anochuko01:
all I see is an OP whose life has been influenced by watching too much of Nollywood.... nothing, absolutely nothing justifies pre-marital sex.

queenfav:
Great analysis op..Its very enlightening.Because many decieve themselves that they are in a no sex before marriage relationship,yet you find them doing everything short of actual penetration.I know I can't marry a man I am supposed to spend my life with without knowing what to expect.I never dey that strong spiritually!Besides,a lot of issues in most marriages stem from sex.I have recommended dissolution of a marriage because the man(a serious spirico) said the woman doesn't give him head.It seemed like it was a vital part of se.x to him.The woman said she can't use her mouth meant to praise God to touch his johnthomas..Both of them looked very spiritual,so it was shocking to me.Besides,I appreciate the op being real about this.Many say no se.x before marriage to appear 'holy and decent' to their serious partner,wheras they have one guy man or woman knacking it steady on the side.Finally,it all comes down to whatever makes you happy..

ADOGBEYI:
Everything God asks us to abstain from is for our own good; you can never be wiser than your Creator.

Sex is a very spiritual activity; in my opinion, it is 90% spiritual and 10% physical. If you listen to your conscience very well, it tells you it's wrong to indulge. Unfortunately, it is sweeter to indulge in it than otherwise; hence, people allow the lust of the flesh to overwhelm the sense of judgment (conscience) given them by God. While everyone is entitled to his/her opinion, the bad sides of indulging in premarital Sex far outweigh the good sides, if any.

My prayer for everyone is that God gives you the grace to get married on time so as to avoid the trap of premarital sex and while you wait for marriage, may He grant you the strength to say "NO" to devilish advice as posted here in this write-up. Again, this write-up is satanic and those that will heed it are not wise.

Reiyvinn:
Sex sex sex! That's the topic breaking through ethers of the romantic atmosphere across the globe.

In all ramifications, it can be drawn that the act of Sexual intercourse can indeed change a relationship for good; either to the right direction or otherwise.

The bond that Sex creates in relationships shouldn't be overlooked because even as it could strengthen relationships, it could keep you emotionally attached to the wrong person.

WAITING till after marriage for sex seems religiously appealing at all fronts, and to be honest with you it really is a beautiful thing to behold. However, let us not pretend to be unaware of the numerous disadvantages it holds. (few of which will be treated here)

Thus, before taking a "purity pledge" (i.e. No sex till marriage), let us be realistic at the following levels:

1.) Your Future Sexual Satisfaction is not guaranteed:

This is the major disadvantage of not having sex with your partner till after marriage.

It is true marriage isn't entirely about sex but we can't deny the fact that sexual intimacy makes up a huge part of marriages.

When you haven't had sex with your mate before walking down the aisle, your partner's sexual capability is entirely subjected to guess work which is really a huge risk and if your guess turns out wrong, it most often than not leads to.....

2.) Infidelity:

We're humans. It is in our nature to diversify when our long term investments yield a loss.

Oh yes, that's the word, it's a big loss! Imagine having spent two decades (or more) of your life waiting for your wedding night to have that long envisaged pleasure of intimacy only to be met with an ill-performing partner. It's a huge loss!

At this point, one party or both begin looking for alternative means to attain that long yearned satisfaction. At first, it starts with masturbating and porn addiction, and when it gets out of hand, infidelity sets in.

Body no be firewood you know.

3.) Risk of Impotence:

There's absolutely nothing worse than discovering that you've been entangled to a partner that'll never be able to procreate with you till death do you both part.

What a nightmare that is!

No wonder some people choose to get married only when the wife gets pregnant.

I even recall a neighbour back in Abuja who had an impotent husband. She had to have children with his relations and name them after him just to keep the marriage strong.

Some love strong sha!

4.) Sexual Chemistry:

Supposing everything goes fine and both partners are fit, capable and fertile, they will most definitely be one thing missing: Sexual Chemistry.

For couples who have had each other before walking down the aisle, pleasing each other won't really be difficult because they already know where ticks and how to get into each other's cloud nine. That's the understanding they took time to build. Mind you, everyone's different. That which works for Obi may piss Alhaji off.

