Eddygourdo:
Everybody here is a Virgin, the OP is corrupt, he and me are sex addicts because he pointed out his opinions on a philosophy, if you are all Virgins who abstain from sex, who are those men who have slept with all the ladies I know and will know. Nigerians ad shameless hypocrisy is like bread and butter. Shame

lol..na we be the ones wen dey defile the marriage bed na.Nigerians are the biggest hypocrites on earth.You find pastors preaching about no sex before marriage, yet they are straffing fresh choir babes and even married women behind closed doors.Many are not even convicted deep down in their soul that they want to toe that line.They are just doing it because it makes them seem "holy".Wheras you still lie and commit other sins.

I'm not an advocate of "no sex before marriage" but I'm a die hard advocate of SEXUAL PURITY before marriage. Which lady (who isn't a virgin and is probably sexually active) will open her mouth to tell me 'no sex until wedding night' ?

There's no honesty, purity, godliness and truth anymore. Only lies and deceit and 'fake external packaging'. All the sexual excitement is gone; and like the liability they have become, they will look for where they can 'land'.

Our parents and grandparents were virgins wen dey got married, at leqst a good number of them, and they gave birth to lots of children..


This new generation is filled with doubts and uncertainties.. Hence the need for experiments

Reiyvinn:
Sex sex sex! That's the topic breaking through ethers of the romantic atmosphere across the globe.

In all ramifications, it can be drawn that the act of Sexual intercourse can indeed change a relationship for good; either to the right direction or otherwise.

The bond that Sex creates in relationships shouldn't be overlooked because even as it could strengthen relationships, it could keep you emotionally attached to the wrong person.

WAITING till after marriage for sex seems religiously appealing at all fronts, and to be honest with you it really is a beautiful thing to behold. However, let us not pretend to be unaware of the numerous disadvantages it holds. (few of which will be treated here)

Thus, before taking a "purity pledge" (i.e. No sex till marriage), let us be realistic at the following levels:

1.) Your Future Sexual Satisfaction is not guaranteed:

This is the major disadvantage of not having sex with your partner till after marriage.

It is true marriage isn't entirely about sex but we can't deny the fact that sexual intimacy makes up a huge part of marriages.

When you haven't had sex with your mate before walking down the aisle, your partner's sexual capability is entirely subjected to guess work which is really a huge risk and if your guess turns out wrong, it most often than not leads to.....

2.) Infidelity:

We're humans. It is in our nature to diversify when our long term investments yield a loss.

Oh yes, that's the word, it's a big loss! Imagine having spent two decades (or more) of your life waiting for your wedding night to have that long envisaged pleasure of intimacy only to be met with an ill-performing partner. It's a huge loss!

At this point, one party or both begin looking for alternative means to attain that long yearned satisfaction. At first, it starts with masturbating and porn addiction, and when it gets out of hand, infidelity sets in.

Body no be firewood you know.

3.) Risk of Impotence:

There's absolutely nothing worse than discovering that you've been entangled to a partner that'll never be able to procreate with you till death do you both part.

What a nightmare that is!

No wonder some people choose to get married only when the wife gets pregnant.

I even recall a neighbour back in Abuja who had an impotent husband. She had to have children with his relations and name them after him just to keep the marriage strong.

Some love strong sha!

4.) Sexual Chemistry:

Supposing everything goes fine and both partners are fit, capable and fertile, they will most definitely be one thing missing: Sexual Chemistry.

For couples who have had each other before walking down the aisle, pleasing each other won't really be difficult because they already know where ticks and how to get into each other's cloud nine. That's the understanding they took time to build. Mind you, everyone's different. That which works for Obi may piss Alhaji off.

It's really hard getting married to someone you don't fully understand and some situations come up where one partner wants MouthAction and the other detests it, or where one partner seeks to try out other positions and the other won't just get any of it.

These could lead to both insatisfaction and infidelity which aren't really good for a lifetime bond.

So, guys, that's it.

I'm not encouraging you to lose your "sexual purity", I'm rather highlighting the disadvantages of what you're getting yourself into and being real about it.

Please don't get me wrong, your purity pledge could come out as a tremendous success (which would be awesome) but assuming you find yourself in any of the situations stated above, know it's because of the decision you took.

