervention because he was half past dead before he was rushed to a military hospital here in Port harcourt.. Now he is ashamed of his actions...

film2:
This piece of write up is timely because of my scary experience last night, with a guy that is staying with with my uncle...A 26year old man,full of life, just wanted to take his dear life by drinking SNIPER (An insecticide) and he has refused to say the main reason for attempting to kill himself but we suspect its because of a house help in our house that he is secretly dating whom he recently discovered that the girl has a boyfriend somewhere else...He nearly died if not for the Godly intervention because he was half past dead before he was rushed to a military hospital here in Port harcourt.. Now he is ashamed of his actions...

That was scary.....Thank God for His life.

Unfortunately so

dearpreye:
That's the sad tale, dear.