It's really hard getting married to someone you don't fully understand and some situations come up where one partner wants MouthAction and the other detests it, or where one partner seeks to try out other positions and the other won't just get any of it.

These could lead to both insatisfaction and infidelity which aren't really good for a lifetime bond.

So, guys, that's it.

I'm not encouraging you to lose your "sexual purity", I'm rather highlighting the disadvantages of what you're getting yourself into and being real about it.

Please don't get me wrong, your purity pledge could come out as a tremendous success (which would be awesome) but assuming you find yourself in any of the situations stated above, know it's because of the decision you took.

Wish you well.

MzDeeb:
Op,
I think it is wrong for people to say that when you marry as a virgin, its hard that have full sexual satisfaction or rather the couple will find it difficult because they are new to it.

I tell people, those who are sexually active now where once a virgin. And it didn't take long for them to adjust to the stuff. Eg a 15 year old boy or girl. Why then will it be difficult for couples who married as virgins.

Highest it will take them 6 months to adjust and to know about each other's bodies and what turns them on. Marriage is a lifetime thing. It's not like you are dating. Even if it takes them 1 year, they are going to spend the rest of their lives together. So, for me i think it's worth the wait.

Don't mislead people... If a teenager could quickly adjust n learn the ropes, what then is it a big deal for a full grown adult to learn.
If you ask most married people, you will know that once you are married everything will not be about sex there are so many responsibility that the sex that is *chaking* will be the least thing.

People should learn from our grandparents who married as virgins. They had a wonderful marriage that you hardly hear of divorce.
But our so called *jasi* generation who thinks sex keeps a man n engage in it, is the one with high rate of divorce. So, you see the difference.

Moreover, God condemns pre marital sex. It is a sin. We should try and live a life pleasing to God.

Peace

AVRecruit:
marriage today seems not a wise choice. girls in their most attractive years r enjoyed by their bfs. the mumu husband go come carry after. mschew.

young damsels no longer want to settle down. they want to be 'free'.

in our parents times girls got married much younger im talking 17-21 so it made sense to wait. today they get married 26+ while their bfs de hammer t hem. who can actually wait those years? whose the idiot?

jascon1:
if sex is ur religion, then am a firm believer in abstinence. I won't mince words. I have daughters n if I have no belief, then is woe for them. Would be heretic for me to try to see the other side of sex without conjugal blessings. I begin to wonder how Christians view homosexuality as loathesome, but turn a blind eye to fornication. In my mind, we are being hypocritical. I Condemn sin, even if I'm sinful. Where is our conscience at all? It just ain't right sharing pre-marital bodily fluids and yet feeling good that our bodies are temples of God.
A full grown man in his late twenty or late thirty is still testing kitten, while in most places in the world his mates are raising kids. If you can't hold on, then Get married.
You got no money, you're not ready for marriage, but you ready for sex. I'm not lamenting here, cos is a Sign of the last days.
But, am sorry my faith got no compromise and I see clearly

400billionman:
I have found out that modern ladies connect emotionally with their boyfriends and fiancees via sex. A decent man will most likely not want to sleep with a lady he has an intention of getting married to. These ladies will quarrel with you over nothing but cant really say what her problem is, till she snaps and quits the relationship..
I lost a wonderful lady last year who later said she walked away since i refused making a move sexually. Seriously, i wont allow such a thing happen again. Its about repeating. But i just made up my mind to change how i am wired to get what i want..

klassiquette:
The sexual impotency got me: So what's the need for going for a medical test which is a must do condition before walking down the aisle?
Then sexual chemistry... Dad once told me that marriage is a school with time you adjust to suit your partner's needs.
Please don't use this points as a justification for premarital sex makes no meaning.... One can always learn how to satisfy his/her partner .... Time is all they need

pretydiva:
Marriage is honorable n d bed undefile. Premarital sex is a sin..shikena

holluwai:
Infact without mentioning all these facts no one is his or her right sense shouldn't engage in sex before marriage. Ordinary garri person dey taste before buying talkless of a woman I'm gonna pay her bride price.