Wish you well.

Ewooo!
Dear Demon in human flesh!
Get thee behind me. It is written, flee fornication. stop teaching people how to live in fornication.
I live by the truth.
ALTHOUGH I AM NOT PERFECT AS IT WERE

queenfav:
lol..na we be the ones wen dey defile the marriage bed na.Nigerians are the biggest hypocrites on earth.You find pastors preaching about no sex before marriage, yet they are straffing fresh choir babes and even married women behind closed doors.Many are not even convicted deep down in their soul that they want to toe that line.They are just doing it because it makes them seem "holy".Wheras you still lie and commit other sins.

Speak for yourselves.

The problem is, you judge people without knowing who they really are.

Should people come to you to tell you they are virgins or they are not engaging in premarital sex or even present evidence to you before you won't judge them and tag them as hypocrites?

Experience has taught me that the real virgins are not the ones who look it, they won't even tell you and they know as much about sex as those who are sexually active. Because they read.

You don't know who is knacking who behind and pretend no to.
That's why Christianity is an individual race. If you are pretending to be what you're not, your judgement dey heaven, and if you know the truth and still choose to mislead pple or act like you don't care, then your judgement is also in heaven.

The standard of the bible will NEVER change to suit our earthly standards.

We are all sinners thriving to be holy. And we can't get there by pretending to not know the truth cause it is this truth that will set us free.

raayah:


They're also issues like vaginismus which cannot really be detected by the doctor ( vaginismus is severe pain in the vagina during sex).people with these problems can't have sex.

Even premature ejaculation is an issue, the man won't know he has until having sex.
There are also thing's like Micropenis ( even though the man may feel like he's endowed.) its a major problem during sex

there are various advantages of waiting till marriage but there are also several disadvantages and there is Nothing wrong In discussing them.

He is not encouraging pre-marital sex but let's not pretend that pre-marital sex is all bad or foreign. It happening right now and will keep on happening as long as humans are on earth. No amount of preaching will reduce it.
Besides not everyone is a Muslim or Christian or religious in general...

I personally, do not see anything wrong if two people in a committed relationship have sex (remember personal)

tanks very much my dear....some persons r so quick to come online to preach n impose hw dey feel on oders ...dis issues r personal n should b a conscentual decision between d 2 person in d relationship.i for 1 dont see a shit wrong in pre marital sex n dose endulging in it should not b lebelled as some of us r doing ....wat right have u to judge ,r u God .

LAST DAYS SEX

jascon1:
if sex is ur religion, then am a firm believer in abstinence. I won't mince words. I have daughters n if I have no belief, then is woe for them. Would be heretic for me to try to see the other side of sex without conjugal blessings. I begin to wonder how Christians view homosexuality as loathesome, but turn a blind eye to fornication. In my mind, we are being hypocritical. I Condemn sin, even if I'm sinful. Where is our conscience at all? It just ain't right sharing pre-marital bodily fluids and yet feeling good that our bodies are temples of God.
A full grown man in his late twenty or late thirty is still testing kitten, while in most places in the world his mates are raising kids. If you can't hold on, then Get married.
You got no money, you're not ready for marriage, but you ready for sex. I'm not lamenting here, cos is a Sign of the last days.
But, am sorry my faith got no compromise and I see clearly

Brilliant!!!!

Reiyvinn:
Sex sex sex! That's the topic breaking through ethers of the romantic atmosphere across the globe.

In all ramifications, it can be drawn that the act of Sexual intercourse can indeed change a relationship for good; either to the right direction or otherwise.

The bond that Sex creates in relationships shouldn't be overlooked because even as it could strengthen relationships, it could keep you emotionally attached to the wrong person.

WAITING till after marriage for sex seems religiously appealing at all fronts, and to be honest with you it really is a beautiful thing to behold. However, let us not pretend to be unaware of the numerous disadvantages it holds. (few of which will be treated here)

Thus, before taking a "purity pledge" (i.e. No sex till marriage), let us be realistic at the following levels:

1.) Your Future Sexual Satisfaction is not guaranteed:

This is the major disadvantage of not having sex with your partner till after marriage.

