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How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by princesunny(m): 8:26am On Dec 04, 2015
There are so many things you can do with your mouth to make sex more enjoyable; talking is at the top of the list. Here are some pointers that might make the discussions go more smoothly: •
Start by talking about sex in subtle ways. For example, over dinner conversation mention topics in the news that involve sexual issues.
Or say something like: “I just saw an interesting story in a magazine about people who abstain from sex because they are so afraid of AIDS. What do you think of that?” That way, you'll be talking about sex, without getting too personal right away.

• Make sure it's the right time and place to talk. Too many people wait to talk about sex until they are in the heat of passion. Or they bring it up when one of them is tired, distracted, drinking, or at some other inappropriate time. You should talk about it when you are both awake, not fooling around, not drinking, and you have time to talk.

• Think about what you want to say first. That way at least one of you will be prepared for the conversation.

• Talk about your feelings rather than talking about how you think your partner feels. Use “I” statements. For example, say “I feel lonely when I want to kiss you and you want to pull away.” Instead of saying, “You must be afraid of intimacy, because of the way you pull away from me when I try to kiss you.”

• Be positive. Don't tell your partner, “I hate it that we make out so much, but we never go all the way.” Instead, concentrate on the things you like first, putting a positive spin on it: “I love the way it feels when we make out. I think it would feel even better if we went all the way.”

• Be specific, honest, and explicit. If you want to ask your lover to get tested for a sexually transmitted disease, don't beat around the bush and say, “I was wondering if you're safe.” Be direct. Say: “Even though I still want to use condoms, I think it would be a good idea if we both got tested for sexually transmitted diseases. Will you do that?” Or if you want to tell your lover that you have orgasms more easily when you're on top, then don't say something like, “I like to have sex in any position.” Say: “Anything is fine, but I orgasm best when I'm on top.” You should be able to talk that explicitly with your partner so that you can get what you want out of sex.

• To make sure you understand each other, after you partner speaks, paraphrase back to him or her what you think he or she just said. That way you can double check that you are not misinterpreting anything, and
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Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by Cutehector(m): 8:32am On Dec 04, 2015
Girls just like sex talk as much s we guys do...
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by teepsee(f): 8:44am On Dec 04, 2015
nice talk. we all love sex talk but so scared to, but if you both communicate well with each other it won't be any big deal.so build a good communication bridge between each other.
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by obiorathesubtle: 8:54am On Dec 04, 2015
Girls pretend. Simple!
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by kingsmok(m): 9:22am On Dec 04, 2015
Talking about sex is neccesary for both if they really understand each other
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by Happiness87(f): 9:39am On Jan 10, 2016
teepsee:
nice talk. we all love sex talk but so scared to, but if you both communicate well with each other it won't be any big deal.so build a good communication bridge between each other.
teekay …
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by teepsee(f): 11:38am On Jan 12, 2016
Happiness87:
teekay …
hello wink
Happiness87:
teekay …
hello
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by Nobody: 11:40am On Jan 12, 2016
Cutehector:
Girls just like sex talk as much s we guys do...
Who tell u. Even if they do, they usually don't mean it like guys
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by Happiness87(f): 11:46am On Jan 12, 2016
teepsee:
hello wink hello
where have you been,??
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by teepsee(f): 12:06pm On Jan 12, 2016
Happiness87:
where have you been,??
I have been roaming around lyk the devil
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by Happiness87(f): 12:23pm On Jan 12, 2016
teepsee:
I have been roaming around lyk the devil
i see, seeking whom to devour but You abandoned me
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by Nobody: 1:01pm On Jan 12, 2016
Pls can someone's summarise
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by teepsee(f): 1:19pm On Jan 12, 2016
Happiness87:
i see, seeking whom to devour but You abandoned me
nope, dnt make me feel Badt, I was not in touch doesn't mean that I dnt touch whenever I think of u. Longest tym.

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Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by Happiness87(f): 6:03pm On Jan 12, 2016
teepsee:
nope, dnt make me feel Badt, I was not in touch doesn't mean that I dnt touch whenever I think of u. Longest tym.
hmmm, you cut the ties
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by TheDevilIsALai: 6:13pm On Jan 12, 2016
Happiness87:
hmmm, you cut the ties

Smelly toto, have you arranged that puna back to normal?

I paid 2k to the receptionist to fumigate our room because of your dirty smelly cheese factory puna.

Ashewoe
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by teepsee(f): 6:19pm On Jan 12, 2016
Happiness87:
hmmm, you cut the ties
so u think? *sad face*
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by youngberry001(m): 6:22pm On Jan 12, 2016
talking too much make d conversation boring just go stright to d point


hey chick i wanna fvck yu tonight simple
Re: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner by Happiness87(f): 6:39pm On Jan 12, 2016
teepsee:
so u think? *sad face*
PROVE OTHERWISE

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