Biko!!

englishmart:
sex or no sex, it makes no difference to me

June24th:

So all the female folks u got are worth less than garri,
I'm sorry ford woman who brought u into this world..
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#PlsThinkWellBeforeSpewingTrash. Nothing can ever justify Sex before marriage.. Satan is a liar

farem:



Yes the article doesn't ENCOURAGE premarital sex at all.

The article just ENLIGHTENS them- the singles, unmarried, divorcees, teenagers etc of the 'evils' of not engaging in formication!


Even Satan parades himself as an angel of light!!

jascon1:
if sex is ur religion, then am a firm believer in abstinence. I won't mince words. I have daughters n if I have no belief, then is woe for them. Would be heretic for me to try to see the other side of sex without conjugal blessings. I begin to wonder how Christians view homosexuality as loathesome, but turn a blind eye to fornication. In my mind, we are being hypocritical. I Condemn sin, even if I'm sinful. Where is our conscience at all? It just ain't right sharing pre-marital bodily fluids and yet feeling good that our bodies are temples of God.
A full grown man in his late twenty or late thirty is still testing kitten, while in most places in the world his mates are raising kids. If you can't hold on, then Get married.
You got no money, you're not ready for marriage, but you ready for sex. I'm not lamenting here, cos is a Sign of the last days.
But, am sorry my faith got no compromise and I see clearly

anointed1234:
This post proves the level of ignorance of the person who posted it. As important as sex is, in marriage, it should be understood that maturity and self-control is vital so as not to allow sex to dictate the direction of the family. I'm an ASP (Advocate of Sexual Purity). God detests sex outside marriage(either pre-marital sex or infidelity in marriage). God bless us all.

holluwai:



You're a bloody basta-rd to quote me and say this as concerning the mother that brought me into this world. If your useless and senseless mention cannot revolve around the context of this matter then Bleep the hell off!!! Who bore mofos like you to this world? You deserve the treatment an iron gets to be straightened.


I have not compelled you to incure my idealogy and so you can shove yours down your smelly butt plus there you go castigating others and you want to be seen as holy or what?

Simple sentence you can't even put together.

InZA:
Just imagine all the beautifully crafted complexities of nature - The universe, the stars, the galaxies and everything within this side of our existence - Imagine the amount of awe and power and wisdom that it took to create and put all these colossal things in place.... Now the one who put all these things in place clearly says "Do not have pre marital sex" and you think because you're transiently wise with some form of logical reasoning, you can choose to come up with "objective reasons' for supporting sex before marriage.

Sometimes I feel man's wisdom is his greatest undoing.

There's no amount of logical reasoning or clinical theories that would make you be in the right by having sex before marriage

From Genesis till the world ends - Premarital sex is bad. It's wrong and everytime you engage in it... You're leasing a part of your destiny to the devil.

Take it or leave it.

queenfav:
Great analysis op..Its very enlightening.Because many decieve themselves that they are in a no sex before marriage relationship,yet you find them doing everything short of actual penetration.I know I can't marry a man I am supposed to spend my life with without knowing what to expect.I never dey that strong spiritually!Besides,a lot of issues in most marriages stem from sex.I have recommended dissolution of a marriage because the man(a serious spirico) said the woman doesn't give him head.It seemed like it was a vital part of se.x to him.The woman said she can't use her mouth meant to praise God to touch his johnthomas..Both of them looked very spiritual,so it was shocking to me.Besides,I appreciate the op being real about this.Many say no se.x before marriage to appear 'holy and decent' to their serious partner,wheras they have one guy man or woman knacking it steady on the side.Finally,it all comes down to whatever makes you happy..

June24th:


Why e dey pain u na, I didn't insult u but used ur words against u. Next time, before posting, make use of ur good sense of reasoning cos I dnt want to believe u are a dullard.
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I still keep my stance: SAY NO TO PREMARITAL SEX!!!

Fraih:

May God truly Bless you. I appraise your understanding.!

craziebone:

i think the word 'ignorance' has taken a whole new meaning.
What's ignorant about what the op is saying?

raayah:


You would be surprised to hear that a lot of prostitutess get marriage proposals. Its all about love for most people not the vagina.