It is true marriage isn't entirely about sex but we can't deny the fact that sexual intimacy makes up a huge part of marriages.

When you haven't had sex with your mate before walking down the aisle, your partner's sexual capability is entirely subjected to guess work which is really a huge risk and if your guess turns out wrong, it most often than not leads to.....

2.) Infidelity:

We're humans. It is in our nature to diversify when our long term investments yield a loss.

Oh yes, that's the word, it's a big loss! Imagine having spent two decades (or more) of your life waiting for your wedding night to have that long envisaged pleasure of intimacy only to be met with an ill-performing partner. It's a huge loss!

At this point, one party or both begin looking for alternative means to attain that long yearned satisfaction. At first, it starts with masturbating and porn addiction, and when it gets out of hand, infidelity sets in.

Body no be firewood you know.

3.) Risk of Impotence:

There's absolutely nothing worse than discovering that you've been entangled to a partner that'll never be able to procreate with you till death do you both part.

What a nightmare that is!

No wonder some people choose to get married only when the wife gets pregnant.

I even recall a neighbour back in Abuja who had an impotent husband. She had to have children with his relations and name them after him just to keep the marriage strong.

Some love strong sha!

4.) Sexual Chemistry:

Supposing everything goes fine and both partners are fit, capable and fertile, they will most definitely be one thing missing: Sexual Chemistry.

For couples who have had each other before walking down the aisle, pleasing each other won't really be difficult because they already know where ticks and how to get into each other's cloud nine. That's the understanding they took time to build. Mind you, everyone's different. That which works for Obi may piss Alhaji off.

It's really hard getting married to someone you don't fully understand and some situations come up where one partner wants MouthAction and the other detests it, or where one partner seeks to try out other positions and the other won't just get any of it.

These could lead to both insatisfaction and infidelity which aren't really good for a lifetime bond.

So, guys, that's it.

I'm not encouraging you to lose your "sexual purity", I'm rather highlighting the disadvantages of what you're getting yourself into and being real about it.

Please don't get me wrong, your purity pledge could come out as a tremendous success (which would be awesome) but assuming you find yourself in any of the situations stated above, know it's because of the decision you took.

Wish you well.

You are a male so apparently this is no surprise coming from a man.

What wil it profit a lady after she is been screwed front and back just for the guy to dump her and move on to another woman...guys see sex with different ladies as a conquest so it is up to any lady to take tye risk and give in or remain adarmant till after marriage.whatever rocks her boat but as for the OP i do not support your assertions because all you mentioned can stil happen after marriage even if it was a wowplus thingy before marriage.

IamMissMarvel:


Speak for yourselves.

The problem is, you judge people without knowing who they really are.

Should people come to you to tell you they are virgins or they are not engaging in premarital sex or even present evidence to you before you won't judge them and tag them as hypocrites?

Experience has taught me that the real virgins are not the ones who look it, they won't even tell you and they know as much about sex as those who are sexually active. Because they read.

You don't know who is knacking who behind and pretend no to.
That's why Christianity is an individual race. If you are pretending to be what you're not, your judgement dey heaven, and if you know the truth and still choose to mislead pple or act like you don't care, then your judgement is also in heaven.

The standard of the bible will NEVER change to suit our earthly standards.

We are all sinners thriving to be holy. And we can't get there by pretending to not know the truth cause it is this truth that will set us free.

Good Word!!!

shorup there @ op , i take God beg you, please no com corrupt our youth here with all dis ur fake facts. so u wan encourage bastard pickin for our society abi rubbish talk

Medley come and issue a reply to this thread

queenfav:
lol..na we be the ones wen dey defile the marriage bed na.Nigerians are the biggest hypocrites on earth.You find pastors preaching about no sex before marriage, yet they are straffing fresh choir babes and even married women behind closed doors.Many are not even convicted deep down in their soul that they want to toe that line.They are just doing it because it makes them seem "holy".Wheras you still lie and commit other sins.

the matter tire me no be small. It's a major flaw of a Nigerian. That's why I only take people who can and are confident to admit their wrongs, faults or inclinations seriously. Which explains why the only girlfriends I ever trusted and truly loved were lesbians or bisexual, if they could admit that to me, then why will they lie about anything else. For now let me keep reading the disciples of Jesus comments bashing the OP for expressing an opinion which is true by the way

I honestly can't be in a relationship without sex being involved.If I meet a girl and I ask her for a relationship, then she tells me"Fine but no sex"I'll see such a girl as a 419er. "So you want to eat my money and now tell me no sex!"I can't go down in such a relationship. Rather,I'll just take the girl as my friend instead of a "girlfriend".

See op claiming that he is not encouraging singles to lose their sexual purity, giving us only the 'weaknesses' of staying sexually pure before marriage. What about the weaknesses or challenges of premarital sex? What about the strengths or advantages of staying chaste?

Souljaboi1:


They claim to test compatibility, but you know they're just there for the fun of it. How unbashful can a man be that he removes his garment and exposes his privates to a woman who isn't his wife and vice versa ? Just think about it ! Its sick.


We ask Allaah for peace and safety.

Its really sick!!!

Just imagine all the beautifully crafted complexities of nature - The universe, the stars, the galaxies and everything within this side of our existence - Imagine the amount of awe and power and wisdom that it took to create and put all these colossal things in place.... Now the one who put all these things in place clearly says "Do not have pre marital sex" and you think because you're transiently wise with some form of logical reasoning, you can choose to come up with "objective reasons' for supporting sex before marriage.

Sometimes I feel man's wisdom is his greatest undoing.

There's no amount of logical reasoning or clinical theories that would make you be in the right by having sex before marriage

From Genesis till the world ends - Premarital sex is bad. It's wrong and everytime you engage in it... You're leasing a part of your destiny to the devil.

Take it or leave it.

[quote author=Reiyvinn post=40322915][/quote] So, u're proud of this crap u posted. Instead of building youths who kill the flesh and utilize their full potentials, u're here talking crap. Don't u know that there's a way that seems right unto a man, but the end of it is death?

Perhaps, u're one of those "GOD doesn't exist" folks. Pray ur eyes get open before time runs out. Cos truth be told, time is running out. JESUS Loves You!

jascon1:
if sex is ur religion, then am a firm believer in abstinence. I won't mince words. I have daughters n if I have no belief, then is woe for them. Would be heretic for me to try to see the other side of sex without conjugal blessings. I begin to wonder how Christians view homosexuality as loathesome, but turn a blind eye to fornication. In my mind, we are being hypocritical. I Condemn sin, even if I'm sinful. Where is our conscience at all? It just ain't right sharing pre-marital bodily fluids and yet feeling good that our bodies are temples of God.
A full grown man in his late twenty or late thirty is still testing kitten, while in most places in the world his mates are raising kids. If you can't hold on, then Get married.
You got no money, you're not ready for marriage, but you ready for sex. I'm not lamenting here, cos is a Sign of the last days.
But, am sorry my faith got no compromise and I see clearly

Bros May God bless you.

OP pls if i may ask, do you practice religion either christianity or islam. If you do not, i may not disagree with you because that might be your own personal thought, but if you practice either of the two then people like you can be said to be thinking as if you are wiser than God. Because i know both in the Bible and Quran it is forbiden to have sex with someone that you are not yet married to and what is now the essence of saying that there are disadvantages in obeying our Lord, because that is what your analysis implies to me. If God is been merciful with us does it mean we should take his commandment for granted and mind you people like you will go to churches/mosques with bible or quran and my question is this, why are you wasting your time when you dont believe in what is in the book that you are holding, is that not self denial and hypocricy. Even if you are into it just accept that you are dis- obeying the commandment of God and you should just pray for liberation from sins. For the part of impotency that you mention, i have seen a couple that have stayed together for up to 5 years before they got married which i knew there is no way they would have stayed together and they will not be having sex and till now the woman has not conceived and do you think if either of the party knew that there is something wrong, would they have gone ahead to do the wedding, also there is another one that the lady got pregnant before they wedded, but lost the child after birth and till now she couldnt take in for many years.

As for me everything is God's grace, as a muslim i believe if you are truly obedient and always follow the commandment of God, he will always make way for you and you can never regret been obedient to him.

Finally, if you practice religion and denying what God says then it is hypocricy unless if you dont believe in religion.

Am glad to see people still stand for moral uprightness even in dis perverse age. @op, repent and give ur life to christ.fornication or encouraging it will only lead u to hell

squash1986:
I honestly can't be in a relationship without sex being involved.If I meet a girl and I ask her for a relationship, then she tells me"Fine but no sex"I'll see such a girl as a 419er. "So you want to eat my money and now tell me no sex!"I can't go down in such a relationship. Rather,I'll just take the girl as my friend instead of a "girlfriend".

Eat Your money!!!

Reiyvinn:
Sex sex sex! That's the topic breaking through ethers of the romantic atmosphere across the globe.

In all ramifications, it can be drawn that the act of Sexual intercourse can indeed change a relationship for good; either to the right direction or otherwise.

The bond that Sex creates in relationships shouldn't be overlooked because even as it could strengthen relationships, it could keep you emotionally attached to the wrong person.

WAITING till after marriage for sex seems religiously appealing at all fronts, and to be honest with you it really is a beautiful thing to behold. However, let us not pretend to be unaware of the numerous disadvantages it holds. (few of which will be treated here)

Thus, before taking a "purity pledge" (i.e. No sex till marriage), let us be realistic at the following levels:

1.) Your Future Sexual Satisfaction is not guaranteed:

This is the major disadvantage of not having sex with your partner till after marriage.

It is true marriage isn't entirely about sex but we can't deny the fact that sexual intimacy makes up a huge part of marriages.

When you haven't had sex with your mate before walking down the aisle, your partner's sexual capability is entirely subjected to guess work which is really a huge risk and if your guess turns out wrong, it most often than not leads to.....

2.) Infidelity:

We're humans. It is in our nature to diversify when our long term investments yield a loss.

Oh yes, that's the word, it's a big loss! Imagine having spent two decades (or more) of your life waiting for your wedding night to have that long envisaged pleasure of intimacy only to be met with an ill-performing partner. It's a huge loss!

At this point, one party or both begin looking for alternative means to attain that long yearned satisfaction. At first, it starts with masturbating and porn addiction, and when it gets out of hand, infidelity sets in.

Body no be firewood you know.

3.) Risk of Impotence:

There's absolutely nothing worse than discovering that you've been entangled to a partner that'll never be able to procreate with you till death do you both part.

What a nightmare that is!

No wonder some people choose to get married only when the wife gets pregnant.

I even recall a neighbour back in Abuja who had an impotent husband. She had to have children with his relations and name them after him just to keep the marriage strong.

Some love strong sha!

4.) Sexual Chemistry:

Supposing everything goes fine and both partners are fit, capable and fertile, they will most definitely be one thing missing: Sexual Chemistry.

For couples who have had each other before walking down the aisle, pleasing each other won't really be difficult because they already know where ticks and how to get into each other's cloud nine. That's the understanding they took time to build. Mind you, everyone's different. That which works for Obi may piss Alhaji off.

It's really hard getting married to someone you don't fully understand and some situations come up where one partner wants MouthAction and the other detests it, or where one partner seeks to try out other positions and the other won't just get any of it.

These could lead to both insatisfaction and infidelity which aren't really good for a lifetime bond.

So, guys, that's it.

I'm not encouraging you to lose your "sexual purity", I'm rather highlighting the disadvantages of what you're getting yourself into and being real about it.

Please don't get me wrong, your purity pledge could come out as a tremendous success (which would be awesome) but assuming you find yourself in any of the situations stated above, know it's because of the decision you took.

Wish you well.

Rubbish

niyi123:


As for me everything is God's grace, as a muslim i believe if you are truly obedient and always follow the commandment of God, he will always make way for you and you can never regret been obedient to him.

You're soooo right!!!

God is eternally faithful. He can't and won't deny you of the blessings that come with obeying his word.

IamMissMarvel:


Speak for yourselves.

The problem is, you judge people without knowing who they really are.

Should people come to you to tell you they are virgins or they are not engaging in premarital sex or even present evidence to you before you won't judge them and tag them as hypocrites?

Experience has taught me that the real virgins are not the ones who look it, they won't even tell you and they know as much about sex as those who are sexually active. Because they read.

You don't know who is knacking who behind and pretend no to.
That's why Christianity is an individual race. If you are pretending to be what you're not, your judgement dey heaven, and if you know the truth and still choose to mislead pple or act like you don't care, then your judgement is also in heaven.

The standard of the bible will NEVER change to suit our earthly standards.

We are all sinners thriving to be holy. And we can't get there by pretending to not know the truth cause it is this truth that will set us free.

aunty calm down na..don't go all spiritual on me.The bible has standards,I agree.But again,its a choice for everyone to make for themselves.Why would I want to know anyone's sexual status?- I hammer on hypocrisy because cases abound of people saying one thing and doing the opposite in secret.

oglalasioux:

You are very very wrong. There is nothing as real as sex and it's only when we define it that relationships can last.

Of all the one you have defined, which of them have you married.

Are all and sundry here claiming to be Virgins or Virgin before marrying ? See them, yelling sin, sin, sin.

Teach one how to avoid sin not lambasting them.
Abi una think say to control sexual libido dey easy ni?.

You are indirectly preaching premarital sex. No amount word you will used to paint it, it is still premarital sex and it doesn't glorified God. As for me I am ready to suffer for anything that will glory God and that is my greatest joy and satisfaction. If you understand how holy God is, then you will appreciate why He can not stand sin of premarital sex in any form.

klassiquette:
The sexual impotency got me: So what's the need for going for a medical test which is a must do condition before walking down the aisle?
Then sexual chemistry... Dad once told me that marriage is a school with time you adjust to suit your partner's needs.
Please don't use this points as a justification for premarital sex makes no meaning.... One can always learn how to satisfy his/her partner .... Time is all they need

please,who informed you they test for sexual potency in hospitals before marriage?

InZA:
Just imagine all the beautifully crafted complexities of nature - The universe, the stars, the galaxies and everything within this side of our existence - Imagine the amount of awe and power and wisdom that it took to create and put all these colossal things in place.... Now the one who put all these things in place clearly says "Do not have pre marital sex" and you think because you're transiently wise with some form of logical reasoning, you can choose to come up with "objective reasons' for supporting sex before marriage.

Sometimes I feel man's wisdom is his greatest undoing.

There's no amount of logical reasoning or clinical theories that would make you be in the right by having sex before marriage

From Genesis till the world ends - Premarital sex is bad. It's wrong and everytime you engage in it... You're leasing a part of your destiny to the devil.

Take it or leave it.

Mr johnydon22. can you see what this lady just wrote up there sir?

jascon1:
if sex is ur religion, then am a firm believer in abstinence. I won't mince words. I have daughters n if I have no belief, then is woe for them. Would be heretic for me to try to see the other side of sex without conjugal blessings. I begin to wonder how Christians view homosexuality as loathesome, but turn a blind eye to fornication. In my mind, we are being hypocritical. I Condemn sin, even if I'm sinful. Where is our conscience at all? It just ain't right sharing pre-marital bodily fluids and yet feeling good that our bodies are temples of God.
A full grown man in his late twenty or late thirty is still testing kitten, while in most places in the world his mates are raising kids. If you can't hold on, then Get married.
You got no money, you're not ready for marriage, but you ready for sex. I'm not lamenting here, cos is a Sign of the last days.
But, am sorry my faith got no compromise and I see clearly

GOD BLESS U SIR. KEEP IT UP

Reiyvinn:


I believe you didn't really take your time to read this at all for the following reasons:

1.) Nowhere in the article was it stated that sex guarantees anything

2.) This article doesn't ENCOURAGE pre-marital sex but analyzes the disadvantages of waiting.

3.) The OP never said both parties cannot hold together, et cetera

Take your eye out of your religious bigoted lens for a second and examine this.


How do you define the term "SEX"

If indeed you understand sex solely as a procreation tool then I think I'd just leave you with your definition.

Sex is not just for reproduction, it compliments and enriches intimacy in marriages.

People who tend to "hold on" more often than not tend to endure their marriages (rather than enjoy it) or cheat due to insatisfaction.

This article doesn't castigate or encourage, it simply analyzes. Thank you.

should I call it summary? hmmmmmmmmm. u go school well well.nice 1